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Why do parents fight in front of kids?

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OG_lock
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I am in my 20s and still don't see a reason the fight in front of kids. I was thinking about this today when I listened to my divorced parents fighting on the phone today. Growing up they fought and I can think I nearly every one of my friends parents i've seen fight when I was over a their house growing up. Like it's not necessary, save that shit for when you two are alone. Can anyone give insight on this?
Jan 16 2015 2:14PM
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Substitute
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It's called a method rage, can't control it.
Jan 16 2015 2:37PM
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Dirac
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my parents never fought in front of us. although I don't think they really fight at all.
Jan 16 2015 2:40PM
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saskskier
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I think it depends on what fighting looks like. My parents didn't really fight a ton (never yelling or anything like that), but they definitely had disagreements and worked through them in front of us (sometimes). A big part of that was done intentionally to model what it looks like to work through stuff in a healthy way.

It's definitely not healthy to be fighting (yelling or worse) in front of your kids. I don't think a lot of parents understand the effect it has on their kids. Depending on how bad it is, it can definitely considered emotional abuse.
Jan 16 2015 2:40PM
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-WZ-
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my girlfriend's parents are getting a divorce, and they honestly fight 24/7. Its really hard for her, and i mean they fight even when i come over, although she says its never as bad if im there. Its honestly just such a shitty situation for everyone involved.
Jan 16 2015 2:45PM
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louie.mirags
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My parents fought in front of me and their parents fought in front of them. I am going to be the first one to realize how horrible that is and not treat my girl/future wife like that. And def not in front of any kids I may have in the future
Jan 16 2015 2:48PM
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DrewPeacock
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my parents fought a lot, but ive only seen my mothers face bleed a couple times so its not that severe .
Jan 16 2015 2:55PM
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yelsel
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louie.miragsMy parents fought in front of me and their parents fought in front of them. I am going to be the first one to realize how horrible that is and not treat my girl/future wife like that. And def not in front of any kids I may have in the future


Same here. Though I'm not having kids so the fighting stops there.
Jan 16 2015 3:00PM
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louie.mirags
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yelselSame here. Though I'm not having kids so the fighting stops there.


I honestly do not plan on having kids either at this point. I am 25 so things may change, but as of now not a chance..
Jan 16 2015 3:21PM
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yelsel
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louie.miragsI honestly do not plan on having kids either at this point. I am 25 so things may change, but as of now not a chance..


I'm older than you by a wee bit (lol) but I've been saying since I was very very young that I wouldn't have any kids. I don't want to repeat the crap my parents did. My father was amazing though work pulled him away quite a bit. My mother is the spawn of satan and a total bitch to put it lightly. So much so that my brother and I have not spoken to her in years and never will.
Jan 16 2015 3:40PM
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El_Barto.
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louie.miragsI honestly do not plan on having kids either at this point. I am 25 so things may change, but as of now not a chance..


Yea bro, and if you do just have the girl get another abortion...no big deal
Jan 16 2015 4:12PM
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louie.mirags
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El_Barto.Yea bro, and if you do just have the girl get another abortion...no big deal


hey bud.. long time no talk. It has been awhile since you trolled me! what gives?

I didn't have her do anything. We discussed that shit and did what was best. Like I said then, if we had that kid I would not be in the great place I am now. I didn't love her (not even a little) and I lived 3 hours from her. She came from a poor family. I had tons of debt at the time. I was in the military. I now graduated from college and am a Network Engineer with no debt and about to buy a house. Why am I even explaining this shit to you?
Jan 16 2015 4:31PM
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El_Barto.
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louie.miragshey bud.. long time no talk. It has been awhile since you trolled me! what gives?

I didn't have her do anything. We discussed that shit and did what was best. Like I said then, if we had that kid I would not be in the great place I am now. I didn't love her (not even a little) and I lived 3 hours from her. She came from a poor family. I had tons of debt at the time. I was in the military. I now graduated from college and am a Network Engineer with no debt and about to buy a house. Why am I even explaining this shit to you?


i dont know why youre explaining it to me lol. You know im just trying to start shit. Sure i dont like why you did but i dont really give a fuck, just trying to irk ya. Carry on
Jan 16 2015 4:36PM
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louie.mirags
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El_Barto.i dont know why youre explaining it to me lol. You know im just trying to start shit. Sure i dont like why you did but i dont really give a fuck, just trying to irk ya. Carry on


you should try and go skiing once in awhile. It is relaxing and will get you away from the computer...
Jan 16 2015 4:40PM
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CaptainObvious.
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yelselI'm older than you by a wee bit (lol) but I've been saying since I was very very young that I wouldn't have any kids. I don't want to repeat the crap my parents did. My father was amazing though work pulled him away quite a bit. My mother is the spawn of satan and a total bitch to put it lightly. So much so that my brother and I have not spoken to her in years and never will.


I'm not having kids cause I'm a selfish prick and I like money, sleep, and time.
Jan 16 2015 5:27PM
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El_Barto.
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louie.miragsyou should try and go skiing once in awhile. It is relaxing and will get you away from the computer...


You should try to not take NS seriously for once...just try it, you might like it
Jan 16 2015 5:34PM
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daannnnieel
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Quite honestly, its better to just get it out and have kids know what its like when shit goes bad. My parents fight all the time and they always have, they don't love each-other any less (I realize its not the same for all families, mine being quite unique) And them getting stressed out and having a yelling match or whatever is just normal for us.

I want to have kids at some point, im 18 and living with my parents right now, so that doesn't really work but in the future hopefully.
Jan 16 2015 5:35PM
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.Hugo.
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CaptainObvious.I'm not having kids cause I'm a selfish prick and I like money, sleep, and time.


lol same, and toys. i love toys
Jan 16 2015 6:33PM
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