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Broke up with my girlfriend AMA

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CabbyArrant
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Broke up with my girlfriend who I had been dating for 5.5 years. Just realized that we wanted differwnt things for ourselves. AMA or give advice for post breakup. I dont plan on dating for a while as I want to figure my shit out before entering another relationship.
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BigPurpleSkiSuit
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Join the club, liquors under the sink
6 years ago
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Segsxi
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been there done that got the hat life moves on lil homie, I’ve always lived by the winter sport enthusiasts saying “every season is a new year” The season is always around the corner!

Ask yourself this was your (now ex) ever excited about deep pow days as you were? Don’t let any women (or man, or whatever) break your spirit and don’t let them tell You that Your values are Wrong. What you want out of life is what You want.. it’s time for you to move on and move up :)
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iH8pow
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Idk, I dated/engaged a girl for 5 years. We actually called off our wedding just 2 weeks before.
It sucks, but if it just wasn’t right it just wasn’t right. Unless you got nothing better to do in life, just be patient, see other people, etc. Get on some dates with zero expectations, just have fun and use it as a chance to get to know some girls but more importantly getting to know yourself/what you want. Be silly, stupid, make girls finish a date being like *wtf??* lol just don’t be thirsty or desperate cuz if you are they will sense it, not be interested and your confidence will be even lower after the date than when you started.
That’s what I thought I was doing, until the second girl I dated post break up (on my first of what I thought would be tons of Okcupid dates) got her claws in me quick. She’s a far better match than my ex was.

take it as experience, you have better perspective now

And don’t forget to use the DENNIS system!

**This post was edited on Sep 21st 2019 at 3:28:17pm
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OregonDead
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BigPurpleSkiSuitJoin the club, liquors under the sink


Truth. under the sink
6 years ago
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theabortionator
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Damn that's a long time. But hopefully you have some fun not being in a relationship.

I've never been in a relationship so don't really know the feels but good luck.
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Mingg
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Do you need a hug?

Im sorry OP. That’s a long time to be with someone and isn’t the easiest to transition out of. I hope you both find what you are looking for in life and that whatever that is does you well.
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CabbyArrant
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theabortionatorDamn that's a long time. But hopefully you have some fun not being in a relationship.

I've never been in a relationship so don't really know the feels but good luck.

Honestly I checked out of the relationship emotionally a long time ago. My biggest problem atm is what I do with my freetime now. Which just means more skiing!
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Mingg
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CabbyArrantHonestly I checked out of the relationship emotionally a long time ago. My biggest problem atm is what I do with my freetime now. Which just means more skiing!


That sounds like a breath of fresh air to be honest.
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tsingtaofanatic
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Here a have a hug, bud.

6 years ago
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CabbyArrant
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MinggThat sounds like a breath of fresh air to be honest.


It is, it was a long time coming but I still feel gutted at times. I think it's more that I lost the person who used to be my best friend
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BigPurpleSkiSuit
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Dude, I feel you too much on this. I'm sitting at home watching forged in fire drinking beer. It's nice, but it would be nicer with my ex. Biggest thing is to spend time with other people, it helps take the sting and shock off of losing your companion
CabbyArrantIt is, it was a long time coming but I still feel gutted at times. I think it's more that I lost the person who used to be my best friend
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OregonDead
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CabbyArrantI think it's more that I lost the person who used to be my best friend


This part hurts but nothing lasts forever and if you love someone you have to let them do what is best for them. Vibes man. Shit hurts bad
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Pigeon.
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BigPurpleSkiSuitJoin the club, liquors under the sink


i wanna jh=oin too
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Denseclouds
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Time heals all wounds my friend. The best thing one can do in life is become so complete and content with oneself, that it can rub off onto others with no attachment.
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Denseclouds
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Go out with some friends and do things that will keep you active/busy. Go ahead and have some drinks, but it will only help for so long!
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xxACIDTRIPxx
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Rebounds, drugs and general hedonistic pursuits can help if you are a soulless degenerate like me!

If not I reccomend picking up some hobbies like mountain biking, make some personal goals and get cash, travel etc all with the intent of taking your mind off the sting and channeling your energy positively
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OregonDead
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Hopefully OP already has a mustache but if not it is time to get with the program and you can always work on growing it bigger and better.
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CabbyArrant
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OregonDeadHopefully OP already has a mustache but if not it is time to get with the program and you can always work on growing it bigger and better.


I have a beard.... I'm not sure a moustache would be superior. Maybe less icicles on a pow day.
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OregonDead
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CabbyArrantI have a beard.... I'm not sure a moustache would be superior. Maybe less icicles on a pow day.


I am picturing a clean shaven upper lip with a full beard right now. (:

I have just the 'stache and shave the rest of my face clean. Really just a personal preference so who am I to talk.

Whatever you do I suggest going big this winter. Grow it as big as possible before the first snow and then just keep on rolling with it. The bigger the icicles grown on a snow day the better.
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ChadThundercock
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I've made it 3 weeks with a girlfriend as my record. Why? Because I'm Chad.
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Biffbarf
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ChadThundercockI've made it 3 weeks with a girlfriend as my record. Why? Because I'm Chad.


Sorry my dude, but relationships that last longer than a few weeks are dank as hell. There's some badass things a lady (or dude) who's fully warmed up to you will do that no new strange will.
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ChadThundercock
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BiffbarfSorry my dude, but relationships that last longer than a few weeks are dank as hell. There's some badass things a lady (or dude) who's fully warmed up to you will do that no new strange will.

I'm not saying I've done this, but a brothel I went to in Prague would let you piss in a girls mouth or fuck you up the ass with a strap on for $150.

Bonus points: if you find the brothel on Google maps I'll venmo you $30, it's directly behind a police station in Prague, CZ
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CalumSKI
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CabbyArrantMy biggest problem atm is what I do with my freetime now. Which just means more skiing!

That a great problem to have man
yes to more skiing
6 years ago
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Biffbarf
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ChadThundercockI'm not saying I've done this, but a brothel I went to in Prague would let you piss in a girls mouth or fuck you up the ass with a strap on for $150.

Bonus points: if you find the brothel on Google maps I'll venmo you $30, it's directly behind a police station in Prague, CZ

It's not all about the nasty things you dig while bumpin uglies my dude. I'm talkin' backrubs till you fall asleep, someone to share a badass homemade meal with, tell secrets too, all that cutsie bullshit as well as learning all the right moves to please each other over time.

Prague's a bucketlist trip for sure though, never been.
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ChadThundercock
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BiffbarfIt's not all about the nasty things you dig while bumpin uglies my dude. I'm talkin' backrubs till you fall asleep, someone to share a badass homemade meal with, tell secrets too, all that cutsie bullshit as well as learning all the right moves to please each other over time.

Prague's a bucketlist trip for sure though, never been.


That's the dumbest shit I've heard in my life. The 3 week chick gave me backrubs and made me cook with her. She was a stupid cunt and I'd pick a hooker any day.
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Biffbarf
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ChadThundercockThat's the dumbest shit I've heard in my life. The 3 week chick gave me backrubs and made me cook with her. She was a stupid cunt and I'd pick a hooker any day.


Imagine never having a partner you've respected as an equal.
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ChadThundercock
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BiffbarfImagine never having a partner you've respected as an equal.

Sounds like a life full of cocaine and Ferraris. I'll take a large.
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Pigeon.
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BiffbarfImagine never having a partner you've respected as an equal.


respecting ur significant other is super chill
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dogfacematt
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Be glad you didn't save all your receipts from those 5 years, you don't wanna know how much money you wasted
6 years ago
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bergobeanz
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Now seems like a good time for you to go full ski bum mode and just live in a van or something
6 years ago
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Pigeon.
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bitch
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