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Go to a store that stocks a big wall of hockey products and try things on until you get stuff you're comfortable with. You should be very well equipped to make this kind of decision - buying hockey skates really isn't that different from buying ski boots. It's more about what fits your foot than anything else, particularly at the recreational level. As with ski boots, stiffer generally = more advanced, and if you're playing intramural you don't need the stiffest boot ever. Same for gloves - what's comfortable?
As far as sticks go, it's not going to make a big difference. Just get a 90 flex shaft and one of the more popular curves and go from there. There will be absolutely no way for anyone to give you advice on what curve to use - there is nothing in sports that screams "personal preference" than what blade you like and you won't be able to tell until you've played with a particular blade for a while. Personally I'm a fan of Easton's P3 (usually labelled Hall or Sakic) or Warrior's Zetterberg. But that's me - some people can snipe the shit out of the P8 whereas I don't understand how they aren't constantly whipping it over the net.