falling for girls wayyyyy too quickly.
you should get to know someone really well first, then create an attachment after you realize that you're both into each other and a good fit - the compatibility is there and you're set up for a strong future together.
creating an attachment too early leads to hoping that everything will work out perfectly, then expecting that things will work out perfectly. when they don't, you're all heartbroken after those expectations aren't met and you realize you just aren't right for each other and you try to force it because you're unwilling to let go. that always leads to so many problems.
common mistake by a lot of people, i'd say, but i always foresee these things coming and always get myself into a world of hurt. sometimes i think it's a good thing to go for one person, set the standards high, and be willing to open up your heart and put a little faith in them and the relationship and show them that you can commit up front, but it can also really backfire. it can make you clingy and almost obsessive over the person, stressing out over what they're doing and feeling down when you over-think and over-analyze the reasons behind why they wont commit back or make you a bigger part of their life.
and because of this, my friends call me ted mosby (the guy from how i met your mother). just reaching out for love, sensitive, getting so easily connected with people, and always hoping for that fairy tale ending.
sometimes you just need to let go, and understand that it isn't a bad thing. things don't work out, can't work out for whatever reason, so you pick yourself up and look forward without dwelling on the past or what could have been had the circumstances been different. i struggle with that.
