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Is confidence all that matters?

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FruitBootPro
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Seriously, is confidence, resilience, and optimism all that matter to have a good life? People tell me that, but I don't buy it. I feel like genetics plays a big factor; not only how you look, but your natural disposition towards charisma, your natural physical talents, your intellect, your willpower. Even if you learn to be confident, I think there are some things you just can't change. Tbh, I feel like "just be confident" is a lie perpetuated by people who won the genetic lottery, but I might just be pessimistic.
Thoughts?

Thoughts?
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ReturnToMonkey
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Agree
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270on420out
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Ugly, fat, and short people will definitely have harder lives than most. And good looking people will definitely have an easier time developing confidence.

But at the end of the day you’re dealt the hand you have and sulking about it isn’t going to get you anywhere. So what if you’re ugly/fat/short? Doesn’t mean you can’t rise above and come out of it a charismatic and confident person. I totally understand being upset about it, you will have to work harder than the average person. But a good work ethic can be way more effective than a good set of genes.
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ReturnToMonkey
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DIRTYBUBBLEUgly, fat, and short people will definitely have harder lives than most. And good looking people will definitely have an easier time developing confidence.

But at the end of the day you’re dealt the hand you have and sulking about it isn’t going to get you anywhere. So what if you’re ugly/fat/short? Doesn’t mean you can’t rise above and come out of it a charismatic and confident person. I totally understand being upset about it, you will have to work harder than the average person. But a good work ethic can be way more effective than a good set of genes.


How do you develop charisma
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abar.
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Genetics doesn't mean shit, it's 90% the socioeconomic class you were born into and whether you had good parents
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b0ss
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Work ethic is a strong tool to support happiness cause at the end of the day. An idiot who can work hard is happier than a lazy genius
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theabortionator
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I mean there are a fuck ton of factors that come into play. Even as simple as geographic location.
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xxACIDTRIPxx
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b0ssWork ethic is a strong tool to support happiness cause at the end of the day. An idiot who can work hard is happier than a lazy genius


An idiot who can work hard is a wagecuck
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xxACIDTRIPxx
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confidence, charisma, looks, height, geographic location, upbringing, genetics

We are at the mercy of thousands of factors and laws that dictate our life. Because of that we don’t have free will. And whether you have a good life or not is based on luck.
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b0ss
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HYP3R_REAL1TYAn idiot who can work hard is a wagecuck

Yes, when I was learning to lip on blind 2 I worked hard. Didnt get payed or anything, i would fall and get up again. I never quit until i could do them consistently. I am a wagecuck.
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Lonely
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ConesForBreakfasHow do you develop charisma


Put yourself in situations that are outside of your comfort zone. Do it a lot. Try to diversify.
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Lonely
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HYP3R_REAL1TYconfidence, charisma, looks, height, geographic location, upbringing, genetics

We are at the mercy of thousands of factors and laws that dictate our life. Because of that we don’t have free will. And whether you have a good life or not is based on luck.


You don't have freewill. Therefore you are no more conscious than a dog right?
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iced
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10 inch swinging cobra cock helps
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goldlion
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i think it's all about having control and understanding of yourself and the world around you. confidence is a product of attaining that control. something like that
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SammyDubz
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All u need is to be attractive
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FruitBootPro
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SammyDubzAll u need is to be attractive


Sometimes I really believe this
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SnickleFriz
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surfaceoutsidersSeriously, is confidence, resilience, and optimism all that matter to have a good life? People tell me that, but I don't buy it. I feel like genetics plays a big factor; not only how you look, but your natural disposition towards charisma, your natural physical talents, your intellect, your willpower. Even if you learn to be confident, I think there are some things you just can't change. Tbh, I feel like "just be confident" is a lie perpetuated by people who won the genetic lottery, but I might just be pessimistic.
Thoughts?

Thoughts?


I read your first sentence and said, "wow, this is a positive/confident sentence. I like this guy."

Then I read the next 1.5 sentences and was like "wow, this guy hates himself. I don't think I like this guy."

Then I stopped reading.

I think that this answers most of whatever you were getting at.
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xxACIDTRIPxx
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SnickleFrizI read your first sentence and said, "wow, this is a positive/confident sentence. I like this guy."

Then I read the next 1.5 sentences and was like "wow, this guy hates himself. I don't think I like this guy."

Then I stopped reading.

I think that this answers most of whatever you were getting at.


Thisss
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ALMIGHTYSOSA
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naw u knnee sauce u gotta akchoir dat
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Chubz.
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I think the people you surround yourself have a factor on this as well. If you have people that build you up and lift you, you will feel better about yourself and build confidence that way. But if you have people that knock you down and make you feel bad about yourself, you’ll fall into a whole, or find motivation to get rid of the things you feel bad about.


me for instance, have a core group of people that really support me and make me feel awesome about myself. I also have people that infuriate me and make me feel shitty at the same time. But the good outweighs the bad and I like to think I have a good amount of confidence. And I’m not a great looking dude or super in shape.


but I’m working on it, been eating healthier and started a gym membership last week, slowly but surely will get back to being in shape again.

Definitely won’t let what strangers that hide behind a computer say about me effect how I feel about myself or the confidence I have IRL
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ALMIGHTYSOSA
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knee seezin 2
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CLQ
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Confidence is attractive no matter how ugly you look. Just think of it this way, being ugly and confident is a whole lot better than ugly and not confident. If you have confidence, life will be a hell of a lot easier.
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elcheapo
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Rich poor ugly pretty, being happy with what you got matters
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xxACIDTRIPxx
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TnskiRich poor ugly pretty, being happy with what you got matters


Acceptance is key bruh
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McNoche
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Ignorance is more important than confidence
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elcheapo
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HYP3R_REAL1TYAcceptance is key bruh

Exactly, people just need to accept their situation
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Casey
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It is truly amazing how far a completely irrational sense of self assurance can get a man who is otherwise a total dumbass.
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PeppermillReno
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I left my favorite pair of cowboy boots at the Stateline economy lodge and it’s hard being confident without them.

They were super sketchy when I called about them and acted like a week ago was a year ago telling me to fuck off cause I didn’t remember my room number etc. After they came into my room when I answered the door naked and shit I’ve been having weird interactions with Indians.
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TheDoughAbides
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ConesForBreakfasHow do you develop charisma


hard liquor, duh
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xxACIDTRIPxx
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When god made me he put +10 points into awkwardness and assigned me the relic of not being able to change my stats.
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ReturnToMonkey
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TheDoughAbideshard liquor, duh


Time to become an alcoholic
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yungona
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PsychicMigration
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Being overly confident/to high self-esteem can give you a really skewed version of reality if it goes unchecked. The fall after realization is detrimental and can be kind of a rough mental recovery.
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xxACIDTRIPxx
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DummyBearsBeing overly confident/to high self-esteem can give you a really skewed version of reality if it goes unchecked. The fall after realization is detrimental and can be kind of a rough mental recovery.


It's all about balance, mostly
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Charlie_Kelly
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Cocaine will help you OP
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cantridemoguls
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>be a sickcvnt
>nothing else matters cuz ur sick asf
>happy life
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ronders_
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Just do your own thing, don’t try to be someone else, keep business and friends separate and most importantly don’t give too much of a fuck about what other people think.

remember we’re all gonna end up in the same place. Dead. No matter how much money or fame or “social standing” we have. So live your own life.
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ski_salmon69
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develop this mentality; just stop giving a shithttps://www.newschoolers.com/videos/watch/986302/trim-07703AFF-E30A-4B5B-A291-552516F4A3AB-MOV
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dolanslebensraum
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Just try to be like dolan and happyness will come
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JAHBRADOR
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ConesForBreakfastHow do you develop charisma

Not doing cones for breakfast.
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ReturnToMonkey
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JAHBRADORNot doing cones for breakfast.

You're not wrong
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rubberpantaloons
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incel cope thread
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edai
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LonelyPut yourself in situations that are outside of your comfort zone. Do it a lot. Try to diversify.


this is the answer to the whole thread. every time you see something or feel uncomfortable, run towards it. by the end of your journey or whatever, you'll be a really cool person with a huge personality, or dead
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katrina
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iced10 inch swinging cobra cock helps


Can confirm my 10 in cobra cock has been the source of all my success.
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zues
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The only two important things in life are to be a rich man or a pretty girl.
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BigPurpleSkiSuit
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Same

katrinaCan confirm my 10 in cobra cock has been the source of all my success.


**This post was edited on Jan 14th 2021 at 12:20:36pm
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