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Regret not making a move?

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Ciara
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So I met a guy from California while I was on holidays last week, really liked him and he was quite suggestive but I didn't do anything about it. Now I'm back home and regret not acting on it.

Anyone else?
Jul 1 2012 4:17PM
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thebeesknees
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you should have peed in his butt..ya blew it
Jul 1 2012 4:18PM
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VT_scratch
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nope definitely not... must be a chick thing





jokkkkeessss, join the LM cult and this is all you will read about hahaa.
Jul 1 2012 4:18PM
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Backyard.Skier
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you should have let him pee in your butt
Jul 1 2012 4:19PM
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theabortionator
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Jul 1 2012 4:20PM
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Caspaaa
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first time i've ever heard a girl admit that she regrets not making a move.


props to you for not being all "only GUYS should make the first move, blah blah blah blah blah"

seriously though, ladies, if a guy even makes the slightest sexual remark, most of the time (unless he is gay), you can count on him wanting to bang you.
Jul 1 2012 4:20PM
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SterlingArcher
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you did the right thing..  now you can save yourself for YMR
Jul 1 2012 4:22PM
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asfdfads
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this. basically, i opperate on the assumption that every girl wants to bang me.
Jul 1 2012 4:25PM
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Miomo
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All guys do.
Jul 1 2012 4:31PM
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Yeezy
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i know i do...
Jul 1 2012 4:31PM
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katie.
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I was in Montreal (I live in near Toronto) and though I knew I was leaving soon...I made a move on the cute guy who was showing interest which has subsequently turned into an amazing relationship - albeit long distance. You never know until you give it a shot!
Jul 1 2012 4:38PM
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Caspaaa
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first time i've ever heard a girl admit that she regrets not making a move.


props to you for not being all "only GUYS should make the first move, blah blah blah blah blah"

seriously though, ladies, if a guy even makes the slightest sexual remark, most of the time (unless he is gay), you can count on him wanting to bang you.
Jul 1 2012 4:40PM
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Caspaaa
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haha not sure why that posted twice?
Jul 1 2012 4:41PM
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Ciara
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Haha, I know so many girls who are like FFFFFFFFF for not just sucking up their pride and being like hey wanna hang out sometime?

As stupid as this may sound, I think it's more acceptable for guys to be turned down cause they're used to making the moves rather than girls. If we make a rare move on a guy and we're rejected it'd suck!
Jul 1 2012 4:48PM
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edai
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98% of the time you won't be rejected. ever.
Jul 1 2012 4:50PM
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ONTerriible
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So now you know how we feel, as a guy with chronic shyness i'm pretty much fucked haha.
Jul 1 2012 4:52PM
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Caspaaa
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literally this.


rule of thumb for girls

-if a guy hangs out with you alone more than once, he would hook up with you.
Jul 1 2012 4:56PM
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e.wait
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I was hung up on this girl for a solid year. We were good friends and had a bunch of mutual friends, so we hung out from time to time. This one day last winter I was over at her house with a bunch of people. Everyone was sitting in the basement watching TV and she asked me to go upstairs to make smoothies with her. When we got up to her kitchen, she was like, "oh wait I don't own a blender." We just stood around talking. Everything I said made her laugh and she kept getting close to me. Chances are she wanted me to make a move, but I was too convinced she wasn't interested to just man up and kiss her. While I'm over her, it still bugs me.
Jul 1 2012 5:55PM
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Sno.
Posts: 12155 - Karma: 6,152

In a relationship now, but, I can typically tell when a guy wants me and if I want him back i have no problem making the first move. In fact, I usually do. Guys get really nervous about this sort of thing and it helps if you make them feel at ease. If I get turned down, whatever. No shame.

You should facebook him or something.

Jul 1 2012 6:00PM
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Caspaaa
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why aren't more girls like you?
Jul 1 2012 6:03PM
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Sno.
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Jul 1 2012 6:11PM
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Ciara
Posts: 305 - Karma: 50
haha :)
Jul 1 2012 6:12PM
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Sno.
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There are, or...there will be....I think sooner or later everyone just realizes that we're all just people. We're all in the same boat. Everyone, no matter how good looking, rich, popular, etc. has insecurities. Everyone gets embarrassed, and everyone gets nervous. The sooner someone is able to recognize this-- truly get this-- the sooner they can dissolve their own insecurities, become more confident, and not care about what others think.

Some figure this out at a younger age, some older. I think I figured this out around 21.

But I've also put myself out on the line before and was rejected. This gave me tougher skin and I realized that being rejected isn't so bad. You just dust yourself off and try again.

Jul 1 2012 6:18PM
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*geezer*
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yup...........I often won't follow through though, because I don't want to look desperate as a lady
Jul 1 2012 6:25PM
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sir_drums_a_lot
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Getting rejected isn't that bad, I don't really dwell on on it much. Girls are usually flattered that you ask them out, whether they reject you or not.
Jul 1 2012 7:24PM
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Zimmerman
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I try to make sure this doesn't happen. I just remind myself that even failing miserably isn't worse than not trying.
Jul 1 2012 7:30PM
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stickski
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very true
Jul 1 2012 8:04PM
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Blurst
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I leave NS for two months and this is the first post that I see. Thankyou for making me laugh hysterically harder than I have in a long time.
Jul 1 2012 8:09PM
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Heart
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THIS THIS THIS. Ladies PLEASE just make the first move if you even remotely think there is something with the guy. i love chicks that make the first move and it makes things so much easier.

Your chance of being rejected is about 1 in a million.
Jul 1 2012 8:22PM
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Wompuscat
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I was always really hesitant to make the first move, and always missed the chance, and always regretted it. Granted I had before, and it went alright, but meh I was still chicken shit about it. This time, I went out with her once, we were drinking, got the first chance to make a move on her, but turned away cuz was like fuck it, i actually like her and dont want to be in a drunken stupor doing this. Prayed that I would get a second chance, I did. This time was like fuck it, no hesitation, and just went for it. Im now dating that girl, and have 0 regrets. Sooo from now on, Im just going to go for it, cuz fuck, the regret you feel, is 100x worse than the rejection.
Jul 1 2012 8:46PM
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thebeesknees
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Woman don't do shit to initiate any sort of "move" on men. They literally don't have to do anything except be decently attractive and wait for the dominant male figures to swoop in and chat them up. Such bullshit, good to know theres some exceptions out there.
Jul 1 2012 8:58PM
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sitty9.
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hi jon
Jul 1 2012 10:31PM
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Zimmerman
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In Jamaica there was a shop called Sharkeez
Jul 1 2012 11:20PM
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sitty9.
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did you buy it for me?
Jul 2 2012 11:12PM
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DUKES
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Wish more girls would be more open about it instead of waiting for us guys to make the move cause when we try to the girl is just putting you in "the zone" or just blowing you off (not referring to bjs.......or i could be)

Jul 2 2012 11:15PM
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Anathema
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i had a girl in second year of college and she was insanely beautiful and cute and amazing and all of these things and she wanted a relationship. she even made the first move on me. she facebook stalked me, noticing my name during a class presentation and called ME cute and start to chat me up.

i didn't pull the trigger and it ended up fizzling out. so disappointing. i saw her months later looking hotter than ever and all stoked on her new man. that could have been me. her name was maya and she was half... i dont know bulgarian or something. such a hot mix. all tanned skin with gorgeous european eyes and long dark hair. god damn. why i didn't jump on that is beyond me. i was just too scared to get into something even though i knew that i liked her back. i cant even explain it. i just let the moment pass and still regret it.
Jul 2 2012 11:20PM
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Flying~Squirrel
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DEAR OP LETS MEET UP FOR SECKS PM ME FOR DIGITS
Jul 2 2012 11:22PM
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Miomo
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Subtlety at it's finest.
Jul 2 2012 11:24PM
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Balto
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that was me OP, send me tit pics since you blew my night plox
Jul 2 2012 11:25PM
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ZAHNER
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yes.
Jul 2 2012 11:25PM
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Zimmerman
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nope.avi


just thought i'd let you know they'z reppin you down there
Jul 3 2012 6:10AM
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jeR.
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dust, shoulda sent dick pics
Jul 3 2012 12:48PM
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Anathema
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hahahahaa i had the same conversation with a close friend two days ago. he said that it was hilarious that one day this girl he was seeing totally lost interest in him for whatever reason, and to spice things back up he whipped out the dick pics and she went all "omg heyyyy ive missed you, sorry ive been so busy lately" and it totally reignited the relationship and they dated for a few months after that.

fucking hilarious. you never know, man. some girls just want to see that you have a little bit of a horny passion and flattering side to you and are willing to go above and beyond with them. granted, some girls might be totally creeped out and run for the hills. but sometimes it's a risk you've got to be willing to take. and it can't hurt when the relationship has already fizzled out, right? it's not like she's going to stop talking to you more...
Jul 3 2012 1:05PM
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alex=
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this thread so much

i went to an amusement park on sunday with my bros, and we chilled and went to the wave pool. we were bored as fuck so they dared me to start obnoxiously hitting on hot lifeguards, did it once, worked, did it twice, and turns out the girl was my age, absolutely beautiful, and my idea of the perfect girl. i stopped being obnoxious when i was hitting on her and just hitting on her for real, and then at the end of the day i was gonna try and get her number, but i figured i'd come off as creepy so i said fuck it. came back to the park the next day, asked around, found someone who knew her, and left her a sappy note with my number on it. fingers crossed.

end of cool story
Jul 3 2012 1:12PM
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Orrin
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MORE OF YOU. MORE OF YOU I SAY.
Jul 3 2012 1:20PM
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GORILLA.
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op you should of made a move. that guy's dick remains dry and it's all on you.

-GORILLA, OUT.
Jul 3 2012 1:21PM
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Alex.W
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Been going after this super pretty girl I've had a crush on since Winter.. Flirted with her a ton but was always a pussy and never ended up asking her out. We texted a ton but I never wanted to ask her on a date by text cause i figured that's a pussy move. Swallowed my pride a few days before I left for Europe for a month and asked her to lunch over text. We had lunch and a great time afterwards. Really broke the ice even though we've been talking for a long time. She said she had fun and she definitely wants to do it again. She texted me the day after saying she made my favourite dish where she worked a day before I left but unfortunately I didn't have time to pick it up.. :(

Already miss her a ton and hope things will be as I left them but a lot can happen in a month. Maybe I'm just worrying too much though
Jul 3 2012 1:35PM
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NotoriousT.S.E
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lol i feel you guys, i met the hottest prettiest coolest girl at my friends place this weekend and I didn't put to much of a move on her and i regret it so bad it hurts. Oh wellll fuck mee
Jul 3 2012 1:38PM
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Mids
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know what you mean
Jul 3 2012 3:49PM
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steezyjibber
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i'd like to hear what becomes of this
Jul 7 2012 12:21AM
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Toaster-Tony
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Banned? For a week?

I thought this was America!
Jul 7 2012 12:25AM
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