Member of the Month

hi_vis360
November, 2024

Online

Welcome to the Newschoolers forums! You may read the forums as a guest, however you must be a registered member to post. Register to become a member today!

How many of you have cheated?

profile picture
BoogieWoman
Posts: 408 - Karma: 664
Last night I was out with a group of guy friends and turns out that at some point in their lives every one of them has cheated on their girlfriends. And all of them said they'd do it again but not because they didn't love their girlfriends, just because they knew they could and she wouldn't find out.

Now I didn't think I'd ever been cheated on but this leads me to believe different.

I've cheated once, on my HS boyfriend with a dude I ended up living with for 3 years but other than that, I've always been faithful.

How many of you have cheated on your current or previous girlfriends/boyfriends?
Jun 14 2013 4:33AM
344 65
profile picture
Barefootin_Fiend
Posts: 7618 - Karma: 4,727
current relationship is the first time in my life I've been faithful, and we're going on about 6 years now i think?
Jun 14 2013 4:44AM
8 0
profile picture
maximiliaan
Posts: 7711 - Karma: 2,857
Only once,felt miserable after it. Wouldnt do it again
Jun 14 2013 4:55AM
5 0
profile picture
zahava
Posts: 7791 - Karma: 12,039
Allow me to introduce you to Ladies Men
https://www.newschoolers.com/ns/mobile/forumthreads/id/2578/
Jun 14 2013 5:24AM
3 3
profile picture
Monsieur_Patate
Posts: 1393 - Karma: 4,307
I never really understood the whole point of cheating. If I feel like fucking other chicks, I just end the relationship, because I know it means she's not the one. And I do so before actually sticking my cock in another vagina, this is the sort of morale code I live by when it comes to romantic relationships.
Also I think cheaters are like wife beaters, if they've done it once, they're gonna do it again, it's just a matter of time.

I discussed this several times with both male and female friends on many sober and drunk occasions and the cheaters always defend themselves the same way, with something along the line of "yeah, but when I'll find the one, I'll be faithful, because I will love him/her for real, etc." And this is in my opinion the worst thing to say. If the only reason for you not cheating is because you're madly in love with the other, then it don't mean jack.
What's gonna happen if one day the love fades away a bit, or if you're relationship is going trough a though time, will you end up cheating because you're not madly in love anymore ?

I'm not only faithful because I love/care about the person I'm with, but mostly for myself, because I believe honesty and integrity are important values. (Yeah I'm a pussy that way).

And finally I don't understand why cheaters never come clean, they always cover it up the best they can, that's pathetic. Why don't you grow up a pair and face the consequences of what you've done, because that's being a man in my book, not fucking around.

Jun 14 2013 6:01AM
52 3
profile picture
Laurent.
Posts: 10056 - Karma: 25,313
Qu'est-ce que je peux dire, j'ai trop d'amour en moi pour une personne à manipuler!
Jun 14 2013 6:44AM
6 1
profile picture
Sit
Posts: 177 - Karma: 293
I don't think I have ever agreed with a post as much as I agree with this.

Cheating just doesn't make sense, break up with the person, or don't fuck other people.
Jun 14 2013 6:45AM
2 0
profile picture
Spinoza
Posts: 12763 - Karma: 3,846
Nah I would feel too guilty.
Unless I was cheating to be with that person instead from then on, and I had reason not to feel bad about hurting the first person, or it was some epic romantic situation
Jun 14 2013 6:46AM
0 0
profile picture
louie.mirags
Posts: 6015 - Karma: 5,027
I'm not a cheater but I have a few buddies who have long term girlfriends who are.. honestly I think they get off to the thrill of cheating.. I've asked why are they even with their annoying gfs but it's a touchy subject...
Jun 14 2013 7:58AM
1 0
profile picture
snwbrdmilf
Posts: 22441 - Karma: 2,806
Nope.
Jun 14 2013 8:17AM
2 1
profile picture
corona
Posts: 12803 - Karma: 32,817
Sometimes I cheat on my right hand and use my left. It's not that I don't love my right, but the thrill of getting caught gets my heart pumping and the adrenaline flowing.
Jun 14 2013 8:30AM
26 0
profile picture
--ski--
Posts: 1670 - Karma: 817
Been with my girlfriend/partner for almost for almost four years and not once have I thought of cheating on her.
Jun 14 2013 8:36AM
1 0
profile picture
7-11_Slurpee
Posts: 1142 - Karma: 1,552
Click for larger image
Agreed, never cheated, never will.
Jun 14 2013 8:37AM
8 1
profile picture
--ski--
Posts: 1670 - Karma: 817
*Been with my girlfriend/partner for almost four years and not once have I thought of cheating on her
Jun 14 2013 8:40AM
0 0
profile picture
hendriab
Posts: 990 - Karma: 404
one time, because I was too big of a pussy to just end the lifeless, sexless, wormhole of a relationship I was already caught in because we shared mutual friends. eventually, we broke up, and I survived (lost some friends) but moved on and continued to live an excellent life.

earlier point was spot on, cheating is usually just a guy or girl being a pussy and taking the easy way out. if your gonna sack up, at least fess up and come clean, take your lumps, move on.
Jun 14 2013 8:44AM
0 0
profile picture
Billups
Posts: 3960 - Karma: 329
My roommate once told me that he has never been faithful to any girl he has dated. He may be the biggest piece of shit I've ever met.
Jun 14 2013 9:29AM
5 0
profile picture
sNaubi
Posts: 1633 - Karma: 2,357
first of i wouldn't

second of, i have never been able to.


#foreveralone
Jun 14 2013 9:42AM
4 0
profile picture
Huck_Norris
Posts: 11487 - Karma: 18,627
Yup.

Cheaters are the worst, hands down. Talk about selfish, I have never and will never. .
Jun 14 2013 9:46AM
1 0
profile picture
hippy.
Posts: 3106 - Karma: 14,364
Never cheated, never will
Jun 14 2013 9:57AM
0 0
profile picture
snwbrdmilf
Posts: 22441 - Karma: 2,806
If you have the urge to be physical with someone other than the person you have entered a relationship with, then you should end it. You can think another man/woman is attractive and that's all well and good, but when you want to actually act on that attraction, when that's a sign you aren't ready to be devoted to someone. Its just a shame that you could be so selfish as to hurt the person you apparently care about, just to get your downstairs wet with another person. Ouch.
Jun 14 2013 10:13AM
7 0
profile picture
Jane6
Posts: 5359 - Karma: 4,506
Click for larger image


I agree 100% with every single word in your post, sir.
Jun 14 2013 10:40AM
9 2
profile picture
~Gotama~
Posts: 821 - Karma: 3,160
when i was 17-18 i dated a girl who at the time i most certainly believed i was in love with. i thought she was the coolest girl id ever met, and way easier to be around than most, and was generally a really good match for me. she was also a little bit prude, very innocent, and no clue what to do about sex. she was a virgin when we started didnt have a very good handle on how to be sexy or please a guy. i did my best to show her the ropes, but she was a sweet, innocent, home-girl who didnt pick up on it quick. i dont want to make it sound worse than it was because sex was usually fine, but she wasnt a freak. honestly, that innocence was part of why i liked her so much.

HOWEVER. theres always a however. i knew i was a bit out of her league, and that there were more attractive, sexier girls who wanted me or who would at least go for it. none of them had the same charm as my girlfriend, but i figured i had to make the most of the situation. everyone lives the rest of their adult life wishing they could fuck sexy 18 year old girls, and i didnt want to waste the time in my life when i had the most opportunity to do that. i loved my girlfriend for who she was, and i liked these other girls for what they were.

i was really careful about it, too. i never slept with a girl who knew anyone who knew my girlfriend, and i always explained to them exactly what was happening and the reason why i was sleeping with them. my girl never had the slightest hint that i was cheating, and even when we went through a pretty rough breakup after starting college, i always kept it under wraps. as long as she didnt know about it, it didnt exist. so to this day she thinks of me (probably) as a once loving ex who couldnt keep it up long distance but was always faithful, and i think of her as one of the coolest girls ive ever known, and who i would probably take back if the opportunity presented itself. the fact that i slept with other girl had no affect on my feelings towards her, and was just me, myself, and i, trying to make the most of life.

so am i wrong for cheating? technically, yes. but do i regret it? hell no. will i do it again? circumstances are always subject to change, but as i get older i think the odds of it happen again are steadily decreasing.
Jun 14 2013 11:29AM
4 8
profile picture
fortyvalve
Posts: 1442 - Karma: 1,573
i've been cheated on in every relationship i've been in except one. i never have cheated though
Jun 14 2013 11:38AM
2 1
profile picture
Bogs
Posts: 4296 - Karma: 1,361
There's no "technically" here, champ.
Jun 14 2013 11:52AM
5 2
profile picture
Toaster-Tony
Posts: 3531 - Karma: 5,850
Never have, never will. I just feel like that's a pretty big strike on your track record, plus the question will always seems to come up if you start dating someone.
Jun 14 2013 11:58AM
0 0
profile picture
Tinga
Posts: 11349 - Karma: 2,333
has anyone heard of emotionally cheating?

thoughts on that?
Jun 14 2013 12:32PM
2 0
profile picture
Huck_Norris
Posts: 11487 - Karma: 18,627
Yes I actually heard that term for the first time this morning on the radio during my commute, and it is absolutely valid. Not to douchebags who will always try to justify their shittiness and look for a rationalization that will let them believe that they aren't quite so shitty, but for everyone who actually gives a fuck about their S.O. and has their back it makes perfect sense.


Jun 14 2013 12:39PM
0 0
profile picture
nakedfun
Posts: 291 - Karma: 1,263
Iv cheated once... but it was the first and only relationship i was in and on top of that i only got to see the guy for a week once a month. But his friends were assholes and told him different things so he ignored me for a few days. In that time i went to party one of those nights, where there was a guy i had a crush on when i was like 8, he was 13 though when i was 8... At the time i cheated i was 17 and he was 22. But that made me realize what i already knew, don't be in a relationship unless you want to be with the person and they are the only one you want to be with.
Jun 14 2013 12:47PM
0 1
profile picture
stalefish.
Posts: 464 - Karma: 79
my ex gf has a male best friend that i used to be cool with, until i found out that she was emotionally cheating on me with him. totally fucked up situation. so she never physically cheated on me but i still felt cheated. it hurt that she would support a higher emotional connection to someone else. it ultimately ended our relationship.
Jun 14 2013 12:49PM
1 0
profile picture
yourthemannowdog
Posts: 4541 - Karma: 313
I 'stole' a girl from my former roommate, but she was very obviously not into him and we were doing the deed half way across the country from my roommate in her childhood bedroom on shrooms. It was fun and all, but my roommate would be devastated. I still feel pretty shitty about that.

I've never been in a true platonic relationship, but consider cheating while being in one would kill the whole novelty of a relationship for. I think it's stupid, disrespectful (categorically and emotionally so), and all around weak.

If you want an open persistent relationship with a girl, tell her that. If she does not want that then make some compromises or go your own way. Shitty communication is a sign of a weak relationship. Cheating is more likely to occur in a weak relationship.
Jun 14 2013 12:50PM
1 0
profile picture
UphillIce
Posts: 123 - Karma: 138
What if you really didn't want to do the Canadian boater exam?
Jun 14 2013 12:51PM
8 0
profile picture
profa_212
Posts: 8948 - Karma: 36,436
Woman logic...
Jun 14 2013 12:53PM
7 0
profile picture
Kooky_Lukey
Posts: 1002 - Karma: 1,966
I did it once, never went all the way though only a make out but it was still cheating to me.

I did only do it because my girlfriend gave me a date she was going to break up with me when she was going to leave for college, i was kind of devastated even though i knew it was going to happen.

But i did feel like the lowest scum on earth after and i will never do it again just because of how i felt afterward.
Jun 14 2013 12:58PM
0 0
profile picture
Huck_Norris
Posts: 11487 - Karma: 18,627
I would just jerk off. ;)
Jun 14 2013 1:08PM
0 0
profile picture
Sno.
Posts: 12155 - Karma: 6,152

little bit self-centered?

Jun 14 2013 1:10PM
0 0
profile picture
Sno.
Posts: 12155 - Karma: 6,152
ahaha.
Jun 14 2013 1:10PM
1 1
profile picture
MilaKunis
Posts: 1480 - Karma: 3,646
I've never really had the chance to cheat. But I don't think that I would like to
Jun 14 2013 1:13PM
0 0
profile picture
DIX~
Posts: 4695 - Karma: 6,502
Never have.

I've had chances to bang two of the hotter girls I've seen in my whole life, one sober and one drunk. Never really even considered cheating with either of them and I'm pretty confident that I have the self control and respect to never cheat on a girl. The girl I was with for both of these ended up cheating on me after 3 years but I still don't regret being faithful.

People who cheat even once should never be trusted to not do it again imo. Especially girls (inb4 hate). Every female friend I have that's cheated has done it to every guy they've ever been in a relationship with. Fucking terrible. Not to say guys don't do the same, I'm just speaking from personal experiences
Jun 14 2013 1:24PM
1 0
profile picture
GayWolf420
Posts: 37512 - Karma: 121,355
lol this. Cheating is cheating. Don't try to pussyfoot around it, OP.
Jun 14 2013 1:39PM
0 0
profile picture
RockNRollNghtClb
Posts: 2013 - Karma: 2,509
you are a piece of fucking shit
Jun 14 2013 1:55PM
1 1
profile picture
Barefootin_Fiend
Posts: 7618 - Karma: 4,727
This is such bullshit. People can change....especially when they meet the right person.
Jun 14 2013 2:05PM
0 1
profile picture
EricCartman
Posts: 268 - Karma: 410
sloot
Jun 14 2013 2:07PM
1 0
profile picture
Backyard.Skier
Posts: 5397 - Karma: 1,497
I did once... was really drunk
Jun 14 2013 2:10PM
0 0
profile picture
k-rob
Posts: 14217 - Karma: 2,891
never cheated. there's no point, if you can't be faithful, or at least agree to an open relationship, then move on. i've never wanted to hurt anybody i dated.
Jun 14 2013 2:14PM
0 0
profile picture
~Gotama~
Posts: 821 - Karma: 3,160
its my life, and im not living it for anyone else
Jun 14 2013 2:15PM
0 2
profile picture
Huck_Norris
Posts: 11487 - Karma: 18,627
I bet she does hahaha
Jun 14 2013 2:16PM
3 0
profile picture
TechnoPotamus
Posts: 11626 - Karma: 3,522
such a stupid analogy used by "goodie two shoes" people to try and put down people who have made the mistake of cheating.


Have I cheated in the past? Yes I have.

Do I regret it? Yes I do, it haunted me for years because I felt so bad about it.

Did I do it when I was 20 years old and immature? Yes I did.




Have I had the chance to do it now that I'm 25, and much more mature? Yes I have.

And did I do it? Absolutely not.




There are a million varied circumstances for why somebody cheats, and it's certainly never the right choice, but it's not always as horrible and "omg he/she is a heartless bastard" like most of these posts make it out to be. I would venture to say that maturity is an enormous factor on this subject, and that it's certainly not always what it looks like on the surface. I am in no way defending cheating, it's a terrible thing to do to somebody and you can always avoid it, BUT I am saying that nobody should be judged for their whole life on one mistake. Nobody died, nobody was physically harmed. Feelings were hurt, lessons were learned, and hopefully anybody who has done it has bettered themselves since doing it.

Piss off with the fucking high and mighty bullshit. Nobody's perfect.
Jun 14 2013 2:24PM
8 2
profile picture
DIX~
Posts: 4695 - Karma: 6,502
Lol yeah I'm not saying it's impossible. But there are pretty much two kinds of people. Those who have cheated multiple times and those who never have. Not many people cheat just once, although it does happen and not everybody is perfect. But I bet 95% of people have either cheated zero times or more than once
Jun 14 2013 2:24PM
0 0
profile picture
youngdtay
Posts: 3122 - Karma: -112
Solid statement. Never cheated, hopefully will never be put in a position where I would ever want to, but I can completely understand what you're saying, guy.
Jun 14 2013 2:36PM
1 0
profile picture
Huck_Norris
Posts: 11487 - Karma: 18,627
Waaaaaaaaaah I hate it when people who never wronged someone else like I have make me feel shitty for having done so.

Look man, I can understand your angle but you have to just accept it when people who haven't feel strongly about it. Excuse us for not giving a shit what your million and one reasons for cheating could be, as they are all horseshit excuses used as a crutch by the weak and selfish. Sometimes it takes a lot to turn down pussy, but goddammit those of us who have the moral conviction to do so out of love for another absolutely deserve a high fucking five.

Also, how do you know nobody died or was hurt? Maybe Johnny brought home herpes or HIV for his wife, or the psycho he was banging got all Amy Fisher and shot her in an attempt to keep "her man"? You just don't know what cheating will bring into your life or how it will hurt your S.O.- that's why it's just so fucked- it's just all about you getting your dick wet, plain and simple so fuck the "million reasons" justification dude. If you can't keep your word to someone, don't fucking make a promise and DEFINITELY don't get pissy when someone else doesn't like it either.
Jun 14 2013 2:54PM
2 2
All times are Eastern (-5)