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CoolChillGuy420It gets better each day on-an-on until you reach a moment of "yeah I didn't really like your dog-ass anyways either" my guy. You'll be fine. Life is too short to worry about girls for the streets.
partyandBSTheres a shit ton of things on the interwebs about sleep hygiene. One thing ive heard is that if you cannot sleep due to ruminating thoughts, get the fuck up and out of bed. Your mind and body need to associate your bed with sleep and not as an area to think or disassociate on your phone. Theres a ton more and much better info online.
also, you can’t escape your feelings. You can’t drink them away. You can’t smoke them away. Trust me I’ve fuckin tried. They will amplify if you try that. Instead, try the RAIN method (also better explained on youtube lol) recognize your emotions, allow them to exist as they are very real and very valid. Investigate and see where its coming from and then nurture yourself. One way to nurture is to act as if you weren’t in the situation but someone you were close with was. What would you tell a close friend going through a similar situation to comfort and validate them.
tutipupsim not kidding its been 46 hours awake so yeah. Ill try the rain method tho seems like a real good idea
tutipupsits so hard to move on tho when you know she needs help
partyandBSDang homie. Thats not healthy. Write some shit out. You gotta process. Probably worth writing whats bothering you and then put them in columns of things you can control and what you have no control over.
ya boys fucked in the head from a year of death, divorce, drinking, broken bones, and isolation lol. I have had 10 hours of therapy a week since march so i got therapy tools for fuckin days. They have literally turned my life around. also I’ll listen to anyone ones struggle. Especially a ski homie. DM me if ya think i could help!!
CoolChillGuy420You have to take care of yourself dude. I don't know your personal situation just based-off of some internet posts but you just need some time for yourself to figure it out, and you need to let her figure it out too. Go outside, go have fun, get wrecked with your friends, etc., and just enjoy life for a moment.
MinggI just cry a lot until I exhaust myself into sleep lol
I second only using bed for sleep so you associate it with just sleeping and not a place to ruminate
tutipupsits so hard to move on tho when you know she needs help
Granby_killdozerNothing helps you get over a breakup like banging a different chick. If you don't have any other girls to bang then hit the gym and get a dog. Bitches love muscles and dogs. Also dogs are just cool in general so if a woman won't love you at least your dog will. As for sleep, chug some nyquil or take melatonin.
weastcoatI’ve never had a girlfriend but I kinda know how you feel. I’ve dealt with some hellish depressive issues in the past 3 years (sometimes pertaining to this kinda stuff) and this is what’s helped me. This is gonna be long, as usual for my replies to shit lol
as for sleep, go walk around your neighborhood or go on a drive or something if you’re struggling to fall asleep. For me it just kinda resets my brain. Also taking something like nyquil or benadryl will probably do you some wonders.
eat good and healthy. But don’t be afraid to treat yourself if that makes sense. If I’m having a shitty day sometimes I’ll just go get some takeout from my favorite restaurant or some shit.
Exercise alone has never really helped me, but when it’s combined with something I can really get my head into, it helps a ton. (Like skiing). Maybe trying to become a gym rat will help you, but it’s never helped me. I gotta be doing something fun.
Literally force yourself to go socialize with friends and acquaintances. And just be super social in general, whether that be at work, school, or bullshitting for 10 mins with your neighbor when you see em outside. I totally agree with what others said above about going out and making new friends and that whole thing. Helps widen your perspective of people out there for ya.
go connect with nature a little bit, this is probably my most important one. Take a hike In the woods, go to a hill or mountain with a cool view, go for a cruise at sunset, take a walk in the rain. Seeing cool and beautiful things definitely does it for me, reminds me that there’s so much more to life than just people and the problems that come with it.
you can try all this, and keep in your mind at all times that there’s so many more (better) people out there and easily accessible, and you’ll be chilling.
LonelyCan confirm about the gym/dog but I gotta disagree about the banging another girl. Could help for different folks, ig if you're an incel or sumthin, but sex is easy to get. Companionship is not. Not having companionship is the depressing part. Can fuck more people and still feel empty, and then you gotta take on all the baggage that comes along with those other chicks you're banging too.
tutipupsexactly, fuck sex man the cuddling is the best part because its more intimate in a way
tutipupsexactly, fuck sex man the cuddling is the best part because its more intimate in a way
tutipupsi dont know who got you thinking long replies are wrong but that persons opinion is just wrong.
Anyways yeah ive been doing that the last few days and thats fine is just when im down its fucking bad. Supposed to work as a cashier tommorow and god fucking damn that shits gonna be hard. Getting a dog does seem like a good idea tho now that i think about it.
GrapeHunterdo not get a fucking dog u will get over this chick and be stuck with a major burden that you won't be able to take care of because you have to go to work or school all day. don't make a dog have an awful life because you wanted a pick-me-up from a breakup. downvote this all you want, but you all know its true
GrapeHunterdo not get a fucking dog u will get over this chick and be stuck with a major burden that you won't be able to take care of because you have to go to work or school all day. don't make a dog have an awful life because you wanted a pick-me-up from a breakup. downvote this all you want, but you all know its true
LonelyCan confirm about the gym/dog but I gotta disagree about the banging another girl. Could help for different folks, ig if you're an incel or sumthin, but sex is easy to get. Companionship is not. Not having companionship is the depressing part. Can fuck more people and still feel empty, and then you gotta take on all the baggage that comes along with those other chicks you're banging too.
tutipupsi wouldnt get a dog and stop caring about it, im still helping my other ex a whole year later because i just care nothing else
partyandBSDang homie. Thats not healthy. Write some shit out. You gotta process. Probably worth writing whats bothering you and then put them in columns of things you can control and what you have no control over.
ya boys fucked in the head from a year of death, divorce, drinking, broken bones, and isolation lol. I have had 10 hours of therapy a week since march so i got therapy tools for fuckin days. They have literally turned my life around. also I’ll listen to anyone ones struggle. Especially a ski homie. DM me if ya think i could help!!
SchizoSkierI am beginning to dislike you less and less each day
runforlove2024Y'all are a bunch of fucking pussies
GrapeHuntermaybe u gotta stop dating chicks with major problems, doesn't seem to be helping you're situation. u don't get paid enough to be their shrink
a_pla5tic_bagBoy have I got the song for you OP https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J6oTIjvw_-8
https://www.newschoolers.com/videos/watch/1045514/Famous-Dex----Hoes-Mad---Official-Music-Video-
C.R.E.A.MYou can't draw a map to somewhere you have never been, you can't help someone if you yourself need help.
Young_pattyYears from now you might stumble across one of her posts on social media, maybe with a husband or new boyfriend.
And you’ll sit there, and silently think to yourself:
“thank god she found someone that makes her happy, cause it sure as shit was not about to be me”
and then you’ll scroll right past it, as if nothing ever happened at all.
LonelyNah brother that ain't justice
If someone ducks you over you shouldn't be happy that they are happy
Fuck that wuwu live and let live bs
ASSholebomber22What about this: one day, you'll come across a GoFundMe for $3k started by her fiance who asspacked someone to replace his mid 90's accord after having to sell his house and brand new 4runner because he didn't know how to budget between oil field jobs
Too specific and tmi but lol enjoy your downgrade hoe
LonelyBut did you donate?
LonelyNah brother that ain't justice
If someone ducks you over you shouldn't be happy that they are happy
Fuck that wuwu live and let live bs
Young_pattyLMAO bruh, she must have reaaaally hurt you. Couldn’t be me.
“We need justice brother”
dawg sometimes the best justice is her seeing you flourish and succeed in life without her. Move on already king.
LonelyHey man, you can move on and also not wish the best for someone who fucked ya over
If people do something shitty its nice to see that karma reciprocated in all parts of life, not just relationships.
Don't waste brain space on them, but also don't huff the "I'm so happy the shitty person is happy" copium either.
