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I don't know what to do about this girl (18 yrs old)

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AmateurPilgrim
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Hey NS I turn to you in my time of need as you tend to be the most knowledgeable regarding these types of things. I will try to condense this story as much as possible but you must understand it is long, detailed, and has consumed the majority of my high school experience. All of the people I mention actually don't go to my high school but go to one nearby EPHS. AT the end of sophomore year I met this girl named Emma , she was friendly, funny, and had a great body. We were both interested in each other and whenever we would be at parties we would gravitate towards each other, however being the person that I am I was too nervous to ever ask her out or even put my arm around her. The summer after sophomore year she began to loose interest and next thing I knew about a month into junior year she was dating one of my closest friends named Blake. We didn't talk much but in January, I had to go over to her house for some reason (i forget) and for 8 hours we just talked, she confessed she had feelings for me over the entire summer and was heartbroken that I never made a move. That day ended on an awkward note but we did begin to talk more like good friends. But I was now in a situation where I had feelings for my good friend's girlfriend. Because we talked more constantly I had to hear her tell me about giving him head and sending him pics, which was very hard for me. They broke up in march of junior year and between then and now (September of senior year) shes's fallen for 4 different guys, hooked up with them, sent them pics, (the works). But throughout the summer she's kept texting me about this new guy, how great their relationship is, all the fucked up stuff they've done, and then it ends with me helping her through her breakup. I met this really nice girl who was perfect for me in July but I had to end it cause I was just so hung up on Emma. So there I've tried to move on but I can't. As of right now she's trying to mend together a relationship with another one of my good friends (Adam) because " he's the only guy that treats her right" when I've fucking been there for her through thick and thin for the past two fucking years, and this guy has literally cheated don her and told her he's no longer interested. I'm burnt out and feel like I just need to come clean to her but it's just such a bold move. I feel like I'm in the friendzone now but I don't know, If any of you older guys have been through something similar I would appreciate input.
Sep 5 2016 8:12PM
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numnuts
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Blindsurferpee in her butt


i was afraid nobody was gonna say it
Sep 19 2016 11:04PM
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Steez-Cheese
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Dennis_Reynoldstldr

just kiss her at like a party or something.

If she's into it bang her


I like your approach to life
Sep 20 2016 8:33AM
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Chubz.
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AmateurPilgrimI told her I wanted to talk to her and she said that sounded great, we planned to watch a movie but then she "had to cancel". After school yesterday she asked me to meet her at a gas station to get a freezie and then sit in her car and talk (not unusual). Conversation started normally and I tried to edge it toward the " I don't know if I can be friends with you anymore because I've liked you for a long time and it's getting tough" but before I could she unloaded on me with once again all her problems, issues she was having with current guy, and unnecessary details about hookups and all that jazz. She asked me for advice and once again I told her the same thing" move on, find a guy you deserve" (hint, hint) but once again I know she won't listen. I know I need to be more assertive but once again I'm stuck.


I'd say move on man
Sep 20 2016 11:31AM
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daannnnieel
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AmateurPilgrimI told her I wanted to talk to her and she said that sounded great, we planned to watch a movie but then she "had to cancel". After school yesterday she asked me to meet her at a gas station to get a freezie and then sit in her car and talk (not unusual). Conversation started normally and I tried to edge it toward the " I don't know if I can be friends with you anymore because I've liked you for a long time and it's getting tough" but before I could she unloaded on me with once again all her problems, issues she was having with current guy, and unnecessary details about hookups and all that jazz. She asked me for advice and once again I told her the same thing" move on, find a guy you deserve" (hint, hint) but once again I know she won't listen. I know I need to be more assertive but once again I'm stuck.




is this a bad time to remind you this girls been with the whole squad and you still probably want to move on in your own personal interest?
Sep 20 2016 7:22PM
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firecrotch
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AmateurPilgrimI told her I wanted to talk to her and she said that sounded great, we planned to watch a movie but then she "had to cancel". After school yesterday she asked me to meet her at a gas station to get a freezie and then sit in her car and talk (not unusual). Conversation started normally and I tried to edge it toward the " I don't know if I can be friends with you anymore because I've liked you for a long time and it's getting tough" but before I could she unloaded on me with once again all her problems, issues she was having with current guy, and unnecessary details about hookups and all that jazz. She asked me for advice and once again I told her the same thing" move on, find a guy you deserve" (hint, hint) but once again I know she won't listen. I know I need to be more assertive but once again I'm stuck.


Brutal man I'm sorry for your shit
Sep 20 2016 7:40PM
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Twinjibber77
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You need new friends dude... Blake? Are you fucking kidding me? That dude should be deep throating lax sticks at his family beach house on the cape.

Tell those dudes to fuck off and take her back, she's being an immature girl and no matter what she tells you she wants I can guarantee you she doesn't have a fucking idea in the slightest what she actually wants. Once you have her just ride it out until she decides she needs a drastic life change because you've been too nice. She'll then date some tool bag and you'll be back on the prowl for a princess again.

HS feels like it's super important but reality is, you're gonna leave, most of those people aren't gonna matter, and you're gonna be super stoked you're not with some haeux from home.
Sep 21 2016 6:20AM
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jaimegilfish
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Twinjibber77... I can guarantee you she doesn't have a fucking idea in the slightest what she actually wants....

...HS feels like it's super important but reality is, you're gonna leave, most of those people aren't gonna matter....


Fucking preach 👌🏼
Sep 21 2016 7:15AM
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Forcillo
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You're too zoned to make it out, but your next move should be to tell her just because you don't want to hear about they guys she fucks in college.
Sep 21 2016 2:16PM
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johnk
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Honestly man you have to tell her how you feel, or you're gonna regret it for the rest of your life not knowing what could've been!
I've been through that same situation.. Speak your mind, & show confidence.. it's what you have to do.. be the man!
If she reacts weird, or doesn't feel the same way.. who cares. you tried, and now you can move on (and not have to hear the stories of her with other dudes)
GOOD LUCK! You can do this G
Sep 21 2016 2:31PM
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Swaggermager
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.Hugo.Go for it. Its high school... in less than a year youll probably never see him again. Sounds like he has you deep in the friendzone though


First: Just lost my shit in class after reading this.

.Hugo.Cake eater drama


Second: TRU. OP probs ski races with a silver spoon in her pocket
Sep 21 2016 3:40PM
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TripleXLHoodies
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I'm sitting next to this person in the commons as we speak I'm hoping she didn't read anything over my shoulder.
Sep 22 2016 8:54AM
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daannnnieel
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TripleXLHoodiesI'm sitting next to this person in the commons as we speak I'm hoping she didn't read anything over my shoulder.


someone should link her this thread and she'll think it's cute and romantic.
Sep 22 2016 4:22PM
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Panta.Pow
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supermagician__someone should link her this thread and she'll think it's cute and romantic.


nah she doesn't give a shit, she's proven it through her actions.
but, she might tell us how to get to chads from the bottom of alta.
Sep 22 2016 5:35PM
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crotchvent
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Just tell her. Even if she isn't into you, you will feel better knowing that she isn't into you then wondering if she is.
Sep 22 2016 8:36PM
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brett_fisher
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i hate hoes that talk about other dudes
Sep 22 2016 11:28PM
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Mugjumper
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Typical immature girl bullshit. She has no clue what she wants in a guy. Been there man. I was in the same situation with a girl for a long time, she would always talk about other guys and shit all the time, but thought I was the best friend ever, and always came back to me when she needed help. Ive bought her pregnancy tests, and plan b even becuase the toolbags she dated didnt give a fuck. I feel ya man. My advice would be to move on right now man. If its meant to be maybe she will realize it when she gets more mature, and it will work out. But dont fucking wait for her, live your life man. Be a good guy, be a gentleman, but try and move on.
Sep 30 2016 1:18PM
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Kazabazua
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There's other fish in the sea. Sounds like your too nice of a guy for her and you probably pee sitting down - Just find a girl who's into nice guys who pee sitting down. I did and I've been with her for 5 years now. I no longer pee sitting down, she helped me realize that I can pee standing up and I don't have to be such a pussy anymore. Hope that helps.
Sep 30 2016 3:40PM
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Hawleywood
Posts: 165 - Karma: 57
She's totally just keeping you in the friend zone and treating you like a girlfriend because you're a nice guy and good listener. Make a move and you'll know for sure because knowing is half the battle! Just go for it! Girls like confidence and will rarely make the first move. If it doesn't work out you'll be able to finally move on.
Sep 30 2016 4:47PM
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skierman
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hahahaha, you're not getting into her pants. Just grow a set of balls and tell her to fuck off... or send a link to this thread on FB. That emotional vampire will get the hint, I assure you.
Sep 30 2016 8:19PM
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McNoche
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This is a prime example of what happens when a pussy decides he wants to get pussy. Pure embarrassment.
Sep 30 2016 8:46PM
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JTTrembles
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Dude, I was in a situation like this. I'd honestly say move on. I'd never thought I'd be able to get over this girl who sounds a lot like who you're talking about. I messed up several potentially awesome relationships with other women because I was way too hung up on this girl. We were back and forth so much, but she still got with other dudes. Before I left for my freshmen year at college I began to realize that this girl was simply just too busy for me. I loved her but all the bullshit we went through was too much for me to ignore, even if we ended up having a solid relationship I'd know that i'd have all the bullshit we went through lingering in the back of my head which would lead to so much unnecessary anxiety, uneasiness, etc. Even though I loved this girl, we went through too much and she got with too many other guys for us to ever have a steady relationship after. So I forced myself to get over her. It took a long time for sure, but once I was I never felt better in my life. I felt refreshed and free almost haha. I unfollowed her on all media so I would not be reminded of her and I virtually ignored all contact and figured my way around it when she contacted me. Once I was on my own in college and became more and more independent I began to further realize how good of a decision it is to forget this girl. I continued to realize she was kind've a hoe hah. We're all young and dumb in high school, especially when it comes to love. So many people have crazy "love stories" from high school and we're all relived to be passed them. You probably will not find the love of your life in high school man. Once I got over this girl, I meant the most beautiful girl to me half way through my freshman year of college who I am still with today. She was not a "busy one with the boys" like my high school girl. and I am so happy that I was able to move on from this high school drama love of mine.

Moral of the story, I think it would be best if you moved on. You will feel so much better, and the fact that shes banging some of your friends is super unsettling. I know it seems tough but its very possible. I'd say forget her. Once you're out of high school too it will only get easier. Find yourself a good girl man, one who will stick by your side, not this busy one emma. Good luck man and be smart.
Oct 1 2016 9:41AM
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3than0d311
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1. Tell her how you really feel
2. After telling her how you really feel drop the bomb that she couldve had it all but she had to have more rubber between her legs than a 2 dollar whore.
3. Move on with life and let her rot in her own self hate (and most likely daddy issues).
4. Find a girl who WILL TREAT YOU RIGHT. You keep forgetting about the well being of yourself. Yeah you have feelings for her but you're dragging yourself down and preventing yourself from all the possibilities with other partners.

In my eyes, shes been around to much. If i were to hook up with her it would be a hump and dump. Shes been with too many guys too much to try and relationship that shit.
Oct 2 2016 12:36PM
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Blindsurfer
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dude stop talking to this girl she doesn't want you at all
Oct 8 2016 5:33AM
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Cahal
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3than0d3111. Tell her how you really feel
2. After telling her how you really feel drop the bomb that she couldve had it all but she had to have more rubber between her legs than a 2 dollar whore.
3. Move on with life and let her rot in her own self hate (and most likely daddy issues).
4. Find a girl who WILL TREAT YOU RIGHT. You keep forgetting about the well being of yourself. Yeah you have feelings for her but you're dragging yourself down and preventing yourself from all the possibilities with other partners.

In my eyes, shes been around to much. If i were to hook up with her it would be a hump and dump. Shes been with too many guys too much to try and relationship that shit.


This is good advice man. I think its time to move and you gotta realize that there are totally other girls out there who want you. You might not know it yet but they are probably there. Its not worth getting hung up on a girl who sleeps around anyways. doesnt seem like the type for a good relationship.
Oct 14 2016 1:30PM
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jennyboots
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you are in the friends zone.

stop hanging out with her. Give it time and if she is single again, ask her out on a date.
Oct 14 2016 1:37PM
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jackdonovan
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Swandog7Tell her how yu feel, and what you've been through. If it doesn't go well, maybe talk to the previous girl and see if she will take you back. Of not, restart to phase one and find someone new, or find a new hobby to get her off your mind.


swan is the love guru take his advice then pee in her butt
Oct 20 2016 11:20AM
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daannnnieel
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you get ur ass licked yet boy?
Oct 20 2016 12:45PM
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