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Eff my effing life yo. Nah not a rant... but I do need some advice fellas.

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WaffleMaster
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So newschoolers, I'm fully aware that a majority of you are the creme de la creme of people who enjoy grabbing life by the balls and giving them a squeeze, whether it be skiing, NS trolling, partying, or general tomfoolery.

Anyways, my predicament is this: I have a pretty solid group of core friends, part of this much bigger group of people. I don't really have that much in common with any of these people (interests, goals, morals, outlook on life) but they're still funny people, fun to chill with. We have raging house parties occasionally, but pretty rarely.. these people aren't really a high level of YOLO but like I said they're cool in my book.

Now I hope to stay friends with all these people but there's this group that parties every weekend, knows where the parties are at... it's almost like this massive group of people who are on this "imaginary invite list". Now, I'm trying to make some connections and GET ON THAT LIST. Man, it's senior year of high school, I'm just trying to meet some new people. I'm real outgoing (but self-aware and not obnoxious) so I feel if i just went to ONE of these parties, I'd be set.

Anyways, I've made solid friends in some of my classes with some people who go to these parties, and I've found I have a lot more in common with them. Now I'm just trying to get the next step, how do I get invited? Or do I just ask em? What would you do?

Man, this shit got me REEEALLY bummed out over the summer. I've learned to just enjoy what I got, and plus, college in the fall means a start-over, plenty parties and plenty new people to meet. But for now... advice?

Summary: just read 3rd and 4th paragraph i guess?
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eheath
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Lol wot
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.MintBerryCrunch
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Repost.

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cool_name
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just ask them what they are doing Friday night or something
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WaffleMaster
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>I party with my friends
>It's alright but it's just "whatever"
>I'm trying to get invited to some of the bigger house parties my high school has
>In a few classes, I've made good friends with a few people who go to these
>How do I get invited/invite myself/???
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Theskiingguy
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Just say, "Hey you guys know of any parties going down soon?" or something similar, and they will most likely invite you. Make it clear you want to just have a good time and hang, if they're douches they won't invite you so just forget them.

But honestly, you're almost done with your senior year of HS.. you got four crazy years of college parties ahead of you so don't sweat it if you don't go to any now.
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WaffleMaster
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idk man I do and they tell me, and I'm just like "oh, sounds dope"... I know they like me and shit but they just don't invite me, idk it's whack
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WaffleMaster
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Haha yeah man I feel you. I'm just trying to break into the scene, if I don't make it, it's not the end of the world.
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FBGM
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If you invite them to do something with you they'll probably invite you to do something with them. Don't just wait around for them to ask you to go to a party, ask them if they wanna do something with you that you typically do. You'll start hanging out and then you'll be going to parties with them just cause you're homies.
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eheath
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You are a fucking nerd.
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WaffleMaster
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I'll have you know that the other day I was given an extra credit opportunity, and I didn't take it.
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Holte
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In my experience, parties are fun (fucking extraordinary fun sometimes) but not necessarily a great opportunity to become friends with the people there. If your goal is to kick it with these legit people, just ask them what's going on this weekend/afternoon/after school/Tuesday/etc. People are usually happy to invite you along if you at least mostly fit in and are fun. If you just start hanging out with them for a few hours here and there, you'll be automatically expected at these parties pretty quickly.
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swaggerboi
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Just fuckin go ya bitch !!! #swag
Even if they don't respond well to it , ur not gonna see those pussies after high school. Ur the fuckin king of the school OP don't forget that
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BMB
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That's your problem right there, either you have to get on their level of YOLO or somehow get them to see your level of YOLO is worthy. Or just get some unique skill they'll recognize, like DJing, or producing music. Everyone wants to be friends with the next big DJ i hear nowadays.
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GayWolf420
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OP isn't yolo enough.
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.AR6rider.
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Obviously you just can't hang, breh. Those are the kids who can actually get bottle. You're not on their level. Better sit at home and masturbate to snapchats from the "Hood Crew."


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SFB
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in order to get invited to said party one must first beat off the kid whos hosting the party.
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GayWolf420
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but really fuck you and your petty HS bullshit.
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EastShoreDrive
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I'm assuming you are going to college next year. Once that happens you will NEVER see any of those people again except for the night before Thanksgiving. At that point you will go "why the fuck did I want to hang out with these people again?" Then a week into winter break you will be dying to go back to school. I'd spend my time figuring out how to get on the YOLO list where you are going to school next year.

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howlongcanausern
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that gif gave me cancer
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EastShoreDrive
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#YOLO
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lIllI
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Yep. And of the ones that didn't overdose before graduation, they're chubby alcoholics who never left their hometown.
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chacha33
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Supply something for the party. Is that really to hard to figure out?
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Anti_Panda
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I knew a guy like you in highschool. The reason you dont get invites is because they dont like you. They arent retards. Its obvious to them that you dont want to be their friends but just want to use them. Youre seriously like the worst kind of highschooler.
Youd show up to a party where you werent really welcome, drink too much, barf on their carpet...get punched for talking to the wrong girl then never be allowed to talk to the cool kids again. Save yourself the misery and accept that youre a fuckin loser who will ditch your real friends because they arent cool enough.

Nobody likes you and nobody wants to be your friend.
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HuckNorris44
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Piss your pants. I hear thats what makes kids cool.
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mrbillgates
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Real Talk.
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Byron_tha_gr8
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lol OP get over yourself. Youre in highschool.
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.AR6rider.
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College freshman alert! College freshman alert!
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snowpocalypse
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Because you use words like Whack. You sound like a hanger on. You know that guy that they don't even know that just pops up to laugh at all the jokes, that brings nothing to the conversation and claims to be best buddies. Stop trying. The In crowd in HS is definitely not top of the food chain in life. There will be plenty of time in college to rage when you are out of your parents house and life is good. Chill out and stop trying!
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statuswhitegirl
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do you even bottle?
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boo10159
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Show up with a bong, a half o, and a 30 pack. You'll be a legend
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Jeebus.
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I like the word, tomfoolery.
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Aaaron.
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"Eff my effing life yo"
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lIllI
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If you're bummed about not partying, the problem is inward, not outward.

My advice is to learn to be happy without needing to attach yourself to vain, mindless partying. The reason you aren't getting invited is because you're putting it on the pedestal, which they can sniff out from a mile away.

When young people party, they largely do it just to get inebriated, and they justify it to themselves by calling it "socializing." That's a bullshit argument, because at that age you're getting so fucked up that you aren't even socializing with "people" anymore, you're just giggling at stupid shit in the close proximity with some other drunken shell-of-a-person. There's no actual connection going on from person to person because at that age drinking is still a novelty so the intoxication becomes a centerpoint for the evening.

Of course, there's nothing inherently wrong with this at your age, and I'm as guilty as the next person. My point is that if your happiness depends on something so trivial and fleeting, then you probably are doing it for the wrong reasons. But then again, the sole purpose of everyone's high school years is to be an obnoxious, emotionally stunted naivete because only through such folly and failure do you actually become a respectable person.

So on one hand you can be a big boy and take the high road by not giving a shit about something so petty. On the other, perhaps a healthy adult ego requires a certain amount of embarrassing memories to look back on, in which case you're doing a great job.

The take home message is that your high school years are not golden time that you should seize full advantage of. Stop over thinking it and do your thang.
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Byron_tha_gr8
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im a dropout, thank you very much.
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.AR6rider.
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That doesn't really surprise me.
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Byron_tha_gr8
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doing molly every day before class didn't get me too far. But I sure knew how to party!
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Dr.Dickless
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Sometimes I miss high school, and then fucking threads like this pop up. Who the hell cares? Go get some real problems
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DirtYStylE
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Too easy... "Hey man, what are you up to this weekend?" "Your going to a party?" "Whose party?" "Sounds cool bro, I've got some nice beers to pre-game with if your down." If you contribute to the good vibes they will be more than willing to let you tag along to the next party. BTW don't try to act cool at a party, just have fun.. The best thing you can do is find the "go to guy" and plan some events with him - Frisbee & a BBQ, Smash Bros Tournament, or whatever..
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DirtYStylE
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Chin up brudda'



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WaffleMaster
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nah man, I hate people like that too. I'm always the guy chillin while people puke all around me. And I'm not using them, like I said they're people I relate to, and I'd be down to chill with them outside a party too.
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WaffleMaster
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Haha thanks man. Fully enjoyed that video
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T-Bell
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have one of the parties that you and your friends have, invite that group of people, they'll have a good time and invite you to their next party
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GayWolf420
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but...youre using your friends to get to parties they got invited too.....
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Anti_Panda
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and youre a bitch too. Look at you justify yourself to me, a complete stranger, over the internet. The cool kids would have told me to fuck and then banged OPs mom. But the cool kids wouldnt be in your situation because they are cool unlike you
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GayWolf420
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this dudes fuckin clown shoes bro
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Dr.Dealgood
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These people will slowly fade out almost completely from your life in a few years. But you probably already know that, or at least I hope you do, and instead just want to maximize time now.

Eventually they'll become a faded memory worth little in your present life (years ahead from now).

Either you get in or you don't -- and I understand the notion of trying to get in to the "big" parties -- they're fun and have their own mystique.

All told though, this sort of attitude isn't a good one to carry forward in life. You'll go on enforcing the "pasture's always greener over there" attitude. That'll prevent you from really being present and aware of what you have and what you can do with it. Some of the most amazing people I've ever had the privilege of knowing or being around had that ability. To feel un-compelled to have to belong to a specific group, they were truly self-possessed people whose generosity, acceptance, and general willingness to make things fun made other people gravitate to them.



Or, just show up with a shit ton of booze and girls and weed.
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gotti
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I went to an all boys school. stop complaining
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gotti
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I went to an all boys school. stop complaining
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gotti
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I went to an all boys school. stop complaining
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