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Anyone suffer from social anxiety or GAD?

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qazwsxedc34
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It's weird but I have trouble talking to only my relatives. Strangers, friends, professors, I'm able to talk to them and tell jokes and feel absolutely comfortable in even the most on the spot situations. However, when I talk to any of my older aunties or uncles, the ones I barely see, I get feelings of panic and impending doom. No matter what, even if I know I'm overthinking or that these thoughts are pure horseshit I still can't seem to shake them, it's like it's subconscious and I conditioned a fear response in certain areas of my brain. The trigger being one on one conversations with my aunties and uncles that I barely see. Although, they really are not my relatives, just longtime friends of my parents. I guess it's more situational, I just don't want it to fluctuate into a much bigger problem. Anyone ever do CBT, i tried GABA a agonist herbs and shit and they definitely work, even though it's situational I still don't want to rely on them cause they build tolerance and down regulate receptors. I just don't want to deal with these feelings even though they happen a few times a month.
Oct 23 2015 11:38AM
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YoungGun.
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I have diagnosed anxiety. I automatically assume that everybody is judging me. If somebody even glances at me with a content look on their face it upsets me. I'm a happy, normal guy around good friends and family but I just assume that strangers hate me. It's really strange, not a confidence problem either. I do a lot of dangerous shit and I believe in myself but my mind tells me that people want me to fail. Might have something to do with all the bullying I dealt with when I was younger.
Oct 23 2015 11:54AM
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ModMommy
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I did CBT for a few years and the techniques you learn in it are awesome. I really recommend giving it a shot.
Oct 23 2015 11:59AM
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qazwsxedc34
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YoungGun.I have diagnosed anxiety. I automatically assume that everybody is judging me. If somebody even glances at me with a content look on their face it upsets me. I'm a happy, normal guy around good friends and family but I just assume that strangers hate me. It's really strange, not a confidence problem either. I do a lot of dangerous shit and I believe in myself but my mind tells me that people want me to fail. Might have something to do with all the bullying I dealt with when I was younger.

Personally, I think it is a conditioned trait. Psychologically you condition yourself because of stimuli you deem negative, in the case of your experiences it seems your stimuli was of a negative nature. And from there you overthink, which triggers fear response in the amygdala. Idk. It's only situational for me but when it happens it's like I get a rush of adrenaline and experience fight or flight. I'm unable to concentrate and stay calm no matter if I think the feelings are ridiculous. I think it's an evolutionary trait so to keep us away from prey. CBT would be cool but it's expensive and there's a long wait, could I do the techniques independently??
Oct 23 2015 12:09PM
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slugworth
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I'd recommend CBT and some form of meditation or mindfulness to incorporate into your daily life. Definitely helps to rationalize those thoughts and realize that they are just thoughts.
Oct 23 2015 12:42PM
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