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Pre-Marital sex?

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tinkytwinky
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I've always told myself that i am going to remain abstinent for my future wife, but recent circumstances are begging to change my ideology.

My girlfriend of 3 years (no pics will be posted) really wants to have sex, she says its a normal thing to do, especially since we have gone out for so long and are very committed to each other. I don't know if she's the one though so i am really hesitant to make love to her.


All my friends keep telling me to "pork her" and that sex is amazing, but i am worried i may be filled with guilt if i betray my pre-marital abstinence.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation before? help me!
Jan 4 2013 8:24PM
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roddy116
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ear sex
Jan 4 2013 10:53PM
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Sno.
Posts: 12155 - Karma: 6,152

what? i can't hear you

Jan 4 2013 10:55PM
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roddy116
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EAR SEX!!!!1111!!!!!!!!
Jan 4 2013 10:55PM
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miroz
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Quoting for emphasis.
Jan 4 2013 11:02PM
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Clameltoe
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If the right/wrong answer is questionable dont do it.
Jan 4 2013 11:07PM
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ForeverYung
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Watch out you might get hearing aids
Jan 4 2013 11:09PM
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SkierPT
Posts: 2199 - Karma: 4,830
Hahahaha
Jan 4 2013 11:12PM
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Leafs2323
Posts: 355 - Karma: 195
just penetrate my brotha
Jan 4 2013 11:13PM
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4man
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Pee in her butt
Jan 4 2013 11:15PM
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jaredmdub
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Throwing your bro around like a fuck toy I see.
Jan 4 2013 11:15PM
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Leafs2323
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thats all i do son
Jan 4 2013 11:16PM
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Lick
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new icon?! why?!?
Jan 4 2013 11:22PM
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.Capn.
Posts: 1454 - Karma: 152
I've been dating a girl for 3 years and we've not had sex. Waiting for marriage here. It's the right choice for me, I don't know what is for you but you're not alone
Jan 4 2013 11:55PM
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Tree60
Posts: 1438 - Karma: 4,961
I would advise against waiting for marriage to have sex, mainly because a big thing for a long-term relationship to work is for there to be sexual compatability, if you do not work with her sexually, you want to know that before you give your whole life to her.
Jan 5 2013 1:22AM
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Amadeus.
Posts: 3050 - Karma: 382
ding ding ding. sex is natural and is a big part of finding a partner. abstaining from sex until marriage may severely hurt your marriage, and cause you to be extremely unhappy. There is no guilt to be felt. You got to try people out thats why we date. To see if personality and sexuality fit.
Jan 5 2013 1:25AM
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Heart
Posts: 6156 - Karma: 3,462
This may sound a bit crass, but it never hurts to have some practice in before you get married. You don't want to blow your wad in five seconds on your wedding night, nawmean?
Jan 5 2013 1:30AM
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BeefiestExpert
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2 in the pink 1 in the stink
Jan 5 2013 3:48AM
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gnarles.
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the only way ns can determine a appropriate answer is with pics of said girl
Jan 5 2013 3:59AM
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jameskiy
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your picture is ironic as hell.
Jan 5 2013 4:07AM
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SwagasaurusRex
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I thought the new one was even funnier than the old one.
Jan 5 2013 4:31AM
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Laurent.
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You have to test drive a car before you buy it.
Jan 5 2013 5:25AM
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clive_bixby
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Faggot alert op's shitty troll attempt gone sour. He messages me once telling me to back off his thread since I guess it means so much to him then messages me again telling me to fuck off. Fuck you twinkly you are a huge bitch
Jan 5 2013 6:56AM
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RawrRawrRob
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LOL
Jan 5 2013 10:01AM
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Lucas
Posts: 4881 - Karma: 1,575
How you've waited that long is beyond me. My girlfriend of 8 months told me she wanted to wait a year before we have sex, and I've been respecting that. But damn even she tells me how hard it is for her to hold back sometimes.
Jan 5 2013 10:14AM
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Lucas
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lol jk that no sex thing lasted 6 months
Jan 5 2013 10:16AM
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Culture+
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props for keeping a girlfriend for 3 years bro
Jan 5 2013 10:47AM
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sweet_caroline
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How did this take so long to show up? Come on NS.
Jan 5 2013 11:40AM
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*Bird
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slut
Jan 5 2013 1:42PM
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nagger
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once you go black, you go deaf
Jan 5 2013 6:32PM
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act.resist
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do what YOU feel is right Not what other people suggest is right.
Jan 5 2013 6:46PM
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nagger
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op is a retard he's probably better off listening to suggestions

Jan 5 2013 6:56PM
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Obi-Wan-Jenobi
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I would advise waiting for marriage. When you have sex with just one person and they just you it creates a special bond that strengthens the relationship.
Jan 5 2013 7:00PM
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pat_in_the_hat
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iwas actually thinking about this an hour ago in the shower during a sex time. made me last alot longer....
Jan 5 2013 7:37PM
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TheDers
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is this real life? yes have sex why would you not
Jan 5 2013 9:17PM
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Tree60
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While that may be true, sex is a big part of marriage and realtionships, and some people just don't fit together in the bedroom, and he should find that out before commiting.
Jan 5 2013 9:20PM
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DankTits
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DON'T DO IT MAN MAINTAIN YOUR PRE-MARITAL SEX. DONT LISTEN TO ALL THESE HATERZ JUST DO IT STAY COMMITTED THAT'S WHAT YOU NEED IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP!!!!!
Jan 5 2013 10:39PM
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gengar.
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i take offense to that
Jan 5 2013 11:00PM
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tinkytwinky
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As would i if you cheated
Jan 7 2013 11:17AM
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Puns
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There's nothing that's 'normal' that means that you should do it. Have as much or as little sex as you want. No one should feel bad about having any amount of any kind of sex with any amount of people at any level of commitment. It's a personal choice. Slut shaming is pretty dumb if you ask me.

Though personally for me, the sexual aspect of a relationship is a mildly big deal and while I don't want to get married, if I was to commit to someone I would want to know if things were compatible in that area.
Jan 7 2013 11:23AM
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Sno.
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I think I sort of disagree with this. Although some people may have sexual chemistry right off the bat, I don't think it's impossible for a couple who has good chemistry everywhere else to hone their sexual compatibility over time.

The only thing I can think of that would make a couple not sexually compatible is straight up not being sexually attracted to one another. You know whether you have this before you actually have sex.

Can you give me a scenario in which a man and woman who are very physically attracted to one another find they are incompatible after actually doing the physical act of peen-in-vag? Yes- I'm serious.

Jan 7 2013 1:25PM
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Whaley
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bone that bitch
Jan 7 2013 7:37PM
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James.May
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Jan 7 2013 7:43PM
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