connecticuntso I live in southern ct and me and two of my "friends" went up to burlington vt to go see tipper this past weekend. now im not particularly close with either of the girls I drove but I knew them well enough to not mind spending the weekend with them.
so neither of them have credit cards and I end up fronting them the money for the concert tickets, they were only $28 a piece and im about to get a couple fat checks in the mail from jobs ive picked up here and there so I wasnt worried about it.
so I text one of the girls friday night and say that I want to leave no later than 9 on saturday morning as its a 5 hour ride. not even 10 minutes later I get a text from the other girl about how shes going to a country concert tonight (friday) and not going to even be awake before 1 the next afternoon so I should pick her up around 2. figured it wasnt a big enough deal to pitch a fit over and get to her door at 1:30. I call them both up and neither pick up but they both text me back saying that they forgot to tell me they went out to breakfast but theyll be back at their houses soon. so they finally hit me up and we get together and they make me pitch in $10 for wine when they both know I dont drink. again, decided its only $10 and get on with the ride.
so we are riding up, theyre both passed the fuck out the entire ride but its whatever, I understand as I pass out literally every car ride I go on. but so we get to a gas station, I ask for gas money and they both look at me like im fucking nuts and go back to sleep. at this point im starting to get pissy but after about 5 and a half hours we are up in vermont and im ready for motherfuckin tipper so im in a pretty dece mood.
they all start pregaming and figuring out ubers and I told them im not pitching in for an uber because im just going to drive myself there. they all fucking flock to my car and start double packing seats when i tell them thats not gonna fly. one person per seatbelt and thats it. they start yelling and whatever but again, not great friends with any of them, I went for tipper and because I have friends in burly and I was meeting people there. but so the two girls I went with ditch as soon as we get in the doors and I couldnt care less. but I see my ex and we start chatting and catching up and whatever (hes actually the reason I know the two girls) and when the show is over the girls come over and grab me by my hand and literally drag me away from my conversation.
side story: my ex brought one of my very good friends to the show and he was fucked up beyond belief, they took crystal L and he just couldnt handle it and he literally just dissapeared in the middle of the show.
so we go to leave and I realize I need to make sure my friend made it back to my ex okay so I pull into a parking lot and start calling people to see if anyone knows where he is when one of the guys in the back seat yells at me, "why cant you just fucking take us home? theres nothing you can do for him, you obviously wont let anyone else get in the car because of that bullshit seatbelt rule" and I fucking flip. I pull his scrawny ass out of the car and tell him he can walk home, it was less than a 2 minute drive so like a 20 minute walk, and I bring the girls back to his house and go back to pick up my ex and our friends and see if we can walk around and find our lost spun friend.
I decide that im not going back to the house that i was supposed to stay at (it was the kids house that I kicked out of my car) and that ill just hang out with my ex and his friends all night as I was going to be up anyway. at around 3 in the morning a cop knocks on the door and tells us that our friend is in the ER and that we can pick him up whenever. so we pick him up and hes being a dick to my ex so we decide that its better for all of us if I take my ex back home with me and the other girls.
so im hanging out with people all night and into the next morning and I get a call at 11 from one of the girls im driving home,ill call her R, saying that we need to leave now because the other girl, A, needs to be home kinda soon. I tell her that im hanging out with people but ill be back around 3 and I hang up and ditch my phone in my car so that they cant bother me anymore. I get in my car to go pick them up around 2:45 and I have fucking 72 missed calls from R and at least 7 texts from A saying some stupid shit but I pick them up anyway and when they get in my car and see that my ex is with is they both throw bitch fits about how its unfair to make them wait so I can get laid by a guy im not even with. like what the fuck. we didnt do anything, not like it was any of their business but like im absolutely furious at this point. then R decides to try and lie about why she needed to be home earlier and says that she had a doctors appointment at 6 that shes never going to make and that I should pay the cancellation fee.
I tell them both that the next time either of them says anything I am literally going to ditch them both on the side of the road. so me and my ex are having a great time chatting and whatever in the front seats on the ride home and the girls sit in almost silence in the backseat but I can kinda hear them plotting to not pay me shit for the tickets or the ride in the back.
so I wait until im dropping them off and I tell R she owes me $50, 30 for the ticket and 20 for gas and I tell A that she owes me $40, 30 for the ticket and 10 for gas because she flipped me a 10 for gas before we left. and as soon as I leave I get texts from both of them saying theyll pay me for the ticket but thats it and if I want more im gonna have to do something about it. so I guess im fighting two broke bitches for $10 and $20 this week which is some absolute bullshit.
tl;dr- had a shitty weekend full of shitty people that I now have to fight for money but it was worth it because motherfucking TIPPPPPPERRRRRR
As someone who road trips constantly. If you're with younger people, broke people, or you just don't trust people 100%, figure out money at the start. Make sure they can spare something at least reasonable toward gas.
And then keep up with gas on the way there. Maybe split if all evenly. Also let them know that since it cost 10 each to get up there, to save 10 for the ride home so they don;t spend it on stupid shit. And if they're definitely riding with you, maybe even have em give it to you before.
I never leave people behind. I'm gonna about giving people rides even if they're broke, but if people disrespect you when you're helping them out, fuck them. Idk, just remind them that it's your car, your rules, and that they're being whiny bitches and can either chill out or ride alternative transportation.
The ticket thing is also tough. I honestly wouldn't front somebody a ticket I didn't know, unless I was pretty much in the not giving a fuck about the ticket/ticket money mode. Especially if they were being shitty at the start of the trip.
If you're not drinking, don't pitch in on alcohol. Making your DD pay for alcohol they aren't drinking is ridiculous. Hell sometimes when a friend was DDing, we'd buy them a ticket, a beer or two, or pay for their share of the gas.
I mean, I can understand that you didn't really care that much about each stage, but shitty people will be shitty and let things snowball to really fuck you over if you don't stop them.
Seems like the kind of people that would be like "Meh, I'm not paying you because you were mean" which is unacceptable.
I know sometimes you need to split gas to make it, and can't find the best peoples, but just take care of yourself out there. Hell if the people that you road up with are being that bad, leave em, and find some other people that need a ride toward where you're going. I mean I would probably call them right away and let them know they're on their own, but fuck doing somebody a favor if they're going to be a cunt about it.
Good luck with things though.
