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I slept with my best friend's wife.

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Good_Deed
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I need some help here I have no idea what to do. My friend is in the navy and his wife calls me when he is out on service and she needs help doing jobs around thier house. She called me Saturday around 5 to see if I could help her out so I went over and after the job was done she was like want to have some drinks, I said sure, well we drank a little to much and I can recalls bits and peices from the night. But when I woke up I was in their bed with her and we were both naked. She was already awake and she looked at me and said that was fun. I said we didn't did we , and she says back we sure did. I start to freak out and she said oh take it easy your not the first guy that had spent the night here. Meaning she sleeps with other guys when my friend is away. So I'm stuck I can't ask my friends for help because we all know each other. How do I tell my friend his wife is cheating I him and I was one of the guys she did it with ?
Oct 22 2013 11:22AM
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TheBigApple
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That is a sticky situation and one I hope I never have to deal with, because I don't plan on sleeping with anyone's wife!
Oct 22 2013 1:09PM
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youngdtay
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And your spine, when your Navy friend comes home and puts you through the table.





Like some of the other guys posted, give her an ultimatum. She tells him or you tell him. Either way though, you're gonna have to man up and take responsibilty for your actions. You had an obligation to the guy as well.
Oct 22 2013 1:14PM
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saskskier
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Do you know, other than her telling you, that she's had other guys over? Don't get me wrong, chances are it's true, but unless you know for certain, you shouldn't be telling your friend she's slept with a bunch of guys. Take responsibility for YOUR actions and let her tell him if there's been anyone else.
Oct 22 2013 1:16PM
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WU-sconsin
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Plane ticket... Far away
Oct 22 2013 1:17PM
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t_rob
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It's your responsibility to talk to him as best friend and it's her responsibility to tell him as her wife. No need to get caught up who needs to tell who because everyone should. Every possible move sucks even if you choose to not tell him and you continue being friends with him and he never knows the truth. Unless of course you are some slimeball which you obviously aren't because you made this thread.
Oct 22 2013 1:17PM
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Spiri7o
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Normally the answer to everything
Oct 22 2013 1:19PM
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Mr.Huck
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I'm thinking we have all been trolled here.
Oct 22 2013 1:29PM
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snowpocalypse
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First off, this is just sad on so many levels. I only hope that there are not any kids involved. That being said i will ask a question nobody seemed to raise and again I am just asking. Ever thought they might have an open relationship while he is deployed? I actually have talk to more than one couple where when the spouse is deployed, the couple reverts to the old different area code it isn't cheating. Kind of a don't ask don't tell situation. Personally it makes me sick to my stomach the thought of any body other then me touching my wife but everybody's relationship is different.
Oct 22 2013 1:32PM
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TechnoPotamus
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this story doesn't add up to me.


you "drank a little too much" as you said, but you're implying you completely blacked out and don't remember even messing around at all? Bullshit dude. If that was somehow the case, somewhere along the fourth or fifth drink or sooner you should have stopped and said this isn't something I should be taking part in. You don't go getting hammered with your friend's wife or girlfriend for that matter.


She may be a cheating wife, but you're a douchebag friend. Play the only morally correct card you have left and tell your friend what happened. You will lose him as a friend, but it's better than being disgusted with yourself for the forseeable future knowing what's going on right under his nose.
Oct 22 2013 1:32PM
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howlongcanausern
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less talk more pics
Oct 22 2013 1:35PM
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Blurst
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felt that after reading the OP. Surprised people were giving real help right away actually.
Oct 22 2013 1:41PM
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DockEllis
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You've got to pay the troll toll
to get into the wife's hole
got to pay the troll toll to get in!
Oct 22 2013 1:43PM
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Huck_Norris
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I do lol... Or at least I used to all the time. When I lived downtown I used to go out to the strip clubs with my best friend's girl all the time since we worked together and each had what seemed like a million singles after our shifts serving tables. He literally felt 100% better that I was there with her and even told me so- hell, he's had other people ask him "Wait, you're cool with that???" to which he responded "I'm guessing you don't know Huck- she's probably safer with him than with me lol". We've gotten absolutely shitfaced together many times and nothing has ever happened aside from us making it rain on strippers and having fun and that's how it should be.


Don't blame it on the a-a-a-a-a-alcohol. Just make sure you have integrity and you should be good.


Oct 22 2013 1:43PM
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icon1234
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Pretty sure this is a troll, but I honestly like giving advice on fucked up situations...

If the couple in question was dating, I would say no question it is okay to be like: "tell him or I will," but when it comes to marriage? Fuck dude I don't really think you as a best friend should interfere. Like for example, if I found out my best friends wife (lol none of my friends are married yet) is cheating on him with someone else, I would honestly just keep my mouth closed even though it may be hard.


Oct 22 2013 1:46PM
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Blurst
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Yah my best friends girlfriend is one of my number one friends. Some of the loosest nights ive had recently have been with her and never would either of us consider hooking up. No matter how drunk/fucked up you get its pretty easy to use your head.
Oct 22 2013 1:48PM
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theBearJew
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but again, as said before. There is a difference between knowing shes cheating and being the one she fucked.
Oct 22 2013 1:50PM
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PaleCelery
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I dont know why you are making such a big deal out of this. Just let it ride man. Maybe fuck her again, I mean you already have once right? See if you're buddy wants to double team her when he gets back who knows.
Oct 22 2013 1:53PM
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lIllI
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Establish dominance by fucking her husband.
Oct 22 2013 2:47PM
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lineskier10
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by the way you describe it she seems pretty calm about the whole thing maybe they have an open relationship
Oct 22 2013 2:58PM
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Bodhisattva_
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This is excellent
Oct 22 2013 3:16PM
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JDA
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Get clap, shag wife, wife gets clap, husband finds out, kills wife, he will never know you slept with his wife
Oct 22 2013 3:19PM
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deleted5
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If you don't talk about it, it never happened.
Oct 22 2013 3:29PM
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djdillwill
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inb4 friend has a NS account, sees thread and kills OP
Oct 22 2013 3:35PM
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Kirsakid
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Well there are two ways this goes, one you to aren't best buds you don't tell him stay quiet and hope he never finds out but if he does, he eventually will, shit will hit the fan and he won't forgive you and you lost a friend.
The other way it can go is you are really good friends you tell him what happened and gets mad for a while but he will eventually come around and realize that bros before hoes.

If I was in your situation I would find out, get proof if needed, that the wife has slept with other guys go to your friend apologize for what you did but let him know his wife is a slut and you weren't the only one. He will be mad for sure but in a while he will look back and realize that you were not to blame for his divorce but instead his slut of an ex wife and if you guys are good friends he will forgive you.

tl;dr: man up apologize tell him his wife is a whore and help him drink his woes away.
Oct 22 2013 3:48PM
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Kirsakid
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Last thing DO NOT LET THE WIFE TELL HIM FIRST, she had no problem sleeping with other guys it sounds like and will only twist the story so you look at fault so she can continue living how she does, im guessing she lives well when hes gone and home. TELL HIM THE TRUTH don't twist it your self so you don't look at fault say what happened and beg for forgiveness. Also don't tell him if there are any weapons in reach.
Oct 22 2013 3:52PM
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PositiveSpin
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So, did you fix the cable?
Oct 22 2013 4:17PM
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seward
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sounds like youre an asshole OP.
Oct 22 2013 4:27PM
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Benson.
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Their marriage isn't going to overcome shit. It's a shitty, one-way marriage, she's been fucking multiple others while he's away serving his country. I don't want to make any assumptions, but I'm going to go out on a limb and say she probably doesn't love him very much if she's willing to do that. And no chick who's been married and is fucking multiple guys while her husband is away in the military is going to "mature" in any way whatsoever. Letting him know ensures that he won't be stuck in a terrible, unloving marriage for any longer amount of time. I'd want someone to tell me rather that my wife was a skank rather than let her continue to be unfaithful to me.
Oct 22 2013 4:49PM
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Guck
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You're an asshole. You blaming it on the alcohol is as pathetic as a teenage girl blaming alcohol for her whorish acts
Oct 22 2013 5:06PM
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earl.squirrelson
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You're a dick friend, who did a dick thing and all you care about is yourself... honestly, you say you're scared how he'd react or what would hapen to your friendship... it isn't about you. You fucked is wife, how about doing him a solid for once and coming clean. You've been selfish enough, think about him for once, what he decides to do about you and your friendship should be up to him. it's not the fucking truman show, be honest let him decide, it's not your choice to decide what would be best for him... what happens down the track when he finds out later on, has kids (might not be his) etc etc.

Oct 22 2013 7:18PM
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Ryan*
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Looks like we're getting awfully close to victim blaming / rape apology here, for no reason!

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Oct 22 2013 7:26PM
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Benson.
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Except that's not really what he was saying at all...
Oct 22 2013 7:48PM
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earl.squirrelson
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meanwhile the husband :

Oct 22 2013 7:57PM
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Spagett+
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Dick
Oct 22 2013 7:58PM
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Good_Deed
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Far from that, I wouldnt do that to him. I think she took advantage of me and that was her plan the whole time.
Oct 22 2013 8:27PM
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.travis.
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you should build a time machine and go back in time and not fuck your best friends wife you dickhead.
Oct 22 2013 8:45PM
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saskskier
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Except you did you it to him. You are just as much at fault as she is, whether she planned the whole thing or not.
Oct 22 2013 8:46PM
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Huck_Norris
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True. Only you can prevent forest fires, man...
Oct 22 2013 8:58PM
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Wallisch_pl
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You guys know it's a troll thread when the OP never posts in the thread again
Oct 22 2013 9:02PM
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earl.squirrelson
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But the thing is, you are a dick, you did do it.

let's say by chance it was her "plan all along" to marry your best friend to get close to you then infilltrate... you're still a dick. what is this magic drink she gave you which made you a douchebag, a vodka sunrise? grow up and own up.

orrrrrr, this is an epic troll

Oct 22 2013 9:04PM
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TACO-DOG.exe
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have sex with your friend so he doesn't feel left out.
Oct 22 2013 9:07PM
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theBearJew
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This is probably the best solution. Only question is pitcher or catcher..
Oct 22 2013 9:10PM
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TACO-DOG.exe
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if op wants to be fair he has to give his friend the same thing he gave to his friends wife.

sharing is caring y'know.
Oct 22 2013 9:21PM
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wasatch_rat
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Tell his wife that you are going to tell him unless she does, if she doesn't then you tell him. You will lose your friend for a while (maybe forever) and you do deserve it, but in the long run it is the best for everyone involved and the only right thing to do. And for the love of god, don't keep fucking her, even if they break up. The only way to start to make it right is to man up and take responsibility for your actions.
Oct 22 2013 9:26PM
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elinde
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I am the husband, I am on the plane home this very second to kill OP and my whore wife. YOU BETTER RUN OP
Oct 22 2013 9:49PM
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Culture+
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you're a mindless prick and a gun to the temple would solve the problem
Oct 22 2013 9:57PM
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snocompton
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da fuq would you know youre prolly still a virgin
Oct 22 2013 9:59PM
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Culture+
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its amazing how dumb people can be
Oct 22 2013 10:03PM
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Barefootin_Fiend
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great, you might have just gotten your friend killed. he's in a combat zone and his head is all fucked up by what's going on back home causing him to make a mistake and get killed. i hope the sex was worth it you piece of shit.


but really though, i don't believe you.
Oct 23 2013 2:07AM
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Skiingsnow
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c'mon dude, that's some pretty heavy Bro Code violation, he's already fucked up about as bad as you can, no point worsening the situation, she obviously gives 0 fucks
Oct 23 2013 2:42AM
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