i agreed with pretty much everything you said up untill that..
yes i do know what an "actual" rave is, ive been around for that and decided it was fucking stupid.. and unless you live near or in a major city you just have no idea.
but you cant disrespect avicii just because hes popular, you should almost respect him more because of that. think about it, if you like electronic music, there is almost nothing better for the industry in all aspects then popularization, and if i wanted to "convert" someone to likeing edm i would throw down some avicii if they havent heard it already (im talking at least a year ago.) but right now we are in a transformation of the genre, and if you think about it its a good one because in my opinion at least (and ive been listening to electronic music for a while now) the good music is popular. last time i checked that was the main argument for disliking anything mainstream... that it wasnt fully superior and you arent being "tricked".
this transformation is all part of a plan, this music is the music of our generation, just like how our parents like the popular music that was emerging at their time. (woodstock and whatnot) history is only repeating itself and its coming from a pretty shity scene. the same way how when rock music was emerging it changed from blues and other underground shit.
yeah i know the current scene is not at all what it used to be, even in terms of the definition of a rave, but you are just going to have to get with the program, grow up and accept that edm and electronic music is changing and more epic than ever, and it going to be ok with regards to the perspective you have (i used to think that way too thats where im coming from)