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ThatMNkid
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Disclaimer: if all your gonna say is bag her and get on with it screw you, not my style. Anywho, there's this girl who I've been trying to get with and we've hit it off really well in conversations and stuff, but we can't ever seem to find time to go out on a date, the only times I've been able to see her are at work. So my question/advice asking for NS is how do I go forward and get her as a girlfriend, I mean I want stability and she's really sweet and gorgeous. Please don't be dicks (I know many of you are...) Thanks. P.S. I don't need all the shit on repost stuff.
Dec 14 2013 2:27AM
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Sno.
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you see her at work...where do you work? do you work together, or is she a customer? In what circumstances do you see her? Then I can give more sound advice.
Dec 14 2013 2:31AM
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cope+
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Need pics to give proper advice
Dec 14 2013 2:31AM
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ThatMNkid
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I see her at her work.
Dec 14 2013 2:33AM
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Dr.Dealgood
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If she ain't got the time to hang, then she won't give you the time to hang, unless you make the time to hang.

Or so says my dirty martini dinner. 
Dec 14 2013 2:38AM
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ThatMNkid
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That is honestly one of the best pieces of advice I've gotten, only problemo is a) if we can't ever meet how would we do that b) I almost never have time alone at home.
Dec 14 2013 2:39AM
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Dr.Dealgood
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Dec 14 2013 2:39AM
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Sno.
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you had your chance.
Dec 14 2013 2:43AM
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ThatMNkid
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Explain?
Dec 14 2013 2:46AM
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Dr.Dealgood
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She just did...
Dec 14 2013 2:48AM
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Sno.
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you didn't answer any of my questions. I get that you see her at work, but in what context? Do you work with her, are you a starbucks barista and she gets her morning cup of coffee from you, or are you a bouncer and she is a stripper at the same club? I mean...based on what you mean, the advice varies.
Dec 14 2013 2:48AM
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ThatMNkid
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Ah, I work at Jimmy Johns, she works at like an arcade of sorts with laser tag, bowling, games, etc. so if I go there I generally see her, although unfortunately I don't get to hang and talk with her 'cause she's working and I'm with other friends and trying not to be rude. I mean I'd try to sit and chat if she came into my work.
Dec 14 2013 2:52AM
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dispatchQ_main
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sounds like she doesn't want to hang out with you and was simply being nice when you talked to her.
Dec 14 2013 2:59AM
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Sno.
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Oh. Well next time you make a delivery to her work, I would approach her and ask her when her next day off is, and ask if she'd like to come to_______. You choose what to fill the blank in with, but I would recommend something where she doesn't feel obligated to come, and there will be plenty of people there/she can bring a friend. That way she feels comfortable and you can get to know one another. If she shows, and things go well, ask her out one-on-one. One good idea for the blank...is a sunday football game at a local bar? Or a college football game that is popular in your area?
Dec 14 2013 3:04AM
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ThatMNkid
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Probably should have mentioned this, but I am a high school kid, so that doesn't necessarily help my prospects...
Dec 14 2013 3:09AM
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.Apex.
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If you can't make time for each other now something tells me dating wouldnt go so well
Dec 14 2013 3:17AM
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will_powder
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Don't wait
Dec 14 2013 3:47AM
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louie.mirags
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oh, we can tell. Something about the way you said "screw you" in the first sentence gives it away...

Anyway, you gotta just man up. It needs to naturally happen. Girls love confindence. So, you can say whatever you want, just with confindence. But, just asking her straight out to chill outside of there might be a little strong. Instead, try and work up to that point.

A very common thing for older dudes to say is, "if i could go back to high school it would be so easy to slay some box." So take advantage.

oh yeah, post said pictures..
Dec 14 2013 4:02AM
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Bachto
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Great advice.
since you're in high school, tell her you and your friends are planning a bowling night and she can come if she wants. Plan a bonfire at your house, bitches love bonfires. like what snobunny said, something with a lot of people first. then if all goes well ask her on a one-on-one.
Dec 14 2013 4:06AM
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Bachto
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Great advice.
Since you are in high school plan a bowling night with a bunch of friends and invite her to go. Another good one is plan a bonfire at your house or a friends house (whichever is capable of having a bonfire) girls love bonfires and they are always a fun time. anything with lots of people like snobunny said is a good idea for a first time to hang out. just man up and ask her.
Dec 14 2013 4:11AM
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bigbromskier
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the best way to get a number is in random small talk especially when in some work-like thing. just keep the conversation going and get her talking about what she likes. once you find any sort of common interest just say hey, let's do that sometime and ask for her number to pursue said interest.

then you have her number and you can just call her whenever to do whatever. the best is like, hey i'm just chillin now/tomorrow come over/let's meet somewhere and kick it for a bit. seriously playing cards or some other game is great...you got something to hold your attention when talk is slow and it's easy to break your attention when talk is good. go for it quick though; even if you get rejected it's a good start. keep it simple and laid back; don't stress it out with a date, imo.

go into it like you're just chillin with a buddy, make her laugh. go for it if it feels right; if not right away then within a few times of getting together. if she rejects you there's always more chances. solid eye contact is cruuuucial, make some subtle touches too. go for the hug when she leaves if you haven't done anything yet.
Dec 14 2013 4:53AM
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coolflash8
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PEE IN HER BUTT
Dec 14 2013 5:09AM
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mivylagut
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Analyze it.
See if it is good or not.
Dec 14 2013 6:03AM
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coolflash8
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Good
Dec 14 2013 8:04AM
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Bogs
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ask her out on a date?
Dec 14 2013 9:50AM
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SlurmrnHurnyBurn
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This, and if you can't find time…. it's because she doesn't want to find time and you have no chance.
Dec 14 2013 12:15PM
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ThatMNkid
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So I like the bonfire idea, I love winter fires, but how do I take that to someone else who may not share my enthusiasm. She also mentioned she's a boarder, could amount to some kind of get together?
Dec 15 2013 1:18AM
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SFB
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i thought you ran away to be a ski bum? ski bums cant have GF's
Dec 15 2013 1:23AM
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ThatMNkid
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I see you've noticed my craziness...
Dec 15 2013 1:25AM
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jfxphoto
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ladies men for real answers
Dec 15 2013 1:31AM
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deleted5
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I could help you out here, but I'm not going to. You never date a girl you work with it will end in disaster.
Dec 15 2013 1:46AM
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Bagina
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Pics of your mom needed to get a grip of the situation.
Dec 15 2013 2:07AM
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ThatMNkid
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Apparently your reading skills are lacking, I don't work with her, nor does my work ever come in contact with her work.
Dec 15 2013 2:09AM
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baaangthat
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youve got to go out on a limb. you just have to. not a "lay it all on the line" limb, but a limb nonetheless. invite her somewhere to do something social (NOT a movie). words to live by: If shes into it, she'll make time. If shes not, she'll make excuses.

if you invite her and she says yes and then has an excuse, youve got your answer.
Dec 15 2013 2:13AM
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deleted5
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"I only see her at work" yeah I stopped there, you also sound like a little bitch. This girl is really pretty and even though I never actually hung out with her, I want her to be my girl friend because she looks nice. Still not helping you
Dec 15 2013 2:17AM
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ThatMNkid
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Ahem, see third to last sentence dipshit, why post if its just gonna be dickish responses.
Dec 15 2013 2:33AM
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Dec 15 2013 2:42AM
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PeppermillReno
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I'd just try and hit the slopes with this chick on her day off.  If it goes well you'll make time for each other.  Just ask, say you've had a hard time finding time to get up to the mountains with work.  Its probably the least awkward thing to try and do together.



Judging by your posts it doesn't sound like you could pull off taking her to dinner or a movie or elaborate date.
Dec 15 2013 4:47AM
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*Frankie*
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I can tell you have no game just because of your username.
Dec 15 2013 3:38PM
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Miomo
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I don't think too many girls dig guys with not balls.
Dec 15 2013 3:44PM
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DirtYStylE
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Next time you see her drop this little line.
"Are you free wednesday @5?" Cool lets go grab some pizza! I can pick you up/meet you somewhere/whatever you are into.

Always have a back up time incase the first one dosent work out.
Dec 15 2013 4:02PM
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pmw
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because through his broken, tenuous grasp of the english language and fighting frat bros he pulls horses and thinks that makes him better then you
Dec 15 2013 4:05PM
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pics for reference?
Dec 15 2013 4:05PM
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Sno.
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maybe I'm in the minority, but when I was in high school, formality kind of just turned me off. I'd always hope that I guy I liked would be at a party I was going to, or at the football games on Fridays, etc. Any group setting in which I could talk to whoever it was I was interested in and hang out with them while other things were going on, but when guys would try to take me out on dates, it was awkward. One guy asked me to dinner at his parents house. Like asked that I come over to his house for dinner. I made up a lie about how I was busy even though I liked the guy. I had never met his family and honestly, sitting at a family dinner with them sounded like the worst thing in the world at the time. I liked it when guys would ask me to do group activities, even if its a double date or triple date-- like skiing with two other couples that we all know, or going to the football games together in a group, etc.  Like I said, I may be in the minority, though. I guess the moral of this story is that I don't like one-on-one dates with strangers and I will avoid them even if I'm into the guy. I feel like I have to know them first.
Dec 15 2013 4:09PM
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TechnoPotamus
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OP's mother and I

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Dec 15 2013 5:57PM
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catsRjerks
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Asking NS for girl advice is like asking a down for a hug.. You're definitely gonna alot, they just won't be pleasant.
Dec 15 2013 7:00PM
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Dec 15 2013 7:03PM
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Charlie_Kelly
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And this is here I tell you to kill yourself.
Dec 15 2013 8:43PM
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_TK_
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Man up and go talk to her… theres no advice to give, you're flat out scared to confront her in person and just txt her err w/e. strap up and have a human interaction.
Dec 15 2013 8:47PM
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GayWolf420
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fart in a bottle, seal it, throw it in the freezer over night and then give it to her.
Dec 15 2013 8:47PM
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