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JohnBolea
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This forum is for anyone having trouble with their mental health, It is a place anyone can voice there emotions and seek positive reinforcement. My hopes are that this is taken seriously and is able to help people, but I also realize this is newschoolers and some of the members here are assholes and could potentially end up hurting someone and I plead of every DO NOT MAKE JOKES ABOUT SUICIDE OR SELF HARM they are not funny and are very destructive to people struggling with metal health issues.
Feb 22 2018 7:23PM
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AndrewGravesSV
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To anyone out there struggling with any mental health issues and are thinking about seeing a counselor, GO SEE ONE. There's never harm in going except from the stigma that you place on yourself. If mental health was a physical disease, would you wait to take your medicine that can help? Tons of people go to counseling/ therapists, I only started in college after waiting far too long to take advantage. Trust me when I say you'll be much better off starting with someone rather than waiting until your problems seem insurmountable.
Feb 22 2018 8:02PM
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JohnBolea
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One thing I would like to touch on is how high school impacts mental health. I want to start off by saying that high school is a horrible place to be when you are facing mental health issues. High school is full of bullies, drugs and alcohol, and it is a place where many of us are extremely self conscious and are afraid to be who we are. I have been struggling for a long time with intense depression and have had very low lows but if you are someone like me I want you to know that you are loved, people do care, and it will get better maybe not today maybe not tomorrow but someday, someday it will get better. Im partly posting this so I can come back and read it myself but to anyone reading this you can do it, you are strong, you will get better again.
Mar 5 2018 8:04PM
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Bondy
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JohnBoleaOne thing I would like to touch on is how high school impacts mental health. I want to start off by saying that high school is a horrible place to be when you are facing mental health issues. High school is full of bullies, drugs and alcohol, and it is a place where many of us are extremely self conscious and are afraid to be who we are. I have been struggling for a long time with intense depression and have had very low lows but if you are someone like me I want you to know that you are loved, people do care, and it will get better maybe not today maybe not tomorrow but someday, someday it will get better. Im partly posting this so I can come back and read it myself but to anyone reading this you can do it, you are strong, you will get better again.


Totally agree highschool is fucked, its just one big popularity contest kids bully people to seem cool and on top of it all, really fucked
Mar 8 2018 9:44PM
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PeterNorth
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I used to ski competitively, the past 4 years i have stopped due to money issues. I started drinking and using drugs to get my mind off of never making it to Xgames. I had some good finishes at a couple of events (14th at aspen open was my best result). Right now I am typing this in a rehab facility and am feeling better then ever. How I ended up here was that I chose to downgrade my self, feeling bad for my self. Ive spent a lot of money on drugs and drinking the past few years to cope with what i would call some depression. My drug use has made me not want to ski or do really any of my hobbies. This started making me feel not like my self, my heart didnt even feel like mine. After years of torturing my body I finally snapped and needed to change. My mental stability was not there, I was not happy, and was pretty sad all the time. I needed a change. I am 12 days in to my 31 day program and I am finally starting to feel whole again. Im looking forward to getting back to the sports I love. If anyone is struggling with drugs and feel like their life is staying the same I highly suggest you go to a program, weather thats AA, CA, NA or a rehab. Finally feel like life is heading in the right direction! Great topic!!!!
-Connor
Mar 11 2018 4:39PM
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Bondy
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PeterNorthI used to ski competitively, the past 4 years i have stopped due to money issues. I started drinking and using drugs to get my mind off of never making it to Xgames. I had some good finishes at a couple of events (14th at aspen open was my best result). Right now I am typing this in a rehab facility and am feeling better then ever. How I ended up here was that I chose to downgrade my self, feeling bad for my self. Ive spent a lot of money on drugs and drinking the past few years to cope with what i would call some depression. My drug use has made me not want to ski or do really any of my hobbies. This started making me feel not like my self, my heart didnt even feel like mine. After years of torturing my body I finally snapped and needed to change. My mental stability was not there, I was not happy, and was pretty sad all the time. I needed a change. I am 12 days in to my 31 day program and I am finally starting to feel whole again. Im looking forward to getting back to the sports I love. If anyone is struggling with drugs and feel like their life is staying the same I highly suggest you go to a program, weather thats AA, CA, NA or a rehab. Finally feel like life is heading in the right direction! Great topic!!!!
-Connor

Congrats man! were all rooting for you
Mar 11 2018 5:51PM
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theabortionator
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AndrewGravesSVTo anyone out there struggling with any mental health issues and are thinking about seeing a counselor, GO SEE ONE. There's never harm in going except from the stigma that you place on yourself. If mental health was a physical disease, would you wait to take your medicine that can help? Tons of people go to counseling/ therapists, I only started in college after waiting far too long to take advantage. Trust me when I say you'll be much better off starting with someone rather than waiting until your problems seem insurmountable.


I had some crazy bad luck with the person I was talking to in high school. Might never go back and talk to anyone again. Been more open the last 5 years ish but yeah. Idk, glad you had a good experience.
Mar 11 2018 9:29PM
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eheeth
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bump for important thread
May 7 2018 8:38AM
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Bondy
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your a pathetic piece of shit
May 8 2018 1:42PM
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Icedteabitxh
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Ive been getting bullied for the past year and a half abou everythiong from me being in extra help classes at school, to being a female park skier. It has really dammaged me emotionaly. My self sesteem has plummeted and I have no confidence. Skiing is what gives me hope and makes me smile. I dont know where I would be if it werent for skiing, and my ski friends. Due to my self esteem issues, this season was my worst one yet competition wise. I still had a lot of fun freesking and skiing with my team. I have anxiety and I just started counseling and it has really helped me. If you are ever sad and having bad thoughts, TELL SOMEONE!!! call a counselor, a parent, a sibing, a friend, anyone that you know cares about you. And if you dont think anyone cares about you, your wrong, everone cares about you. Also, always be nice to people because stuff can efect peoples mental health. I love this chat board and it is very importaint. Just remember, things will get better.
May 10 2018 8:33PM
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brett_fisher
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sheaskisIve been getting bullied for the past year and a half abou everythiong from me being in extra help classes at school, to being a female park skier. It has really dammaged me emotionaly. My self sesteem has plummeted and I have no confidence. Skiing is what gives me hope and makes me smile. I dont know where I would be if it werent for skiing, and my ski friends. Due to my self esteem issues, this season was my worst one yet competition wise. I still had a lot of fun freesking and skiing with my team. I have anxiety and I just started counseling and it has really helped me. If you are ever sad and having bad thoughts, TELL SOMEONE!!! call a counselor, a parent, a sibing, a friend, anyone that you know cares about you. And if you dont think anyone cares about you, your wrong, everone cares about you. Also, always be nice to people because stuff can efect peoples mental health. I love this chat board and it is very importaint. Just remember, things will get better.


kid's at school are nasty.there's nothing wrong with needing extra help at school, find or do whatever to be successful. How you do it doesn't concern anyone else.keep enjoying skiing don't let anyone take that away from you.
May 10 2018 8:53PM
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cozzey
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For awhile I’ve struggled with mental health just due to being in high school, lacking self confidence and anxiety reasons but one thing I found very helpful was meditating.

It seems kinda weird and like a wack thing to do but legit just take two minutes when you wake up or before you’re going to bed, turn off your phone and music and just sit on your floor, eyes closed and focus. While meditating I thought that you had to clear your mind but now I understand that it allows you to dive deeper into certain thoughts and to analyze how you feel about things. If you’re meditating and one thing pops into mind focus on it and try to understand it.

This has been super helpful in just legit making yourself 10% happier than you were. Meditating clears your mind and just eases anxiety in general, I was worried about being “the kid that meditated” but if it makes you that much happier wouldn’t you do it as well?
May 10 2018 10:56PM
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oiucheekykunt
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cozzeyFor awhile I’ve struggled with mental health just due to being in high school, lacking self confidence and anxiety reasons but one thing I found very helpful was meditating.

It seems kinda weird and like a wack thing to do but legit just take two minutes when you wake up or before you’re going to bed, turn off your phone and music and just sit on your floor, eyes closed and focus. While meditating I thought that you had to clear your mind but now I understand that it allows you to dive deeper into certain thoughts and to analyze how you feel about things. If you’re meditating and one thing pops into mind focus on it and try to understand it.

This has been super helpful in just legit making yourself 10% happier than you were. Meditating clears your mind and just eases anxiety in general, I was worried about being “the kid that meditated” but if it makes you that much happier wouldn’t you do it as well?

this has helped me due to having a concussion
May 11 2018 3:53PM
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nmwninjart
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I hated high school . I went to counseling for depression when I was 16-18 years old. Other Kids are jerks.
But Everything changed when I left and entered the adult world. I'm like a whole different person now due to the experiences and travels I went through. All grown up but yet I'm still a kid inside. A big kid.
May 12 2018 11:37PM
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Youngm_IPCME
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I definitely have had some severe paranoia in the past. It comes and goes, but for about a year straight I was super afraid of people coming to take me away. Somehow I made it through that without assistance. Based on some other things, I'm pretty sure I have a predisposition to psychosis, but I think I'm okay now. I have very mild episodes, and only rarely. Just glad what I think was the worst is over. :)
May 13 2018 3:27AM
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theabortionator
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Mental health is wild. Good luck to us all. YOLO
May 13 2018 7:55AM
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ModMommy
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FUCKING PILL PARTY UP IN HERE
i'm doing better but fuck I hate taking pills to be okay
May 14 2018 10:59PM
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cory.iyoob
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very helpful thread, thank you
May 15 2018 1:28AM
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Zypher
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Ill pop in here real quick...
I honestly didn't know and still don't know what's up with me. My girlfriend says I may have some form of depression (Im inclined to agree with her on this one) and beyond that, I've bonked my head a few too many times. Im a happy go lucky sort of guy and most of the time Im just a normal HS Senior trying to get by and make it to the ski bums promised land but this year I've been having migraines and pains and missed tons of school because of it. I couldn't go out for lacrosse this season after suffering my 4th or 5th concussion since freshman year and its a bitch to even attempt to focus in school. I am the person who needs to be active whether that be skiing or running around on the field somewhere, its sort of what keeps me sane. Being home all the time and having these crippling headaches to the point where I can't stand up at some points to take a piss has really killed my vibe and sort of makes me worried for what the future has in store for me. Because of this, I am just not my normal self sometimes and it's weird to take a 3rd person perspective and see both sides of the same coin in yourself with no way to flip it over.
Recently I've been taking vitamins, different medications (mainly for headaches, no anti-depressants. I was pretty adamant on not taking anything that could change my mood as a side effect.), and seeing an acupuncturist for body and mind relief. My mood has changed for the better and I've been seeing everything a bit clearer along with these migraines becoming more spaced out and infrequent. I still can't concentrate most of the time but I'll chalk that one up to too many concussions without enough healing time in between.
The moral of this little story isn't a pity party. I didn't know what was going on with myself so I opened up to others to see what they thought would help. Their motivation and eagerness to get their buddy back to tip top shape helped me through this rough patch and if you are having a rough time, maybe that can work for you too. Also, always wear a helmet haha, I've seen what brain injuries can do first hand and would not recommend it.
May 15 2018 3:12AM
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theabortionator
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safarisamFUCKING PILL PARTY UP IN HERE
i'm doing better but fuck I hate taking pills to be okay

I feel you, im still thinking about doing it. Teying to get health insurance at the moment. Im open to giving it another chance after my 1 and only bad experience and wasting a few months and lots of trust.

Im hoping their are some meds that can help me. The swings are so fucking wild sometimes. Randomness on the roller coaster of life is cool, but it would be cool to curb that and avoid those low points.

Hope you've been feeling better. At least you're making an effort to get better. Good for you
ZypherIll pop in here real quick...
I honestly didn't know and still don't know what's up with me. My girlfriend says I may have some form of depression (Im inclined to agree with her on this one) and beyond that, I've bonked my head a few too many times. Im a happy go lucky sort of guy and most of the time Im just a normal HS Senior trying to get by and make it to the ski bums promised land but this year I've been having migraines and pains and missed tons of school because of it. I couldn't go out for lacrosse this season after suffering my 4th or 5th concussion since freshman year and its a bitch to even attempt to focus in school. I am the person who needs to be active whether that be skiing or running around on the field somewhere, its sort of what keeps me sane. Being home all the time and having these crippling headaches to the point where I can't stand up at some points to take a piss has really killed my vibe and sort of makes me worried for what the future has in store for me. Because of this, I am just not my normal self sometimes and it's weird to take a 3rd person perspective and see both sides of the same coin in yourself with no way to flip it over.
Recently I've been taking vitamins, different medications (mainly for headaches, no anti-depressants. I was pretty adamant on not taking anything that could change my mood as a side effect.), and seeing an acupuncturist for body and mind relief. My mood has changed for the better and I've been seeing everything a bit clearer along with these migraines becoming more spaced out and infrequent. I still can't concentrate most of the time but I'll chalk that one up to too many concussions without enough healing time in between.
The moral of this little story isn't a pity party. I didn't know what was going on with myself so I opened up to others to see what they thought would help. Their motivation and eagerness to get their buddy back to tip top shape helped me through this rough patch and if you are having a rough time, maybe that can work for you too. Also, always wear a helmet haha, I've seen what brain injuries can do first hand and would not recommend it.


If you think you're having some proper issues because of concussions and you're still in HS you need to be fucking careful man. I think I had noticed I was more susceptible to head i juries and maybe a bit slower, but I never had bad headaches or anything till I turned 23 and smashed my dome again. Had severe headaches regularly for a ear and a half. Luckiky that subsided but other head injuries and another pretty bad one have left things fucked.

Im pretty lost sometimes. Cant remember anything. People, things i need to do, where i set something, how or why im at whatever place Im at. Also didnt have a photographic memory, but was pretty solid. Could yell you the people, dates and places of anything in history, remember complex paterns and numbers with ease, etc. Now if Im not freaking out because I forgot of lost something im freaking out because i might forget or lose something.

Ive def noticed ive been far more irritable as well. Just swiming through this haze of life and trying to make sense of it all.

If you're already having problems be careful. Head injuries are no joke. I think Ive only broken 6 bones but other than my wrist being kind of fucked, everytbing heaed pretty good. Head injuries are different. Its eay easier to get a concussions, your memory can be smoked, and you can be cranky confused and depressed way easier.

Take care of your head. My shit is shot atm. Just kind of hanging in and riding the way as long as I can.
May 15 2018 6:20AM
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eheeth
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safarisamFUCKING PILL PARTY UP IN HERE
i'm doing better but fuck I hate taking pills to be okay


i feel this - 4 years bouncing around between varying levels and not one pill in that time bc I really just don't want to be relying on something to make me happy. i'm worried it'll make me lazy and not actually try and make myself happy myself. next time it gets bad though i think i will, but idk
May 15 2018 6:53AM
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nmwninjart
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Exercise keeps me sane also. Having some kind of sport to obsess over(skiing) clears out any bad things. I always feel good when I'm active. Because of that I always seek physically active jobs.
May 15 2018 7:24AM
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East_Coaster
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I agree. Highschool is fucked and any of you still in highschool well realize whatever you do after highschool, you'll develop as your own person. Take it from me, I got shit talked all the time in highschool, got into fights, I only talk to 3 people from my highschool. Once I left, went to college. Started volunteering for this organization called MassPIRG. Everybody is chill now. Highschool was like oh it's that kid, now people hit me up for advice. Be yourself fellas. And never let people walk on you. That's the one thing I wish I changed in highschool.

**This post was edited on May 15th 2018 at 9:37:05am
May 15 2018 9:35AM
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East_Coaster
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ZypherIll pop in here real quick...
I honestly didn't know and still don't know what's up with me. My girlfriend says I may have some form of depression (Im inclined to agree with her on this one) and beyond that, I've bonked my head a few too many times. Im a happy go lucky sort of guy and most of the time Im just a normal HS Senior trying to get by and make it to the ski bums promised land but this year I've been having migraines and pains and missed tons of school because of it. I couldn't go out for lacrosse this season after suffering my 4th or 5th concussion since freshman year and its a bitch to even attempt to focus in school. I am the person who needs to be active whether that be skiing or running around on the field somewhere, its sort of what keeps me sane. Being home all the time and having these crippling headaches to the point where I can't stand up at some points to take a piss has really killed my vibe and sort of makes me worried for what the future has in store for me. Because of this, I am just not my normal self sometimes and it's weird to take a 3rd person perspective and see both sides of the same coin in yourself with no way to flip it over.
Recently I've been taking vitamins, different medications (mainly for headaches, no anti-depressants. I was pretty adamant on not taking anything that could change my mood as a side effect.), and seeing an acupuncturist for body and mind relief. My mood has changed for the better and I've been seeing everything a bit clearer along with these migraines becoming more spaced out and infrequent. I still can't concentrate most of the time but I'll chalk that one up to too many concussions without enough healing time in between.
The moral of this little story isn't a pity party. I didn't know what was going on with myself so I opened up to others to see what they thought would help. Their motivation and eagerness to get their buddy back to tip top shape helped me through this rough patch and if you are having a rough time, maybe that can work for you too. Also, always wear a helmet haha, I've seen what brain injuries can do first hand and would not recommend it.


And I feel you homie. I get hella depressed. Especially over things I shouldn't be depressed about like women. I'll still be talking to one, but I always find it's someone I don't end up liking. This is dumb, but I literally went to HS parties over one girl who in the end, fucked me over and made out with some guy in front of me. I get depressed over not hanging with people because I like to go out and when im home, I hate it. I hate not being mobile. I got ADHD but not to the point that I have to keep moving, but it sucks especially with schooling, focusing. It's tough and I find myself slacking a lot. We all get depressed and it may not be the same reason, but you have to find a way to take your mind away from it. That's why I ski, or play basketball. It's where I'm at rest. Or I hang with people. Spend some time with your girlfriend, go out places. You'll find that when you're doing something, you'll open your mind.
May 15 2018 9:43AM
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East_Coaster
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nmwninjartI hated high school . I went to counseling for depression when I was 16-18 years old. Other Kids are jerks.
But Everything changed when I left and entered the adult world. I'm like a whole different person now due to the experiences and travels I went through. All grown up but yet I'm still a kid inside. A big kid.


Exactly man. God this shit motivates me. I feel the same as you did. Sorry for replying to like all these, but this shit makes me relieved. I like hearing peoples stories and relating them, or even helping them out. Kind of people can kick it with. If nobody had something significant change them in their life, did they really grow as a person?
May 15 2018 9:48AM
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PaddyGraham
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PeterNorthI used to ski competitively, the past 4 years i have stopped due to money issues. I started drinking and using drugs to get my mind off of never making it to Xgames. I had some good finishes at a couple of events (14th at aspen open was my best result). Right now I am typing this in a rehab facility and am feeling better then ever. How I ended up here was that I chose to downgrade my self, feeling bad for my self. Ive spent a lot of money on drugs and drinking the past few years to cope with what i would call some depression. My drug use has made me not want to ski or do really any of my hobbies. This started making me feel not like my self, my heart didnt even feel like mine. After years of torturing my body I finally snapped and needed to change. My mental stability was not there, I was not happy, and was pretty sad all the time. I needed a change. I am 12 days in to my 31 day program and I am finally starting to feel whole again. Im looking forward to getting back to the sports I love. If anyone is struggling with drugs and feel like their life is staying the same I highly suggest you go to a program, weather thats AA, CA, NA or a rehab. Finally feel like life is heading in the right direction! Great topic!!!!
-Connor

We’re all rooting for you!
May 15 2018 11:27AM
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GayWolf420
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threads. High schoolers need to also heed advice and start getting into a routine of proper self mental care early on, even in high school. Thats my only regret. I experienced a really severe TBI from skiing one day with a friend that essentially ruined my academic HS career, and I still persisted on getting stoned with friends every day, sorta majorly slacked off, but brought it all back around in the end.


I say get a early jump on taking care of your mental health/stress issues early on because you're only gonna get better at dealing with life and not having panic attacks and full-blown mental breakdowns and be able to buckle down and get shit done. This is my very first semester back to college after having a full-blown mental breakdown with panic attacks 2 years ago due to all sorts of fun stressors and mental health issues I chose to neglect.

Seriously though, it gets even more hectic in college if you have issues in HS. It helps to talk for sure and the support networks at most campuses are way more extensive and helpful than HS ones, imo.
May 15 2018 4:23PM
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Mingg
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safarisamFUCKING PILL PARTY UP IN HERE
i'm doing better but fuck I hate taking pills to be okay


I laughed out loud. Can we start a club?
May 15 2018 11:18PM
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nmwninjart
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They had me on Zoloft. I don't think they did anything for me.
May 16 2018 7:52AM
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-olives
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nmwninjartThey had me on Zoloft. I don't think they did anything for me.


My girlfriend just got on Zoloft. So far she hates it. she says she can't cry or anything because of it. and helpful words or anything so i can be there for her?
May 16 2018 10:32AM
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Segsxi
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Thinking about my mental health lately.. I can say i’ve finally had enough of ski bumming Yes I learned many great tricks and met soo many awesome people but I just decided this isn’t the life for me.. I have gained little critical and valuable skills from working in the industry, aside from content writing, and some video/film producing.

Other than those 2 skills, I have had little experience to really dial the skills... and i’m sure when I communicate with people who I will prospect to invest in me.. they won’t consider a left 3 of a medium sized jump(best trick I stomped) a high income skill.

This has lead me to believe.. does this lifestyle choose us or do we choose it? Because I know that all of my ski and snowboard over brains homies are in similair boats.. having to work crap jobs(lifts, lodge, line cook).. or having no other choice but to get good at their discipline(ski, board, film) to bring in just enough dough to supplement their unique lifestyles.

It’s hard to get out of this lifestyle once you’re in.. choosing to literally become a bum just to ski will make your prospects think twice before investing in you. Nothing good comes easy, so i’m going to continue my quest for greatness. If I can’t find a way in this life I will make a way! Gotta love having enthusiasm.. it’s the only thing that keeps me going.
May 16 2018 2:17PM
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weastcoat
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To all the people who are in the highschool thing as I am:
Keep on pushing. Don’t let those dumbfucks bring you down at all. Just keep telling yourself how fucking stupid they are and how much better you are than them. It’s the people like that that will end up nowhere in this world.

Be yourself. Be goofy. Be wierd. Be anything. Do whatever makes you happy, and if other people have a problem with it, then their loss. If you’re happy, you win. And the only way you can be happy is being yourself, not adjusting to what other people expect you to be.

If you can’t find love, or good friends, just be patient. Good people seek out good people. Bad people seek out bad people. This takes time though. If that scumbag of a girlfriend cheated on you, it’s because she’s a shitty person and you’re not. She will eventually end up with scumbag after scumbag. And you on the other hand, be paitient, wait for the right girl. This waiting will take weeks or months or even many years. But you just gotta wait for the one. (I know all this from experience).

If you got some fake ass friends who aren’t there for you when you need them, or don’t like you for who you are, fuck em. They’re shitty people and not friends if they don’t like you for who you are. Or if they don’t stick up for you. I often have people tell me how I “have no friends.” I laugh to myself, and immediately think of my ski buds and how close we are and the good times we have.

And to kill any bad mood, put in some music you like, lay down in bed, and just put your mind in another place. As many of you here also would do, I put myself in the ropetow Park. Just picture myself lacing up tricks and having a good time.

Stay strong, ignore the hate, remember you’re better. Do what makes you happy.
May 16 2018 3:18PM
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*DrewT*
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theabortionatorI had some crazy bad luck with the person I was talking to in high school. Might never go back and talk to anyone again. Been more open the last 5 years ish but yeah. Idk, glad you had a good experience.


That can be an issue... I’ve found counselling to be all around beneficial in my life but looking back there have been some things said that caused more harm than good.
Do some research and find a professional with similar world views and/or life experience. For example.... if you want to talk about sexuality you should probably avoid seeing a shrink whose religion who tells them non-straight people will go to hell. They aren’t about to start preaching to you... they have good intentions and think they’re being unbiased but might still say things that are inappropriate to hear from a professional because of their... unique... world views.
May 16 2018 9:50PM
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Cole9
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voy10If you got some fake ass friends who aren’t there for you when you need them, or don’t like you for who you are, fuck em. They’re shitty people and not friends if they don’t like you for who you are. Or if they don’t stick up for you. I often have people tell me how I “have no friends.” I laugh to myself, and immediately think of my ski buds and how close we are and the good times we have.

This hit really close to home for me. I remember one night I was partying with buds and accidentally over drank and opened up about how I’m depressed. Long story short they laughed at me while I was having a mental breakdown. The next day they asked if what I said was true I told them yes and they said I’m full of shit. (3 people helped me the other few laughed) Right after this happened people just didn’t care and stopped inviting me to stuff thus making me more depressed. I think I went on periods of over a month not hanging out with anyone outside of school besides family. During this I stopped hanging out with most of my school friends. I got to say it’s kind of nice not having to deal with people that often anymore.(only downside is my social skills are almost non existent) Anways I found some ski friends and surf friends that are genuinely good people granted everyone has there shortcomings but these people genuinely try to help and are stoked on life. Anyways I just think it’s funny when people come up to me and say things like you have no friends or ask the question do you just not like people? Just wanted to share this cause your post hit pretty close to home. Moral of my story is find good friends you may think you have good friends because you have fun with them but ask yourself do these people genuinely care?
May 16 2018 9:51PM
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weastcoat
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Cole9This hit really close to home for me. I remember one night I was partying with buds and accidentally over drank and opened up about how I’m depressed. Long story short they laughed at me while I was having a mental breakdown. The next day they asked if what I said was true I told them yes and they said I’m full of shit. (3 people helped me the other few laughed) Right after this happened people just didn’t care and stopped inviting me to stuff thus making me more depressed. I think I went on periods of over a month not hanging out with anyone outside of school besides family. During this I stopped hanging out with most of my school friends. I got to say it’s kind of nice not having to deal with people that often anymore.(only downside is my social skills are almost non existent) Anways I found some ski friends and surf friends that are genuinely good people granted everyone has there shortcomings but these people genuinely try to help and are stoked on life. Anyways I just think it’s funny when people come up to me and say things like you have no friends or ask the question do you just not like people? Just wanted to share this cause your post hit pretty close to home. Moral of my story is find good friends you may think you have good friends because you have fun with them but ask yourself do these people genuinely care?


Exactly man. Hey there’s nothing wrong at all with hanging out with family all the time. There’s nobody like family. They will always be there for you. And yeah man you don’t gotta have non ski/surf friends. Because ski/surf/ any sport/activity friends are usually the best friends.
May 16 2018 10:01PM
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Cole9
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voy10Exactly man. Hey there’s nothing wrong at all with hanging out with family all the time. There’s nobody like family. They will always be there for you. And yeah man you don’t gotta have non ski/surf friends. Because ski/surf/ any sport/activity friends are usually the best friends.

Yea that’s what I’ve come to realize. Also I got to say through this whole experience I’ve learned to appreciate my brother and parents a lot more, so in a way I’m thankful for the events that have happened.
May 16 2018 10:11PM
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Titus69
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Going through some family shit related to mental health, won't go into it but don't bottle up your emotions and problems for years, talk to someone. Anything from years ago or recently, it's good to have someone know what's bothering you.
May 16 2018 11:22PM
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theabortionator
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*AndrewT*That can be an issue... I’ve found counselling to be all around beneficial in my life but looking back there have been some things said that caused more harm than good.
Do some research and find a professional with similar world views and/or life experience. For example.... if you want to talk about sexuality you should probably avoid seeing a shrink whose religion who tells them non-straight people will go to hell. They aren’t about to start preaching to you... they have good intentions and think they’re being unbiased but might still say things that are inappropriate to hear from a professional because of their... unique... world views.


For sure. I just thought the point was to be honest, and it is, but clearly depends on the person you see.

Not sure what all we talked about and she asked me but with things like "do you ever want to kill yourself" was like yeah, def.

But she tried to get me commited twice and said i was a danger to myself and others. I mean I could be too myself if I off myself, but otherwise don't inflict pain on myself or anything. And have always thought I'm pretty good with other people. Maybe she had her reasons, but I still think she was a huge cunt.

That said hoping I can find somebody and gain a trust and comfort and be open with them. Would probably help me, but sometimes when you share super personal shit with people and it backfires you kind of close off to the thought.

But hey, I'm still young ish. If I get back on health insure I'd like to give it a go and see what happens.
May 17 2018 4:24AM
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weastcoat
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Also anyone who wants to talk... don’t be afraid to reach out to me. I’ve stopped 3 of my friends from committing suicide in the past couple years, and all 3 of them said that their life really changed after they talked to me. You don’t even have to be sad if you wanna talk. If there’s anything that’s just bothering you or something that you wannna let out or vent about, just let me know. I’m happy to help anyone, and I’m sure many other people here would be happy to help as well.
May 17 2018 10:33AM
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uncrustablesMy girlfriend just got on Zoloft. So far she hates it. she says she can't cry or anything because of it. and helpful words or anything so i can be there for her?

I don't remember it doing a thing for me. I didn't remember getting any worse or better. So when the bottle ran out I just kinda shoved in the back of the medicine cabinet and didn't bother to tell my parents it was time for a refill. I eventually did improve. It was like a month later when Mom asked me about the pills. she got mad at me for a whole 5 seconds and then didn't say anything more about them. I was going to counseling at the time. I think the combination of that and joining the basketball team set me on the right path as I said earlier that was when I discovered when I'm active I feel much better. All those happy endorphins and stuff. Its probably why skiing to many of us is like our therapy. It makes us happy and feel good. We enter our own happy world when we put skis on.
May 17 2018 6:57PM
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nmwninjartI don't remember it doing a thing for me. I didn't remember getting any worse or better. So when the bottle ran out I just kinda shoved in the back of the medicine cabinet and didn't bother to tell my parents it was time for a refill. I eventually did improve. It was like a month later when Mom asked me about the pills. she got mad at me for a whole 5 seconds and then didn't say anything more about them. I was going to counseling at the time. I think the combination of that and joining the basketball team set me on the right path as I said earlier that was when I discovered when I'm active I feel much better. All those happy endorphins and stuff. Its probably why skiing to many of us is like our therapy. It makes us happy and feel good. We enter our own happy world when we put skis on.


Thanks for the response.

She started going to therapy about 2 months ago but she says she hasnt felt any different yet. I keep telling her it takes more time for change but the truth is I have no idea what im talking about and I'm more of just saying shit to try to comfort her.
May 17 2018 8:44PM
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nmwninjart
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Its true it does take time. When we finally found a decent therapist I saw him for like 2 years If I remember right. Sometime in the middle of my senior year was when I was declared good to go
May 17 2018 9:40PM
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ModMommy
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eheethi feel this - 4 years bouncing around between varying levels and not one pill in that time bc I really just don't want to be relying on something to make me happy. i'm worried it'll make me lazy and not actually try and make myself happy myself. next time it gets bad though i think i will, but idk

I really resisted medication for that exact reason. But damn, I finally feel good. I think of them like (one of ) my inhalers. It's both a maintenance and an emergency thing ya know? I just think I wouldn't feel "happy" without them?
MinggI laughed out loud. Can we start a club?

welcome to the club bb wanna be the treasurer
May 17 2018 10:38PM
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theabortionator
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idk man. Anothony Bourdain throws me for a loop. So my depression whether from head injuries or what has gotten worse. My memory has been on a huge decline since well before.

Last night I was back and wrapped up in it. I should back up into town pretty late. I stayed up fairly late and then saw the news today. It was crazy with how I was feeling with my thoughts and one of my inspirations being him.
Jun 9 2018 4:44AM
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PacificRimJob
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My depression comes and goes, but when it comes, my god does it hit and I just can't function. I hate it. I become a totally different person in that time. I don't leave the house. It could have snowed 3 feet of blower and I wouldn't go because I just can't find a reason to. (very lucky that doesn't tend to happen - winter tends to be my least depressed time. thanks, skiing)

Oddly enough, I'm very productive during such periods because I try to do everything I can to distract myself and get myself out of the brain cycle... but only once I am forced to remove myself from bed for whatever reason.

Over the last few years I've been doing real well. I'm glad I have a support system to lean on, and good friends who understand me and will listen or just be there if I'm in a really bad way. I also just went through a perpetual winter that was, for the most part, a good time for me for the aforementioned reason.



Also, sometimes when I'm depressed - when it's not at a seriously bad point - the absolute last thing I want to do is talk about it, or anything, to anyone... not because I am ashamed or anything, or feel like "woe is me"... but because I kinda want to get through it on my own, so that I might be able to find some sort of trigger in me that causes it. A therapist probably doesn't think this is the healthiest, but fuck it man. Give me a Pepsi. I'll figure it out myself. Anyone else feel this way?
Jun 9 2018 6:45AM
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Mingg
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DingoSeanAlso, sometimes when I'm depressed - when it's not at a seriously bad point - the absolute last thing I want to do is talk about it, or anything, to anyone... not because I am ashamed or anything, or feel like "woe is me"... but because I kinda want to get through it on my own, so that I might be able to find some sort of trigger in me that causes it. A therapist probably doesn't think this is the healthiest, but fuck it man. Give me a Pepsi. I'll figure it out myself. Anyone else feel this way?


Yes. Its like not bad enough to make a deal out of it but it’s still there and hurts when you touch it. Kind of like a bruise. Like it’s just there, I’ll heal, and I don’t need anything from anyone to do so. I don’t know if that’s a good analogy but close enough I guess.
Jun 9 2018 9:51AM
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cozzey
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MinggYes. Its like not bad enough to make a deal out of it but it’s still there and hurts when you touch it. Kind of like a bruise. Like it’s just there, I’ll heal, and I don’t need anything from anyone to do so. I don’t know if that’s a good analogy but close enough I guess.


This is a pretty good analogy actually. Just a bruise to your emotions, something that will heal with time... or be much worse than you think and eventually have a fatal consequence, like Kate Spade and Anthony.

I tried a therapist for awhile and just didn’t connect cause he was a hella boring dude and I decided it wasn’t worth the time or cost. To me it blows my mind that insurance will cover tons of dental care and such regarding your physical health but when it comes to mental health a lot of them are very hesitant and will only provide so much. For example my healthcare would only cover three trips to a therapist and the rest is out of pocket so after three I quit.

Blows my mind.
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