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CabbyArrant
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To be honest I'm jealous of a lot of people on here because they grew up skiing. I didn't start skiing until I was 12 and I'm the only one in my family who does. My parents tried to subdue my skiing obsession for 3 years after I started until they realized they couldn't. They also don't know that I ski park and I probably will never tell them.

Is there anyone out there that's been in a similar scenario and if so how do you make the best out of family who hates winter.
Sep 19 2015 2:34PM
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Swandog7
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IM in the same boat. I didnt start until i was right before i turned 15. Im the only one who skis regularly, my sister and mom ski like 3 times a year and then go out west once a year. They know i ski park though and encourage me to do what i love, but don't think its necessary to go out as much as i do, and threaten to take it away if my grades aren't up to par
Sep 19 2015 2:36PM
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N.L.
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my mom is my biggest hater.
Sep 19 2015 2:49PM
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fries
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I grew up skiing on 1 week a year vacations becuase i have no close snow or ski resorts so that limits my skiing a ton
Sep 19 2015 2:57PM
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CabbyArrant
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I got really hurt this last year in the park and broke one of my skis clean in half (she thinks I got hit by a snowboarder). When my mom found out I ordered a new pair of skis she was livid. Apparently when you get hurt doing something your supposed to not want to do it anymore??? Or so my mom thinks.
Sep 19 2015 2:57PM
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Daski
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My parents split up then I was about 6, I got into skiing because of my dad when I was around 10. The better I got, the more my mom came around to supporting it, always stoked on shots I was getting and comps i was in. She is so supportive of my passion and the community, all of it. My dad on the other hand hated it more and more the more i did it. He's overly concerned with grades (always above 4.0, not trying to claim). Its frustrating to deal with OP, but sooner or later they will either come around of you will turn 18 and have a bigger say in what you do with your life, or in my case both
Sep 19 2015 3:47PM
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CabbyArrant
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DaskiMy parents split up then I was about 6, I got into skiing because of my dad when I was around 10. The better I got, the more my mom came around to supporting it, always stoked on shots I was getting and comps i was in. She is so supportive of my passion and the community, all of it. My dad on the other hand hated it more and more the more i did it. He's overly concerned with grades (always above 4.0, not trying to claim). Its frustrating to deal with OP, but sooner or later they will either come around of you will turn 18 and have a bigger say in what you do with your life, or in my case both


I am 18 lol. I just can't justify the the lift tickets and gas every weekend while I'm in college.
Sep 19 2015 3:50PM
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GayWolf420
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Parents that try to discourage their kids from doing fun shit they love is so weird, no disrespect or anything. I get skiing is dangerous but having parents dead-set against their kids wanting to do something they enjoy is odd. Were they cool with contact sports in gradeschool? I see that a lot with parents who don't want their kids doing X or Y sport but are cool with having their kid slam against other kids head to head.

My parents got me started skiing real young but most certainly dissapprove of some of my shenanigans, so its not all perfect. Just keep on doing your thing, being all about skiing is tame compared to other shit parents dissaprove. And if you are 18, just tell them to buzz off and that you're an adult
Sep 19 2015 4:16PM
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.squirrely.
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Why wouldn't you tell them you ski park? They'll most likely be hyped on whatever you're doing, show them some edits or something and they might understand it more and want to help you out so you can shred more.
Sep 19 2015 4:18PM
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losh
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My dad grew up skiing all over the country. He got me into it when I was like 3 and my whole family went prolly every Sunday till I was mabye 9 or 10. I didn't really ski much again until like 2 years ago and now I'm obsessed with it again x10 though. He thinks park skiing is the stupidest thing ever and if you ski park you automatically have no idea how to turn a ski (he skis on 195 straight skis lol). But besides the fact that he hates park skiing he's super chill about it all.
Sep 19 2015 4:27PM
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Deepskier
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same thing my parents split when i was little and i hated skiing when i was like 2 so my mom got me into snowboarding and liked it because it was diffrent but my dad is a huge skier and my mom used to a lot before they split and she learned to ski switch but then my dad kept urging me to try skiing so i did now i havent been on a snowboard since ive been a skier for 3 or 4 years and its tits but its expensive i feal like parents would love it if it was heap and or safe
Sep 19 2015 4:37PM
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Mingg
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Awe nuts dude, that kind of blows.

Your family just don't understand it. You should try to get them out there with you this winter! Even if it's just for one day. Maybe they will like it too!
Sep 19 2015 4:59PM
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Ian_Fitz
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CabbyArrantTo be honest I'm jealous of a lot of people on here because they grew up skiing. I didn't start skiing until I was 12 and I'm the only one in my family who does. My parents tried to subdue my skiing obsession for 3 years after I started until they realized they couldn't. They also don't know that I ski park and I probably will never tell them.

Is there anyone out there that's been in a similar scenario and if so how do you make the best out of family who hates winter.


My mom put articles of people getting injured and people dying from skiing around the house.....she also wouldn't give me rides cus she didn't want me to get hurt.....to this day worst injury skiing was just a bused back. Shes mellowed a little bit now
Sep 19 2015 5:06PM
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littleman34
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neither of my parents ski and they always get mad when I hurt myself. they used to have a rule of no doing "upside down tricks". at least they drive me to the hill weekends and some night skiing
Sep 19 2015 5:21PM
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maxstr
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My mom loves that I ski and drives me to all the mountains I want to. So I would say she's a great mom. But my dad HATES my tall T's and my "ghetto" look when i ski. He always gives me shit for it...
Sep 19 2015 5:35PM
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Zurg
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I bought my season pass to park city last week without telling them... (I bought it on my card with the money i earned from lawn mowing)
Sep 19 2015 5:56PM
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afterbanginn
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CabbyArrantTo be honest I'm jealous of a lot of people on here because they grew up skiing. I didn't start skiing until I was 12 and I'm the only one in my family who does. My parents tried to subdue my skiing obsession for 3 years after I started until they realized they couldn't. They also don't know that I ski park and I probably will never tell them.

Is there anyone out there that's been in a similar scenario and if so how do you make the best out of family who hates winter.



Well i grew up snowboarding and never really liked winter and my fam used to go up a lot but then when i was about 13 i got introduced to skiing. In conclusion my dad ad my brother ski but not like i do and i should of took advantage of that when i was little and should've started skiing way younger
Sep 19 2015 6:46PM
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noooaaahhh
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I cannot thank my parents enough for introducing me to the wonderful world of skiing. If it wasn't for my dad, I would never have found my passion for skiing and I cannot thank him enough for teaching me how to ski when I was young.
Sep 19 2015 7:19PM
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michiskier23
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I too am thankful my parents got me into skiing, even thought they may regret it now (I moved to Colorado for college and spend money on skis, gas, and passes. They also aren't big fans of the dangerous stuff I do either but they understand it is what I love). My dad got a second job just so my siblings and I could ski or board, and there isn't really anything I enjoy more than being on the mountain with my friends and family
Sep 19 2015 7:46PM
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CabbyArrant
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MinggAwe nuts dude, that kind of blows.

Your family just don't understand it. You should try to get them out there with you this winter! Even if it's just for one day. Maybe they will like it too!


What's really funny though is my step dad skateboarded back in the day and I said I was going to build a rail in my head are and he's like wanting to get a snowboard so he can ride rails to.
My mom is the one who never has done anything like skiing though and it would be a bad idea to thro her on a pair of planks.
Sep 19 2015 7:57PM
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CabbyArrant
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DeebieSkeebiesParents that try to discourage their kids from doing fun shit they love is so weird, no disrespect or anything. I get skiing is dangerous but having parents dead-set against their kids wanting to do something they enjoy is odd. Were they cool with contact sports in gradeschool? I see that a lot with parents who don't want their kids doing X or Y sport but are cool with having their kid slam against other kids head to head.

My parents got me started skiing real young but most certainly dissapprove of some of my shenanigans, so its not all perfect. Just keep on doing your thing, being all about skiing is tame compared to other shit parents dissaprove. And if you are 18, just tell them to buzz off and that you're an adult


I played soccer all through highschool. I even brok my leg playing soccer. And as much as I sometimes want to tell them to stick it, I still live at home and commute to college dailey so you can imagine how that might go.
Sep 19 2015 8:00PM
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cdip
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my dad and mom love skiing

my mom is a jerry tho lol
Sep 19 2015 8:09PM
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cdip
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maxstrMy mom loves that I ski and drives me to all the mountains I want to. So I would say she's a great mom. But my dad HATES my tall T's and my "ghetto" look when i ski. He always gives me shit for it...


fix ur style and go tight
Sep 19 2015 8:10PM
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John18_6
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I'm in callage NO PEARENTS NO RULEZ
Sep 19 2015 9:22PM
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Chubz.
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my parents have never not supported my skiing. They realize it's what I love the most and support it 100%. They support me going on trips and seeing new places and love the stories I come with from a day on the mountain.


If your parents don't support what makes you happy, that shit's WHACK.
Sep 19 2015 9:39PM
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theabortionator
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CabbyArrantI got really hurt this last year in the park and broke one of my skis clean in half (she thinks I got hit by a snowboarder). .


I'm sorry, I tried not to but I LOL'd at this.

Fucking snowboarders. No child is safe with those snowboarders cruising about running people over, smoking drugs, and bumping hip hop.
Sep 19 2015 11:32PM
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shin-bang
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Swandog7IM in the same boat. I didnt start until i was right before i turned 15. Im the only one who skis regularly, my sister and mom ski like 3 times a year and then go out west once a year. They know i ski park though and encourage me to do what i love, but don't think its necessary to go out as much as i do, and threaten to take it away if my grades aren't up to par


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Sep 20 2015 12:39PM
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SterlingArcher
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Why do they care if you want to ski? There are worse hobbies you could have like stealing llama heads or habitually spilling milk on keyboards
Sep 20 2015 1:52PM
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teflon66
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Even though I'm basically the only one who skis in my family, I'm grateful that my parents bought me so much ski stuff and drove me when I was younger
Sep 20 2015 3:08PM
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270on420out
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My parents supported my skiing 100%. They said they'd rather have me spend my weekends on the slopes, rather than getting drunk in my friends basement.
Sep 20 2015 9:03PM
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theabortionator
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My dad goes out for a couple runs once a week usually I think. Mom tried to ski when my parents were younger. Sister skied and boarded but stopped early HS.

Pretty much on my own as far as my family and shredding.

That said I got lucky that they didn't try to force me out of it because my grades were shitty in some classes in HS. The mountain was my sanity, the place where things made sense, my escape. That was the only thing that kept me going at a few points. Without that I would have unraveled.

Also in terms of the world of priorities and "School is super important and your dumb hobbies are dumb"... The fact that I wasn't doing my homework in my classes has impacted my life 0, the fact that I was on the mountain all the time, and constantly obsessing about snowboarding and terrain park setups became a job that I still love doing 11 seasons in.

If skiing is important to you, fuck anyone who tries to tell you it's dumb.

PS: skiing is dumb
Sep 21 2015 1:25AM
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APunx176
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I started when I was 15 and my parents say that they support my skiing, but my dad is really the only one who does. My mom tries to stop me whenever she can and eventually I just stopped asking her.
Sep 21 2015 1:45AM
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haggis_hunter
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CabbyArrantTo be honest I'm jealous of a lot of people on here because they grew up skiing. I didn't start skiing until I was 12 and I'm the only one in my family who does. My parents tried to subdue my skiing obsession for 3 years after I started until they realized they couldn't. They also don't know that I ski park and I probably will never tell them.

Is there anyone out there that's been in a similar scenario and if so how do you make the best out of family who hates winter.


You shall find as you get old (like me)... that its not your folks who put a damper on your ski time, my folks got me into skiing when I was 3 and took me a lot of places over the years, then I skied at university, put it on hold when I set up business no1 went back to it and then moved home with business no2 and became a semi ski bum.

My folks are the least of the issues when it comes to skiing, my clients really don't like it when they call me and find me up a mountain for a week. My ex (clue) didn't ski and didn't want to. Some of my mates who used to ski have given up (kids, jobs, nagging wifes etc), my biggest issue these days is finding enough people to book a week or two in Europe to go with.
Sep 21 2015 11:45AM
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.lencon
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puck farents
Sep 21 2015 12:04PM
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SEABURN
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CabbyArrantTo be honest I'm jealous of a lot of people on here because they grew up skiing. I didn't start skiing until I was 12 and I'm the only one in my family who does. My parents tried to subdue my skiing obsession for 3 years after I started until they realized they couldn't. They also don't know that I ski park and I probably will never tell them.

Is there anyone out there that's been in a similar scenario and if so how do you make the best out of family who hates winter.


Yeah, I didn't read the whole thread... but my advice is to just be open with them. Show your family what you're into, you'll feel better and you won't have to worry about hiding/ not sharing skiing with them. Hiding something you love so much from your family will just distance you further from them and probably drive you crazy.
Sep 21 2015 12:37PM
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sellinger
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I didn't start skiing until last year, 17. My parents have always been really chill about all sports and activities I've done. Reason being, most likely, is that I can finically support my own hobbies and passions. If you're able to support your own skiing and they see that you really love it, they'll most likely come around to accepting it.
Sep 21 2015 1:08PM
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yeahmon
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Make friends at your mountain op, I was in the same boat as u neither of my parents had ever skied in there life and I was obsessed (still am) with skiing. They just dropped me off every morning and picked me up at closing time, that's how I met my best friends in life
Sep 21 2015 5:33PM
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.lencon
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yeahmonMake friends at your mountain op, I was in the same boat as u neither of my parents had ever skied in there life and I was obsessed (still am) with skiing. They just dropped me off every morning and picked me up at closing time, that's how I met my best friends in life


Did they pressure you to smoke weed? If so, they aren't your friends.
Sep 21 2015 7:32PM
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GayWolf420
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.lenconDid they pressure you to smoke weed? If so, they aren't your friends.


A friend with weed is a friend indeed.
Sep 22 2015 12:43AM
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perryhunter
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CabbyArrantTo be honest I'm jealous of a lot of people on here because they grew up skiing. I didn't start skiing until I was 12 and I'm the only one in my family who does. My parents tried to subdue my skiing obsession for 3 years after I started until they realized they couldn't. They also don't know that I ski park and I probably will never tell them.

Is there anyone out there that's been in a similar scenario and if so how do you make the best out of family who hates winter.



It's not that they hate winter for sure. It's because they're afraid of any accidents that you might encounter. Tell you, they don't hate it. They just care for you.
Sep 22 2015 2:40AM
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yeahmon
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.lenconDid they pressure you to smoke weed? If so, they aren't your friends.


Nah I pressured them #blaze
Sep 22 2015 3:48PM
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chicknfriedsteak
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.squirrely.Why wouldn't you tell them you ski park? They'll most likely be hyped on whatever you're doing, show them some edits or something and they might understand it more and want to help you out so you can shred more.


Ha, I've tried doing that and most of my family reacts very negativily and calls the people in the edits idiots.
Sep 22 2015 3:53PM
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cannonballer
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Exactly like you, I started skiing when I was 12. Nobody in my family skied at all. My first time was on a 7th grade ski trip. I fell in love with it immediately. Since my family wasn't into it the only way I could go skiing was on school trips so it was only occasionally. By the time I was 14 I started organizing school bus trips. That meant a) I could go more often, b) I could get all my costs covered so I could ski or free. By the time I was 16 I was driving to the Mtns every weekend.

Now, years and years later, I own a house in a ski town, I ski&snowboard 60-100 days per year, I'm married to a girl who is equally obsessed with the mountains. Skiing is my life.

My non-skiing family recognized a long time ago that they will not see me all winter. Do what you love!!!
Sep 22 2015 4:17PM
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grilled_steeze
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luckily my family loves winter. Theyre pretty chill about everything.
Sep 22 2015 4:25PM
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whoisthatsquid
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I'm the first person in my family to ever ski. Learned how to ski when I was 14 in Minnesota, quit hockey when I was 15. My parents were never generally supportive of my skiing and often encouraged me to quit because its a waste of time/money/not a sport/drug culture, etc.... Now I'm 20 and I live in Utah :D
Sep 25 2015 4:02PM
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OregonDead
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Stick with it, I was like you OP. My parents are scared of skiing. They were scared of skateboarding too. I managed to get into skiing but not skateboarding because my 7th grade librarian took ski trips up the mountain. The librarian saw that would read the Thrasher mags that she got for the library and asked me about it. Then b/c she probably needed more kids for the trips she offered to talk to my parents. My parent's really couldn't say no once the librarian convinced her it was a school activity. They even bought me skis when I was in high school because I needed them for school trips. In college money suddenly got really scarce and I even had to pass on some of the school trips. I only managed to get up about 6 times in 4 years of college. After that money got super tight and I there were a couple of years when the only skiing I got in was XC. I stuck with it though and now I have a job with plenty of vacation time and a reliable 4wd. Last few years I've been able to get up to the mountain more and more. I got in 70 days this past season and skiing is still getting more fun for me.
Sep 25 2015 5:22PM
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ahill
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I'm the only one in my family (even extended) that skis. When I was little I was always jumping around on the couch and stuff and was just an active kid in general, so my folks thought it would be a great idea to take me to the local slopes the winter after I learned to walk. After that I was set. I rented for the longest time and would go skiing every Friday for years to come. I only took one or two lessons and then taught myself the rest of the way. In middle school, I wanted my own set of skis, and nicer outerwear and such but they said they would just provide me with basic things and I had to earn the nicer things myself. So after working and saving and such I bought my first set, then my second, then my third, and so on. I was the goofiest looking dude with the nicest skis and fairly large bag of tricks for my age at the time until I had saved up enough money to buy actual skiing outerwear.

My parents realized how passionate I was at skiing and came to embrace. My dad took me out to the Wasatch twice for 4 days at a time and he didn't even ski while we were out there. Did it just for me. I'm way too thankful.

Sparknotes: My family doesn't ski, but still supports me. But I still have buy most of my own things.
Sep 25 2015 5:50PM
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BungHole.
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My parents %100 support it which is awesome. I guess its cos my Dad loves it as much as I do
Sep 26 2015 7:07AM
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BungHole.
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My parents %100 support it which is awesome. I guess its cos my Dad loves it as much as I do
Sep 26 2015 7:07AM
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dyyylan
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"I didn't start skiing until I was 12"

Lol. I grew up in Florida because my mom hates the cold, I never even saw snow until I was in my 20s. I just learned to ski last year when I was 27.... now I live in Park City trying to make up for lost time.
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