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Anyone ever lost a relationship because your partner didn’t understand your lifestyle?

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FATHERULLR
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This has been on my mind recently since I told my girlfriend that I plan on being out a lot during the season. My girlfriend skis and enjoys it but isn’t into it like I am.

What has everyone’s experience on this been like?
We’re you able to balance your relationship or was it too straining for the both of you?
Oct 20 2022 3:00PM
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Professor-Modelo
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FATHERULLRThis has been on my mind recently since I told my girlfriend that I plan on being out a lot during the season. My girlfriend skis and enjoys it but isn’t into it like I am.

What has everyone’s experience on this been like?
We’re you able to balance your relationship or was it too straining for the both of you?


my girlfriend gets it thankfully. but TBH unless you're unemployed and traveling for a whole season filming a video part or competing or something like that i dont see how skiing could come in between a solid relationship
Oct 20 2022 3:09PM
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GayWolf420
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No, but eventually you need make a compromise with both parties involved if you really value the relationship. And yeah that means skipping out on days you really want to ski and I'm sure that gets to become more apparent as you get older, start having a family, etc. Nothing wrong with it.
Oct 20 2022 3:11PM
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macfive
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FATHERULLRmy girlfriend

Alright, imma go ahead and stop your right there chief.
Oct 20 2022 5:26PM
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Diub
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Ya. Some girls hate my cocaine habit
Oct 20 2022 5:30PM
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270on420out
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Working 40- 50 hours a week and living an hour away from each other we didn’t get to see each other a whole lot to begin with.

Ski season came and went every year, and every year I skied less and less. I went from averaging 50-60 days a year to maybe 20 if I was lucky.


Eventually I just started to dread winter because I knew it was just going to be another season of fighting every other weekend and being disappointed by how little I got to ski. This also permeated into other aspects of my life. I completely quit skateboarding after being obsessed with it more than skiing for 5 years.

I live the same week every week. I go to work. Spend the weekend with the girlfriend, and do it all over again the next week.

i am completely fucking miserable. Part of me wishes I never got into this relationship and im seriously considering ending it this winter.
Oct 20 2022 8:16PM
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freestyler540
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I keep getting straight up rejected because of my lifestyle. Either they tell me they hate being outside or Im gone for too long to hold a relationship.

The ones that admire what I do are already happily married.

best to accept the situation and not having anyone hold you back
Oct 21 2022 9:45AM
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Rparr
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freestyler540they tell me they hate being outside

This is some neckbeard shit
Oct 21 2022 9:52AM
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FATHERULLR
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freestyler540I keep getting straight up rejected because of my lifestyle. Either they tell me they hate being outside or Im gone for too long to hold a relationship.

The ones that admire what I do are already happily married.

best to accept the situation and not having anyone hold you back


Would you say that sacrificing having relationships to do what you want have been better in the long run for your happiness?
Oct 21 2022 10:58AM
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PsychicMigration
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270on420outWorking 40- 50 hours a week and living an hour away from each other we didn’t get to see each other a whole lot to begin with.

Ski season came and went every year, and every year I skied less and less. I went from averaging 50-60 days a year to maybe 20 if I was lucky.


Eventually I just started to dread winter because I knew it was just going to be another season of fighting every other weekend and being disappointed by how little I got to ski. This also permeated into other aspects of my life. I completely quit skateboarding after being obsessed with it more than skiing for 5 years.

I live the same week every week. I go to work. Spend the weekend with the girlfriend, and do it all over again the next week.

i am completely fucking miserable. Part of me wishes I never got into this relationship and im seriously considering ending it this winter.


Dump her ass you need skiing more then she needs you clearly, she would understand if she actually gave a fuck about how you felt and not just herself. Sounds like its her relationship not both of yours.
Oct 21 2022 11:21AM
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PsychicMigration
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freestyler540I keep getting straight up rejected because of my lifestyle. Either they tell me they hate being outside or Im gone for too long to hold a relationship.

The ones that admire what I do are already happily married.

best to accept the situation and not having anyone hold you back


Imagine not enjoying the outdoors. I know a girl that showers because she said she smells like outside, what a fuckin kook.
Oct 21 2022 11:25AM
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Biffbarf
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FUCK HER DAD
Oct 21 2022 11:31AM
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X_MEMESWERVE_XX
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FUCK HER DAD
Oct 21 2022 11:51AM
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Rparr
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FUCK HER DAD
Oct 21 2022 11:57AM
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X_MEMESWERVE_XX
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ok time for my serious reply



Nah, I think if you are both like... mature people you can work it out. IF somebody doesn't like when you make a certain lifestyle choice like lets say going skiing, they simply aren't worth being in a relationship with. lemme explain

I mean first of all if you are dipping out on your partner to ski that is a different story, that's just shitty ass behavior.... but like if your partner can't handle the fact that you enjoy doing a wholesome ass activity other than them, that relationship is toxic as hellll.

Like for example, my partner and I have pretty different interests besides our common stuff. She's an artist and finds her happiness in her work, where I get 100 days a year on my pass easy and find may happiness in skiing, she is not rly a skier, she wants to but because of some injuries/health stuff the past couple years she can't. but like. she likes that I do what I do and respects the drip cuz we have respect for eachother and communicate when we are and aren't available.

Also, your partner shouldn't be your only source of happiness cuz that aint healthy either. find what you love and do it but also create space in your life for others that you love

If you want a relationship where you can do what you love without judgement all you gotta do is communicate. like if you're out for long hours just do your best to check in when you can, its okay to sacrifice a little bit of your time for somebody you love cuz they are doing the same for you. If you got a "its skiing or me" partner trust me they aren't worth it, you deserve a relationship where you both can mutually be yourselves together
Oct 21 2022 12:23PM
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PsychicMigration
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CrunnchyPissFartok time for my serious reply



Nah, I think if you are both like... mature people you can work it out. IF somebody doesn't like when you make a certain lifestyle choice like lets say going skiing, they simply aren't worth being in a relationship with. lemme explain

I mean first of all if you are dipping out on your partner to ski that is a different story, that's just shitty ass behavior.... but like if your partner can't handle the fact that you enjoy doing a wholesome ass activity other than them, that relationship is toxic as hellll.

Like for example, my partner and I have pretty different interests besides our common stuff. She's an artist and finds her happiness in her work, where I get 100 days a year on my pass easy and find may happiness in skiing, she is not rly a skier, she wants to but because of some injuries/health stuff the past couple years she can't. but like. she likes that I do what I do and respects the drip cuz we have respect for eachother and communicate when we are and aren't available.

Also, your partner shouldn't be your only source of happiness cuz that aint healthy either. find what you love and do it but also create space in your life for others that you love

If you want a relationship where you can do what you love without judgement all you gotta do is communicate. like if you're out for long hours just do your best to check in when you can, its okay to sacrifice a little bit of your time for somebody you love cuz they are doing the same for you. If you got a "its skiing or me" partner trust me they aren't worth it, you deserve a relationship where you both can mutually be yourselves together


Maturity has a whole lot to do with it. I think some people though and I’m definitely one of them want to share in what I love to do with the person I’m interested in which goes both ways. It doesn’t have to be to the same degree but I find loads of value in it. I just find when I can’t share that I lack at building connection or become disinterested.
Oct 21 2022 1:31PM
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Grom
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270on420outWorking 40- 50 hours a week and living an hour away from each other we didn’t get to see each other a whole lot to begin with.

Ski season came and went every year, and every year I skied less and less. I went from averaging 50-60 days a year to maybe 20 if I was lucky.


Eventually I just started to dread winter because I knew it was just going to be another season of fighting every other weekend and being disappointed by how little I got to ski. This also permeated into other aspects of my life. I completely quit skateboarding after being obsessed with it more than skiing for 5 years.

I live the same week every week. I go to work. Spend the weekend with the girlfriend, and do it all over again the next week.

i am completely fucking miserable. Part of me wishes I never got into this relationship and im seriously considering ending it this winter.


End it.
Oct 21 2022 1:36PM
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BingPow
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idk about your situation, maybe smoke a spliff and play some video games, get your mind off of that stuff, just let everything go, be the best person you can be
Oct 21 2022 1:45PM
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PacificRimJob
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Yep. 100% Vanilla people and I are oil to water.
Oct 21 2022 2:13PM
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connecticunt
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270on420outi am completely fucking miserable.

life isn’t supposed to suck and relationships are supposed to feel nice at least most of the time so my advice is do what makes you happy. go skiing, you’ll find someone else.
Oct 21 2022 3:42PM
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r00kie
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Kind of yeah. Dated a girl in college for a bit who came from a very well to do family. Her family never said anything to me but appartley they were very concerned about my earning potential lol. We broke up pretty quickly. Best story there is getting my dusty Dodge Neon with no power steering valet parked the day I met her family.

Otherwise I find my lifestyle to be limiting my willingness to persue relationships or I find myself in situationship with someone who lives a long way away and I don't think I could do the distance game we'll.
Oct 21 2022 6:02PM
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BradFiAusNzCoCa
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I know it’s none of my business but man. From what you just said, you need to move on. Life is too short
270on420outWorking 40- 50 hours a week and living an hour away from each other we didn’t get to see each other a whole lot to begin with.

Ski season came and went every year, and every year I skied less and less. I went from averaging 50-60 days a year to maybe 20 if I was lucky.


Eventually I just started to dread winter because I knew it was just going to be another season of fighting every other weekend and being disappointed by how little I got to ski. This also permeated into other aspects of my life. I completely quit skateboarding after being obsessed with it more than skiing for 5 years.

I live the same week every week. I go to work. Spend the weekend with the girlfriend, and do it all over again the next week.

i am completely fucking miserable. Part of me wishes I never got into this relationship and im seriously considering ending it this winter.
Oct 22 2022 4:27PM
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snowmosexual
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Have a mature conversation with your girl about it.
Oct 23 2022 12:19PM
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twinkle_toes
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r00kieOtherwise I find my lifestyle to be limiting my willingness to persue relationships

Definitely in the same boat ^^

Skiing is like my one thing that I can have to myself and nobody can fuck with. Its also a way to relieve work stress. And after a long week working outside in the rain, I’m not gonna bail on skiing just to sit around on a couch, watch netflix,drink beer with some dude that’s too lazy to go skiing

It’s important to maintain separate lives and enjoy the things you love. Why would you want to see that person 24/7 when you’re together literally all the time anyways
Oct 23 2022 2:33PM
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BigmoneyMatt
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I got rejected last weekend because of my star sign :''(
Oct 23 2022 3:15PM
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FATHERULLR
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Idk who disliked this. This is the funniest response on this thread
Oct 23 2022 3:36PM
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FATHERULLR
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twinkle_toesDefinitely in the same boat ^^

Skiing is like my one thing that I can have to myself and nobody can fuck with. Its also a way to relieve work stress. And after a long week working outside in the rain, I’m not gonna bail on skiing just to sit around on a couch, watch netflix,drink beer with some dude that’s too lazy to go skiing

It’s important to maintain separate lives and enjoy the things you love. Why would you want to see that person 24/7 when you’re together literally all the time anyways

My girl is super wonderful but she’s waaaaay too into just sitting on the couch to where if I’m not going skiing, the couch is all I really have waiting for me. I can only watch so many tv shows before I lose my mind.
Oct 23 2022 3:43PM
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Lenny-
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ReformedBI got rejected last weekend because of my star sign :''(

Oct 23 2022 3:59PM
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HypeBeast
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You do you man. Compromises go both ways however don't change yourself if you don't want to. There's millions other people out there. Far too often it seems people stay in relationships longer because they're afraid they'll never find that special someone again. That's some bs destiny shit. Sit down and have a discussion about your wants, her wants/needs, and things that are deal breakers. You may be surprised at her response or you both may discover that it isn't going to work- and saved each other years of wasted time and misery. I was pretty close to this point and saying fuck it, I'm done. We sat down and figured out ways to make it work for both of us, and now there's no fighting or questioning about stupid shit like weekend plans, vacations, skiing, etc. Another big contention point is where to live; unlikely his and her dream spots will align, so this is another place to compromise on.

Skiing is something really stupid to fight about so if y'all can't compromise then might wanna reevaluate things. Consider all aspects and what's most important to you.
Oct 23 2022 4:04PM
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r00kie
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ReformedBI got rejected last weekend because of my star sign :''(

That's a good thing.
Oct 23 2022 4:08PM
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BradFiAusNzCoCa
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This is great advice. My wife actually wasn’t into skiing when I met her but I slowly got her back into it without forcing her (she had skied when she was younger). It was just a matter of exposure, seeing how much I love it, and my encouragement regarding her skills. Now she loves skiing and says we have to be in a city next to the mountains. People can surprise you.
Word_of_the_LordYou do you man. Compromises go both ways however don't change yourself if you don't want to. There's millions other people out there. Far too often it seems people stay in relationships longer because they're afraid they'll never find that special someone again. That's some bs destiny shit. Sit down and have a discussion about your wants, her wants/needs, and things that are deal breakers. You may be surprised at her response or you both may discover that it isn't going to work- and saved each other years of wasted time and misery. I was pretty close to this point and saying fuck it, I'm done. We sat down and figured out ways to make it work for both of us, and now there's no fighting or questioning about stupid shit like weekend plans, vacations, skiing, etc. Another big contention point is where to live; unlikely his and her dream spots will align, so this is another place to compromise on.

Skiing is something really stupid to fight about so if y'all can't compromise then might wanna reevaluate things. Consider all aspects and what's most important to you.
Oct 23 2022 4:42PM
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Lonely
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Y'all have partners?
Oct 23 2022 4:44PM
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PacificRimJob
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ReformedBI got rejected last weekend because of my star sign :''(


read as 'I dodged a bullet last weekend because of my birth date'
Oct 23 2022 11:40PM
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theabortionator
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Oct 24 2022 12:18AM
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GayWolf420
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theabortionator

Huge truth-bomb here.
Oct 24 2022 12:26AM
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nmwninjart
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r00kieOtherwise I find my lifestyle to be limiting my willingness to persue relationships
twinkle_toesDefinitely in the same boat ^^

Skiing is like my one thing that I can have to myself and nobody can fuck with.
I’m not gonna bail on skiing just to sit around on a couch, watch netflix,drink beer with some dude that’s too lazy to go skiing

Same here too. Its easier in general for me to just not have a relationship. Less stress.
I get looked at like I have two heads when I say I don't have any streaming accounts or cable/dish tv.
Oct 24 2022 7:42AM
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Nuno812
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y’all need to find someone who is as hyped to ski as you are. Get a truck camper or van and send it. Ain’t gonna work living the compromise life- it will sour eventually
Oct 24 2022 9:48AM
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oldmanski
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I can answer yes to this question but it was not due to my skiing, it was my motorcycle life. I dated a girl for a few years, she knew my lifestyle at the time and said she fell in love with it. I taught her how to ride, got married, bought her own motorcycle and I figured we were set. She ended up getting a higher up job and started to look down on the whole biker life we were living. She changed and I dont blame her, just bettering her life, I supported it but she kept looking down to mine. Needless to say, we didnt last much longer after this and we divorced. Motorcycles are still a huge part of my life and always will be and I have found the lady of my dreams now that supports me in every way. My skiing, my hot rods, my motorcycles, my love for travel, you name it she is supportive of it and it has truly changed my outlook towards relationships. Relationships can be tough but shouldnt require lots and lots of work, they should be pretty natural. Best of luck to all those out there, love is out there.
Oct 24 2022 10:09AM
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cool_name
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FATHERULLRThis has been on my mind recently since I told my girlfriend that I plan on being out a lot during the season. My girlfriend skis and enjoys it but isn’t into it like I am.

What has everyone’s experience on this been like?
We’re you able to balance your relationship or was it too straining for the both of you?


If she starts complaining that you are skiing too much just lie and say you are out with another girl instead.


All of a sudden skiing won’t seem so bad.
Oct 26 2022 10:05PM
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Biffbarf
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cool_nameIf she starts complaining that you are skiing too much just lie and say you are out with another girl instead.


All of a sudden skiing won’t seem so bad.



Oct 26 2022 11:14PM
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tutipups
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man please dont be with somebody with whom you cant do your hobbies freely
Oct 27 2022 8:15PM
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GrapeHunter
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PacificRimJobYep. 100% Vanilla people and I are oil to water.


if a guy doesn't let u lick his butthole is it over?
Oct 27 2022 9:18PM
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Michigan_Sucks
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I straight up don't understand this. The first and MAJOR thing I look for in a girl is if they enjoy to ski. Advice from my parents that have been happily married for 31 years and have skied 3+ days a week that entire time. If they don't ski they aren't worth it.
Oct 27 2022 11:11PM
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tutipups
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Michigan_SucksI straight up don't understand this. The first and MAJOR thing I look for in a girl is if they enjoy to ski. Advice from my parents that have been happily married for 31 years and have skied 3+ days a week that entire time. If they don't ski they aren't worth it.

i unadd girls on snap if they dont ski lmao
Oct 27 2022 11:13PM
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Skiblade420
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To put it simply, and as someone whose been in similar situations…

You genuinely need to assess what you need more.

Do you really need to ski everyday of the week? No. Is she a special person that might not come around again / makes skiing less actually worth it? Sweet, you can ski a few times a week and still live a happy life. Most happy people in the world haven’t even been skiing.


- The other end.
Are you an absolute ski fiend and get down in the dumps regardless of your situation if you can’t ski?

1. ski a bit less and pick up another fun hobby your girl likes (because you most likely need the exercise for your mental health)



or

2. Realize skiing is an essential part of your lifestyle that you need for your own personal happiness, express this to her and if she doesn’t understand then look for a ski babe
Oct 29 2022 1:02AM
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GrapeHunter
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tutipupsi unadd girls on snap if they dont ski lmao


and thats why u get no bitches tutifruity 😂✌🏻
Oct 30 2022 12:08AM
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mattytru
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BradFiAusNzCoCaThis is great advice. My wife actually wasn’t into skiing when I met her but I slowly got her back into it without forcing her (she had skied when she was younger). It was just a matter of exposure, seeing how much I love it, and my encouragement regarding her skills. Now she loves skiing and says we have to be in a city next to the mountains. People can surprise you.


This is very true. If you genuinely love skiing and you come back from the mountain a better person because of it, a good partner will see that and respect it. 7 years in to my current relationship and my partner went from being whatever about snowboarding to demanding mountain life ad infinitum. People can definitely surprise you, I'd say finding a person who is engaged with life is more important than someone who compulsively goes to the mountain every weekend but doesn't really enjoy it.
Oct 30 2022 8:42AM
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MeenaSmalls
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yes, not all women understand my dedication and passion for booze cruising.
Oct 31 2022 7:42PM
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ASAPCarter
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PacificRimJobYep. 100% Vanilla people and I are oil to water.


Username checks out
Nov 1 2022 6:25PM
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PacificRimJob
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ASAPCarterUsername checks out


rim jobs are pretty damn vanilla dude.
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