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How to not be socially awkward bars and hostels addition
I like to fake my confidence. I walk everywhere up tall. Make eye contact and smile. Think of all the traits a confident person would have then just literally copy it. Trust yourself!
Also 1st impressions matter. For me I pay alot of attention to my clothing etc to set the tone for my relationships.
Combine the two of above and boom!
Or ya know you could just take lsd which makes me god mode for socialising
Talk to people. Some people are better at it, but you get less awkward the more you do it.
If you have social anxiety/awkwardness talk to people. Even just a casual comment to the person ringing you up at the gas station, somebody on the train, somebody anybody. It doesn't have to be anything big.
What this does is giving you confidence in yourself, showing you that there's a 99.9% chance they won't kill you for talking to them, and every interaction helps you read people better.
Generally people who stay in hostels are friendly. A lot of people stay in them as much to meet cool people as the cheap price. Even many of the people that might not seem super engaging might be friendly, but socially awkward/scared like yourself.
You know when you talked to a new friend or a stranger and it was weird, somehow awkwardly broke the ice. Then somewhere you find out that you both love golf, romantic comedies, thai food, or something like that? You get excited, the conversation picks up, and you stop worrying about being judged and just talk? You let your guard down and relax?
It's like that. But since you don't know them, and you're in a strange place, it can be tough sometimes. I've struggled with social anxiety. There was a time when I would just ditch other kids and do my own thing. I'm spectrum as fuck. I remember being to scared to go into the gas station and talk to the person to prepay for fuel, and plenty of other things.
I just started talking to strangers about anything. It's a balancing act. You don't want to be a dick and rope people into a bullshit conversation. But small talk is a good start as if there's no interest, nobody dies, they aren't tied up all day, and you go on. The better you get at reading people you can tell if they're interested in what you're saying, and how to structure a conversation so it isn't one sided or boring etc.
The more confident you get, the less awkward it gets because you've had success, and you've developed your skills a bit.
Sparknotes: You're in a fucking hostel, talk to people. There's a very chance they won't bite. There's a very good chance you'll find some interesting folks to grab a beer with, go on that hike to the waterfall, or get lost trying to find that landmark everyone photographs in the city. People are generally pretty cool.
I would also say for vibes with hostels sometimes the "party hostels" cater more to the college bro bro crowd more. Some can be fun as hell, but I feel those are more likely to have less engaging people. Many times people planned a trip as a group, they're all friends from school or hometown, and they stick together without engaging other people for that week that they're in said country/city.
Seriously though, just talk to some people.
In Vic Falls these 2 girls approached me. I had long sketchy hair and a scraggly beard taboot. And apparently I looked like I knew what I was doing(even though I had 0 plan). Ended up carpooling from the airport and staying at the same hostel. We went on a mellow safari to bostwana together. I went rafting one day, they went canoeing and a cooking class, and then we met up later for a hike.
I travel solo exclusively because people are flakey as fuck. But every place I've stayed I've found strangers to hike with, grab drinks, take our motorbikes to some cool swimming hole, go bungee jump, explore cities, get blackout, and have an awesome time. People that I had never met a few minutes/hours before going on these adventures.
Just be real with people, jump in and take the ride. It's easy to get sucked into your phone or laptop with a bunch of strangers, but break the ice, talk to some people, have a beer, talk about where you've been, where your heading, what cool things you heard about maybe checking out tomorrow. This is how I've found pretty much everything when traveling. I fucking hate planning. I usually show up, and then hear what people have been up to and what I think I might like to see, or next places to go.
People are interesting, even the shitty ones.
Sorry for another novel. I type fast and I can't sleep. Cheers to your adventures. Have fun, don't die
No help re Hostels those places creep me the fuck out I've walked out within 10 minutes because there are heads just being all weird and I decide to spend more and get my own room. I think all the stories about them being great for meeting people are total bullshit and don't believe them.
PeppermillRenoDidn't you just win a Freeski competition?
Talk about that at the bar.
No help re Hostels those places creep me the fuck out I've walked out within 10 minutes because there are heads just being all weird and I decide to spend more and get my own room. I think all the stories about them being great for meeting people are total bullshit and don't believe them.
theabortionatorTalk to people. Some people are better at it, but you get less awkward the more you do it.
If you have social anxiety/awkwardness talk to people. Even just a casual comment to the person ringing you up at the gas station, somebody on the train, somebody anybody. It doesn't have to be anything big.
What this does is giving you confidence in yourself, showing you that there's a 99.9% chance they won't kill you for talking to them, and every interaction helps you read people better.
Generally people who stay in hostels are friendly. A lot of people stay in them as much to meet cool people as the cheap price. Even many of the people that might not seem super engaging might be friendly, but socially awkward/scared like yourself.
You know when you talked to a new friend or a stranger and it was weird, somehow awkwardly broke the ice. Then somewhere you find out that you both love golf, romantic comedies, thai food, or something like that? You get excited, the conversation picks up, and you stop worrying about being judged and just talk? You let your guard down and relax?
It's like that. But since you don't know them, and you're in a strange place, it can be tough sometimes. I've struggled with social anxiety. There was a time when I would just ditch other kids and do my own thing. I'm spectrum as fuck. I remember being to scared to go into the gas station and talk to the person to prepay for fuel, and plenty of other things.
I just started talking to strangers about anything. It's a balancing act. You don't want to be a dick and rope people into a bullshit conversation. But small talk is a good start as if there's no interest, nobody dies, they aren't tied up all day, and you go on. The better you get at reading people you can tell if they're interested in what you're saying, and how to structure a conversation so it isn't one sided or boring etc.
The more confident you get, the less awkward it gets because you've had success, and you've developed your skills a bit.
Sparknotes: You're in a fucking hostel, talk to people. There's a very chance they won't bite. There's a very good chance you'll find some interesting folks to grab a beer with, go on that hike to the waterfall, or get lost trying to find that landmark everyone photographs in the city. People are generally pretty cool.
I would also say for vibes with hostels sometimes the "party hostels" cater more to the college bro bro crowd more. Some can be fun as hell, but I feel those are more likely to have less engaging people. Many times people planned a trip as a group, they're all friends from school or hometown, and they stick together without engaging other people for that week that they're in said country/city.
Seriously though, just talk to some people.
In Vic Falls these 2 girls approached me. I had long sketchy hair and a scraggly beard taboot. And apparently I looked like I knew what I was doing(even though I had 0 plan). Ended up carpooling from the airport and staying at the same hostel. We went on a mellow safari to bostwana together. I went rafting one day, they went canoeing and a cooking class, and then we met up later for a hike.
I travel solo exclusively because people are flakey as fuck. But every place I've stayed I've found strangers to hike with, grab drinks, take our motorbikes to some cool swimming hole, go bungee jump, explore cities, get blackout, and have an awesome time. People that I had never met a few minutes/hours before going on these adventures.
Just be real with people, jump in and take the ride. It's easy to get sucked into your phone or laptop with a bunch of strangers, but break the ice, talk to some people, have a beer, talk about where you've been, where your heading, what cool things you heard about maybe checking out tomorrow. This is how I've found pretty much everything when traveling. I fucking hate planning. I usually show up, and then hear what people have been up to and what I think I might like to see, or next places to go.
People are interesting, even the shitty ones.
Sorry for another novel. I type fast and I can't sleep. Cheers to your adventures. Have fun, don't die
Good luck. Im tellin you its not that bad. I came from a small town and nobody went anywhere. I skipped things I wanted to do a few times instead of going alone. Started going seeing shows, music fests, and rando road trips alone. Probably 99% of my friends in the states were met randomly through that. I've only traveled solo abroad so evergbody Ive met and gone on adventures with was a rando.
Sometimes you're tired, in a weird mood and can't be fucked to meet strangers but if you feeling even remotely into doing something hit up some peeps, see what theyll doing. If youve met a couple people and are heading to the bar or for a hike, ask a few other people from the hostel if they'd care to join.
It's actually kind of weird how you csn feel like best friends with people you've only know a few days or hours. Just be friendly and have some fun.
theabortionatorGood luck. Im tellin you its not that bad. I came from a small town and nobody went anywhere. I skipped things I wanted to do a few times instead of going alone. Started going seeing shows, music fests, and rando road trips alone. Probably 99% of my friends in the states were met randomly through that. I've only traveled solo abroad so evergbody Ive met and gone on adventures with was a rando.
Sometimes you're tired, in a weird mood and can't be fucked to meet strangers but if you feeling even remotely into doing something hit up some peeps, see what theyll doing. If youve met a couple people and are heading to the bar or for a hike, ask a few other people from the hostel if they'd care to join.
It's actually kind of weird how you csn feel like best friends with people you've only know a few days or hours. Just be friendly and have some fun.
My first attempt to make convo failed tonight... people apparently aren’t very friendly at cornet peak...
AbiHI’m struggling so hard..... how do you socialize, helllllllpPpP
First rule
Dont have sex in hostel dorm
Second rule
Dont steal people food from the kitchen
Third rule
Dont act like an american idiot. A lot of countries think Americans are idiots, dont confirm their suspicions.
CabbyArrantFirst rule
Dont have sex in hostel dorm
Second rule
Dont steal people food from the kitchen
Third rule
Dont act like an american idiot. A lot of countries think Americans are idiots, dont confirm their suspicions.
Sit in the corner and wait for someone to come up to you.
This is what I do and usually no one comes up to me. Which is great because it's exactly what I wanted. Im god awful in social situations. Don't take my advice.
AbiHMy first attempt to make convo failed tonight... people apparently aren’t very friendly at cornet peak...
You are so basic... Alright! You're in the Oceania / Aussie region - I want you to hit up a liquor store and buy a box of wine, they call it goon down there. Bring it back, put a post it that says "free" on it and sit next to it. Then take some dick and you're golden.
ChadThundercockYou are so basic... Alright! You're in the Oceania / Aussie region - I want you to hit up a liquor store and buy a box of wine, they call it goon down there. Bring it back, put a post it that says "free" on it and sit next to it. Then take some dick and you're golden.
This is the advice you needed OP, top notch advice from NSs top notch member.
ChadThundercockYou are so basic... Alright! You're in the Oceania / Aussie region - I want you to hit up a liquor store and buy a box of wine, they call it goon down there. Bring it back, put a post it that says "free" on it and sit next to it. Then take some dick and you're golden.
honestly pls die chad this isnt even amusing anymore
Titus69This is the advice you needed OP, top notch advice from NSs top notch member.
Everyone loves a girl who knows how to drink and get fucked loudly in a hostel dorm room while other jet-lagged ugly fatsos try to sleep. If it's a bunk - you grab the bottom bunk, tie a bed sheet to both ends so it gives you a little privacy - then just start fucking. Try to suppress the moans, groans, etc. But let's be honest, you're probably paying only like $30 AUD a night for this bunk. So fuck everyone else. If some beta fuck gets mad, crack him.
I got banned from grandio party hostel in Hungary for kicking a garbage can, pissing on a couch, then coming back the next day, kicking another garbage can and smashing a bottle.
All while wearing a matching Adidas track suit. This is how you make friends abroad kids, and assert America's dominance.
ChadThundercockEveryone loves a girl who knows how to drink and get fucked loudly in a hostel dorm room while other jet-lagged ugly fatsos try to sleep. If it's a bunk - you grab the bottom bunk, tie a bed sheet to both ends so it gives you a little privacy - then just start fucking. Try to suppress the moans, groans, etc. But let's be honest, you're probably paying only like $30 AUD a night for this bunk. So fuck everyone else. If some beta fuck gets mad, crack him.
ChadThundercockI got banned from grandio party hostel in Hungary for kicking a garbage can, pissing on a couch, then coming back the next day, kicking another garbage can and smashing a bottle.
All while wearing a matching Adidas track suit. This is how you make friends abroad kids, and assert America's dominance.
More like how a skinny meth head gets woke and crippled , your lucky no one like me was around
fucking girls loudly fine
being a pig , nah , there’s nothing American bout you
op is making a serious post your disgustingness makes people “ weary “ that there are shmucks like you out there worth remaining socially awkward to avoid
SavageBiffMore like how a skinny meth head gets woke and crippled , your lucky no one like me was around
fucking girls loudly fine
being a pig , nah , there’s nothing American bout you
op is making a serious post your disgustingness makes people “ weary “ that there are shmucks like you out there worth remaining socially awkward to avoid
Pigeon.it comes from UK, AUS or Kiwi's saying mate. the internet turned into "m8" i think 4chan calls people m9 now to keep normies unaware (no offense)
Oh duh lol
none taken
I’m normal but whacked the fuck out when called for
AbiHMy first attempt to make convo failed tonight... people apparently aren’t very friendly at cornet peak...
This one is a location problem, cp is weird. I would say any other mountain in nz you will find success. Especially if your into freeride stuff just chat to people at the top of the line about it or something.
