a serious question

um...there have been studies done on this, look them up because i am too lazy to, and do you think anybody on NS has a psychology or sociology degree?



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well. .

I got married when I was 21 and my wife was 20. We started dating when she was 16. We got engaged after she turned 18 and had two year engagement. We both have similar beliefs and goals. We have been married for 2 years now and everything is still going good. Don't get me wrong, there are some shitty times but you just talk it through and as long as both remain faithfull and true to each other there are no problems. The real key factor for us is constant communication and be able to step up to a failure and move on. To keep us out of trouble, I dont hang out with skanky chicks or scummy guys. We I get drunk and stupid at the club, its with my wife and friends. I have caught a lot of grief for being married so young, but It's my life and now I get to experience my life with my Best friend. I have a lot of time to actually do stuff compared to some guys who always chase skirt and are so damn focus on sex.

so to answer your question . . . I feel that it is possible to live your life with one person and get married at a young age as long as you are focused on the relationship so you grow together and not apart.

plus when i got married We both fell below the low income braket and recieved all our college expense paid for by the government which totals up to about 20 grand a year for both of us. I also get dirt cheap insurance. We have a Jeep grand cherokee and Hyundai Tiburon full coverage on both for $1,200 a year for both of us. So from a purely financial side of it, it was a good move.

if thats what you want, go for it. i know someone who ran away to get married, his wife dropped out of high school, and he now doesnt speak to his family. dont ruin your life, be smart about it
depending on my mood, you might get a nice thoughtful responce that might make sense, or you might get complete jibberish that is not wise to even read. good luck



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in anceint times, people tied up a goat in the the town square and blamed it for all their problems. then they killed it, and thats where we get scapegoat from

it just depends on the two people. if you are lucky enough to find 'The One' in high school, then other girls just won't make the grade so it doesn't matter that you haven't been with others. u may try others...but the end result will be the same. the original girl's better if she's 'The One'. u tried the first time and you FOUND her. most people aren't so lucky, so they try and try and try again until they find the right one...& then we have those who are in love with the act of finding the one ;)...look at NHL players...a lot of them are married to their high school sweethearts and they are really happy.

it all depends...of course, as gentlemen, sometimes we have to satisfy ourselves that the girl we are with is TRULY 'The One'. & for all my dawgs out there, u can use this excuse next time u get caught CHEATING.




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skiing is like dating a girl:

first, you have to check out the scene;

second, you have to ride that topography;

& third, don't leave without taking a shot at the moneybooter.

props to you man thats really honorable in my mind, however my point of view on the whole situation is you are only young once and i think you are meant to try different people so you have a prospective of what you want and dont want so you kno what your looking for when the time comes. but maybe you just found her earlier i dont kno its some tough, deep shit to think about

I've known a few people who have done this. It is my opinion that these people are destined for unhappiness, disaster, or both. First, lets start by examining the immediate effects. These people are going to need to establish well paying jobs. Going to college while married (not to mention if they have children) would be very difficult financially and emotionally. Very few people can succeed at this, so they fall back into low paying jobs that are available to all kids fresh out of high school. Unless, the parents are covering these kids, they are going to be trying to make rent payments on minimum wage (again, throw kids into the mix and its even worse). But lets assume for a moment know that the financial burdens are inconsequential. First off, in today's age people are not socially mature until they are into their mid 20s, at least. People marrying at the age of 18, are far from knowing what they want in life. In a few of the cases, the people getting married didn't even know what they wanted to do as careers. That is very troubling. If you don't know what you want to do for 8 hours a day for the next 40 years, how do you know who you want to spend everyday with until the day you die? This problem is even more compounded when the example is, as you stated, two people who have never dated anyone else. I feel that people should explore what is out there first before jumping into a decision, know all your options. Why would someone want to marry the first person the date, most likely from the same town, when there are 3 billion+ women or men out there from all over the world. It comes down to one factor in my mind, immaturity. They are too immature to understand what else is out there, and most importantly the consequences of rash decisions.

I could write more but I'm tired of this topic. Too frustrating for me to get into these peoples minds.


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I dont agree with your viewpoint. A lot of persons who get married young are more mature for their age. Its not that hard to get a decent paying job if you are willing to work hard. I work landscaping in the summer for 15 bucks and hour and I am a floor manager for 12 dollars an hour at a local grocier. My grades actually went upgrades went up when I got married. Also, how many 30 year old know what they want to do as careers? Most have jobs, but few would call it there life long career. I think you are looking at marrage as something that brings you down, when it has the same potential to bring you up.

i just don't know if i could see myself finding 'the one' right now. I can't even go into bars yet so it just seems so young and yeah you know what i'm saying i guess......
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it has the potential to bring you up, if it happens at the right time. And the ten couples I've know who have gotten engaged or married at the ages of 17-20 have been the most socially and emotionally immature people I know, I mean them no offense, because they are my friends and I like them anyways. I don't see the hurry to get married, maybe when I am 30 and my hair is starting to fall out :P.


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If you dont feel ready, just wait. Don't rush that sort of thing. Just have be best friends and have fun in a non-knocked up kind of way

this is the hard thing.....if the person you are with tells you he(or she) wants to spend the rest of their life with you, but you don't feel the same way because you would like to be with other people but you don't want to hurt this person. plus they already told you it's too hard to be friends but you don't want to lose this person forever. that's quite the situation. I'm really just way too young to get married in my opinion and I haven't even begun to think about it. but then it hard to hurt other people that bad who think you're the one
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'One celebrity that irritates me is that commercial voice-actor Thurl Ravenscoft. His performances as Tony the Tiger have recently become wan, dispassionate, and uninspired. Ravenscoft's newborn apathy threatens the vitality of a great American icon. I can scarcely consider such a tragedy without also bracing myself for convulsive fits of grief-grief of a fallen hero'-John Symms



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ah ... this question is more personal than I first realized ...

My advice for you is to perhaps lists out all the things in you life and then attempt to figure out how each would be affected by remaining single or getting married. That should help you arrange your thoughts. I know it sounds selfish to say that you should do what is only in you best interest, but I think it would be a greater travesty to enter into a marriage that won't give you full happiness. It would be difficult for you to be totally committed to this relationship when any part of you doubts the union.

If it turns out you've decided against marriage, you should sit the other party down and explain to them the whole situation, your feelings and thoughts. If the other party truly loves you, as a friend or more, they will want what is best for you. They should also be able to understand you position.


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well, you two are not on the same wavelengths. You are already not communicating were you should be. You need to be able to tell her your feelings now. If you cant, you are not ready to be married. In marrage you need to be able grab the bull by the horns and just get whats bothering you off your chest on out on the table. I would tell her your thoughts and what you are going through. If she wont listen, she's not the one for you.

^ That i do agree with.

cool, then I haven't totally made an enemy


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Far from, I respect that fact that you have logic to your reasons

i'm a girl lol and you actually all are making a lot of sense to me. communication is key and I just want to go out and meet new people and have fun. It will all work out for the best though
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'One celebrity that irritates me is that commercial voice-actor Thurl Ravenscoft. His performances as Tony the Tiger have recently become wan, dispassionate, and uninspired. Ravenscoft's newborn apathy threatens the vitality of a great American icon. I can scarcely consider such a tragedy without also bracing myself for convulsive fits of grief-grief of a fallen hero'-John Symms



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haha, I wasn't sure so I kept my post ambiguous. But good luck with what you decided


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oh jeez, i'm sorry i just assumed your a guy because of the icon and there are a lot guys on here. My bad