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How to deal with depression?

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woke_up_dead
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I can't really cope with it anymore. I don't want to tell people because i'm too scared, but I want to at the same time, it's so fucked. It has gotten worse over the past few weeks for some reason. I feel shitty and bipolar when i'm high now, which is a piss off because weed was one of the five things that made me actually happy, along with girls, drinking, biking and skiing. I can't even pull myself to talk to girls anymore, because I have no self esteem left now. I just don't know what to do, and yes this is an alias. I don't want to post on my normal account because I have friends on ns, who would probably see this.
Jul 3 2012 10:08PM
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MNS
Posts: 5386 - Karma: 3,241
cut out drugs and alcohol

adopt a diet and workout routine

start with that.
Jul 3 2012 10:10PM
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RoofDaRoofieDogg
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Pills!







But I'll post a serious answer in a bit.
Jul 3 2012 10:10PM
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woke_up_dead
Posts: 8 - Karma: 10
I have a diet, and I work out regularly.
Jul 3 2012 10:11PM
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Flying~Squirrel
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stop smoking pot, focus on becoming a more productive person. i find that when my room is clean, my homework is done, and my bills are paid i am a much happier person.
Jul 3 2012 10:11PM
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TimRiley
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1 out of 9 people suffer from depression. See a therapist if you want to make changes and talk to someone about your life in private... But yeah first thing would be quite taking depresents like alcohol and trying to self medicate with weed. There is no magical nsers answer
Jul 3 2012 10:14PM
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2_fadez
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well first of all, don't do pills. don't.
i got overprescribed and it worked for a little while but shit just kind of went haywire after a while.

i found that keeping myself occupied worked best, so i suggest going hiking a lot, being outdoors or getting a job. just make sure you don't have too much downtime.

and don't start resorting to sleep as a helper. you can sleep all you want, but all your problems will still be there when you wake up, and you have that much less time in your life to go out and make it meaningful
Jul 3 2012 10:15PM
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edai
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Start with this OP.

Also I think if it's getting this serious talk to someone about it. Doesn't matter who, just someone. Talking and getting things off my chest always works wonders for me and I'm sure it would for you to.

This may sound stupid, but another thing that helps is to initiate a "change." Whether it be getting a different haircut, switching up your clothing style, or trying a new activity. I usually do something like this every time I get into a rut and more often than not it helps me pick myself back up.

I'm just curious, what's your sleep schedule like?
Jul 3 2012 10:15PM
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DaveM
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I strongly agree with this. There have been times where I've felt depressed in the pass and usually if I get myself busy and start doing tasks that I've been putting off then it puts me in a much better state of mind.
Jul 3 2012 10:16PM
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asfdfads
Posts: 1010 - Karma: 279
the drugs probably arent the best idea, but if i were you, id start working out and just enjoy being outdoors! i love biking and skiing too, and exercise in general helps a load. good vibes man, your friends on ns care about you!
Jul 3 2012 10:17PM
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woke_up_dead
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pretty normal actually. normally around 12-10 on weekends apart from skiing/biking ones. And 11-7/9 on week days.
Jul 3 2012 10:19PM
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edai
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What about naps? Have you or your relatives said/noticed anything about you sleeping too much?

Be aware of your awareness levels and energy levels during the day.
Jul 3 2012 10:23PM
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ABinThe603
Posts: 529 - Karma: 126
That's not bad, not trying to be Dr. NS, but my mom had depression, bipolar, all that and she would sleep like 8-12. Oversleeping is not a good thing.
Jul 3 2012 10:27PM
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2_fadez
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oversleeping is the most critical sign of depression. its the body's simplest form of getting away from the stress it has
Jul 3 2012 10:31PM
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woke_up_dead
Posts: 8 - Karma: 10
Pretty much never nap, because I have a really high energy level. And nope.
Jul 3 2012 10:31PM
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RawrRawrRob
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This is more or less exactly what I did to get out of my depression. I got a job, starting being more over-all active, and I told my close friends about it and that helped a lot too, it's nice having people who know what you're going through. I started to become less anti-social, I started to say "yes" more when friends would ask me to hangout, and tried new things, but I mean that in a self-beneficial way, so instead of trying new things like alcohol or drugs to escape, try new things like finding new hobbies, or simply enough trying to get better at the things you already enjoy, for me that was skiing, which is the reason why I love skiing as much as I do. It helps me escape and puts my mind in a good place, trying new tricks and progressing is one of the best feelings and is a big confidence booster for me.
Jul 3 2012 10:50PM
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Anathema
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do something for you that you can find some peace in. some people go to the gym to exercise, others play an instrument, read some good books. just find something that you can do for you and allows you to forget about the world for a little while and get into your own little zone.

shit helps. you just need to make it an active process.
Jul 3 2012 10:54PM
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Toaster-Tony
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I run a few miles a day and have been cutting down the binge drinking and have been off of drugs for months. I have definitely seen a decrease in the bad days because of this. You feel better about yourself and the worst thing that happens is you get healthier.
Jul 3 2012 11:09PM
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Wood_Wizard
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do you fap often? because when I dont fap for like 3 days I get real angry at stuff that should not make me angry.
Jul 3 2012 11:28PM
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GORILLA.
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find something you like to take your mind off it.

running, music, sports, stamp collecting or whatever you want. I'm happiest when I'm always busy.

-GORILLA, OUT.
Jul 3 2012 11:31PM
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-JME-
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it really sucks. talk to a therapist as well as find the right medication through your doctor.. its fucked up but its chemical its not something to be ashamed of
Jul 3 2012 11:32PM
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Brock.
Posts: 5698 - Karma: 1,332
You just need to deal with it.

Stop drinking and smoking weed. Don't resort to antidepressants. Be productive in life. Read an interesting book. Take on more hours at work. Get a new job. Close your facebook. Eat healthier and exercise (this helps a lot). Start running/jogging. Move somewhere. Escape. Change your life. Immerse yourself in an unfamiliar environment. 

As shitty and stupid this is going to sound (as, it did when I first heard it), you need to stop wallowing in it and feeding it. Break the cycle. It's all mental, you need to make a conscious effort to feel better. 
Jul 3 2012 11:42PM
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SeniorLivin
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Also an alias here...

Tried just about everything in this thread, I have hobbies that I do every day, a full time job, I meditate and try to exercise most days, always get a good sleep in...

Ive thought about killing myself a lot in the past few years but I've never come close. Got into cutting myself a little bit, cut up my wrists a few times (nothing serious though)... Started on a bottle of extra strength tylenol at one point but stopped after like 8 pills because I didn't want to put my parents through that.

Thought process right now goes something like this:
feel bad about something > think about shooting myself > mimic putting gun to my head...

Its so fucked up, not really sure what to do any more. I have tried SO hard to get my mind under control but shit is just not working out. Not sure if I buy into the whole antidepressants thing. Kind of need to do something though.

Probably would be a good idea to mention this to some of my friends, or my parents or something, maybe see a therapist. Going to try to stay happy tonight, maybe watch a movie or something. Bleh.

This has been happening for about 6 years or so, I can't shake it and I just don't want my life to continue like this. Thoughts NS?
Jul 3 2012 11:59PM
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woke_up_dead
Posts: 8 - Karma: 10
Wow, I never really realized that I was so alike with other people.
Jul 4 2012 12:18AM
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foskettchyz
Posts: 64 - Karma: 20
cut the drugs/alchol, download some good music thats up-beat, go for a run or just exercise!
Jul 4 2012 12:22AM
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Caspaaa
Posts: 4830 - Karma: 1,466
tell people first off


you're on the internet man, no need to hide behind aliases. having depression won't lead to shit-talking, insults, or any of that crap on NS, i know because i've admitted to having chronic depression on here and received nothing but love from my fellow NSers.

once you realize that people are decently sensible towards it, you can try telling a few of your closest friends, or if that doesn't float your boat (i don't blame you, no friends of mine know), then try to talk privately to a counselor or something.

working out helped me, so did a really close friend. rarely you'll meet one person who understands and helps as much as my friend helped me, but if you do, don't take it for granted.

anyways, exercise always makes me feel better. so does good music, listen to some chill stuff, look at the good things in life, and keep your head up. find a hobby, talk to new people, hook up with some girl that's easy (may not be the best looking but it doesn't matter, it'll boost your confidence a little bit). put yourself in positions to succeed and to gain confidence.

one of the things that makes me feel the best is helping others
Jul 4 2012 12:26AM
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Petey.
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I was super depressed for like almost the past year. I would try to get enough sleep but not too much(7-8.5 hours), cut out drinking, and focus on myself - with a lot of exercise.

I continued to smoke mad weed though because even though I thought it wouldn't help and would make me dwell on my issues even more, it just sent me into crazy places in my own head in a good way. took my mind off shit
Jul 4 2012 12:27AM
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Heart
Posts: 6156 - Karma: 3,462
Theads for when I'm not on my iPod so I can type out a good response.
Jul 4 2012 12:32AM
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Jewschoolers
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find something you really like to do. for me it was guitar and basketball that you can do every day. as far as the self esteem, trust me no one cares as much as you do. i had really bad anxiety. that is a bitch, its hard to even talk to people sometimes, its a lot better now though. ive been through more shit than you can imagine. as cliche as it sounds life will get better. this post could have described me about 2 years ago and right now im having the time of my life. i just wish i could have figured this shit out in high school and enjoyed it more but fuck it. ill just make up for lost time in college. you dont need pills, alcohol, or drugs man just live life and enjoy it. find out what you want to change in your life and just fucking do it dude
Jul 4 2012 12:55AM
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Parks.
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Talk to someone. Explaining it to someone can help u on its own, then that person can actually help u too.
Jul 4 2012 12:57AM
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JIBpsy^^
Posts: 2851 - Karma: 36
I find that if your really really busy, (you smoke weed so i assume you arent) you dont have time to be depressed. as long is its not busy with something you hate.
Jul 4 2012 1:05AM
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skijunkiedtm
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I need help.
Jul 4 2012 4:10AM
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ABinThe603
Posts: 529 - Karma: 126
I disagree, there are some pretty harsh people on here. One thing that someone says as a joke could put someone with depression over the edge
Jul 4 2012 8:54PM
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kvan
Posts: 3085 - Karma: 1,225
Depression? Isn't that just another word for feeling "bummed out"?
Jul 4 2012 9:03PM
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Caspaaa
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I've seen people shit on other kids for failing at things, for being gay, for being introverted, and recently, for losing a friend.

NEVER, on NS, have I seen someone getting shit on for having depression. Besides, making an alias account and then getting hated on carries the same effect as just posting on your real account. Not many people are gonna hate on you because you are depressed simply because lots of people are depressed. Everybody has those days where they feel like shit, and a good portion of people are also depressed.... these people understand.

to the OP, and to anybody who's having a rough day, or is dealing with depression, I know that I'm always open to PM's, as well as many other members, in the event that you need someone to talk to. i may not be able to answer questions, but i'm a good listener and i'll do my best to help you out. NS has helped me MANY times, it's just another way of giving back to a community i love, and to people similar to me that struggle with depression.
Jul 4 2012 9:04PM
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idskithat
Posts: 1314 - Karma: 154
make a goal thats attainable, then acheive it and make yourself feel better. learna new trick, or do something new. or workout nd make it a goal to get super in shape or super built. always can work on it and make yourself feel good
Jul 4 2012 9:14PM
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lofth
Posts: 159 - Karma: 27
Talk to someone, i talk to a psychologist once a week, really helps me alot. Exercising and doing things in general also helps atleast for me.
Jul 4 2012 9:17PM
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Brock.
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seriously though, after talking to people and sharing how you truly feel for the first time (which is always liberating), you need to move on and be proactive about it. Make the changes, get moving, or else the cycle will just continue.
Jul 4 2012 9:18PM
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rankstank
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One thing I would suggest-volunteer. Find a way to make someone else's life better. Find a volunteer job where you are connected to the people, not building a house for someone you don't know, but helping at a homeless shelter or helping out an elderly person with lawn care. Helps me realize what my life is like. I'm not gonna bullshit and say you need to realize how much better your life is than some peoples, because I don't know you and that's not what you want to hear, but just take a step back and help some people. I think you'll find it might get you out of the rut. It sounds like something you won't want to do, but do it. When you're done you will be glad you did.
Jul 4 2012 9:26PM
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yourthemannowdog
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That really only works with mild to moderate depression. My doctor said the same thing to me (besides the diet thing, I wasn't eating anything at the time and he couldn't convince me to) and it did nothing. What is working for me is therapy. I recommend therapy to anyone who has any sort of issue if you are open to it.
Jul 4 2012 9:30PM
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TheButterHashira
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Funny to see how many NSers are so similar to me.
Jul 4 2012 9:47PM
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woke_up_dead
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actually no, it's completely different. Bummed out is just being in a bad mood for a short period of time. Having clinical depression is pretty much never being happy.
Jul 4 2012 10:10PM
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ForeverYung
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Office
Jul 5 2012 12:10AM
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ForeverYung
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Reference. Fuck mobile. But yeah pretty much what every one less has said, cut the drugs/alcohol, exercise a lot, heat healthy, lots of fresh fruits/vegetables, work, build something, read a book, round up acouple buddies and go
Jul 5 2012 12:13AM
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ForeverYung
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Somewhere. Triple post ftw
Jul 5 2012 12:14AM
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Caspaaa
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no kidding. i'm pretty sure that the majority of NS consists of people who are similarly depressed or lonely alot of the time.
Jul 5 2012 12:21AM
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Olimar
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this made me tear up. Please just talk to someone, i promise they will listen. Hell, call me if you need to! Its never that bad that you need to resort to suicide. But please just talk to someone you trust about it, they will help you. A best friend or sibling, even a teacher you may have bonded with what ever year you had him or her. But if you want to talk, PM me your number or ask for mine. I will gladly chat with you.
Jul 5 2012 12:25AM
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Caspaaa
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i'm open to talk as well


honestly, sometimes the easiest people to talk to are complete strangers.... that way you don't have to worry about seeing them the next day if you just want to dump everything on them.
Jul 5 2012 12:28AM
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JIBpsy^^
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tell someone. Whether its your best friend or your parent. one of the best things you can do is talk about it, or write about or play a sad song on the guitar or just express that sadness in a way that doesnt have to do with suicide.
Jul 5 2012 12:29AM
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Toaster-Tony
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Could have to do with the off-season too, at least I know mine gets worse when I'm not able to ski. One of my greatest releases in life is taking a bunch of park laps all by myself. It has got me through a lot of shit in the past year. You have to find something you're passionate about, whether it's sports, music, writing, exercise, working, or friends. Submerge yourself in you're "favorite something" and become proud of it. Also, talk to people and get out of the house, never have a day where you sit inside for hours on end. Finally, if it is getting bad, make sure you talk to a doctor. There is no shame in getting help considering that so many people do deal with depression on daily basis, and the worst thing that happens is the doctor helps you. The biggest thing though, is to completely cut out alcohol and drug use. This only leads to further depression, especially if you have an obsessive personality like me... which I assume most NS's do if they are on a skiing forum during the summer.

No ones alone in this and there's a lot of places to look for help if you need it.
Jul 5 2012 12:54AM
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