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Are you happy with your life?

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tronned
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Simple question. Would you say that youre truly happy or just doing a day to day thing? Most people I know do not actively chase their dreams and settle for the day to day grind. I made some major changes to my life over the past year and my life has turned around to the point where I can actually say I am living out my dreams.

Most people just gun for money it seems, and will work jobs they had no interest in doing in their life until they found out the pay scale and after they get home from the workday they just shut down and work for the weekends so they can booze it up a bit. Your career is not your whole life but it certainly is a huge part of your life based on the amount of time spent there and the fact it pays for you to live out other aspects of your life.
May 30 2014 7:55PM
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HamFaceGirl
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Fuck yeah
May 30 2014 7:57PM
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AT-AT
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Very
May 30 2014 8:47PM
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2_fadez
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yep.
May 30 2014 8:52PM
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MilaKunis
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Meh
May 30 2014 8:52PM
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Phil-X-
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Yea, I definitely am.

However with that being said, I could be a lot happier and most of it would be from simple things I could change in my life. Hopefully I can work towards improving in those fields and find the motivation to do so.

I also think everyone fits in that category, no ones ever really settles for what they have- but being able to appreciate what you do have (and not focusing the things you dont have) is the key to happiness
May 30 2014 8:56PM
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Mingg
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Nope. Not even close. There's a lot I wanna do and places I want to see. I'm not unhappy necessarily. I have a great life but there's more that I want to get out of it and I'll do everything I can to make the most out of my life
May 30 2014 9:43PM
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a_burger
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yeh
May 30 2014 9:52PM
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timmi
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I am hating my life now so that in 10 years I can start to love my life.
May 30 2014 10:00PM
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hippy.
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inb4 "No my life sucks :'("
Don't even think about posting that..You have one life and if you are able to post on the internet about how you aren't happy in life you should be happy..Don't take life for granted and appreciate what you have. That being said yes I am happy with my life..I'm alive and can't ask for more.
May 30 2014 10:04PM
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JAHpow
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Currently I am, I'm just in college so I don't have a serious job or anything. I agree with the OP though. It seems that society today lives to work rather than works to live. I hope to be able to work to live when I'm older.
May 30 2014 10:07PM
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YoungWookiee
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Kinda a weird coincidence that this thread is on here right now because i was just thinking about this like 2 minutes ago. To be honest no i don't really think i am happy where i stand right now in life too be honest im starting to tear up. not going to get into detail but I don't really know what to do
May 30 2014 10:13PM
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chickenonabun
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Nope.
May 30 2014 10:23PM
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RusselCrowe
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I can honestly say that the winter only months of the year I am happy and thats only because its ski season and I can somewhat forget school and its one of the few things that I can be successful with. Then the season ends and my life just goes downhill. No job, girls see me as only a friend, few out of school friends and I suck ass in school. Its unbearable and I dont know what to do considering my out of school friends are getting girlfriends and only hangout with their girls or each other, so Im basically the leftovers if they have nothing to do.

I just want summer so I dont have to stand awkwardly at school while my friends talk to girls or other people.

I may sound like a bitch but I am getting sick of this shit.
May 30 2014 10:32PM
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Heart
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I have a feeling most people in this thread aren't being completely honest with themselves.

Personally, I'm pretty meh. When I wake up in the morning I'd say I feel 6/10. I'm perfectly happy with how my professional life will end up post-college, but socially I always feel like I could be doing more with myself. I've never been a very social person and I tend to shut people out and make no effort to contact even my good friends. Plus I feel like not a lot of people around me share my interests - there aren't a lot of people in western Indiana interested in skiing/music/fashion/triathalons. I can't wait to move somewhere more relevant to my interests once I graduate (Seattle here I come).
May 30 2014 10:33PM
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notspoicey
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i was born, i will die, and anything in between is sort of like a bonus
May 30 2014 10:40PM
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Peter.
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yeah, besides the knee recovery that i have to go through, life is awesome. hell, being alive is awesome in general
May 30 2014 10:46PM
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ModMommy
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Id say I'm happy! I'm usually always happy regardless of the situation.
May 30 2014 10:56PM
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theBearJew
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I'm pretty happy. Not necessarily chasing my dreams that I had when I was in HS or college, but I'm going after the life I want to live. My dreams have changed, does that mean I sold out and settled? Who know, but if I can enjoy my job enough and make enough to do everything I want, I'll sell out and settle.
May 30 2014 10:58PM
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Charlie_Kelly
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I'm more thankful for what I have than actually happy. Between school, student loans, my dad going from someone I look up to and respect to a prick, and my brother fucking up his life I'd say Im pretty stretched out (as ricky would say)but still I'm thankful that my life is the way it is because it could be a lot worse. I definitely find ways to get happy, working on my car, making good money working for my moms'boyfriends business, living in a great part of the country on an awesome lake, but I don't see me living out my dreams for a long while. I'm not worried though, I got a lot of life to live (hopefully haha).
May 30 2014 11:11PM
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Bateman
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I really am. It really helps if you have girl involved or just someone you truly cherish in general other than family and/or friends.

Currently listening to Rocket Man. I'm a rocket maaaaan.
May 30 2014 11:33PM
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Iraq_Lobster
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gini was born, i will die, and anything in between is sort of like a bonus


I love how this makes so much sense.


But I also feel like true happiness is almost impossible. I;m fine with my life, even though i'm no where near the end, but it's moving along.
May 30 2014 11:38PM
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soulskier
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Absolutely
May 31 2014 12:39AM
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SFB
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reasonably
May 31 2014 12:42AM
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lIllI
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I'm in college studying finance, so...no not really.
May 31 2014 1:33PM
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Turkelton
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For the most part. Gotta change some of my life though due to some bad news and I gotta haul some ass to have some nice grades for finishing up the IB next May. It's all going quickly but got some plans to go out to Japan and AK in the near future, life is pretty good as long as I pit some work on. That's it really
May 31 2014 1:42PM
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milk_man
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I love my life, through the ups and downs.



I dislike my job though, it's lame in many ways
May 31 2014 2:01PM
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-benedetto
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Working for spare change, living in space.
May 31 2014 2:12PM
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KravtZ
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Moderately happy.

Been working at an investment bank for the past year. Yea the hours suck and the job isn't all that interesting...doesn't take rocket science to do what we do. But I grew up really poor (only was able to ski due to very wealthy friends who are like my second family and take me every weekend and pay for everything) and for me atleast, money is a HUGE aspect of what makes me happy. I love success and competition and thrive in a work environment like this. So for me, the constant daily grind and never ending quest to be rich is really waht drives my daily motivation considering I didn't have it all growing up. Maybe I sound shallow, but I fucking love making money.
May 31 2014 2:44PM
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lIllI
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KravtZModerately happy.

Been working at an investment bank for the past year. Yea the hours suck and the job isn't all that interesting...doesn't take rocket science to do what we do. But I grew up really poor (only was able to ski due to very wealthy friends who are like my second family and take me every weekend and pay for everything) and for me atleast, money is a HUGE aspect of what makes me happy. I love success and competition and thrive in a work environment like this. So for me, the constant daily grind and never ending quest to be rich is really waht drives my daily motivation considering I didn't have it all growing up. Maybe I sound shallow, but I fucking love making money.


I'd be interested to know more about the daily life in that industry. I'm about to graduate with a finance degree but the thought of working in a financial field makes me want to die.
May 31 2014 2:56PM
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CassiusClay
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No, but I also believe it's incredibly difficult to achieve happiness in life. There is always something better, there is always something I've missed out on, regardless of how well I'm doing.
May 31 2014 3:21PM
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theabortionator
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A bunch of words and stuff. If you want to read it go for it, if not don't.




Idk about happy. I kind of shit in and out randomly all the time. That said I feel I'm doing what get's me as close to happiness as I can.

Snowboarding/skiing, music, friends, adventures are my favorite things. My winters have been all about the mountains my whole life and for the last 6 or 7 years the summer have been all about music friends and adventure. More so the last few years.

I had a plan, that was actually a pretty good one IMO, but I decided to live as much as I can while I can. Life isn't forever. I could live to be 70 I could die this year. Instead of worrying about stacking up $$ I'm trying to enjoy it while I can. If I'm still going at 40? Awesome, if the end comes much sooner? Fuck it, at least I lived.

The job I work feels like the job I was put on this earth to do. A job I would do and have done for free. Sure I'm not going to be buying a yacht anytime soon but I fucking love it. I get to play in the snow and build shit all winter. Just a bigger version of a sandbox that allows me to ski and board and gives me a check at the end of the week. I've always wanted to travel abroad but never could afford it. Now that same job is the reason I'm going to get to explore NZ this summer and get more skiing in.

I've seen somewhere between 3-400 concerts over the years. Travel from NY to illinois, georgia, california, arkansas, maine, and a ton of other places roadtripping with friends or hitchhiking with total strangers.

If I get old, my body doesn't work, and I'm too poor to live, I can always throw myself down a flight of stairs or something. I'd rather fucked my body up and live now than save so that I can start taking cool vacations when I'm 40 and retire at 60 with multiple country club memberships so I can play golf with other people and maybe go out on my big boat from time to time.

"If I die with a body that wasn't completely wreck, I'd feel like I completely wasted it." Matt Hoffman

I don't have nearly the balls that guy does but you always hear people saying "you're going to regret that when you're older" or "you should stop doing that".

All I want to do is build parks, snowboard, hangout with friends, meet new ones, listen to music, and enjoy my life. If that means I die young and poor so be it.

You could spend your life hating it working for a someday that might never come. Make the most of everyday. Do what you love. Rage on and good luck
May 31 2014 3:24PM
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gotti
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I am misunderstood


May 31 2014 3:30PM
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.Rybak.
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I'm happy with my life. Any stress i have is just short term and won't be here for long. I have an awesome family and I get along with most people. Even if i don't really like them that much. I have my problems sometimes but at least i can say that i live in a place where i have a bed to sleep in with a roof over my head where I have a phone and internet. Honestly life could be a lot worse. I could be living out on the streets starving.
May 31 2014 3:35PM
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KravtZ
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lIllII'd be interested to know more about the daily life in that industry. I'm about to graduate with a finance degree but the thought of working in a financial field makes me want to die.


Finance isn't for everyone. Its extremely competitive and everyone is out for themselves ultimately to do whatever it takes to make as much as possible for the most part. I do actually enjoy my work considering I find the markets really interesting and we are learning some great skills which are extremely applicable to a ton of different things. A lot of people work in IB for a while and then go on to management at other firms for more work life balance. Daily usually get in around 9ish leave around 9-10-11ish depending on work flow. Often though well be in till 12-2 or later. Not like were working 24/7 lot of downtime but work usually comes at weird times like at the end of the day when the MD's leave. Ton of other jobs in finance besides IB though which offer much better work life balance. I couldnt imagine working in back office though the thought of 9-5 supporting people who are much more successful than you doesn't appeal to me.

Finacne is a great degree though...gives you an understanding of business / markets as well as being heavily involved with math makes it attractive for employers so you can't go wrong with it. MUCH better than doing a lib arts or something if your unsure.
May 31 2014 5:27PM
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.undetected
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gini was born, i will die, and anything in between is sort of like a bonus


This is how I live my life. This being said, I'm content with my life right now, but I could be a lot happier if I were to ski more often.
May 31 2014 6:06PM
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Spagett+
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I'm kind of just indifferent towards my life.
May 31 2014 6:14PM
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frickindarn
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I mean I'm not that upset with life. I'm not happy that I'm a minimum wage Batista at Starbucks who doesn't hang out with anyone anymore. But I would kill to be back in keystone with my friends. It was a better time when I was always happy. So I'm just gunna say not now but looking for a brighter future.
May 31 2014 6:59PM
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Stadtski
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im a white, protestant,upper-middle class kid with supportive, happily married parents. theres no excuse for me not to be happy
May 31 2014 8:43PM
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TomDavies
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Rosa_Parkim a white, protestant,upper-middle class kid with supportive, happily married parents. theres no excuse for me not to be happy


lol
May 31 2014 8:44PM
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theabortionator
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Meh. Money can't buy happiness.
May 31 2014 9:35PM
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Phil-X-
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theabortionatorMeh. Money can't buy happiness.


I think it would definitely help. A lot of my unhappiness comes from working and pointless time requirements. If I had enough money to not work I could always be traveling the world and doing what I would like with my time. A lot of the stuff I do, which bring me happiness are expensive (skiing, sailing etc)
Jun 1 2014 2:16PM
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lIllI
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theabortionatorMeh. Money can't buy happiness.


It's better to be rich and unhappy than it is to be broke and unhappy.
Jun 1 2014 2:25PM
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theabortionator
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Phil-X-I think it would definitely help. A lot of my unhappiness comes from working and pointless time requirements. If I had enough money to not work I could always be traveling the world and doing what I would like with my time. A lot of the stuff I do, which bring me happiness are expensive (skiing, sailing etc)


I agree, but even here in 'Murica there are lot's of problems. We're pretty 1st world considering we're the ones aiding all these other countries and all that.
That said most people here don't have enough money to just live without working. A lot of people are struggling. Are they as likely to get killed, starve or whatever else as some of the poorer countries, not really but that doesn't mean it's perfect.

There are lots of hungry people in this country. There are a ton of people living paycheck to paycheck trying to make it all work.

At the same time there are people living in the jungle on nothing that could be far happier than us.

And depression can fuck with anyone.

Idk, I'm hungry and I should just go to bed.
Jun 1 2014 3:59PM
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