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c-wayne
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so if someone asked me my personality type id be like really lively and fun and outgoing. and i am that just i feel like i got some anxiety before i actually set out to meet some new people and make friends. Im 21 (recently turned woooo) and not in a cocky way im very confident and decent looking. Girls often find me attractive and i feel like most people in general find me fun and interesting. I dont know why im worried about meeting new people but i am. I just recently cut ALOT of ties with people like breaking up with my girlfriend, getting out of the drug business and getting out of streetracing and im realizing thats were alot of my friends and my comfort zone was. I want to make normal friends who i wont end up in jail being with and a nice girl who likes being outside and likes to get down. Im good at meeting people by "accident" almost, like for example through mutual friends or just sitting next to me at class but i wanna set out and meet these people for myself and on my own.

Theres a ski club at my school but none of my friends at school ski so i dont wanna be that guy who shows up alone. But, i feel like id meet some great people at ski club. I also wanna just start approaching people more often but when it doesn't work out and i get rejected i HATE it. Even though i know that'show it goes sometimes and im more successful than not. I basically just feel like im starting over making friends and it sucks.

so nsg, what should i do to meet quality people?
Jan 9 2014 7:06PM
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2_fadez
Posts: 7780 - Karma: 4,183
hmm
you're set bro
Jan 9 2014 7:09PM
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op14
Posts: 1769 - Karma: 4,586
Go to that ski club dude. You may feel awkward at first but clubs that are offered by schools are seriously the best things you can ever get involved in. You'll meet a ton of great people. Just be the outgoing kid you say you are and you'll make friend in no time.
Jan 9 2014 7:11PM
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KrazyistKarl
Posts: 1725 - Karma: 599
Roofies
Jan 9 2014 7:12PM
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timmi
Posts: 12874 - Karma: 3,460
Yes Paul Walker has touched us all.

One thing that nobody tells you is that making friends in your 20's is fucking impossible. Everyone is so tied in up work and their own social groups that they just aren't open to knowing new people.

I actually have met some really cool girls on OKcupid. Sounds a bit weird, but the girls I'm meeting are actually really nice and cute.

Just be open to new things. And start small with talking to people. Start by saying hi to strangers in your building or your neighbours who you don't know. Build on that and keep talking to them. See where that gets you. I've made a few friends in my building just starting with a hello in passing.
Jan 9 2014 7:13PM
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Aidan-G
Posts: 9415 - Karma: 10,861
Go on 4chan. Post your phone number. You'll meet some quality people
Jan 9 2014 7:52PM
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Bachto
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Jan 9 2014 8:01PM
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El_Barto.
Posts: 11661 - Karma: 24,348
Chille with clark g and you will be suckin dick in no time
Jan 9 2014 8:47PM
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Charlie_Kelly
Posts: 11955 - Karma: 12,302
Pretty much this. Kids a boss at making friends.
Jan 9 2014 8:58PM
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Sno.
Posts: 12155 - Karma: 6,152
Its true. Making a whole new friend circle will be challenging. Your best bet is to probably date a new girl and just acquire her friend circle.
Jan 9 2014 9:01PM
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-WZ-
Posts: 3600 - Karma: 6,582
Seriously try out that club man, who cares if its awkward at first youll meet really cool people
Jan 9 2014 9:01PM
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Chunter
Posts: 2050 - Karma: 1,894
...and then break up with her once you know everyone else well; thus forcing her out of her own circle to claim as your own.
Jan 9 2014 9:12PM
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DirtYStylE
Posts: 3652 - Karma: 8,889
Hey. Hi. Hello.

What cooking good looking?
Jan 9 2014 9:14PM
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El_Barto.
Posts: 11661 - Karma: 24,348
The circle of life
Jan 9 2014 9:14PM
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Toaster-Tony
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Yeah. Don't listen to this. I've been there and it seems great until things go south in the relationship and before you know it, you're in the same spot you are now. It doesn't happen all the time but it did happen to me.

My roommate literally cannot go anywhere without making a friend, it's kinda unreal. But if I learned one thing from hanging out with him, it is that it never hurts to start a conversation with a stranger. Be interested in what they say (even if it's complete garbage) and sooner or later you'll be meeting some cool people and making friends.
Jan 9 2014 9:18PM
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yuck
Posts: 8384 - Karma: 2,090
ugh i hate that. in some cases it may be true but i would say 90% of the time it is not. especially if you are in a university/college setting, everyone is down to make more friends! just be friendly to literally everyone and if they dont wanna be your friend then fuck em. there are plenty of people out there who do want to. the ski club sounds like a great place to start. As president of my schools ski club, i can say that whenever we see new faces, we make a point to get to know that person and make them wanna come out again. definitely a good place to start
Jan 9 2014 9:32PM
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timmi
Posts: 12874 - Karma: 3,460
Hey I'm just reflecting on my own experiences. And I am a very outgoing person. Mind you, I am not talking about in a school setting.

Theres no real excuse not to have friends while in school. You sit in a classroom beside a ton of people your age why would you not have friends?
Jan 9 2014 9:34PM
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Anathema
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funerals. grief is nature's most powerful aphrodisiac.
Jan 9 2014 9:35PM
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amish.bangers
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blackpeoplemeet.com
Jan 9 2014 10:32PM
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whoa-dere
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Jan 9 2014 10:37PM
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skiersupreme
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you street race? only paul walker and asians street race. and only white people freeski. op's a bag of dildos and this thread is not real
Jan 9 2014 11:47PM
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worstmemberever
Posts: 66 - Karma: 19
Has to be trolling
Jan 9 2014 11:51PM
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crab_pretzel
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solid first post, amish.bangers
Jan 10 2014 12:38AM
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PeppermillReno
Posts: 4865 - Karma: -821
No its not. And those friends are her friends not yours. I hope that is a troll reply.


I am someone who really can act like a hermit since gambling makes me want to shut off from teh world and be on my own and when Im here in Reno I got action on games every day. And I don't like to drink Fri/Sat nights because Saturday games start at 9am and I need to be sharp. And when I want to get fucked up at 1pm on a Tuesday which is sort of how I roll noone else is down.

I still have little to no problem meeting friends here on the other side of the country despite being the most anti social person ever. If I go to a college party I'll make a couple friends. If I talk to someone at the bar or sportsbook and they aren't sketchy I make a new friend. Etc etc etc.

And I feel behind the 8 ball in terms of sending texts/calling and staying in touch with the few friends I do have since I consider myself someone who doesn't have a ton of friends but making new ones is never tough.



But people live complicated lives and as you get older they plan their shit out weeks in advance. So you got to be prepared for everyone you text to grab a beer to say 'nah dude I got plans tonight Im busy'.




Jan 10 2014 1:46AM
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-MK-
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Tyndurr
Jan 10 2014 2:02AM
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daannnnieel
Posts: 5163 - Karma: 4,293
I just realized that if I ever have to leave my friend group i'm boned. I have social anxiety out the fucking ass.
Jan 10 2014 2:05AM
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SamtheEagle
Posts: 1658 - Karma: 713
i feel like you are freaking out about nothing
Jan 10 2014 2:24AM
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.MintBerryCrunch
Posts: 750 - Karma: 346
1. Join ski club
2. Bring booze
3. Coolest guy at the party
Jan 10 2014 5:42AM
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JAHBRADOR
Posts: 3068 - Karma: 17,580
1. DONT TALK ABOUT HOW MANY DRUGS YOU DO/DID/SOLD

2. DONT TALK ABOUT HOW MANY 16YO ASIAN KIDS ASSES YOU KICKED "STREET RACING"

Contrary to popular belief, people do not find this shit interesting/hardcore/cool. They just make you loook like a douche.


Jan 10 2014 6:21AM
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-benedetto
Posts: 5238 - Karma: 1,359
If you have a minder, try tinder!!
Jan 10 2014 12:28PM
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theBearJew
Posts: 10951 - Karma: 15,633
Well, are you black?

http://www.blackpeoplemeet.com/

If not your SOL.
Jan 10 2014 12:30PM
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theabortionator
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I'll race you for slips OP
Jan 10 2014 12:51PM
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PeppermillReno
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Why do serial bullshitter types of kids seem to always tell the same fake ass stories about things like that? I swear Ive met dozens of tools who have a million stories about selling/doing drugs and kicking asian kids asses racing and physically.
Jan 10 2014 9:06PM
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