yes, thank you all for your help.
I believe were we are right now is to stay somewhere in Salt Lake. I'm going to begin looking on airbnb for a hopefully reasonable apartment rate. the top priority is excellent terrain, and her second priority is something to do after skiing, most likely shopping. i really have no other priorities after good terrain, but if you are not married yet, this is one thing you will have to deal with. i just consider myself lucky i have a wife who loves to ski (we did chamonix last year for our honeymoon!)
so we are thinking to stay in salt lake, ski alta, snowbird, brighton, solitude, and maybe one or two nights head by park city just to hang out after skiing (which i am assuming will be quite a bit of driving, but oh well).
let me know if there are any other thoughts. thanks!