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Help getting over a loss

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cg.99
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the title pretty much sums it up.
Mar 12 2017 10:20PM
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elcornholio
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My best advice is to do things that make you happy and surround yourself with people you love.
Mar 12 2017 10:30PM
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profa_212
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Yeah, when one of my best buddies died I felt really number for a long time. Climbing as much as i could is what helped me
Mar 12 2017 11:39PM
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kim_jong_ill
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My grandpa died a week ago and it sucked. when I got the call I was home alone and had a breakdown which I honestly think wasn't a bad thing. Letting the emotions go helps you work through them. I went skiing the next day with some of my uncles at the hill where they all skied together as a family and I stopped at the top of my Grandpa's favourite run, stood there for a minute in the sun with a bit of snow coming down, thought about him, clinked my poles and got some killer turns with his motto "Enjoy" in the back of my mind.

I just recommend doing something the person loved and thinking about them. Additionally, letting the emotions go honestly is allows you to feel a lot better afterwards.
Mar 13 2017 1:23AM
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weedoo
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Get fulltilts
Mar 13 2017 11:04AM
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SofaKingSick
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kim_jong_illMy grandpa died a week ago and it sucked. when I got the call I was home alone and had a breakdown which I honestly think wasn't a bad thing. Letting the emotions go helps you work through them. I went skiing the next day with some of my uncles at the hill where they all skied together as a family and I stopped at the top of my Grandpa's favourite run, stood there for a minute in the sun with a bit of snow coming down, thought about him, clinked my poles and got some killer turns with his motto "Enjoy" in the back of my mind.

I just recommend doing something the person loved and thinking about them. Additionally, letting the emotions go honestly is allows you to feel a lot better afterwards.


great post


OP i just want to add that you should just let yourself deal with it in good time and don't stress yourself over what you "should" be doing or acting like. whoever you lost, live your life in a way that would make them proud, and try to keep a piece of them around by applying the best traits and ideas that you gained from them to your life

do stuff that memorializes and honors them and let your emotions go sometimes like the guy i quoted said. but keep your head up, they would want you to be happy most of all :)
Mar 13 2017 12:21PM
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killabees
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depends on their situation but spend time with their family. they need it
Mar 13 2017 10:24PM
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Andy_H
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For me it was really helpful to just try and have zero down time. I was always looking for things to occupy myself so I wasn't spending time sulking in my room alone. If you find a new hobby or can hang out with people then definitely do that, just try and not be alone
Mar 13 2017 11:59PM
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SammyDubz
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Andy_HFor me it was really helpful to just try and have zero down time. I was always looking for things to occupy myself so I wasn't spending time sulking in my room alone. If you find a new hobby or can hang out with people then definitely do that, just try and not be alone


Mmhmm this

I'll just go to the gym every opportunity I get. Works wonders.
Mar 14 2017 11:28AM
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AGOF
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Go skiing, idk about the rest of you but the only thing that makes me feel ok about what I personally did is something that helps at least a little bit.
Mar 14 2017 8:26PM
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iced
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When my grandfather died, I chose not to linger on it. Instead, I took what he taught me, and let it live on in me

A bit poetic but ya get the point
Mar 14 2017 11:37PM
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skierman
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Get off the internet and have meaningful interactions with people in PERSON.

God you kids suck.
Mar 16 2017 10:48PM
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Eggdog
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skiermanGet off the internet and have meaningful interactions with people in PERSON.

God you kids suck.


Woah chill out dude. Way to be insensitive. He's using ns for its purpose and interacting with other skiers
Mar 16 2017 11:17PM
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Rennis_Deynolds
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skiermanGet off the internet and have meaningful interactions with people in PERSON.

God you kids suck.


it scares me to know that someone your age still trolls kids on the internet
Mar 16 2017 11:47PM
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M.M
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Like others have said, don't be afraid to show/let out your emotions, it's all part of the process. When you're ready to/have the right person, I found talking helped, It may be tough for a while or may not be, either way try not to bottle it up. There isn't a normal or right way to get over it, everyone does there own thing and don't think you need to be doing something specific or there's a magical way to fix it/make you feel better. Time will help. Close/meaningful company will help. Getting back into your routine will help. Like others said ski or do whatever you love doing most to help get your mind off it and enjoy yourself. Cherish the memories.
(If it's part of your beliefs)Live you're life knowing they're watching over you and make them proud, not necessarily by doing what they wanted you to do with your life, but with the type of person you are/your character.

Just realized I kinda went against what I said about everyone being different and there is no normal or right way to do this. When I was saying " _____ will help" those were just something's that helped me get through losing my father.
Mar 17 2017 12:02PM
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skierman
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Rennis_Deynoldsit scares me to know that someone your age still trolls kids on the internet


It scares me to know how easily you children can be manipulated.

"I experienced lost.... that's all I'll tell you."

(next 50 posts)

"OMG dude I'm like so sorry!"

"Dude keep your head up! RIP!"

"Just focus on the good things bro! RIP RIP!"
Mar 17 2017 6:53PM
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Rennis_Deynolds
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skiermanIt scares me to know how easily you children can be manipulated.

"I experienced lost.... that's all I'll tell you."

(next 50 posts)

"OMG dude I'm like so sorry!"

"Dude keep your head up! RIP!"

"Just focus on the good things bro! RIP RIP!"


yeah true, op is probably a douche
Mar 17 2017 7:28PM
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skierman
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Rennis_Deynoldsyeah true, op is a douche



Wow dude, so disrespectful posting that in a possibly human R.I.P. thread!!!




Do you see how ridiculous this is? Humanity is such a horrible shit show.
Mar 17 2017 10:12PM
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doublecup
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Find a chicks ass and stick your dick in it
Mar 17 2017 10:15PM
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weedoo
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skiermanGet off the internet and have meaningful interactions with people in PERSON.

God you kids suck.


Bruh I'm the guy that said"get fulltilts" and even that is better than this post. You better be trolling fam. Anyways op, i dont know what you're going through but whatever it is, I hope you can find something to cheer you up like more skiing or another hobby. Maybe consider talking to someone a little more qualified than the douchebags on ns like myself lmao
Mar 20 2017 9:28PM
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skierman
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weedooBruh I'm the guy that said"get fulltilts" and even that is better than this post. You better be trolling fam. Anyways op, i dont know what you're going through but whatever it is, I hope you can find something to cheer you up like more skiing or another hobby. Maybe consider talking to someone a little more qualified than the douchebags on ns like myself lmao


I hope there's an RIP thread soon for all the kids who use the word, "fam".
Mar 21 2017 10:30AM
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weedoo
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skiermanI hope there's an RIP thread soon for all the kids who use the word, "fam".


I hope there is a RIP thread for grown men shit talkin kids on NS :)
Mar 21 2017 11:53AM
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skierman
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weedooI hope there is a RIP thread for grown men shit talkin kids on NS :)


As a grown man, I will admit my dick is much bigger than yours.
Mar 22 2017 6:36PM
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weedoo
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skiermanAs a grown man, I will admit my dick is much bigger than yours.


Probably true
Mar 22 2017 9:28PM
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