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.lencon
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So guys, first I would like to say a few things.
1. You might see a softer side of me on this thread
2. I am 100% serious so please provide help
3. Ive seen these threads, never knew Id be making one.
4. This is probably gonna be a longish read, i don't know yet

Okay so here she goes..

I am going to be a senior in HS this year, and my amazing girlfriend is going to be a sophomore in HS. Now, before you guys bring me the hate on the age difference, we actually have a very mature relationship, and thats kind of the problem. Her parents have recently talked to her about how we are too close and stuff for the situation we are in, that situation being that this is my last year of high school, and she still has 2 more. They think we are too serious, and for the situation, I could agree that we maybe are too close/serious, but honestly I think she could be the one. Now before you guys say that they're are other women out there I want you to prove it to me. I get along with her so well, and we really are so close. We love each other, we both love to ski, we are both very fit, have a lot of the same outlooks, and respect each others outlooks even if we don't believe. I don't think I've ever been more honest with an individual. I know this sounds all mushy and naive, but I could honestly see myself marrying this girl. When it comes to girls Im extremely careful too, Im very observant and take time to know them, this is the farthest I've gotten in a relationship, and its because all the lights have been green. Most of you are just gonna hate cause were still in HS, but this is actually an important thing in my life right now and id appreciate the help.

So this is what Ive thought about doing, cause I don't want our breakup to be inevitable.

1. We date for the rest of my HS career, have closure, I go on, i know I'm gonna miss her like hell and I'm probably gonna hate myself forever not trying to see what could happen with this girl.

2. We could keep dating while I'm college, but I don't know what college I'm going to yet
- if i stayed in town, we could date, but I don't really want my local college, but if I went to U of U thats only 2 hours away we could see each other on the weekends, but if i went to MSU, then that might not work out since how far it is, and since people say long distance never works.

3. Maybe we could agree to wait for each other, and do our own thing for the next couple years, and if we havent someone else we love as much as we did each other, we could start up again


Please help NS. I know i could be the happiest guy ever with this girl, but I don't want to feel like I'm holding her back or committing herself to something, even if she really does love me. When i talk to her later this week ill let you know what happens, I just wanted to kind of give some of my thoughts out before i talked to her, to get my ideas straight

So please don't just call me a stupid kid, and actually try to help, thanks NS.

And Ill always remember, there aint a pow day in the PNW that can't cure a broken heart..
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Jul 13 2015 12:39PM
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S.J.W
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Jul 13 2015 12:40PM
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.Hugo.
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.lencon1. You might see a softer side of me on this thread


Not possible. You were already softer than charmin
Jul 13 2015 12:44PM
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stinky_cheese
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.Hugo.Not possible. You were already softer than charmin


not possible. that stuff feels heavenly when it rubs across your anus
Jul 13 2015 12:53PM
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saskskier
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Here are my thoughts.

I think the biggest thing to remember/consider is who you are in 2-3-5 years is going to be completely different than who you are now as someone in high school. You will grow and mature and change. So will she. If you guys are really committed to each other and can change together, awesome. If not, the relationship will end and it will hurt, but you will move on.

Basically, you are still in high school. Have fun and enjoy this relationship. If it lasts, amazing. If not, it is what it is, but don't stress too much about it right now.
Jul 13 2015 1:16PM
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Caucasian_Asian
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You say you're both mature, but you're not, you're in HS.

You will be in college or university next year. You will grow and change. When she starts college, she will grow and change. Hell, I have very few friends left that I went to HS with, let alone a girl.

I don't want to sound like a downer, but none of the HS sweethearts I know stayed together much past their 1st year in college. In fact, I can't think of a single couple I know that got together in HS.
Jul 13 2015 1:17PM
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.lencon
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saskskierHere are my thoughts.

I think the biggest thing to remember/consider is who you are in 2-3-5 years is going to be completely different than who you are now as someone in high school. You will grow and mature and change. So will she. If you guys are really committed to each other and can change together, awesome. If not, the relationship will end and it will hurt, but you will move on.

Basically, you are still in high school. Have fun and enjoy this relationship. If it lasts, amazing. If not, it is what it is, but don't stress too much about it right now.


Thank you man, this is probably gonna end up with me crying haha but I guess there's a lot of life ahead of me

Caucasian_AsianYou say you're both mature, but you're not, you're in HS.

You will be in college or university next year. You will grow and change. When she starts college, she will grow and change. Hell, I have very few friends left that I went to HS with, let alone a girl.

I don't want to sound like a downer, but none of the HS sweethearts I know stayed together much past their 1st year in college. In fact, I can't think of a single couple I know that got together in HS.


And yeah I feel man, I just don't know. I wanna keep this thing going but it seems almost impossible. I think once we talk it out too that will help. Thanks man
Jul 13 2015 1:25PM
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shin-bang
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Caucasian_AsianYou say you're both mature, but you're not, you're in HS.

You will be in college or university next year. You will grow and change. When she starts college, she will grow and change. Hell, I have very few friends left that I went to HS with, let alone a girl.

I don't want to sound like a downer, but none of the HS sweethearts I know stayed together much past their 1st year in college. In fact, I can't think of a single couple I know that got together in HS.


Well said swag master
Jul 13 2015 1:45PM
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shin-bang
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And dude. we already talked about this. We're both attending Jon brogan university that way we can do what we love (afterbang literally everything) and still go to school at the same time
Jul 13 2015 1:46PM
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.lencon
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shin-bangAnd dude. we already talked about this. We're both attending Jon brogan university that way we can do what we love (afterbang literally everything) and still go to school at the same time


I need a real university j
Jul 13 2015 1:55PM
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Chubz.
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You are going to change so much in the 6 months after you graduate and if youre moving away from home the last thing you are going to need is serious ties to home like a relationship. and out of curiosity how long have u guys been dating? Sorry if u mentioned it already i just kind of skimmed thru the op
Jul 13 2015 3:39PM
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TheBigApple
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I wouldn't recognize my 22 year old self, and my 22 year old self wouldn't recognize my 17 year old self...

Women are a dime a dozen if you are a half decent human being. Go live your life and worry about getting hitched when your 25 or something.
Jul 13 2015 4:07PM
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.HERO
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I say see what happens. I just finished my first year in college, and believe me...their are some great girls there. However, that's awesome that you have what seems like a great girlfriend! She very well could end up being the gal you marry. My advice to you would be to continue your relationship with her, talk things out, and keep your relationship going into college. If you meet a girl, or things don't work out then you tried working it out with her. But if you end it now you never tried. It would be much easier in the future for you to look back on it to say you tried and it didn't work, or you tried and you are married now...idk good luck man
Jul 13 2015 4:42PM
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louie.mirags
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I am not even going to read the thread based on the comments. Very rarely do relationships work through college. The only two I know of that did work, the dude cheated on the chick dozens of times. The one couple broke up senior year when the chick found out (finally, how did she not know already is beyond me and none of my business). The other couple got married because he knocked her up and she has an idea he cheated, but most likely doesn't care or chooses not to know.
Jul 13 2015 4:53PM
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WhatTheHuck
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Sorry if this is a long reply but I think I have some useful insight...

I agree with the people above, relationships are tough in college. But I'm still dating my grad date (we started dating in summer after graduation) into my third year of college. We do go to the same school, and both lived on residence and it took a great deal of maturity to make it work. It's first time being away from parents and you can literally do anything you want, but we made rules about not spending too much time together and making new friends and doing different shit, because the people you meet at college tend to be better suited for you than friends in high school, similar mindsets etc. As for your question, I don't think you should let distance tear apart a relationship, especially if it's only for a couple years before you settle into a career and hopefully can live together then, but college is the best time of your life the second you feel held back, or feel like you need to be with someone you meet at college, end it right there, it's not worth it in the end. Enjoy college bud
Jul 13 2015 5:32PM
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eheath
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I'd say move on and maybe revisit the relationship at a later date. If anyone says they are the same person when they are 22 as they were when they were 17 and going into senior year of hs, theyre fucking liars. Your life is going to change dramatically going to collage and please leave your home town, go somewhere else. I have some friends who just stayed in their home town and went to local uni and they're just trapped there, they'll never leave and will never experience new shit.

Go to u of u or msu. U of Utah im bias, i loved it, its a great place. I'm from bozeman, but everyone i know who attended msu loved it as well, great skiing etc nice small town, go visit.

I know you think your gf is the one bro but you're in high school, i had alot of friends go to college with gfs and 99% of them arent with their highschool sweetheart, its just not practical IMO
Jul 13 2015 5:46PM
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Bensun
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i dont know if this redundant

people change especially when you are living on your own (ex. in college.) I was a very different person in higschool. I constantly laugh at the "smart" decisions i made in HS.



***College is a time of growth dont hinder new experiences holding old relationships. if you truly are 'meant' to be together then it will workout

Also dont choose a college near your girl friend. chose the college right for you.
Jul 13 2015 6:03PM
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Funkadelic
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For what it's worth there are two couples from my graduating high school class that are still together. One is married and the other is engaged. It happens but it's extremely rare.

That being said, I still don't think it's the right thing to do. I think you should take the time to meet/date other people through college to truly understand how you interact with different people. Sure you get along fantastic with this girl, but you'll go through life never knowing how you interact with girls of other personality types. I think it's important for your growth as a person.
Jul 13 2015 6:49PM
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eheath
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OP this video maybe help you with some insight.
https://www.newschoolers.com/videos/watch/775741/High-school-sweetheart
Jul 13 2015 6:54PM
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californiagrown
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People change so, so much during high school, college, and early 20's. Who you are, and who she is now is no going to be the same person at all in 8-10 years.

She is the one right now. You will be different people on 8 -10 years.
Jul 13 2015 7:02PM
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.lencon
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WhatTheHuckSorry if this is a long reply but I think I have some useful insight...

I agree with the people above, relationships are tough in college. But I'm still dating my grad date (we started dating in summer after graduation) into my third year of college. We do go to the same school, and both lived on residence and it took a great deal of maturity to make it work. It's first time being away from parents and you can literally do anything you want, but we made rules about not spending too much time together and making new friends and doing different shit, because the people you meet at college tend to be better suited for you than friends in high school, similar mindsets etc. As for your question, I don't think you should let distance tear apart a relationship, especially if it's only for a couple years before you settle into a career and hopefully can live together then, but college is the best time of your life the second you feel held back, or feel like you need to be with someone you meet at college, end it right there, it's not worth it in the end. Enjoy college bud


eheathI'd say move on and maybe revisit the relationship at a later date. If anyone says they are the same person when they are 22 as they were when they were 17 and going into senior year of hs, theyre fucking liars. Your life is going to change dramatically going to collage and please leave your home town, go somewhere else. I have some friends who just stayed in their home town and went to local uni and they're just trapped there, they'll never leave and will never experience new shit.

Go to u of u or msu. U of Utah im bias, i loved it, its a great place. I'm from bozeman, but everyone i know who attended msu loved it as well, great skiing etc nice small town, go visit.

I know you think your gf is the one bro but you're in high school, i had alot of friends go to college with gfs and 99% of them arent with their highschool sweetheart, its just not practical IMO


FunkadelicFor what it's worth there are two couples from my graduating high school class that are still together. One is married and the other is engaged. It happens but it's extremely rare.

That being said, I still don't think it's the right thing to do. I think you should take the time to meet/date other people through college to truly understand how you interact with different people. Sure you get along fantastic with this girl, but you'll go through life never knowing how you interact with girls of other personality types. I think it's important for your growth as a person.



Thanks guys. This helps a lot. I probably sound like a little 8th grader with a crush but she seriously means a lot to me, I just don't wanna lose her. Unfortunately I don't think our time frame is gonna work, but hey, we could always come back to the relationship after and see what happens. Thanks for the serious answers guys, means a lot.
Jul 13 2015 7:37PM
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ched_der
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College is a time for freedom, being bound to your gf (no matter how much you love her) will eventually become tiring. The long distance thing almost never works, and choosing a college that is close to your girlfriend is a decision you will most likely regret in your later life. Enjoy your year together and attempt to stay on good terms throughout college.
Jul 13 2015 10:09PM
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BoogieWoman
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SFButtholeCollege is a time for freedom, being bound to your gf (no matter how much you love her) will eventually become tiring. The long distance thing almost never works, and choosing a college that is close to your girlfriend is a decision you will most likely regret in your later life. Enjoy your year together and attempt to stay on good terms throughout college.


Best advice here ^

For what it's worth, I know two couples who were HS sweethearts and now 10 years later they are happily married, so it can work.

You have a year before you need to consider what will happen with your relationship going forwards, but if she means that much to you then it won't hurt to try and maintain the relationship as you start college. Let things take their natural course. Either you will make it work, or the relationship will reach its natural end.

Just enjoy this year and see where life takes you...
Jul 14 2015 7:50AM
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theBearJew
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I set up one of my good friends in HS, they both went to different colleges after dating for almost 2 years in HS. They tried the long distance thing for awhile, it didn't seem to work. They had to break it off, both wanted different things and I think they wanted to test the field honestly, make sure they weren't waiting around for nothing. After about 2 years or so they connected back together, did some long distance for a bit, but started dating again. Well, I just went to their wedding a few months back.


Bottom line, do what you gotta do for you first. If that means going to a school you want to that is far away or staying close by. Just do it because YOU want to do it, not because you wanna do it for HER. As some have said, people change in college, people grow up, they mature more, its different. You two may work out, you may not. Just don't make sacrifices for her when the future is unknown. You're so young, just live life and if you're gonna be with this girl forever, you two will find a way to make it work. Even if that means reconnecting after a few years from being apart.
Jul 14 2015 8:22AM
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.lencon
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BoogieWomanBest advice here ^

For what it's worth, I know two couples who were HS sweethearts and now 10 years later they are happily married, so it can work.

You have a year before you need to consider what will happen with your relationship going forwards, but if she means that much to you then it won't hurt to try and maintain the relationship as you start college. Let things take their natural course. Either you will make it work, or the relationship will reach its natural end.

Just enjoy this year and see where life takes you...


theBearJewI set up one of my good friends in HS, they both went to different colleges after dating for almost 2 years in HS. They tried the long distance thing for awhile, it didn't seem to work. They had to break it off, both wanted different things and I think they wanted to test the field honestly, make sure they weren't waiting around for nothing. After about 2 years or so they connected back together, did some long distance for a bit, but started dating again. Well, I just went to their wedding a few months back.


Bottom line, do what you gotta do for you first. If that means going to a school you want to that is far away or staying close by. Just do it because YOU want to do it, not because you wanna do it for HER. As some have said, people change in college, people grow up, they mature more, its different. You two may work out, you may not. Just don't make sacrifices for her when the future is unknown. You're so young, just live life and if you're gonna be with this girl forever, you two will find a way to make it work. Even if that means reconnecting after a few years from being apart.


Thanks guys, this really helps a lot. As for picking a school. I had all these schools picked out before I had this little problem. Thanks again yall.
Jul 14 2015 11:47AM
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SkiTheYeast
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couldn't put it any better
Jul 14 2015 8:13PM
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Bogs
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I had two very good friends go through a very similar situation, only difference being that they're the same age. They essentially tried option 3: broke up at the end of high school, but very cordially, agreed they would go out and enjoy college and basically remain close and see what happens. The guy in the relationship basically took this to mean he wasn't going to really try and explore his options, and didn't seriously consider doing anything more than random hook ups with girls his freshman year. The girl didn't have the same view, eventually met a guy freshman year, and started a somewhat casual relationship. They still basically acted like a couple whenever they were home together, but it hurt my guy friend a lot knowing the girl was with another guy at school, when he had basically decided to just wait, hook up with girls randomly in college, but never let it get more serious than that, and get back together with her after graduating. This was I think the first two and a half years of school. He eventually kind of got past this and did find another girl to date seriously near the end of junior year, at about the time my female friend decided that she was ready to recommit to my guy friend. He had just gotten tired of waiting and being hurt by her being willing to date other people seriously when he wasn't. His dating another girl and essentially rejecting her when she said she wanted to get back together broke her heart.

We're all graduated now, and my guy friend is still dating this girl he met in college, while my girl friend has dated a couple guys, but never saw any of the relationships getting serious and broke them off. They both moved to NYC right after graduating and didn't speak for a long time, let alone see each other. It wasn't until I basically made them meet up and figure out what happened that they formed a new quasi-friendship, or at least they both know the other doesn't hate them now, and they're able to be together in a group without anything bad happening.

I think it's really hard to offer advice in any situation like this because obviously every relationship is different, and what may work for one couple may not work for another. All I can say is that, if you do decide to do the option three route, you have to find a way to make sure it really is a totally mutual feeling and you both understand what will/could happen or else you could end up in a situation like the one my friends were in, and I don't think anyone wants that.

Wrote this fast, but hopefully it makes some sense, and hopefully it helps you a little. Good luck figuring this out, man. It's a tough situation, but that's life, unfortunately.
Jul 14 2015 9:17PM
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Rusticles
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Gonna try and keep this short, life/you two will change a ton in the next 5-8 years like saskskier said. If it works out great, but don't force it, there is so much to see and experience and learn on your own so don't hang on if it's not working.

That being said, I married my high school sweetheart but we split up for 5 years after high school then got married at 29 and We're so glad we did, now we have two kids together.
Jul 14 2015 10:42PM
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shin-bang
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RusticlesGonna try and keep this short, life/you two will change a ton in the next 5-8 years like saskskier said. If it works out great, but don't force it, there is so much to see and experience and learn on your own so don't hang on if it's not working.

That being said, I married my high school sweetheart but we split up for 5 years after high school then got married at 29 and We're so glad we did, now we have two kids together.

Swag man. Get them children swaggin and afterbangin ASAP
Jul 14 2015 11:08PM
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SFB
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kill her dog lol
Jul 15 2015 8:41PM
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.lencon
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SFBkill her dog lol


I actually almost did
Jul 15 2015 8:58PM
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act.resist
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In all honesty you should part your separate ways. That is the most mature option. Experience college in it's natural state and don't feel attached to someone you might not be with in the next 5 years. Because as much as you might not like to hear it, the probability of you staying together is really low. You are going to change so much and you'll realize the differences between you and her in a few years.
Jul 16 2015 12:27AM
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cobra_commander
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Your primary job in college is to fuck everything with two tits and a vagina Become the biggest slut you can; don't be picky.

If you do college right you wont have a clue what a $10 bottle of wine taste likes but will be a god damn pussy sommelier.

I'd recommend not starting that off with a statutory rape charge on account of dating a 16 year old high school junior. YMMV.
Jul 16 2015 12:42AM
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.lencon
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I proposed on accident and she said yes. /thread
Jul 16 2015 12:44AM
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Kooky_Lukey
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Please don't just break it off because you want "the full experience of college". What you're really saying is, "hey I like you, but I want to go try and bang as many chicks as I can before real life starts. Peace!" Which if that's what you want why are you even in a relationship now.

I had the same dilemma when I was your age (except me and my girl are the same age), I am now a senior at MSU, so PM me if you have any questions about MSU too. Great school highly recommend it. Anyway, I picked MSU because I wanted to ski, my girlfriend and I both were from Pittsburgh and she went to Gonzaga on a rowing scholarship. We decided to try it because if you don't then you will just regret it. We are still together after 4 years. She decided to quit rowing after her sophomore year to get better grades and transfer to MSU with me. We definitely had our bumps, but I am very glad I stuck it out. Don't make a decision on where to go or what to do because of her, you will regret that, but if it's bound to work then it'll work.

Truth is I don't really want to date anyone else. Sure she's not a super model or anything, but we get along great, my family loves her, her family loves me, we both have the same interests in traveling so we are not tying each other down, etc... We're a great fit for each other.

That that was lovey dovey and shit, but don't count out a high school sweetheart just because you want to go and try and bang college chicks or that you'll both grow. You will both grow and change, but in some cases like mine you might grow and change together and therefore be closer.

TL;DR At least try.
Jul 16 2015 12:46AM
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saskskier
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.lenconI proposed on accident and she said yes. /thread


Wait... What?
Jul 16 2015 1:22AM
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.Hugo.
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.lenconI proposed on accident and she said yes. /thread


So troll thread. Damn and i took it so seriously
Jul 16 2015 7:14AM
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act.resist
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cobra_commanderYour primary job in college is to fuck everything with two tits and a vagina Become the biggest slut you can; don't be picky.

If you do college right you wont have a clue what a $10 bottle of wine taste likes but will be a god damn pussy sommelier.

I'd recommend not starting that off with a statutory rape charge on account of dating a 16 year old high school junior. YMMV.[/QUbOTE]

God that's such a god damn disrespectful mindset to have about your fellow human beings. Why do you think its ok to post something like this on ns if you wouldn't say it like that to someone else?

Also hows your herpes?
Jul 16 2015 10:01AM
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.lencon
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.Hugo.So troll thread. Damn and i took it so seriously


No actually I am in that situation a little bit Hugo. No troll I was just being a tool on that post
Jul 16 2015 10:26AM
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saskskier
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.lenconNo actually I am in that situation a little bit Hugo. No troll I was just being a tool on that post


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.Hugo.
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.lenconNo actually I am in that situation a little bit Hugo. No troll I was just being a tool on that post


i dont get it. You did or didnt propose
Jul 16 2015 10:56AM
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Daski
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Caucasian_AsianYou say you're both mature, but you're not, you're in HS.

You will be in college or university next year. You will grow and change. When she starts college, she will grow and change. Hell, I have very few friends left that I went to HS with, let alone a girl.

I don't want to sound like a downer, but none of the HS sweethearts I know stayed together much past their 1st year in college. In fact, I can't think of a single couple I know that got together in HS.


My sister and her bf got together sophomore year of HS, and are still together to this day, they're both juniors in college now. Not saying its likely to happen to everyone, but it is possible
Jul 16 2015 10:57AM
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macavity
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any long distance relationship is going to be miserable and incredibly hard to transition into out of high school. my friend stayed together with his girlfriend from high school, he and I both went to UNR and she went to UBC (Canada). the first 3 months was hell, and she ended up changing a lot more than he did. it'll be hard to manage because you'll have so many new experiences in college on top of learning how to be in a long distance relationship. it's basically a breeding ground for fights; you'll go to a party or go out with friends, she'll get uncomfortable with it, or she'll do something back home that you aren't comfortable and you guys will both end up stressed. she still has a lot of experiences to go through too since she's only a sophomore in high school. hell, even from sophomore to junior year I was completely different. I know it sucks now, and it'll hurt if you break up, but it's better to quit while you're ahead if you wanna stay on good terms with her.

I'm not saying you should break up with her so you can slam tail and fuck anything that walks. that's a very poor mentality to have going into college (in my opinion). but I do think it would be better to break up and maintain a casual friendship instead of doing distance. you've got a lot to experience and a long distance relationship is going to cause you a lot of set backs and unecessary stress, which is something you don't want when you're also trying to figure out your first year of college and how to be your own person.
Jul 16 2015 12:02PM
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shin-bang
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hughlorinany long distance relationship is going to be miserable and incredibly hard to transition into out of high school. my friend stayed together with his girlfriend from high school, he and I both went to UNR and she went to UBC (Canada). the first 3 months was hell, and she ended up changing a lot more than he did. it'll be hard to manage because you'll have so many new experiences in college on top of learning how to be in a long distance relationship. it's basically a breeding ground for fights; you'll go to a party or go out with friends, she'll get uncomfortable with it, or she'll do something back home that you aren't comfortable and you guys will both end up stressed. she still has a lot of experiences to go through too since she's only a sophomore in high school. hell, even from sophomore to junior year I was completely different. I know it sucks now, and it'll hurt if you break up, but it's better to quit while you're ahead if you wanna stay on good terms with her.

I'm not saying you should break up with her so you can slam tail and fuck anything that walks. that's a very poor mentality to have going into college (in my opinion). but I do think it would be better to break up and maintain a casual friendship instead of doing distance. you've got a lot to experience and a long distance relationship is going to cause you a lot of set backs and unecessary stress, which is something you don't want when you're also trying to figure out your first year of college and how to be your own person.

Ding ding, Hugh is the winner of best response
Jul 16 2015 12:45PM
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cobra_commander
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butterslut.God that's such a god damn disrespectful mindset to have about your fellow human beings. Why do you think its ok to post something like this on ns if you wouldn't say it like that to someone else?

Also hows your herpes?


Go out and fuck someone, you'll feel better.
Jul 16 2015 1:16PM
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ghosthop
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cobra_commanderGo out and fuck someone, you'll feel better.


*something


OP, this sounds like your first real girlfriend and because of that you're lacking in a ton of perspective. Don't plan your future plans around a girl, if its right it will work out, if not too bad. Two years in a college town with some girl back home in high school would be br00tal. And whatever you do, remember that she is most likely less emotionally mature than you.

Have fun with dat 15 year old snatch.
Jul 16 2015 3:28PM
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ndye
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I stayed in Maine after high school to stay with my HS sweetheart, I loved her with all my heart.

I left for Colorado, and couldnt stand to be away from her.

I came back to Maine.

We lived together.

We had both changed a lot over time, we broke up.

I wish I had never left Colorado.

Go where you want to go and do that. You wont regret it in the end. When you change your life at this critical turning point for someone else, it will only end in regret. Dont do it man.
Jul 16 2015 4:14PM
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macavity
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ndyeWhen you change your life at this critical turning point for someone else, it will only end in regret.


this is great advice. it may sound selfish, but you need to make this decision for yourself and no one else. it's not selfish to put yourself first, cus if you don't put yourself first in situations like these, you'll never be happy. if she fits into your life after you're where you wanna be, then keep it going. obviously don't be a dick to her, but don't make huge sacrifices right now just because she might get hurt.
Jul 16 2015 7:31PM
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McLS
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all I'm gonna say is, long distance relationship just don't work. Even if you think they will, and you think you trust each other more than anything, they fucking don't. Ending things nicely, like telling each other it's over and let's just not talk anymore, doesn't work either. I really doesn't. So the only real option if you're gonna break up is to make it bad (it sounds crazy but that's the only way she or you will get over it).

My advice is to really consider your options, what really is more important to you and make a choice. And then stick to it. Worse thing is to be reconsidering and not knowing what to do for too long. If you choose to go far, then try to slow everything down asap, and just be honest with her.

Hope it helps
Jul 18 2015 7:18AM
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act.resist
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cobra_commanderGo out and fuck someone, you'll feel better.


ya i do that. he respects me and doesn't just look at me as a bang.
Jul 18 2015 2:13PM
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californiagrown
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butterslut.ya i do that. he respects me and doesn't just look at me as a bang.


yet you call yourself a slut?


And sex doesnt have to be meaningful, im sure not everytime you and your man fuck its an emotional loving thing haha. Sex is fun and doesnt need to be serious. Lighten the fuck up!
Jul 18 2015 3:06PM
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