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How many of you have cheated?

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BoogieWoman
Posts: 408 - Karma: 664
Last night I was out with a group of guy friends and turns out that at some point in their lives every one of them has cheated on their girlfriends. And all of them said they'd do it again but not because they didn't love their girlfriends, just because they knew they could and she wouldn't find out.

Now I didn't think I'd ever been cheated on but this leads me to believe different.

I've cheated once, on my HS boyfriend with a dude I ended up living with for 3 years but other than that, I've always been faithful.

How many of you have cheated on your current or previous girlfriends/boyfriends?
Jun 14 2013 4:33AM
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no_steeze
Posts: 23992 - Karma: 4,273
if my girlfriend cheated on me as a backlash for not liking something my friends did i would literally kill her and bury her in her own front yard
Jun 14 2013 11:56PM
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.Apex.
Posts: 2097 - Karma: 1,556
Never cheated, but not cause I'm a good person just cause I always assumed they'd find out.
Jun 14 2013 11:58PM
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coolkidz
Posts: 5 - Karma: 9
I don't think cheaters change.  And people that continue to go back to people that have cheated on them are almost as stupid as the cheaters themselves...just asking for trouble.
Jun 15 2013 12:03AM
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nakedfun
Posts: 291 - Karma: 1,263
his friends told him he should just fuck me and dump me. he wasn't sure what to do and didn't want to talk to me so he ignored me for a 5 days.
Jun 15 2013 12:05AM
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LiquorLanch
Posts: 1909 - Karma: 1,046
oh poor baby nobody wants to hit your floppy clambox
Jun 15 2013 12:34AM
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NinetyFour
Posts: 8650 - Karma: 13,411
Pure gold right here.
Jun 15 2013 1:41AM
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BoogieWoman
Posts: 408 - Karma: 664
Lol. I didn't act all 'OMG' and didn't try to justify it. I just stated facts and was curious if 'everyone was at it' as it seems rife. I notice you didn't answer so I'll assume you've never cheated, congratulations. I guess it's probably because you're unable to find even one girl who's interested in you, never mind two.
Jun 15 2013 3:02AM
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saskskier
Posts: 4774 - Karma: 10,005
So you're basing your assumptions on whether or not girls have been interested in him based on how he acts on NS?

There is no reasonable justification for cheating on someone. If you've done it, you're a dick. Either a)you've learned from it, changed and won't do it again or b)you try to justify it, thus confirming your dickishness

I haven't, nor will I ever cheat on someone.
Jun 15 2013 3:20AM
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MilaKunis
Posts: 1480 - Karma: 3,646
Sex
Jun 15 2013 3:43AM
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B.Aussie
Posts: 5852 - Karma: 4,531
A guy kissed me once, does that count as cheating?

Apart from that I would never cheat. I don't understand cheating... If you're not satisfied with the person you're dating why stay in the relationship?
Jun 15 2013 3:55AM
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cbj
Posts: 2114 - Karma: 1,136
I got cheated on once and for the first time in my life I hated someone. It's not a nice feeling, I don't want anyone to have to go through that as a result of me so I refuse to cheat no matter the circumstances. It really isn't that hard not to either...
Jun 15 2013 4:21AM
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louie.mirags
Posts: 6015 - Karma: 5,027
Uhh you called her out first and then say don't act butt hurt LOL obviously el gato has been on the wrong side of an uncommitted relationship
Jun 15 2013 7:56AM
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shocker611
Posts: 2599 - Karma: 423
this right here. Also, seeing it in some of the people around me makes it even more unatractive to me. One of my good friends was dating a guy for 5 years who was 3 years older than her, who I had always had bad feelings about as he was always a dick to people. I started dating a girl a couple years older than us from a completely different town who barely knew anyone from our town. When we started talking about people we knew she mentioned the boyfriend and asked if I knew him. Turns out the guy had tried taking her, her sister, and her younger cousin (4 years younger than him and still in hs) home at different times. Through the whole thing she continued defending the guy even though everyone knew that he had and was actively trying to cheat on her. The whole thing was just disgusting that she would have so much faith in him and continue putting so much into the relationship, while he was just going around trying to get his dick wet.

So in the end, no I haven't, and will never cheat. Always just break up with the person if I start having feelings for someone else and know the person I'm with isn't the right person. Generally when it gets to that point both people are on the same boat and realize the relationship isn't right.
Jun 15 2013 10:05AM
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tripnip
Posts: 1882 - Karma: 482
I have been cheated on and I know how it feels so no. And suprising number of people will do it if they know they won't get caught
Jun 15 2013 10:38AM
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no_steeze
Posts: 23992 - Karma: 4,273
i made it through freshman year of college with a long distance girlfriend by healthy doses of masturbation to cure any urges coupled with getting so sloppily drunk that i was disgusting to women and i completely ignored them.

it's a foolproof way to not cheat as long as the desire to stay with your girlfriend is embedded in your subconscious. getting drunk only removes your inhibitions and gets rid of your ability to convince yourself that you want to stay faithful if it's something that you're actually questioning
Jun 15 2013 11:19AM
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DIX~
Posts: 4695 - Karma: 6,502
Yep. When I'm gooned and a chick starts hitting on me I basically tell them to fuck off and that my girlfriend is 10 times hotter than them (definitely not true) and just be a general idiot. When I'm sober or a bit buzzed I try to just act uninterested, and never tell them I have a girlfriend cause I feel like I'm being a dick if I do. Doesn't always work
Jun 15 2013 12:56PM
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Byron_tha_gr8
Posts: 4573 - Karma: 14,299
My girlfriend used to really believe this, and all her friends would agree with her. Then i made her watch porn when i was away for a month, and now she gets off to it all the time. I obviously call her out on cheating on me every time she lets it slip that she watched some solid interracial bone vids.
Jun 15 2013 1:01PM
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DIX~
Posts: 4695 - Karma: 6,502
I literally couldn't be with a chick that watched interracial porn

>tfw small dick
>tfw you'll never satisfy her
>tfw she leaves you for bbc
Jun 15 2013 1:08PM
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Byron_tha_gr8
Posts: 4573 - Karma: 14,299
Im black.
Jun 15 2013 1:10PM
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DIX~
Posts: 4695 - Karma: 6,502
jelly
Jun 15 2013 1:17PM
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Byron_tha_gr8
Posts: 4573 - Karma: 14,299
your girl says hi
Jun 15 2013 1:29PM
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skiierman
Posts: 28699 - Karma: -5,563
I cheated once but the bitch deserved it.
Jun 15 2013 1:36PM
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Backyard.Skier
Posts: 5397 - Karma: 1,497
oh trashy..
Jun 15 2013 5:49PM
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elinde
Posts: 1470 - Karma: 3,059
Here a question: All you people say that if you cheat, you obviously don't love the partner. But, what if you truly do love the person, but just can't stand the idea of having sex with one woman, but would actually be truly upset if the relationship were to end. Is that justified? And if your significant other was aware of this and accepted it?
Jun 15 2013 6:35PM
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Byron_tha_gr8
Posts: 4573 - Karma: 14,299
I would say this comes into play in long distance relationships. Being away from someone for over 9 month's made me realise that i both truly cared about her and loved her, but also that i had physical needs that jill couldn't take care of. So i told her that, and she basically said the same was true for her. So we agreed to stay emotionally true to each other, talk on a regular basis, and visit each other the few times we could, but also that we could hook up with other people if either one of us wanted to, and neither of us would hold it against the other. We both had sex with other people, and at the end of the day we were able to get back together and be fine.

That being said, i don't think either of us would have even considered cheating if I hadn't moved, or we would have been able to see each other regularly. The need never would have been there. And if she would have fucked just one other guy if i was there, that would be the end. She has said the same is true for me.

I really think that is the only kind of understandable circumstance.
Jun 15 2013 6:52PM
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VT_FLO
Posts: 3806 - Karma: 147
Never cheated, Been cheated on.
Jun 15 2013 6:57PM
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Bogs
Posts: 4296 - Karma: 1,361
It's called an open relationship, big guy, or, if taken to the next level, polygamy.
Jun 15 2013 7:24PM
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icon1234
Posts: 3081 - Karma: 1,475
Never have, and never will...

However I have hooked up with people who are in relationships... But honestly that isn't my problem, their personal life really isn't any of my concern. I know I have and never will cheat on someone and that is all that matters to me.
Jun 15 2013 11:44PM
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BoogieWoman
Posts: 408 - Karma: 664
Is it always about sex though?

I feel like this is where men and women differ.

Seems like men tend to cheat by sleeping around just because they're ruled by their dicks. It's usually just physical for them. With women it seems like most of the time it's more than that.

For me, and it was 10+ years ago so the details are a bit hazy, my relationship was already over and although I'd tried to end it he wanted us to stay together so we were still going through the motions. I'd fallen for someone else but was too much of a pussy to admit it to my bf. So when I ended up kissing the other guy (no sex involved), I knew that was my get out clause.

At the time I didn't even feel guilty about it because I'd got what I wanted but then I fell in love for the first time and realised I'd been a complete dick. I apologised to my ex (we stayed friends for a while) but I doubt he ever really forgave me and part of that was probably because I ended up with the guy I fooled around on him with.

Men seem to cheat just because they can, yet they are happy to stay in their relationships. I think when women cheat, 9 times out of 10 it's because their current relationship is over but they can't/don't want to admit it.
Jun 16 2013 12:05AM
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E-Nix
Posts: 382 - Karma: 187
One time my girlfriend and I were playing Monopoly together and she had to use the bathroom. When she was gone I stole $1000 dollars from the bank. Afterwards I felt really bad but I won the game. So, yeah, morally I know it's not okay but would I do it again? Yeah, I think so.
Jun 16 2013 1:10AM
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louie.mirags
Posts: 6015 - Karma: 5,027
You answered your own question.. if it's accepted by both parties it's standard operating procedure. Not cheating..
Jun 16 2013 8:35AM
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TijmenDal
Posts: 4849 - Karma: 1,295
No girlfriend, no drama. Hell, I'm young still, no way I'ma tie myself down to one girl when there's so many fine women around.
Jun 16 2013 10:01AM
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TechnoPotamus
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Jun 16 2013 12:54PM
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thebeesknees
Posts: 3660 - Karma: 160
the absolute greatest
Jun 16 2013 1:03PM
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TheBigApple
Posts: 1169 - Karma: 488
Never cheated never will. The opportunity has come up on several occasions with total dimes that were super chill. I was twelve beers deep and high on mdma and still didn't cave to a total babe that was literally begging for my d.

There are NO EXCUSES.
Jun 16 2013 3:57PM
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.Rybak.
Posts: 9017 - Karma: 9,864
That kid sorta looks like my neighbor like 10 years ago. There's a picture somewhere that my parents took at a birthday party.
Jun 16 2013 5:33PM
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1080bio
Posts: 2042 - Karma: 5
well like drake says...

I love bad bitches, that's my fuckin problem
And yeah I like to fuck, I got a fuckin problem
Jun 16 2013 6:52PM
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no_steeze
Posts: 23992 - Karma: 4,273
too bad drake is about as thug as a small cup of rainbow sprinkles
Jun 16 2013 8:01PM
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Huck_Norris
Posts: 11487 - Karma: 18,627
I've been saying it for years...

Most girls are just basically climbing a dick ladder, and cannot get off the last rung until she's got a firm grip on the next one. Talk about printing the next page on the back of the last one hahaha
Jun 16 2013 8:37PM
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no_steeze
Posts: 23992 - Karma: 4,273
yeah it's really true. some girls just cannot bear to be single
Jun 16 2013 10:33PM
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skisalot111
Posts: 723 - Karma: 158
i got my dick sucked by two different chicks in the same night once.
Jun 17 2013 1:02AM
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TRASHY.
Posts: 736 - Karma: 355
I second this thought as I dealt with a very similar situation.
Jun 17 2013 1:07AM
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corona
Posts: 12803 - Karma: 32,817
dumbest thing I've ever heard.
Jun 17 2013 8:17AM
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no_steeze
Posts: 23992 - Karma: 4,273
clearly you haven't seen the girls at my school...
Jun 17 2013 9:08AM
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TijmenDal
Posts: 4849 - Karma: 1,295
Haha, that's awesome. I didn't mean to try and sound like a douche, but it's just the truth. I don't see the point of an 'official' girlfriend (just yet). That being said, I would NEVER cheat if I had one and I always treat my lady-friends with the utmost respect because women are beautiful creatures.
Jun 17 2013 10:28AM
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steezy69
Posts: 251 - Karma: 184
never technically cheated but one time i took a girl i was interested in on a date to this one place then the next night i took a different girl to the same place that i kinda had a "friends with bennefits" thing with and i saw the girl from the first night while i was with the other one. kinda awkward for everybody
Jun 17 2013 11:38AM
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Huck_Norris
Posts: 11487 - Karma: 18,627
Sheesh Gus, maybe there's only one Chuck E Cheeze in town, okay??

Not too many places you can see a cyborg rock concert, play ski-ball and jump in the ball crawl too, y'know?
Jun 17 2013 2:54PM
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steezy69
Posts: 251 - Karma: 184
indeed!
Jun 17 2013 3:48PM
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no_steeze
Posts: 23992 - Karma: 4,273
yes. that's why he highlighted that part. my point still stands.
Jun 20 2013 6:32PM
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Karkoskier
Posts: 2999 - Karma: 4,661
I've cheated on a few girls, and been cheated, but I wouldn't consider anything from middle school to freshman year a relationship. And back then cheating was like YOU HELD HANDS WITH HIM?! YOU SLOOT!" Then once I started taking relationships seriously and dating girls for longer periods of time this girl I really really was into dumped me and I found out a while later she fucked this dude she told me she used to walk her dog with, and then was continuing to fuck him after. So that was extremely shitty, and after that I don't think I'd be able to deal with the guilt of doing that to someone. Cheating is a big karma circle, whether you're cheating on someone or getting cheated on it all turns out shitty in the end. If you have feelings for someone else while you're with another person then spare their feelings and don't be a fucking asshole/bitch.
Jun 20 2013 11:25PM
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