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Do I have a reason to be mad at my roommate?
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So my roommate borrowed my watch like a week after I moved in without asking, this was on NYE. Didn't tell me till weeks later when he was showing us pictures from the night and thought I would see my watch. I didn't care because I don't ever wear the watch but still, went into my room and borrowed it without asking.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago, he goes on a fucking clean freak out and decides to clean the entire house. Even goes as far as to wipe down the couch, clean ALL of the fixtures, and vacuum each stair. He also decided it was his responsibility to go into my room and vacuum any open carpet without asking to go in my room.
So later that week I told him not to go in my room, I can clean up after myself, and if you're going to borrow anything ask first. I am okay with sharing, just ask.... THAT NIGHT, he is getting ready for his night out and when he leaves I go to the bathroom and see that my cologne is out of place, like across the counter from where I usually put it.. And the bathroom smelt like my cologne... fucker used my shit HOURS after I asked him not to use my stuff without asking. (Mind you he has his own cologne.)
After that I put my cologne in my room, and decided to see if he was using my bathroom stuff, we share a shower. So I got OCD and positioned my soap, shampoo, etc. in a way that would not be natural for someone to place it back like. This morning I hear the shower running and he was showering. I get out of bed go into the bathroom and see that my body wash is out of place. So I go towards the shower and see that my luffa thing is also out of place. I smell it, it smells like my body wash, I touch it, and its fucking wet. The fucking guy thought it would be okay to use not only my body was but also my cleaning utensil for himself.
Needless to say I am pissed and feel like he should not only stop using my shit, but buy me a new luffa thingy. Do I have a reason to be mad and get pissed at this kid...
Spark-notes: Roommate borrows my stuff without asking, started with a watch. When asked not to he proceeds to use my cologne that night. Then uses my shower stuff and never asks about any of it.
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To be honest, if you haven't previously established a mutually sound agreement about commonwealth items in your house, I'd be pissed. I would've flipped shit if he even went into my room the first time without asking while I wasn't there. That's a major breach of privacy, and since he keeps doing it, I suggest you start locking your doors and monitoring your goods more thoroughly to gather evidence against him. I've been to the point with my current roommates that I've had to literally get a ruler out to measure the quantity of fluids in the refrigerator that belong to me - milk, juice n shit. Confront him, and be ready with a more secure storage scheme.
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So, the biggest problem I had with my current Roommate was his passive aggressiveness. Calmly confronted him even though I was boiling pissed at that point and everything's been fine since. BUT if it was your situation. Well I have OCD tendencies, and if anybody touches my shit. I flip out. Even my parents if they touch my stuff without asking when I'm home. So if I had already asked once like you, and he ignores it. Confront him again but be a real fucking Dick and make some form of legitimate threat if you can. Not like physically harmful, but just something that could Fuck him over if he doesn't quit. You have all the right in the world to be totally pissed.
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is this the first time you've ever had a roommate? a lot of the things you've mentioned in here aren't really bizarre at all. there are going to be times when you're going to have to use something of his and times where he's going to need/want to use some of your things.
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me as well, thought some one remade it for some stupid reason
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This might be the first productive post I've ever seen you make....
to the moving in without asking,
"So my roommate borrowed my watch like a week after I moved in without asking, this was on NYE."
I should have said, "I moved into this house, then a week later my roommate went into my room and borrowed my watch without asking me first."
People really had a problem understanding that?
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and this is not the first time I've had a roommate.. but it is the first time in awhile that I have had to share bathroom. I have had problems with my old roommates before but when I confront them and talk about what happened, they usually respect my requests if it is within reason.
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