Actually meeting up with girls you've matched with on Tinder?

send err a dick pic, gotta be straight to ze point

go ahead and ask her for her number. a lot of times, we don't reply because tinder is a pain in the ass. if you get her number, then she's interested and will probably be down to meet with you. and if/when you do meet her, just be friendly at first. unless it's just a booty call. then you know what to do

Exchange about 5 messages, then just go right for it and ask if she wants to go grab dinner.

It's simple.

Hey, what are you doing right now? I'm uber hungry and craving ....... Feel like joining?

It's friendly and easy to say yes or no to. There isn't the "it's a date" pressure that you get if you plan anything more than a day out.

Unless you are in highschool. I forgot what dating is like without alcohol.

RachyExchange about 5 messages, then just go right for it and ask if she wants to go grab dinner.

It's simple.

Hey, what are you doing right now? I'm uber hungry and craving ....... Feel like joining?

It's friendly and easy to say yes or no to. There isn't the "it's a date" pressure that you get if you plan anything more than a day out.

Unless you are in highschool. I forgot what dating is like without alcohol.

tinder with high school kids is a lot more difficult. immature, can't buy you dinner, don't want to get dinner, etc.

selfiejesustinder with high school kids is a lot more difficult. immature, can't buy you dinner, don't want to get dinner, etc.

hold up. you expect dinner to be bought for you on a tinder date?

VinnieFhold up. you expect dinner to be bought for you on a tinder date?

Idk if its just because its changed ir because im no longer in college, but it seems as though the girls using tinder are no longer using it for hookups. They use it like a dating app

I feel like going out for coffee is an even safer way to play it.

When going to dinner, especially if the guy pays, girls think something is expected of them. Now if you just want a one and done hook up, that's fine, take her to dinner, do the thing, and go on to your next match (which imo is what tinder is for). But, if you're interested in perusing something, go coffee, THEN as her out for dinner. Shows the girl you are actually interested.

selfiejesustinder with high school kids is a lot more difficult. immature, can't buy you dinner, don't want to get dinner, etc.

High school girls only fuck the Douchbags/trashy football players.

selfiejesustinder with high school kids is a lot more difficult. immature, can't buy you dinner, don't want to get dinner, etc.

High school girls only fuck the Douchbags/trashy football players.

Did it once and turned out pretty great. Was at work and had not to much going on and was browsing tinder. Started messaging this pretty hot girl for a while. She invites me over to her apartment so I take a **long lunch** which was a quick subway uptown. Iv never done anythign like this before prior to this. So I show up and wait outside cause I don't want to get kidnapped or something. get in her room, chat for like 20 minutes and then do the deed for like 2 hours. She was actually crazy some of the best sex iv ever had. My boy texted me and i told him to call my work phone so i faked a work meeting and then actually went back to work though so I could leave. All in all, pretty pleased.

I've always been told to ask for the order. Ask for her number and then come up with a low pressure, and fun event for your first meet up. Think outside the box. I think it's safe to say that every guy will ask her to grab drinks... Stand out by being original and creative.

.Hugo.Idk if its just because its changed ir because im no longer in college, but it seems as though the girls using tinder are no longer using it for hookups. They use it like a dating app

For the most part, yeah. Tinder is supposed to be a hook-up app like Grinder. I have heard stories on podcast about dudes arranging threesomes in the matter of minutes on Grinder. Tinder on the other hand, you can swipe for months, have 10 different short convos with chicks and barely get a hand job out of the deal.

VinnieFhold up. you expect dinner to be bought for you on a tinder date?

if sex only costs you a dinner, think how much you really save in the end.

I've done it. Solid 7.

VinnieFhold up. you expect dinner to be bought for you on a tinder date?

.Hugo.Idk if its just because its changed ir because im no longer in college, but it seems as though the girls using tinder are no longer using it for hookups. They use it like a dating app

A lot of girls I know use it for free meals and drinks, no dinks

I find you start chatting them up, short talk and say you're new to town. Ask them to show you around and if she's interested you meet up.

Steezy_IN_KCI've always been told to ask for the order. Ask for her number and then come up with a low pressure, and fun event for your first meet up. Think outside the box. I think it's safe to say that every guy will ask her to grab drinks... Stand out by being original and creative.

Kansas City is fucking sweet.

That is all.

RusticlesA lot of girls I know use it for free meals and drinks, no dinks

Thats why i never suggest going to a bar or dinner. It weeds those cunts out

two of my best friends are now dating tinder chicks

Heres what i would.

1. like every single profile, dont even bother looking. when you get matched, then you can judge them and decide if they make the cut, otherwise delete them.

2. read their profile.

3. in your first message, either say something stupid and ridiculous (rarely works). or preferably relate to something they said in their profile. most of the time it works.

4. reply with thoughtful messages the first few times, so it seems you're giving meaningful answers, and relate to them.

5. 5 to 10 replies, say something along the lines of, "I know its pretty last minute, but I'm thinking of hitting up a (coffee shop, bar, diner, anything), care to join me for a (drink, coffee, etc.) it would be nice to get out of the house. Text me, its easier than tinder, and its killing my phone battery"

6. most of the time it works. if not that night, they say, "i would love to but i am already... (usually given seemingly legitimate excuse), maybe another day?

7. if it works, great! then its up to you. if they give you an excuse, say, "thats alright, i totally get it. if you're free tomorrow maybe we can make something happen?"


you honestly have no idea how much that worked for me. its like clockwork. they dont want to be bored with pointless conversation back and forth, as long as they think you're genuine, not a creep, they would rather meet you, and find out within minutes if something can work out. plus, they'll probably get a free drink or coffee.

and always be a gentleman. open car doors, other doors, offer a jacket, buy at least one drink (usually they'll refuse on the second, but thats the risk you take).

and DO NOT act awkward like you just met up from tinder. be confident. act like you've met before. act like you have mutual friends and its no big deal. thats a HUGE thing.

small talk is easy... where you from? you work? what exactly do you do? school? where at? what degree? whats that entail? hobbies? what do you do? you good at them? where does she live? what part of town? room mates? etc. find stuff in common, even if its the slightest thing. make it seem like you have so much stuff to talk about.. and eventually conversation will come naturally.

the rest is up to you man.

selfiejesustinder with high school kids is a lot more difficult. immature, can't buy you dinner, don't want to get dinner, etc.

DobberHigh school girls only fuck the Douchbags/trashy football players.

I like how these are the only problems being discussed on the matter of having sex with adolescents.

Q.McBrewKansas City is fucking sweet.

That is all.

Couldn't agree more. I'm glad you like it. Most people, that have never been here, have a negative opinion of Kansas City. Everyone should try it once.

That is all.

Don't make it seem like a date. Imply you are going to eat or whatever already, and ask if they want to join. Takes the pressure off of them and they are more likely to go.

It shouldn't take more than 5 messages to get a phone number and maybe another two to get a date, if you go beyond that, move on. I've met up with dozens of women from tinder, and actually ended up dating one of them for some reason.

TheBigAppleIt shouldn't take more than 5 messages to get a phone number and maybe another two to get a date, if you go beyond that, move on. I've met up with dozens of women from tinder, and actually ended up dating one of them for some reason.

I don't know if you live in the big apple or not but that place is a hot zone from what I hear with tinder. Mad hungry chicks. I get that vibe just walking thru the city. I have a buddy who goes down there on the weekends and slays it. My girlfriend's friend says so many of her friends are on there and say it's actually hard to meet dudes too (opposite of most areas). Whole other word compared to 80 miles north where I am at.

I go a bit deeper than these people saying only a few messages. I usually talk to them for about 3-5 days before asking them out. Mainly because I absolutely hate going on a date with someone who is a dunce. Need to figure out if I want to spend that energy on them.

It's all about keeping the conversation going and not asking the same "what do you do for fun" type shit.
If you've done a good enough job convincing them you're worth their time as well it shouldn't be hard to get a date.

timmiIf you've done a good enough job convincing them you're worth their time as well it shouldn't be hard to get a date.

What you're saying makes sense for sure. But, tinder is supposed to be about hooking up and not dating like grinder. Just doesn't happen that way

louie.miragsWhat you're saying makes sense for sure. But, tinder is supposed to be about hooking up and not dating like grinder. Just doesn't happen that way

Its suppose to be... but 80% of the girls have "not looking for hookups" right in their profiles.

.Hugo.Its suppose to be... but 80% of the girls have "not looking for hookups" right in their profiles.

That's just to save face when their friends see the profile. Most of the time.

louie.miragsWhat you're saying makes sense for sure. But, tinder is supposed to be about hooking up and not dating like grinder. Just doesn't happen that way

I mean you can use it for any purpose you like really. I'm there 90% just to be a smart ass and flirt. I did the hook up thing in college. It's not really my scene anymore.

To be honest I've found it better for meeting cool girls than any of the other dating sites around including the pay ones.

https://www.newschoolers.com/videos/watch/763812/The-Kinks---Lola--Official-Audio-


This song describes my tinder experience.

i always thought tinder was just a joke comedians would use as tags. I really had no idea people were actually using it.

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