CoreyTrevorReally glad you posted this because it gave me an answer for the final question of the survey. What is there to seek advice from? The only advice you need is that the girls that are going to reject you and be a bitch, are girls that aren't worth it and overvalue themselves anyways. You really lose nothing getting rejected off the bat. It's the girls that warm up to you, you like and then go crazy who are the ones you need to be concerned about. It's your future wife you really gotta worry about!
I'm glad you posted this, although, I think it is a bit of an oversimplification. Couldn't it be possible that a girl you approached rejected you because when you walked up to her, and spoke, you acted in such a way that you were already anticipating being rejected? Often times women can act in such a way to reject someone as a test, to see how the person might react - similar to being prodded during a job interview. Human interaction is incredibly complex.
Advice can come in a variety of forms. It can be as simple as, "go and talk to women your attracted to, while sober, to build your confidence, and to graduate from those fears of rejection, inexperience, and awkwardness." From my experience and from people I've met thus far, the standard mechanism is to suppress these feelings of inadequacy by drinking, and then getting rejected quite often anyway because the underlying emotions were never addressed. The benefit of being dunk while being rejected in this way, hence why people drink alcohol chronically, is that the negative result is diminished due to the numbing of embarrassment and pain from the failure that results. People also begin to blame alcohol as to why they weren't able to talk to someone they were interested ("I was just too drunk to talk to her, I couldn't speak well"). Alcohol becomes a scapegoat for the poor performance and subsequent rejection, yet continues to be the chronic crutch used to suppress feelings of inadequacy so these types of interactions can continue - again, and again - while the underlying fears, emotions, and insecurities are never faced.
If you wanted to learn a new trick, had tried it a few times without confidence and failed, would you decide that the trick wasn't for you because of it's inherent nature? What if Wallisch skied up to you and said - "Hey man, that's the feeling I get every time I try a new trick. Just keep sending it and you'll start feeling better about doing it next time!" That's the advice we're talking about here. Avoiding rejection is not going to lead you to experience acceptance, just like avoiding fear will never lead you to feel courage.
