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Scoops1415
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so I've been dating this girl for a year now (keep in mind I'm 14 so feel free to mAke fun of me) and I don't really want to be In a relationship anymore. I don't really know how to let her go and her bat mitzvah is this weekend so I can't break up with her before then. But then two weeks later is Valentine's Day so I probably want to do it in those two weeks. Any suggestions on how to this the best way?
Jan 23 2017 6:57PM
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.Hugo.
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On the day of her bar mitzfah. The sadness and happiness will cancel out so she will just feel neutral
Jan 23 2017 7:03PM
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OregonDead
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You guys are just kids and so resilient you'll be back to normal in a couple of weeks no matter what. You're probably going to mess this up and lie to her but she'll get over it. Reality is you'll be better off just telling her that you don't want to be in a relationship right now (if she asks why just say you are only 14 and you just don't want to) and that you are canceling on the bat thing and valentines day. Both of those sound like dates so you don't want to go out just as friends (at least not yet). Then tell her thank you and go on with your life and resist the urge to talk about her behind her back.
Jan 23 2017 7:11PM
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Scotty_B
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Break up with her whenever you want but before you do you gotta have some backup material, see 1:45.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdplQxGLyz0
Jan 23 2017 7:27PM
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Casey
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Inb4 she starts hooking up with all your friends.
Jan 23 2017 9:00PM
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Scoops1415
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.Hugo.On the day of her bar mitzfah. The sadness and happiness will cancel out so she will just feel neutral


That sounds good thanks
Jan 23 2017 9:01PM
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Wutever
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Mmmm tough call, I'd let her have her Bat Mitzvah before you do it. You only get one of those, she'll have tons of other Valentine's Days that's not as important.

I just suggest to be kind cus kindness makes you feel better about it, IMO, but still hold your ground. You don't want to be a dick about it obviously but you also shouldn't have to stay with someone solely to spare her feelings. I'd just kinda summarize how you feel in a tactful way and let her know that the relationship is over, leave it at that.

You are both young, it won't be a big deal (hopefully) it's just hard to do. I don't even think I remember if I was dating anybody when I was 14 let alone remember who it was. Breakups are just a part of dating until you find your puzzle piece, much later in life.
Jan 23 2017 10:02PM
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Titus69
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Lol I dumped mine junior year 2 weeks before Valentine's Day, I had already spent basically all my personal money on her like a month before for her birthday. She was annoying and nothing happened in the 4 months

wait til after the bat mitzvah since you'd get shit immediately
Jan 23 2017 10:14PM
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Scoops1415
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Scotty_BBreak up with her whenever you want but before you do you gotta have some backup material, see 1:45.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdplQxGLyz0


LMAO that made my night
Jan 23 2017 11:13PM
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robbinJAHood
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SkierBetchMmmm tough call, I'd let her have her Bat Mitzvah before you do it. You only get one of those, she'll have tons of other Valentine's Days that's not as important.

I just suggest to be kind cus kindness makes you feel better about it, IMO, but still hold your ground. You don't want to be a dick about it obviously but you also shouldn't have to stay with someone solely to spare her feelings. I'd just kinda summarize how you feel in a tactful way and let her know that the relationship is over, leave it at that.

You are both young, it won't be a big deal (hopefully) it's just hard to do. I don't even think I remember if I was dating anybody when I was 14 let alone remember who it was. Breakups are just a part of dating until you find your puzzle piece, much later in life.


I agree with this! Try to stay out of as many pictures as you can at her party. She won't want to look at her pics and see you in all of them if you guys break up right after
Jan 24 2017 8:24AM
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Scoops1415
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robbinJAHoodI agree with this! Try to stay out of as many pictures as you can at her party. She won't want to look at her pics and see you in all of them if you guys break up right after


Thats actuallt really true thanjs
Jan 24 2017 10:46AM
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LAME.
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robbinJAHoodI agree with this! Try to stay out of as many pictures as you can at her party. She won't want to look at her pics and see you in all of them if you guys break up right after


hahah decent advice.
Jan 24 2017 2:50PM
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frickindarn
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Be honest. That's all you can. You're also young so it's gunna suck. But it's better to not lie in the long run. Tell her you would rather just be single.

Story time:
When I was 16 I had my first kind of serious relationship. I lost my virginity to this girl and thought I was in love. She quickly turned weird and not cool to be around. She was awesome with touching my peeper. One day she was giving me an HJ and her mom walked in and it was super awkward. About a month later I broke up with her because I just wasn't happy. Her mom called me down said her daughter had told her what happened. Soon i gave her my side of the story and said "I just don't want to be in a relationship. I'm not happy with our situation and don't see us together forever." And he fucking mom goes "well your dumb ass looked pretty happy when you here getting a handy the other day!" Then continued to yell at me. I hung up nd got over it hahah.
Jan 24 2017 4:06PM
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Wutever
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frickindarnStory time:
When I was 16 I had my first kind of serious relationship. I lost my virginity to this girl and thought I was in love. She quickly turned weird and not cool to be around. She was awesome with touching my peeper. One day she was giving me an HJ and her mom walked in and it was super awkward. About a month later I broke up with her because I just wasn't happy. Her mom called me down said her daughter had told her what happened. Soon i gave her my side of the story and said "I just don't want to be in a relationship. I'm not happy with our situation and don't see us together forever." And he fucking mom goes "well your dumb ass looked pretty happy when you here getting a handy the other day!" Then continued to yell at me. I hung up nd got over it hahah.


Oh my god that is pure gold! I agree, just better to move on when you don't feel it anymore, otherwise you're just prolonging the inevitable to spare a few weeks of being upset.

If it makes you feel better... My mom caught me in the shower with my first "serious" boyfriend. It was not so awesome.
Jan 24 2017 5:13PM
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Erikaaa
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dont do it at her party - cause then she will always remember you as the boy who broke up with her on her big day - probably just a few day after is fine

just be honest with her and dont skirt around the situation. Be quick and get it over with - dont be sappy because that will make her more sad about it.

And if you do it sooner - she will have less time to plan for v-day so there will be less of a let down on that on her part as well :P

good luck OP - you're young - you got this.
Jan 24 2017 5:19PM
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Scoops1415
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Erikaaadont do it at her party - cause then she will always remember you as the boy who broke up with her on her big day - probably just a few day after is fine

just be honest with her and dont skirt around the situation. Be quick and get it over with - dont be sappy because that will make her more sad about it.

And if you do it sooner - she will have less time to plan for v-day so there will be less of a let down on that on her part as well :P

good luck OP - you're young - you got this.

Yo thanks
Jan 24 2017 6:39PM
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daannnnieel
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you could fuck her mom...

or her dad idk how weird you are, up to you. It'd work though.
Jan 25 2017 12:46AM
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Deepskier
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Well stick around for her bat mitzvah so that isnt ruined and since she will have just become a women she probably give you a gift of her or some shit then after yiou get slobed just be like yeah Im gay or just fuck her friend
Jan 28 2017 8:44PM
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DirtYStylE
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How bizarre. A dude that will go out of his way to make sure the relationship ends on a good note. Aren't all men evil?

Looks like you will have a clean conscious for a few more years.
Jan 30 2017 4:23PM
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