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Question for women concerning past sex partners

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StickDonkey
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What do most women consider an acceptable number of sexual partners for a potential boyfriend/husband?
Jul 17 2013 2:16AM
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StickDonkey
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I can't have sex sober and last longer than 5 minutes. No shame in it bro.
P.S. what are condoms?
Jul 17 2013 9:49PM
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Black.Bird
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and you had to make a thread about it. It sucks
Jul 17 2013 9:49PM
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Dingo69
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U mad bra?
Jul 17 2013 10:06PM
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Dingo69
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Drunk sex is better?
Jul 17 2013 10:08PM
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Barefootin_Fiend
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drunk? yes. wasted? no. beware the whiskey dick.
Jul 17 2013 10:37PM
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Black.Bird
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No, it's just that you make the worst threads..
Jul 17 2013 11:59PM
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louie.mirags
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Not true. The consensus is that crazy girls have the best sex. Yet, after the sex they go back to being physco and another battle royal begins.
Jul 18 2013 12:13AM
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Barefootin_Fiend
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FACT!
Jul 18 2013 12:26AM
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saskskier
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I agree, but if you are in it for the long haul (marriage), shouldn't that be an aspect of your relationship you work on, just like every other part of a relationship?

I'm waiting until marriage. Almost all of my friends waited until they got married. None have regretted it.

If I'm terrible (which I probably will be) when I get married, well, there's only one way to get better...
Jul 18 2013 12:29AM
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last_tango
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Don't lie to your partner. If they can't handle the truth they are not worth your time.
Jul 18 2013 12:38AM
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LiquorLanch
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If she's 19 and has fucked 25 dudes...it can be quite a turn off...just saying

It can say a lot about a person..
Jul 18 2013 2:04AM
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StickDonkey
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If she is 19 and has fucked 25 dudes, there is no way she has the capability of being faithful. The way girls are brought up these days with whats on TV and listening to the radio has pretty much screwed us guys unless you are willing to just accept that your girl is gonna cheat. Being unfaithful is sociably acceptable now, just look at how many movies they've mad about it as comedies when in real life is one of the most devastating things a person can go through. (especially when you catch her in the shower with her ex after you got engaged) Faithful girlfriends/wives are 1 in a million these days.
Jul 18 2013 2:08AM
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SamtheEagle
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I think its way way way way more glamorized for men to cheat than women... player is a good thing slut is a bad thing.
Jul 18 2013 2:10AM
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--ski--
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Jul 18 2013 2:16AM
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EllieMae
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I know a whole lot of guys who cheat, i have only met one girl who cheated, but she was a self centered bitch. The guys told me they loved their girlfriends but still ended up cheating on them anyways. Also a few of my friends boyfriends have cheated them... the one girl i met who cheated, felt bad and told her boyfriend, her boyfriend did it too though.
Jul 18 2013 2:17AM
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snowdon
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What are your reasons for waiting, if you don't mind me asking? I don't believe in waiting, and none of my friends do either (but I'm in my mid 20's if that matters). I'm not saying go whore yourself around, I just think it's very important to really know who you're marrying before you actually get married which includes having sex and living together. But to each his own, and I'm not trying to argue with you or anything, just interested since obviously your beliefs and opinions are different than mine.
Jul 18 2013 2:23AM
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StickDonkey
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It's cool to be a player or a slut as long as you are not in a committed relationship. I've slept with 100+ girls but I was in a 4 year relationship with my ex wife and never cheated. She, on the other hand, had only slept with one guy when we got together. How's that for irony? I feel like maybe she was sleeping around on me because I got to sleep with a lot of people and have fun when she hadn't gotten to. She was 18 when we met and I was 23. I let her do everything she wanted like going on spring break with her friends or vacationing with her college bball teammates in Australia and was the opposite of controlling or jealous just becasue I believed she would remain faithful. Turns out I was WRONG! I have a huge heart but I will never trust anybody like that again.
Jul 18 2013 2:24AM
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SamtheEagle
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That's rough man and shit happens way too often like that but you have to open up to people and realize just because someone hurt you doesn't mean you won't find someone who you can trust and open up to again. Best of luck to you.
Jul 18 2013 2:34AM
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StickDonkey
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Hey thanks a lot man. It's kind of surprising to get such a positive response on my post on NS.
Jul 18 2013 2:39AM
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SamtheEagle
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Shits rare and I am an asshole plenty on this site but when I see someone who has actually had a rough time then you gotta be there for a fellow shredder.
Jul 18 2013 2:44AM
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jaredmdub
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my number is low, but i havent been asked what it is until AFTER i've been with someone. for some reason, they're always in shock. good thing?
Jul 18 2013 3:54AM
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louie.mirags
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I'm just going to put out the obvious: the number of your partner's sex partners does not matter if you are yourself. If you are not confident in yourself, then, you are not ready for a relationship. Although this advice is out there, you must learn for yourself...
Jul 18 2013 4:05AM
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louie.mirags
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I'm just going to put out the obvious: the number of your partner's sex partners does not matter if you are yourself. If you are not confident in yourself, then, you are not ready for a relationship. Although this advice is out there, you must learn for yourself...
Jul 18 2013 4:06AM
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louie.mirags
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I'm just going to put out the obvious: the number of your partner's sex partners does not matter if you are yourself. If you are not confident in yourself, then, you are not ready for a relationship. Although this advice is out there, you must learn for yourself...
Jul 18 2013 4:07AM
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louie.mirags
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Damn embarrassing I know.. phone lagged out
Jul 18 2013 4:10AM
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StickDonkey
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Jul 18 2013 4:47AM
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snwbrdmilf
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...or a lot of judgement.

People change. People grow up. Just bc someone fucked a lot during their prime years doesn't give you permission to set facts about their future. If they came out clean and not a parent then they did alright ya know? Being judgmental is a turn off.
Jul 18 2013 8:31AM
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snwbrdmilf
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And with this kind of attitude you're never going to end up in a happy relationship. You're always going to be paranoid. You're never going to fully trust a lady for fear of her cheating on you. I feel bad for you.
Jul 18 2013 8:33AM
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skiierman
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Well, I'm fucked...

better go find myself a pretty, little girl.
Jul 18 2013 8:45AM
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Sno.
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I wouldn't ask.
Jul 18 2013 11:23AM
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saskskier
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Part of the reason is because I'm a conservative Christian (aka religious nut on NS), as is my girlfriend.

A bigger part of the reason is my sexuality is deeply personal. I want to be able to say to my wife that it's something I've never shared with anyone else. I want her to know she is important enough that she will be the only one who ever knows that part of me.

I agree that it's important to know the person you are marrying, but I think that foundation needs to be so much deeper than the physical aspect of it (not saying that's what you are implying). If you have similar beliefs/values, have open and honest communication and are truly committed to being together I don't believe you need to live together before getting married. To each their own though. For reference, I'm 28, not some idealistic 15 year old who doesn't know how life outside of high school works.
Jul 18 2013 11:34AM
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yelsel
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28 year old virgin eh? interesting....
Jul 18 2013 11:47AM
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Huck_Norris
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Holy shit man.

Mind = blown.

Kudos to you, but I cannot wrap my brain around that overall concept.

Jul 18 2013 11:58AM
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7springsprod
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Jul 18 2013 12:00PM
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Clameltoe
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I believe sex is very sacred and should be shared with people you care about if you treat sex like its nothing it will soon become nothing and you will lose respect for your self and others.
Jul 19 2013 2:16AM
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louie.mirags
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Why would having it a lot make it become nothing? If that were the case would old men take pills after a life of sex to keep having more? After you drain your balls and they fill up the urge is equally the same to have sex again. Don't believe the egotistical Christian bullshit you were taught imo
Jul 19 2013 7:23AM
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LiquorLanch
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Dude, just because he chose a set of beliefs different than yours doesn't give you a right to be an ass. Not everyone is about banging endless hoes and butterfaced sluts. Some prefer quality over quantity.
Jul 19 2013 7:45AM
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louie.mirags
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Sincd when is stating opinion make me an ass? I added opposite points. It's ok to disagree. It's a forum. You are just assuming it was negative... it's a discussion.
Jul 19 2013 7:52AM
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corona
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this saying applies: If a lock is opened by many keys, it's a shitty lock. but if a key opens many locks, it's a master key.
Jul 19 2013 8:00AM
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skiierman
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You're a brainwashed moron and the sad part is that people like you are a dime-a-dozen in Utah. There's a massive difference between dating someone and living with them (which religion keeps their sheep ignorant on) and yet you think that without knowing someone's living habits, it's a GOOD idea to get married to them, a.k.a. spending the REST OF YOUR LIFE with them.

The same goes for sex and yet you're just as brainwashed about that. "Oh I think a relationship needs to be deeeeper than the sex, man..." NO FUCKING SHIT. EVERYONE EXCEPT FOR 12-YEAR-OLDS AND EVERY STUDENT AT BYU KNOWS THIS.

But hey, guess what?! Sex is still a very important part of ANY relationship, including your family. To denounce sex as just a physical attraction and blowing your nut to produce children just shows the extent of how immature and uninformed religious freaks like you are.

There's a reason that the divorce rates among "devout" Christians is almost 50%... and that doesn't take into account all the couples that stay together for the sake of how their church will judge them. Look at Utah, there's a reason why it's the highest in the nation for prescription drug abuse among married adults.
Jul 19 2013 9:19AM
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Jane6
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I dont care if anyone have had loads of sex partners before me, I dont think I have the right to judge anyone of how they live or lived before I met them. If anything they will probably have loads of hilarious and awkward stories to share about it.

But yeah, if I was super into a dude I would most likely not want to know anything about the people he had been fucking. A number is just a number, which I'd be fine with, but I cant say I would be interested in knowing ALL the details. Dont think I'd be weirded out by the fact that hes been with loads of girls before, it would probably be more weird if he was completely inexperienced.
Jul 19 2013 10:08AM
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Kazabazua
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All women are crazy.
Jul 19 2013 10:19AM
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saskskier
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And yet for some reason the vast majority of couples I know waited until they were married before moving in together and somehow they are still together (all age ranges, not just 20-30 year olds) and happy.

At no point did I say sex was just a physical attraction and only for pro-creation. I said it was important and something I only want to share with my wife. I also said I didn't think sex was foundational. That doesn't mean it's not important, I just don't think it's THE most important aspect of a relationship.

I don't care what you do with your sex life. I'm not here to convert anyone. Some asked what my reasons were for waiting, so I explained.
Jul 19 2013 10:41AM
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Pipe_Munky
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ARGEED!!

you know what? i really don't want to know how many guys my gf has been with. the only thing i care about is that she's clean (she is) and doesn't have kids (she doesn't). that's all you should really be concerned about.

she hasn't asked me and to be honest, i don't want to tell her because it doesn't matter. the only thing i was asked "was why did my past relationships fail?" and that's really the only thing that needs to be discussed.

as long as the two of you are clean and disease free, it doesn't matter. all it is, is a number.
Jul 19 2013 11:35AM
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yelsel
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hahaha yup, we discussed the same thing too. the number is not relevant and frankly, i have no idea what mine is and am somewhat afraid to even make that list.
Jul 19 2013 12:02PM
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skiierman
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You're a virgin and a religious sheep. Your opinions are not valid. NERD! FREAK! SPAS!
Jul 19 2013 12:13PM
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saskskier
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Meh. I'm comfortable with who I am, the things i I believe, and way I choose to live my life.
Jul 19 2013 12:21PM
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skiierman
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So... how's sitting down after that stint as an alter boy?
Jul 19 2013 12:29PM
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forrest-cole
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I feel the same, if i find a chick that is completely inexperienced I'd find that more weird then a girl who kills it in bed.
Jul 19 2013 12:32PM
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saskskier
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Christian =/= Catholic

While I appreciate the broad, sweeping generalizations and insults, I don't get why is this a big deal to you. I don't care. You don't agree with me? Awesome.
Jul 19 2013 12:41PM
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