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Trying to help friend with relationship issue

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robotdna
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Okay Dr NS, this one is a bit different. I searched Google too and was unable to find this kind of advice...

I have a friend that had a relationship with a guy for a while (year-ish, not really even sure...the number always changes) and she cannot let go. It's not even this, she worries and comes to me for help as to what to do, but then literally states "I don't want to let go." I've been helping(rather, trying) this person trying to escape this facade of empty hope for more than a year now. She dabbles in a few guys, but they don't work out(either weird, get rejected by her, or they lose interest). It's really taxing on her, I think, and quite frankly, I'm tired of trying to help her if she's not willing to receive the help. She thinks that there is some chance he may just magically fall in love with her or something again so she is "holding out." It also doesn't help that she had her fortune read to her by some fortune teller that apparently claimed she will do well in school and this guy will come back to her. I don't want to tell her the definition of insanity is doing the same failing thing over and over, and expecting positive results...

TL;DR I have a close friend who can't let go of a guy, she doesn't know what to do, but refuses to let go of him and has eternal hope of him coming running back to her.

What the hell do I do? I've been trying to help her. I have no idea, as a friend, what I'm supposed to do now. I've suggested learning a new activity(which, actually, she has started and is liking), seeing other guys, focusing on school, hanging out with friends, removing his objects out of her life, and, of course, trying to let go.

Thanks guys. Holy cow.
Apr 10 2014 1:08AM
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swaggerboi
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You need to fill the hole in her heart








With your dick


Or mine


Or hook her up with an Nser
Apr 10 2014 1:15AM
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No.Quarter
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Give her the sex with your sex stick and she will never sex with sex sexy sex sex sex sex sex sex sex
Apr 10 2014 1:17AM
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byubound
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Inb4 op is friend's old boyfriend
Apr 10 2014 1:18AM
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robotdna
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SexWith2GorillasYou need to fill the hole in her heart








With your dick


Or mine


Or hook her up with an Nser


JakeSmithGive her the sex with your sex stick and she will never sex with sex sexy sex sex sex sex sex sex sex




She was already screwed by this dude and really it's out of the question with me. I've been her friend since 1st grade. Nothing more. I'm already attached to someone else. I'm ugly as fuck so nobody would even consider it anyway. Lol though.
Apr 10 2014 1:24AM
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robotdna
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byuboundInb4 op is friend's old boyfriend


I don't think he's on here...he says he can ski "rails" and that he's the "best bowl skier" in our school...whatever the hell that's supposed to mean. Who knows though. Not me though.
Apr 10 2014 1:27AM
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pow_pow~
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youre in deep bro. deeeeeeep in the friendzone
Apr 10 2014 1:41AM
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Theskiingguy
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Just tell her to get over it, if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be. You can't and shouldn't force a relationship, let it happen and you'll find the right girl. Even if it was to workout she would know deep down he doesn't like her, and a relationship is a two part thing, both people have to feel the same.

I was screwed over rejected last week over a girl I hit it off with better than anyone else before, and was going to ask out in a couple weeks. Did it bitch and whine about it when I got rejected? Heck yeah! But did I get over it understanding there's a reason why it happened and it was for the better? Yes
Apr 10 2014 1:42AM
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DIPED_IN_SAUCE
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One of my female friends just did this over the past 2 years or so... She's now gone properly insane, transferred schools, and is flunking all her classes. I hardly talk to her anymore and shes a really depressing person to be around

To prevent that from happening I would get the guy to be upfront with her, and tell her to focus on school to keep busy. Keep reminding her that things change and stuff gets better.

or pee in hur butt
Apr 10 2014 1:43AM
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robotdna
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TheskiingguyJust tell her to get over it, if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be. You can't and shouldn't force a relationship, let it happen and you'll find the right girl. Even if it was to workout she would know deep down he doesn't like her, and a relationship is a two part thing, both people have to feel the same.

I was screwed over rejected last week over a girl I hit it off with better than anyone else before, and was going to ask out in a couple weeks. Did it bitch and whine about it when I got rejected? Heck yeah! But did I get over it understanding there's a reason why it happened and it was for the better? Yes


I have. She continues on the same. I've talked to the guy too and he lols at the entire situation. He gives zero fucks and despite her knowing this, she continues...


DIPED_IN_SAUCEOne of my female friends just did this over the past 2 years or so... She's now gone properly insane, transferred schools, and is flunking all her classes. I hardly talk to her anymore and shes a really depressing person to be around

To prevent that from happening I would get the guy to be upfront with her, and tell her to focus on school to keep busy. Keep reminding her that things change and stuff gets better.

or pee in hur butt


Pee in hur butt, solid plan. Will put a pin in that idea... a.k.a. will not happen.
But fo reals I really don't want her go insane over this too but it's pretty much happening. Her grades are lowering and she's losing friends. She's hanging out with sketchier guys and smoking hookah and maybe weed frequently. I'll see what I can do about the guy. I hope he can help, or at least has the decency to.

Thanks everyone so far.
Apr 10 2014 1:53AM
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No.Quarter
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Yeah...

That bitch crazy
Apr 10 2014 1:55AM
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Abc567def
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A girl was really hung up on me for awhile and it eventually just turned to hatred for me. She ended up moving to Alberta to work in a Tea house or something.

Its called learning life and its not something that you can force her to learn but will gradually make sense. Everyone gets hurt and thats why having something that works so special because it does have that opportunity to blow up in our face. If it were guaranteed then it wouldn't be so excited when those risks pay off.
Apr 10 2014 2:57AM
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OGoriginal-gaper
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tell her to go skiing she will forget all about her problems
Apr 10 2014 7:30AM
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SlugzGoneBad
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pack her a fat bowl yuhhh!
Apr 10 2014 7:39AM
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yelsel
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You've done all you can to help this girl and now, it's up to her to do it. You cant sit there and hold her hand on this stuff because eventually, she'll learn. As cliche as it is, that's life. It happens to all of us but we pick ourselves up and move on. As time goes by, she'll look back and realize how stupid she was to be crazy for this guy.
Apr 10 2014 8:13AM
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snwbrdmilf
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yelselAs time goes by, she'll look back and realize how stupid she was to be crazy for this guy.




Seriously.
Apr 10 2014 9:38AM
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robotdna
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OGoriginalgappertell her to go skiing she will forget all about her problems


I like this idea. Too bad she's really not into skiing.
Apr 10 2014 6:40PM
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bfulmer
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robotdnaI like this idea. Too bad she's really not into skiing.


"Skiing"...


I'm pretty sure everyone in this thread is on point. You need to just bang her and get it over with.
Apr 10 2014 6:43PM
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JordanButtfart
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A good dicking ought to adjust her.











And by that I mean you should try to literally re-adjust her pelvis during sex so she is hyper focused on her walking issues and not her ex.



Quit being a pussy and let her play your skin flute.
Apr 10 2014 6:55PM
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