STEEZUS_CHRI5TAlso don’t rely on tinder, that’s for college hookups. Try bumble or some of the other apps, more serious mature crowd
I know haha. Been there done that, got a few buddies who loved it didn't work out for me. Don't really like them in general, but needs be!
Jemsstart playing guitar and join a band
Here in lines one of my main problems! Played guitar my whole life and like to think I'm pretty decent. But the not driving thing makes doing anything like that impossible. I can promise each and everyone of you, you don't know what you've got until it's gone. Will hopefully get my license back soon which will make a huge difference to my outlook, but who knows.
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If it's a change of pace and a good fit it's not throwing it away. You're talking about wanting a break from things and to change it up. Moght be a good fit. Yeah housing is tough a lot of places. Maybe see if you can find anything for work in advance, maybe you can find something with housing or a place that knows of some housing.
Idk. Def tough to do, but could be a good trip to get away, meet some new people do something different for a bit. Let yourself breathe a bit. Lot's of unknowns and stuff which can be stressful but def seems like when it's something people want to do, it generally works out and you figure it out. CN always go weekly/monthly at a hostel until you figure it out.
Also as far as the year, you don't have to go for a full year. I think I only did like 5 months on both my NZ and Australian working holidays because I went for the ski season and had to be back north for ours. Still had a great time. Idk sometimes things get stressful and shit but overall good experiences. But you know yourself better than anyone so it really depends on what you want/need right now.
Yeah, maybe i am stressing too much about the difficulties of moving there. On the other hand, crazy how it's 2022 and it still takes 28 hours and $5000 to fly to New Zealand. We had supersonic flight over 50 years ago..
Canis_lupusIdk, but the worse thing you could do about it is nothing
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TOAST.Is the job you currently have constantly hiring? If so give them plenty of notice that you are leaving and don't burn any bridges, good chance they may want to rehire you in the future if they need someone. I work with a ton of people that left for a few years and then came back.
Have you tried volunteering or joining any groups that do activities that you enjoy. Don't use them solely for the purpose of finding a relationship, but you might connect with people, even if it just new friends. Gives people time to get to know you before judging you for not being able to drive and living with your mom.
Nope unfortunately, it's a company of only 20 people or so. And they'll fill my position pretty quickly with someone a lot more knowledgeable than me, got to be a realist about that one I'm afraid.
As mentioned above, doing literally anything without a driving license takes a lot more effort to put in than you can get out. It just stresses me.
partyandBSMy dog I’ll save you my sob story but I too have been having a rough fuckin year filled with deaths, divorce and depression. Then after a 2:30a drunk decision to drive someone else’s car as fast as I could to either get arrested and get help through the system or crash and die I ended up crashing, not dying, avoiding legal trouble and just hittin rock fuckin bottom. So after a sick pysch eval i was going to therapy 2 times a week and was for a bit there sober. That shit saved my fuckin life. I wish I had gone sooner. Recognize when your in too deep and ask for help. Its surprising how many people would actually love to help out.
also i didnt read any of the responses to OP 😆
That's rough mate! I'm in a shit place rn so sometimes I fail to consider that other people are also going through it too. Social media is good at making me feel like shit, should really delete it... but I also find myself coming back for mtb/skiing videos.
oldmanskiTalk to your company/HR. You may be able to take a leave of absence for a year without pay and come back to your job. My company offers this and maybe something your company will offer too. As I read earlier, looks like you have already done the Canada thing and you loved it, Im sure you will feel the same in NZ. Life experiences as you know it are worth it, I look back on my life with a wee bit of regret because of I things I didnt do earlier in my life. Things here in the UK are fucked, Im in Scotland and have friends living and feeling very similar to you. It is rough but hang in there, get some counseling, talk to people, things will fall into place. Best of luck homie.
As mentioned above, it's too small a company that they'd allow anything like that. It's a fair point though!
Completely see where you're coming from. I'm only 30 and I have so many regrets about my life choices when I look back to my late teens/early 20s. Wonder where I'd be right now if I'd made the right choices.
So maybe I do need to bite the bullet and jump ship.
