Replying to Rape.

Rape is when a man attacks a woman (or in the rare case, a woman attacks a man) either aggressively (i.e. punches her) or passively (i.e. roofies her drink). Rape is not when a drunk woman and a drunk man consent to engage in sex. When true rape does occur, it is an awful, sub-human act and should not be tolerated on any level. However, rape has become such a grey term. If a woman is at a party drinking and ends up going home willingly with a drunk man, he can be charged with statutory rape (at least where I live). Similarly, if a woman behaves promiscuously, drinks, and decides to have sex, that is not rape, but the man can be tried for rape. There seems to be a large amount of agency on the part of the woman in such cases. No I am not saying that women bring rape on themselves. No I am not saying that any woman deserves to be raped based on what she's wearing.  Again, actual rape is an atrocious thing, but the war on 'rape culture' that has been growing recently is a misguided affair, at least what I've seen of it.

So my question to NS is this: When does the woman become responsible, or is it always the man's fault?