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Garebear
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Hey guys, I've been feeling pretty shitty lately, and I wanted to vent to you guys about this. I know this will likely be taken as a joke, but please try to be serious.

I'm currently a freshman in high school. I look around and it looks like my social life totally tanked.

Not quite sure what happened, in 7th grade I had a lot of friends (and got middle school chicas), in 8th I still had a decent amount (this year was the year that I basically had no girl friends) and currently in 9th I feel like I only have a couple friends that I am close with, and hardly any girls that I am friends with and I feel kind of worthless.

Maybe my self confidence plummeted or something. Please offer some advice to a kid that generally feels down in the dumps right now :(
Sep 28 2014 1:11AM
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uyghur
Posts: 993 - Karma: 2,028
Keep convincing yourself that you're the shit until you become the shit
Sep 28 2014 1:29AM
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stupendous-man
Posts: 8637 - Karma: 13,293
Do a sport or join a club or just sit next to a few new people at lunch. It's not that hard to get to know people when you're in a confined space with them for 6 hours a day.
Sep 28 2014 2:02AM
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HuckNorris44
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Take it as you want but the biggest issue is you cant rely on outside sources for happiness. Once you can be truly happy by yourself, than everything else will fall into place. This is coming from someone who struggled with depression and suicide for a better part of the last 12 years. If you cant be happy alone, no one or no thing is going to make you happy. People come and go, girls come and go, but you cant let every little incident bring you down, it makes for a shitty long life.
Sep 28 2014 2:32AM
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theabortionator
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High school seems like a big deal now but it really isn't. Once you get out of high school, what happened there is pretty meaningless. Don't take it to seriously and try to have a good time while you're there.

You're a freshman and it's the start of the year. Just be friendly and you'll meet people with similar interests, feel more comfortable in your surroundings and be able to relax a little more.

I moved to a new school an hour away in 10 grade. Also got bussed there so I didn't even have a house to go to between school and soccer. It's a little weird at first when you don't have any solid friends but just talk to people and you'll meet people. Over time you'll get more comfortable with each other and you won't have to worry about impressions as much.

Seriously, don't sweat it. You've been in high school for a month, you have plenty of time to meet people.
Sep 28 2014 3:16AM
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ggfski42
Posts: 651 - Karma: 700
I was in the same boat during high school. Seriously join a serious club or school sport. The earlier you get in, the better. What are your interests OP? Music, sports, anime?
Sep 28 2014 7:37AM
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Radda
Posts: 368 - Karma: 1,299
wear these shoes, instant pussy magnet.
Sep 28 2014 9:57AM
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soulskier
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I think your standards are a little off, I've always rather had a few close friends than several less than close friends

Also, what's wrong withe not having a girlfriend at your age?

Quit basing your self worth on these things and I bet you'll get out of the dump
Sep 28 2014 10:06AM
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DrZoidberg
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Grab one of these, forget the rest.
Sep 28 2014 10:19AM
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RusselCrowe
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Thats highschool for ya, your middle school "friends" will spread apart into other groups the same thing happened to me. I had an abundance of friends in middle school but most of them split into 2 groups and now I literally have 3-5 friends I hangout with because we all ski together or have other interests. I still walk around school awkwardly because my main friends are also good friends with other kids who Im not really friends with so I just leave immediately after school. Its shitty but find others with common interests I made a few friends through talking about cars and shit
Sep 28 2014 10:28AM
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HamFaceGirl
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Doesn't get more highschool than this look
Sep 28 2014 11:04AM
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-benedetto
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Do you enjoy archery or collecting stamps?
Sep 28 2014 11:24AM
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Wizerd
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I found out not having as many friends is actually better. you're closer knit with a small group and it's far more fun having your clique than being "kind of" friends with 60 people.
Sep 28 2014 11:47AM
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theabortionator
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WizerdI found out not having as many friends is actually better. you're closer knit with a small group and it's far more fun having your clique than being "kind of" friends with 60 people.


Why not both. I guess having ng you wierd little group is whst highbschools all about butbid rather go around and be cool eith everyone
Sep 28 2014 1:38PM
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veng_m
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I know how you feel man, just went through this recently, and trust me, it gets better. All the friends I had since I was just a little shit, just stopped hanging with me. But, once I started sticking it out, laughing at them when they said get away, sitting at the end of their lunch table alone, they realized what they did. Now, were all friends again and I even made more friends.

Just keep your head up high and hang with some dudes, it will get better.
Sep 28 2014 1:48PM
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agressivepizza
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i like to put pixiesticks up my ass
Sep 28 2014 1:49PM
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Mingg
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Don't sweat it dude. Your self worth has nothing to do with how many friends you have. You're gonna meet a lot of people in high school and your friends in middle school are way different than your friends by the end of your senior year. Having less friends is actually better, in my opinion. I'd rather have like 5 people who know me pretty well and like me because of who I am, than have like 20 friends who I only know so much about and they barely know me. Have fun in high school tho. Don't spend it stressing about the small stuff. I did that and I regret it because so many people had an awesome time in high school and I was one of those kids who hated it and complained about it almost every day. Shit is gonna be alright, just have fun in high school while you can
Sep 28 2014 2:10PM
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toastyteenagers
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stupendous-manDo a sport or join a club or just sit next to a few new people at lunch. It's not that hard to get to know people when you're in a confined space with them for 6 hours a day.


i almost downvoted this because i thought it was brett fischer
Sep 28 2014 5:50PM
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THEE_wizard
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Winter will be here soon, it will all be ok then.
Sep 28 2014 11:11PM
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skiersupreme
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to be honest i would much rather have a small group of tight friends than tons of kinda good friends
Sep 28 2014 11:16PM
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frickindarn
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High School is NOTHING like post graduation. Every person you're friends with in middle school don't even know who you are in high school. Once you graduate the only people that wanna talk are people that you work with or assholes. You'll be alright kid, just keep that head up.
Sep 28 2014 11:31PM
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GeorgiaJibber
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High school is where your true friends come man, so if you have a smaller group of close homies, its better than just being "friends" with a large group of people
Sep 28 2014 11:52PM
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theabortionator
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Hey OP, don't write yourself off yet. It's only in your head you feel left out or looked down on. Just try your best, try everything you can and don't worry what they tell themselves when you're away. It just takes some time man you're in the middle of the ride. Everything will be just fine.
Sep 29 2014 12:53AM
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crotchvent
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agressivepizzai like to put pixiesticks up my ass


you sir need to GTFO all of your posts are the stupidest pieces of shit i have ever seen.

OP i find it is best to have your own smaller group of friends you can trust than to be friends with a bunch of people that will stab you in the back if it has any chance to give them personal gain. Most of the people you went to high school with you won't ever see again, especially if you are just "kind of" friends with them.
Sep 29 2014 1:07AM
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xxACIDTRIPxx
Posts: 5980 - Karma: 8,175
Dude, don't worry about girls.
Focus on bettering yourself as a person, go to the gym, get a part time job join a sports team and eventually the girls will start to come.
srs
Sep 29 2014 2:35AM
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KravtZ
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Just be friends with everyone use your old friends as leverage into new groups. High school was awesome made some of my best friends and still see them all the time.
Sep 29 2014 11:02AM
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PacificRimJob
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Everyone's wearing one of these. Get with the club!



(seriously though, in 2006 when I was getting out of HS, there wasn't a 'cool kid' in school who didn't have these in every colour of the rainbow.. I refused to wear them, and was mocked for it lol)
Sep 29 2014 11:06AM
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ModMommy
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Hi friend! High school (especially the start of freshman year) is a transitional period. It can be rather tough for everyone. You're in a new environment, people are "growing" up and things change.
My freshman year was pretty tough, until I got a bit more involved with the school. Try and find some people who are into the same stuff! It's okay to have a small but close group of friends. Someone's it's easier to have a few closer rather than lots of distant friends. Give it some time, you'll make it. :)
Sep 29 2014 11:24AM
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ModMommy
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theabortionatorHey OP, don't write yourself off yet. It's only in your head you feel left out or looked down on. Just try your best, try everything you can and don't worry what they tell themselves when you're away. It just takes some time man you're in the middle of the ride. Everything will be just fine.


Sorry for double post but this is my fav song ever, and by my fav band. Go dance around to "the middle" and be happy
Sep 29 2014 11:27AM
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PacificRimJob
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immasSorry for double post but this is my fav song ever, and by my fav band. Go dance around to "the middle" and be happy


If you're listening, whoaaaaaaohhhohhowhoaaa
Sep 29 2014 11:49AM
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DanielPlainview
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same thing kinda happened to me freshman year. I had a huge friend group who were all the cool football players in middle school (not trying to sound like a douche, just being honest) and then once we got into highschool it changed into half of us being athletes and half being burn outs kinda. not in a bad way really. So heres all my friends, half are preppy and have fauxhawks, the other half has terrible reputations. I ended up sticking with my friends who had the bad reputations, and some of them have really grown up have real bright futures. The other half of all my middle school friends and i didnt really get along for 3 years but now im a senior and were all starting to hang out again and its fucking awesome. Its just high school buddy, freshman year sucks but itll get better :)
Sep 29 2014 12:39PM
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JahLiam
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toastyteenagersi almost downvoted this because i thought it was brett fischer


why would you even down vote Brett Fischer in the first place, he's the second coming of Christ
Sep 29 2014 12:49PM
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tikislice
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wolfbackpackHigh School is NOTHING like post graduation. Every person you're friends with in middle school don't even know who you are in high school. Once you graduate the only people that wanna talk are people that you work with or assholes. You'll be alright kid, just keep that head up.


fuck this is depressing
Sep 29 2014 12:52PM
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eheath
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Freshman year is the time you meet new people, make new friends and start to figure out "who you are" kinda shit. My friends from 7th grade to 10th grade completely changed, just give it some time and dont sweat it.
Sep 29 2014 1:20PM
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SkitheEast802
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Just start talking to people.
Sep 29 2014 1:42PM
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Peter.
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http://youtu.be/_WlvPclQnmQ

relevant to the thread and OP
Sep 29 2014 2:11PM
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270on420out
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My freshman year was awful. All my friends left me, and my grades were shitty. I also had class with a lot of people who disliked me. I had no friends in my lunch, and I was too embarrassed to eat alone, so I spent lunch in a bathroom stall and ate on the bus ride home. Ski season came and it was a huge relief. I put ALL my time,effort, and attention into skiing. When ski season ended, it was hell. I avoided everone at school so I was alone and silent all day. I was depressed, and I often thought if things would be better if I were to jump off a bridge. How did I get through it? I spoke up. I was too timid to talk to most kids, so I talked to kids who were social outcasts like me. It got me out of the slums, but still, those highschool expiriences ruined my teenage years.
Sep 29 2014 2:42PM
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theabortionator
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Just over 7 yesrs out of high school. For the first summer partied and did thing with a lot of people from school. The next summer a few parties. I really dont hang out with anyone from school. One kid i go to sjows withbwent to my school but hes 2 years younger than me and we never hung out much in hs. Imo high school is kind of bullshit. Its lame but you gotta get through it. You probably arent going to be firneds with most of these people 2 or 3 years after school so dont read to much into it. High school isnt the place you have to make all your life long friendships. Most friends are just because youre all locked in a building togather everyday. Its like work friendships. You kight grab a beersometimes but if you move and take another job you get over it. Highschool is wierd kids being weird. Everyone is iinsecure so dont read into the drama. Just have fun and again dont take it too seriously. At least for me i dont think of hs as the best days of my life. I had fun andnthen moved on when it ended.
Sep 29 2014 3:56PM
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GayWolf420
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tikislicefuck this is depressing


what in the holy name of god that created this wonderful earth in 6,000 years do you think you are doing with that icon?
Sep 29 2014 4:59PM
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TheBigApple
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GarebearHey guys, I've been feeling pretty shitty lately, and I wanted to vent to you guys about this. I know this will likely be taken as a joke, but please try to be serious.

I'm currently a freshman in high school. I look around and it looks like my social life totally tanked.

Not quite sure what happened, in 7th grade I had a lot of friends (and got middle school chicas), in 8th I still had a decent amount (this year was the year that I basically had no girl friends) and currently in 9th I feel like I only have a couple friends that I am close with, and hardly any girls that I am friends with and I feel kind of worthless.

Maybe my self confidence plummeted or something. Please offer some advice to a kid that generally feels down in the dumps right now :(


That happened to me in high school too. It might be that way till you graduate. It was for me. Once I got out of high school and into University everything did a complete 180 and now I am way to full of myself and think I am gods gift to earth haha. Just power through, focus on improving yourself and don't care what others think. It makes you come off confident.
Sep 29 2014 5:32PM
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TheBigApple
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I doubt anyone from middle or high school would even recognize me if I bumped into them on the street. I love it!
Sep 29 2014 5:34PM
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RusselCrowe
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skiersupremeto be honest i would much rather have a small group of tight friends than tons of kinda good friends


This is true, I have a small group of friends I hang with in and out of school but Im sorta friends with the "cool kids" but dont talk to them out of school which is fine. Because Im more awkward around the "cool" people
Sep 29 2014 8:28PM
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Mr_Mistur
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I'm just that random ass neutral person that is friends with everyone.
Sep 29 2014 8:34PM
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JGWI
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My high school problems-

I sit in the chalet and do homework and sometimes I really have an urge to go out and make a few laps but I really need to finish a test before the clock runs out or I will get a bad grade. And sometimes their WIFI is slow.

I should just shut up.
Sep 29 2014 10:11PM
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Bombay
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I'm currently a senior and only have 2 classes so high school is kind of great for me. High school was really tough for me socially. My only friends in my freshmen year were 17-18 year old stoners. After they graduated I was kind of on my own at school. I ended up making only college age friends and never any friends my own age.
Anyways OP high school in general sucks. Also just try to focus on being contempt with yourself and try not to care what other people think.
Sep 30 2014 2:05AM
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FerrisBueller
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Its all good brotha! Just talk to people man and don't care about what anyone thinks about you. You are who you are. Those who mind that don't matter, and those who matter don't mind. Just be yourself and your future is waiting for all your awesome experiences to come! Also, try to talk to as many girls as you can without coming off as a pushover.
Sep 30 2014 2:16AM
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GayWolf420
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But for real, its high school. you meet people, get fucked up with them, maybe shag a few girls, and go skiing. youll get pissed at stupid shit or get dragged into something dumb, then you'll look back on graduation day and think how stupid that shit was.
Sep 30 2014 12:03PM
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northeast
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uyghurKeep convincing yourself that you're the shit until you become the shit


what this guy said. it really works.
Sep 30 2014 5:26PM
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ericjarviz
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Until they do you wrong, just be nice to literally everyone. The cool kids, the non cool kids, the kids nobody even know... High school is a bunch of crap sometimes but you'll get a ton of respect from most your classmates. I was considered a "cool kid" but I'm far from cool haha I just treat everybody well regardless of what their status is. You'll probably find that having 2 or 3 great friends is better than having 20 "friends". Don't put too much thought into tho at the end of the day everything will play out. Enjoy man high school is what you make it!

And like a few others have said already.. in a few months you can hit the slopes and forget about the rest.
Sep 30 2014 6:56PM
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ericjarviz
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ericjarvizUntil they do you wrong, just be nice to literally everyone. The cool kids, the non cool kids, the kids nobody even know... High school is a bunch of crap sometimes but you'll get a ton of respect from most your classmates. I was considered a "cool kid" but I'm far from cool haha I just treat everybody well regardless of what their status is. You'll probably find that having 2 or 3 great friends is better than having 20 "friends". Don't put too much thought into tho at the end of the day everything will play out. Enjoy man high school is what you make it!

And like a few others have said already.. in a few months you can hit the slopes and forget about the rest.


Wow. A ton of grammar errors there. I promise that I did in fact pass high school English.
Sep 30 2014 7:02PM
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