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Where did I go wrong with this girl?

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Theskiingguy
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Okay NSers, back to your famous life skills help. This time about girls (pee in her butt)

So I like this girl, and have liked her since the beginning of the year. In the beginning, we get assigned seats and she sits in front of me, great! So we started talking more and more each day, and we were getting along quite well. We talked a lot each class, laughed and made jokes, all those fun things.

I asked for her number, (well she kind of gave it to me), and we made plans to go do this scavenger hunt together. She was totally up for it and excited, I was too, but something happened and I wasn't able to go. I was happy though that she was up for going with me and gave me her number so I took that as a good sign.


Weeks go on, we kept talking in class, things were going great. We would see each other in the halls and wave and say hi. She would be cheerleading and we would make eye contact a bunch and wave and smile at each other. Just overall happy vibes when we would see each other or do things. She even hinted at hanging out, so I made plans to ask her to do something the next week.

But then things leveled out a bit. Real life conversations were pretty similar to normal (maybe a bit less enthusiastic) however texting went down the gutter.

All of a sudden I was having to "fight" to get responses or things in text. I brushed it off as she just wasn't a big texter because our in person conversations were going great as normal. Slowly the personal conversations got worse as she would stop asking me questions/continuing the conversations and leave it at a stand still sometimes.


When I asked her to do something with me just days after her hinting at hanging out she said "I'll check and get back to you". Waited for Friday, shot her a text, and she said she was busy. So I brushed it off, thinking she was actually just busy, and said let me know if she had an hour free that weekend which said replied "Will do!"

Called her up on Sunday asking her if she could help me with something for an hour to which she never responded back... So obviously she doesn't want to hang out now after wanting to hang out before.

I came into class today, and now she will barely look at me or say anything.

To you NSers, where did I go wrong? What did I do to make her stop everything we had before?
I know I'll get 99% non serious replies but hopefully someone in that other 1% can help.
Thank you! and of course +K to serious answers :)
Oct 14 2013 8:28PM
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deleted5
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Stoped there, if you're ever hitting on a girl in class, you need to make the move on the first day, or you waited too long.
Oct 14 2013 8:30PM
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YoungJ
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Its columbus day.. why were you in school
Oct 14 2013 8:31PM
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RusselCrowe
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maybe she found out your dick is small
Oct 14 2013 8:32PM
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Way*Mo
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You went wrong by waiting what sounds like months to hang out with her. People get bored of idle small-talk. You became a nuisance and she lost interest.
Oct 14 2013 8:32PM
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TechnoPotamus
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honestly, you're trying too hard, and she may just flat out not be interested anymore.


but, your best course of action is going to be to stop trying to hang out with her and talk to her so much. Assuming you're in HS (I did read, but maybe I missed it) anyway assuming you are, just stop trying to talk to her at all...for whatever idiotic reason, girls that age often times won't want to be ignored and once you stop giving her attention she may turn around and reach out to you again.


but truthfully, it seems like she just lost interest. no big deal. plenty of fish in the sea, i would just forget about it and move on
Oct 14 2013 8:32PM
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erikK
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https://www.newschoolers.com/ns/cult/forum/cat_id/2578/
Oct 14 2013 8:33PM
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deleted5
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ok i actually read the whole thing, you Never talk over text unless its for a date, girls get bored, and will drop you for someone new, which is what happened. you get the number and be aggressive to have a date, then either escalate it, or leave it after the date. learn from this don't have 4 hours text convos with a girl ever again good luck and peace be with you.
Oct 14 2013 8:34PM
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Spagett+
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OP's text asking for help: "hey can you come check my prostate out? it will only take 20 minutes."
Oct 14 2013 8:34PM
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Theskiingguy
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Alright, yeah that's what I was afraid of. Usually I'm one of those stupid people who wait, but this time I said screw it and was trying for her number/to hang with her within the first week (which for me was early) but I guess not.
Thanks
Oct 14 2013 8:36PM
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deleted5
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Well you got one hail marry left, you talked loudly or slip something about a date with another girl so she hears it. Then when she tries talking to you or says hi kinda half smile nod then walk away, like you have somewhere to be. You have to give her the minimal attention, but not completely 100% ignore her. I've had a little under a 50% success rate with this.
Oct 14 2013 8:43PM
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Theskiingguy
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Craapp, I did try to have some conversations over text. All we've had in this class is presentations so theres only a few minutes in between power points to make small talk which is why I texted her to hopefully cary on some of the conversations we were having. I'll definitely stop texting girls now.
What's the rule on calling though?

What sucks even more is we just got new assigned seats for tomorrow and we're not sitting next to each other anymore. So now more aimed at your first reply, should I still say hi to her in the halls and passing time? And do you have any other tips to try and "win her back" especially now that I'm not sitting next to her anymore? I don't want to completely fade away in her mind but I don't want to have that "desperate" feel anymore.

Thanks man, you're really a big help!! I appreciate it! :)
Oct 14 2013 8:50PM
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Theskiingguy
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Shit, that second part wasn't to you... other guy haha sorry.
Oct 14 2013 8:51PM
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Theskiingguy
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Yeah, that's what I was afraid of. What sucks even more is we just got new assigned seats for tomorrow and we're not sitting next to each other anymore. Should I still say hi to her in the halls and passing time?
And do you have any other tips to try and "win her back" especially now that I'm not sitting next to her anymore? I don't want to completely fade away in her mind but I don't want to have that "desperate" feel anymore.
Thanks man :) I appreciate it!
Oct 14 2013 8:53PM
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Theskiingguy
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^^^Sorry guys for like the quad post by me...

Alright, something that will make her think I'm not longer interested, this will be tricky for sure... Should I say hi at all if I see her in the hall? I often walk into my 5th period class and see her (she has 4th in the same class so she's packing up) so it will be pretty obvious that I see her.

How do I know that I should stop the act and try and "reconnect" with her?

Oct 14 2013 8:58PM
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FigNewton
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lots of schools have school on Columbus day
Oct 14 2013 8:59PM
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.Hugo.
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Based on your responses in this thread I'm gonna call troll on this one
Oct 14 2013 9:01PM
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deleted5
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it's a fine line you have to walk, believe it or not woman are really easy to manipulate. (and before girls cry out in anger men are even easier to manipulate just run your tits in our face, and we'll give you anything.) the key is you have to make her put in some effort, have her invest some time into you, have her try to be the one to approach you, have her start a conversation. don't be some guy she's texting, you could always try a little insult to make her prove herself to you. in a convo say something like wow are you always this demanding or playfully make fun of her. your cloth choice is very.........interesting "interesting in what way?" sorry i have to go i'll see you around. But being that i don't know you, or the girl, or even the age i can't hold your hand through this one sorry buddy.
Oct 14 2013 9:03PM
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Spagett+
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I put the MAN in Manipulate.
Oct 14 2013 9:04PM
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Theskiingguy
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Alright, yeah I see what you're saying. This has happened a lot in the past so I'm just tired of it and don't want to have to go through "another girl" try and figure out what I'm doing. Good idea with the light insult to catch her off guard, I'll try that and things similar to get her working the conversation.
Keeping my fingers crossed on this one, I'll see what I can do and let you know in a few weeks time if anything works out.
I really appreciate your help man!! Thanks for your time and hopefully I'll be able to pull this off :)

Oct 14 2013 9:11PM
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Davin
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yeah as said before when you first meet a girl you are interested in, be upfront. dont sit back and text... weve all done it and it takes a couple times to know "the game." i was never successful in the school setting in picking up chicks but at a party or through mutual friends you just have to do it fast. let her know youre interested and if you do get them digits make sure to ask her out fast. just remember if you dont get this girl theres still more out there. its happened to the best of us but you have to learn from it. as of now I would just do as said and back off and see if she is still interested.
Oct 14 2013 9:26PM
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humpty
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If she's hot and bangable I'd still try but if she's not then leave. But this happened to me when your supposed to hang but you can't and she gets pissed and all that. But try smoking her up if she's the type. Just keep trying, maybe its not you maybe she has something else going on. good luck man
Oct 14 2013 9:32PM
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Tinga
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wow this thread is going pretty well.

I will concur with the rest of these posts. looks like you took too long and I would say the best way to pursue would be to move on. either you will get over the situation or she will become interested again.
Oct 14 2013 9:35PM
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SteezyMagee
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Oct 14 2013 9:42PM
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.MASSHOLE.
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Im in a similar position, except the fact the girl never responds to texts, but when I see her on weekends shes all over me.

So, just let her go is my advice. If she wants you shell come to you
Oct 14 2013 9:42PM
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SteezyMagee
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Oct 14 2013 9:46PM
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Willgum
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Yep basically this, sorry brother live and learn
Oct 14 2013 9:52PM
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PsychedelicMoose
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maybe shes on her period aye.
Oct 14 2013 9:54PM
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Skiingsnow
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fuck this was depressing to read, i so happy im not in school anymore lol

op ask her to blow you and she what she says, but treat the question as if u were asking to borrow her pen or some shit, make it casual
Oct 14 2013 10:00PM
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Andyktm
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didnt read the replies so idk if this was said or not but you definitely waited to long and didnt pull the trigger. you where the beta bitch the whole time and relied to much on everything being perfect before actually doing anything about it. so next time as soon as you get a positive response take the risk and actually do something about it instead of waiting as long as you did
Oct 14 2013 10:05PM
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Zimmerman
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You just weren't quick enough.
Oct 14 2013 10:11PM
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Chubbs.
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Ask her what's wrong.. why not put her on the spot.

either she answers you and you fix what's wrong

or she keeps hiding it.. in which case you stop talking to her
Oct 14 2013 10:11PM
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Andyktm
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sorry for double post but after reading this i completely agree with all your replies but you have to realize everything what your saying here works for certain people. it might work for you but doesn't nesecarily work for other people. it all depends on his attitude/ personality and how he is view by other people. his wheels cant be based on being alpha and get her to put in the work to be with him if hes not an alpha type of person.
Oct 14 2013 10:11PM
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taylornicky
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she either likes another guy, or you got annoying to her.
she's obviously not worth it if she isn't willing to put effort into the situation.
Oct 14 2013 10:25PM
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Rachy
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This is the only decent response. Girls don't just stop flirting. There is a reason. A friend may have told her that they like you, some one may have told her a rumor, she may have seen you with someone else and thought you were into someone else... Don't play games. Just ask her.
Oct 14 2013 10:37PM
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deleted5
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This is a god awful response, TALK TO ME WHY AREN'T you paying attention to me. desperate much? and i promise you it wont work.
Oct 14 2013 10:41PM
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MEDSKI.XXX
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fuck, I'm in an almost identical situation, so this thread will hopefully help a lot. But I totally know how you feel, it just sucks so much to be so close to having a girl you really like and then she just loses interest, like what the fuck happened? But good luck man!
Oct 14 2013 10:54PM
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cannaguts666
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Some women like when you confront them on shit like that. Puts them on the spot and makes them think, which they hardly ever do.
Oct 14 2013 10:56PM
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Aidan-G
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It was probably when you jumped on her desk with your erect penis displayed proudly and in an act of male dominance started jizzing in a circle around her while screaming "I claim thee." That's where you went wrong*



*Disclaimer: I did not read at all so my answer may not be entirely factual
Oct 14 2013 10:59PM
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Cannaburner
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OP here is your problem. You care to much. If the girl is responding like that then fuck it and move on. It's not worth your time. I've done that to myself enough. Have patience and other bitches will come, if she wants to hang out she will txt you. let it die out, if she wanted to hang out with you, she would have done something about it by now. You asked and were answered, it sucks to accept it, but leave it at that and move on before you go crazy.
Oct 14 2013 11:02PM
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Spiri7o
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Pressure is so on
Oct 14 2013 11:07PM
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deleted5
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ok here's my d-bagness coming out, I know what I'm talking about when it comes to girls, have done this 100's of times. Any NSer on her who has actually partied or hung out with me can vouch for me, I know what I'm talking about when it comes to thi. Some nsers have seen me hook up with 5+ girls in one night at UVM, and I've hooked up with models college cheerleaders dance team members and gymnast, and I would say I'm a super 10/10 attractive looking guy. I know how to do this because over the year i have tried many different things and i know what does and doesn't work because I've done it. I promise you 100% of the time if you go up to a girl and say we never talk any more WTF. you will come off as desperate and awkward and girls can smell that from a mile away. There is no bigger turn off and 100% of time you will kill any shot of getting the date.
Oct 14 2013 11:08PM
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deleted5
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SHIT wouldn't
Oct 14 2013 11:10PM
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Aidan-G
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Don't forget the pornstar
Oct 14 2013 11:10PM
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deleted5
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She did two pron videos, and one of them was girls gone wild so technically one. Doing one video does not make you a porn star, she couldn't stress that enough.

the more you know
Oct 14 2013 11:13PM
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bigbromskier
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Just remember you aren't gonna marry the girl-don't think ahead too far, as far as you know shes just a friend. Then be all.old fashioned.about it-only call her if you wanna talk to her.and only call back if she texts you. Texting all the time is like being with her all the time..let the suspense build and shell be more psyched to see you when youre together..acting like you have more to do with your time than only worrying.about her helps your cause.
Then, now that you're all down n out, go up and ask her what the deal is. Put her on the spot and have a real conversation. Seriously phones aren't helping this flirtation period..if anything do it all.face to face like back in grease n happy days.haha. remember when guys had to actually talk to.the girls dad.on the phone before hed let her.even talk to you?
Oct 14 2013 11:16PM
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Aidan-G
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Is your period button stuck?
Oct 14 2013 11:17PM
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kebbek
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Be more interesting!
Wear gold!
Oct 14 2013 11:22PM
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ski4fun420
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I think you lost your chance when you missed the scavenger hunt for some reason you did not explain to NS. What reason did you tell her?
Weeks went by then you said she hinted at hanging out??
Weeks..... ? You took way too long after missing the scavenger hunt. No worries, as already stated here plenty more down the road in life... Plenty.
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