ZenyattaKickI made a thread about this a bit ago, but I’m just not in love with my girlfriend anymore and I feel like shit about it, because I make her so happy, but I’m not happy and that makes me like resent her which isn’t fair. Like she doesn’t deserve to be hurt but I know I have to because it’s the only right decision to make. It just sucks honestly :(
i had a buddy who was like this. told me he was going to break up with his gf and he needed to have a talk about things. he was very articulate but still approached it with compassion. the conversation led to a few days or some tough followup conversations and they ended up discussing what each needed and reassessed if they felt they could do it together. they are now still in their relationship and seemingly happy. i think having that initial heavy conversation also opened the door for them to have these talks
meanwhile i was unhappy in my relationship and just lied to myself and said i wasn’t. i had so much resentment that could have been avoided had we talked about shit more. but instead i tried to hide my resentments and only let them come out when i was blackout drunk flipping off my wife. turns out thats not the best way to address issues.
my way was way fuckin worse lmao. you could consider manning up and confessing why you aren’t feelin it and start a hard conversation, give her time to process, and come back with another hard conversation.
