MinggSo I think my parents got over the idea of me moving to Oregon but now my dad is full on paranoid and my mom is being extremely unreasonable.
I have to drive. Like I can't go out there without a car and I want to drive. I've never driven across the country before and I want to. But my mom is like "no you have to fly. That's the only way I'm letting you go." (As if I was asking their permission)
It's fucking hilarious because I'm 20 and my car is my car and my mom is telling me I can't drive there lmao. And my dad is going psycho and threatening to chip me and wants to put a tracker on my car, phone etc. Like I get it's a 40 hour drive but holy shit chill out. This is probably why I've had such bad anxiety since I was a kid because every thing I do is this dangerous ordeal and involves a huge process around it. Like just get me AAA, I'll call every time I stop for gas or something like a normal human being would. And then I get 100 "what ifs" from them and now I'm fucking freaked out to go. This is such a fucking disaster.
Maybe they'll chill out to the idea. If ya want to try and be crafty (and maybe risky) there's this term in psychology I don't remember the name of, but you demand one thing that is very unreasonable until they are somewhat accustomed to it, then lower your demands to something more reasonable. It's all about framing the ideas too, so tht you have this ridiculous idea makes the reasonable idea seem that much more reasonable. I feel like that would work on your parents, I do it all the time. Example: I wanted to ditch school and go skiing so I TOLD my parents I'm getting up at 6am and going skiing till 9pm by myself. They were not cool with it but I kept pushing it, then changed the demands to me leaving school halfway through and skiing till 6pm with a friend, and they were actually like "Alright, sounds good". My parents never would let me do that if I asked them outright, but I sorta gooned them into thinking it was ok. It makes them think they're in control, kinda... Idk I like to analyze how people think.
I'd just be careful, because it could make your parents from "mmmmm maybe she can go" to "No way in hell can she go, not anymore, not at all.."
risky biscuts but it can be worth