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jcc03skis
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I swear to god this shit is killing me. I've started dating this new girl, and we seemed to hit it off pretty well. But here's the thing, I'm so fucking worried about screwing it up I get really anxious. It's not super bad, because once I hang-out with her I have no problem making out or snuggling, but once it comes to eating something I have no appetite. This has been on for the last three days, and even when I try to eat I vomit. Like today, I just tried to eat a donut for breakfast took one bite and I vomitted everywhere.

It's getting to the point where this is unhealthy and I need to eat something, so I thought I'd ask some of you.
Aug 12 2013 11:31AM
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HamFaceGirl
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Just stop being a bitch and caring so much
Aug 12 2013 11:33AM
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steezy69
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dump her. sounds like you caught her cooties sooner than expected
Aug 12 2013 11:45AM
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Miomo
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Tell her
Aug 12 2013 12:33PM
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Phil-X-
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She'll pick up on it if you keep acting anxious, especially around her. I'd recommend taking a few shots before you hang out or talk with her. Best way to be in a relationship, its worked for my dad over 30 years.
Aug 12 2013 12:36PM
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dmski
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Since it hasn't been said, pee in her butt. but on a serious note, go exercise. That releases a lot of the built up anxiety. dont get me wrong, making out is great and all, but go do stuff together if you haven't already. go for a hike or take her out for a drink or something.
Aug 12 2013 12:43PM
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jcc03skis
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Oh we have, I've been teaching her how to skateboard and we went on a double date to were the Miller's. It's not like we're just making out all day long. I've been hanging out with her for the last 3 days.
Aug 12 2013 12:53PM
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GayWolf420
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Go get some food then.
Aug 12 2013 12:57PM
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CaptainObvious.
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You need to figure out what the nerves are actually from. If you've made out with her and hung out multiple times, odds are that it's not just about her. What are you afraid of? And if it IS something about her that gets you anxious, talk to her about it. You get that shit off your chest and you'll feel 100% better.
Aug 12 2013 12:59PM
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.MASSHOLE.
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A few drinks to calm the nerve never killed anyone.

Or a joint.

But to the OP, just relax about it. Shes into you, youre into her, let it flow naturally. Its been 3 days...
Aug 12 2013 1:02PM
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dmski
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ya never know! kids these days...
Aug 12 2013 1:13PM
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Stose
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Probably the best thing to do is pretend to be confident, because then you will hopefully be able to see you don't need to be anxious and you'll gain some real confidence
Aug 12 2013 1:15PM
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fortyvalve
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only thing is time, but isn't it funny how relationships can cause that much of a change in us? i lost/gained 17 lbs over the course of an extremely stressful relationship. so i feel you on the anxiety, but honestly the more time you spend with her the less anxiety you'll have and it will turn into a calming effect she has on you instead of anxiety.
Aug 12 2013 1:16PM
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DrunkRandy
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See the doc?
Aug 12 2013 1:24PM
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KimJong-Illest
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I'd just say talk to her about it or just get yourself together and convince yourself that you have confidence so that you will gain some. Just let it come naturally.
Aug 12 2013 2:39PM
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Bogs
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yep. the problem should go away on it's own once you get used to the feeling
Aug 12 2013 4:50PM
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Kazabazua
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You should be with someone you can be yourself around without worrying about 'screwing something up'. It happened to me a few years ago, break up with her.
Aug 12 2013 10:21PM
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JWoods
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I think you have thee flu, or AIDS not sure yet
Aug 12 2013 10:23PM
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whoa-dere
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golden advice. stop caring so much. telling her works too
Aug 12 2013 10:26PM
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annajeans
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puke around her and make sure she holds your hair back and tells you you're beautiful.
that's how you'll know she's the one.
Aug 12 2013 10:31PM
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*SID*
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There's something called "ipecac" it makes you really hungry for some reason. You take a bottle of ipecac and it makes you hungry as well as prevents you from puking.
Aug 12 2013 10:43PM
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paige.
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Truth. Before we were dating I projectile vomited all over my now bf. Instead of being upset he walked me home so I could get changed then we went back to the bar and he bought me the beer he had been trying to get me when I initially puked.
No question in my mind after that incident.
Aug 13 2013 1:26AM
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B.Aussie
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When I broke up with my boyfriend I had this for three weeks. I can't really offer you any help just sympathy.
Aug 13 2013 9:35AM
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pat_in_the_hat
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just do what i always end up doing. get really drunk and tell everyone how you feel about them. It never really ends up good, but it gets the truth out there.
Aug 13 2013 9:37AM
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triss
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Make a 2 girls 1 cup video wit all that throw up
Aug 13 2013 9:39AM
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StowePassHolder
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This is so weird, but I'm literally going through the same thing right now. Been getting with this girl but for some reason I am so nervous about the situation. (Just met her this month and we go to different schools in two weeks). Just like you I've had zero appetite the past week. Good luck OP, but know your not alone
Aug 13 2013 9:48AM
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northeast
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for everybody in this situation: stop worrying. if you're in a relationship with her, she already likes you. you don't need to worry about impressing her. that doesn't mean become distant and uncaring, but you don't need to spend ten minutes thinking about every sentence that comes out of your mouth.
Aug 13 2013 12:18PM
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SmotSmoke
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Burn on the herbs and see how that affect you if its out of control, and smoke in healthy portions. Also try and take a few breaths and relax when this stuff happens. Be yourself man, she likes you.
Aug 13 2013 12:40PM
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KennyD
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I have anxiety too so I have experienced everything you have (not vomiting though, that sucks). I recommend trying to get a prescription for Alprazolam (or another benzodiazepine) from your doctor. Taking a dose right before a date could possibly solve the problem, or at least lessen the axiety enough to not vomit. I also recommend taking a daily regiment of vitamins consisting of: Vitamin D3, Acidophilus, Inositol, and Salmon Oil. These help regulate the chemical responses in your body which helps with anxiety, along with increasing general health.

Good luck to you OP, I hope you don't have to lose the girl just because of anxiety
Aug 13 2013 1:49PM
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daannnnieel
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I think you're just sick. I've had horrible anxiety for most of my short past, and i've never had issues like that. Go to a doctor.
Aug 13 2013 5:06PM
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Pancake_Fucker
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Did not read but op you probably have the aids.
Aug 13 2013 6:20PM
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louie.mirags
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I had the same dilemma when I started dating this girl I have been with now for over a year. It is just nerves. The puking part sucks but that happens to me whenever Kimi get nervous.. only advice I can give is to just let it ride. You will get over it with time. Be aware of where the nervousness stems from and become all right with it. You have her no more need to worry!
Aug 13 2013 8:45PM
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Calb3rt
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3(shots per day)x 365(days)x 30(years) = 32,850 shots
Aug 14 2013 12:58AM
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Kazabazua
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Don't rely on perscription drugs, it's all in your fuckin head. Go talk to a shrink.
Aug 14 2013 7:31AM
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