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Depressed slump. In life.

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WestWoods
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Im usually fairly happy, yet recently I can't find the good in anything, I am not as good of skier as I want my progression is limited by me getting hurt, Im absolutely terrified of the future (graduating high school), my lack of solid friends who are actually friends lol, even as gay as it sounds my ultimate failure with women is tearing my insides, Im a hopeless romantic who as gay as it sounds really just wants to find a girl I can fully love. How do you get out of this way of thinking.... please help before the lyrics of B.I.G's suicidal thoughts become reality! Thanks for lending an ear.
Mar 25 2012 10:45PM
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Dr.Gnar
Posts: 896 - Karma: 197
Smoking weed everyday DEFINITELY can make you feel like you're in a slump. That's probably the culprit here. It just makes you so...indifferent and apathetic. Life loses its spark, and everything feels mundane and boring. Stop smoking weed = 5 days of mindfuck, then true happiness again. TRY IT.
Mar 26 2012 4:54PM
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saskskierftw
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Don't do drugs or drink to try and cure your problems. It'll only set you further back. Find a hobby that you love to do, and then do that. Friends and such other things will come once your happy again, but you have to see your life as worth while. Don't compare yourself to those around you, because you are unique and awesome. :D
Mar 26 2012 5:01PM
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mellifluous
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Unless you actually have clinical depression (or another mental illness for that matter) I've heard from a bunch of people that it's really just a mind game. It doesn't work for me like that, but they said to just pick your head back up and try as hard as you can to make everything in your life positive and just don't mind the bad things as much. Find an outlet, too. For me it's poetry, it really saves my life sometimes. :)
Mar 26 2012 5:02PM
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Anathema
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there are people living in war torn areas of the world where they watch their families get murdered in front of them and have to support themselves as neglected orphans by selling whatever the fuck they can from age 5 and have no education, sleep under a staircase in some public shithole, have slowly decomposing bodies from lack of basic medicines, and have to hike for miles to get water where there's threats of being gunned down or blown apart by land mines.

but i'm sure you have a really rough life cause your friends are being WEIRD
Mar 26 2012 5:03PM
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penguin_steeze
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live by the motto "fuck bitches get money". It will help you in the long run
Mar 26 2012 5:12PM
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Tent
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You seem quite wise. I have a question for you. There is this girl that I started talking to a couple of weeks ago, we talked alot. One night after my ski club at school on the bus ride home we did some stuff. After that we talked even more, we got to know eachother really well. Then last week when she was about to go on a cruise for march break, she sounded like she actually loved me.. She got back from her cruise, the 1st day when she was back we talked all day, and pretty much the same thing all week. But on Friday night I was going to bed so texted her "goodnight beautiful" just like every other night. She didn't answer my texts all Saturday or Sunday and today she is giving one word answers. I asked her "what's wrong? Whats with all the one word answers?" she replied "I'm trying to give up texting so much." I think that is complete bullshit. I have no idea what happed... I'm pretty sure I love her and I thought she may have loved me too.... What do you think is up with her? Sorry for shitty spelling I'm on mobile.
Mar 26 2012 5:19PM
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Caspaaa
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this.

it's a mind game, find an outlet, quoted for emphasis.
Mar 26 2012 5:30PM
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t-roy
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1.skiing. there is no way that this should make you feel sad. like the other guys said, don't worry about progression.

2. uncertainty of the future can be scary, but a couple years later...you will look back and see how small of a thing high school really is.

3. friends will come and go. most people I know have only kept a few good friends from high school.

4. failure with women...that is supposed to happen in high school. that should be the least of your concerns. honestly, you can't force love...it just happens.

Focus on the good in life. Be happy that you have your health (hopefully) and family. Spend some time with grandparents. Try going for peaceful walks and just appreciate the world around you. Think about how big the world is and the HUGE problems that some people face. It is hard to put yourself in someone else's place on the other side of the world...but BILLIONS of people before you have felt depressed at some point. You'll make it :)
Mar 26 2012 5:32PM
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EC-Skier
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it hasnt popped into my mind, but it did pop into my girlfriends mind the other night. I had to tell her who would miss her, how much i love her, and to put the gun down.
Mar 26 2012 5:36PM
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kingskier
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go to a party. get drunk. make awesome friends from vague drunk memories. do funny stuff. shag bitches.
Mar 26 2012 5:36PM
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Scoota
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I know exactly how you feel man and although things may seem tough now you need to have positive thoughts for what's to come in the future, because honestly nobody knows what the future holds. Ever since second year university i've sulked in my guilt about having no idea about what I will be doing when real life hits me after school. Friends come and go. Those that you truly care about and those that care about you will be there with you for the rest of your life or as long as you choose. The same can be said with girlfriends. I hardly have any friends left from high school but some of the relationships that you will maintain for the rest of your life, come after people are removed from the adolescence high school. This time two years ago including last year, I felt like I was drowning. My parents provided the world for me from skiing to school, living and I never appreciated shit. My list of sexual encounters was less than impressive and daily, I was freaking out about starting a real life after school. I almost wished the world would end in 2012 living in what i thought had been, the peak of my exciting life experiences. I had very little hope for the future it almost seemed life "Suicidal fantasies 'may' have been on my fucking mind."

I'm now about to graduate with a degree i first thought was useless. Since those times of utter despair I've discovered new opportunities, life long relationships and experiences that I will never forget for the rest of my life. What helped me has been constantly looking to those that I love and love me. This includes: friends and family that I will have for the rest of my life because they love me if not more than I love them. Instead of wishing it was over in 2012, I'm fortunate I am living 2012. what I'm saying is don't give in and appreciate what you have, because to those that surround you, you are irreplaceable. Instead of freaking out about the future you'll soon be in the position in which you have to decide your own future, an exciting yet very decisive time that I am currently going through.

hope this helps
Mar 26 2012 6:26PM
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Flying~Squirrel
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well shit









who let a girl have a gun?








going to hell brb
Mar 26 2012 6:56PM
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Julian.F
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For all the people on here that are joking about suicide, stop. Suicide is real. Last year a cousin of mine took his life over a girl. I'm telling you right now that suicide is a no. I'm sure that if he could see the pain he put his family through, he'd regret it more than anything. Life is beautiful and should be spent being happy. Things like relationships and friends come and go. We all know that. Look for the good in things and focus on those. Keep life interesting. Try new things, experiment. I know it sounds cheesy but it will help. Stay strong. Your slump will be over soon enough.
Mar 26 2012 7:07PM
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SnowPatROLL
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just got caught burning by both of my parents comming in to say happy birthday...

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Mar 26 2012 7:09PM
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Huck_Norris
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Oh? I smoke weed every day and If it weren't for it's ability to gel
Mar 26 2012 7:11PM
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Huck_Norris
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Mobile I hate you
Mar 26 2012 7:12PM
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SnowPatROLL
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true
Mar 26 2012 7:52PM
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Amadeus.
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You should send an email to lisaanndraft@gmail.com and next time she's in your town you might get a good fuck.
Mar 26 2012 7:58PM
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schusson
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Mar 26 2012 9:04PM
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JIBpsy^^
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This 150 percent
Mar 26 2012 9:15PM
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Bogs
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poetry, you say? we'd love to hear (see?) some
Mar 26 2012 11:31PM
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accualyisdolan
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depends on the drug, cocaine or add medication will just make you hornier. weed and opiates will make you care less about girl problems, although with opiates stay away from oxy and dont get addicted. and obviously dont do meth... i think thats pretty obvious..
Mar 27 2012 6:14AM
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mightyboosh
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In the words of Woody Allen:

"I feel that life is divided into the horrible and the miserable. That's the two categories. The horrible would be like, I don't know, terminal cases, you know, and blind people, crippled. I don't know how they get through life. It's amazing to me. And the miserable is everyone else. So you should be thankful that you're miserable, because that's very lucky, to be miserable."
Mar 27 2012 6:29AM
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WestWoods
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Thanks everyone who actually was real enough to send out good vibes, I especially appreciate the PM's I got, meant allot. Also, I know my lifes not some Kony horror movie, I just was expressing myself instead of keeping it in. So thanks again to everyone who made me see the positives this thread worked better then imagined! Love you all!
Mar 27 2012 4:43PM
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WestWoods
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I didn't know that we were talking about Harry Potter... haha
Mar 27 2012 4:45PM
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james6345789
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If that was directed at me, I do not do drugs. I was just quoting Gangstarr for OP's sake and to provide evidence as to why he should not listen the the guy I quote replied.
Mar 27 2012 4:47PM
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Casual.
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people that have never been depressed shouldn't give advice to those who are.
Mar 27 2012 8:51PM
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Dr.Gnar
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It certainly wasn't, sorry to mislead. I was just generally speakin'.
Mar 27 2012 8:52PM
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Caspaaa
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this
Mar 27 2012 9:44PM
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vandersteeze
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Do extacy
Mar 27 2012 10:22PM
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Wompuscat
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Kind of in a slump as of right now too my man. It sucks, but we'll come through it. Things will get better. Just keep lookin' to the future man, best thing for me at least.
Mar 27 2012 10:37PM
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act.resist
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Don't look at growing up as the end of your life. Embrace it and make te best of it, looking at it negatively will only make it worse. As for girls you're in highschool the chances of you actually finding someone your going to be happy with for the rest of your life are slim to none. Just keep your head up and keep moving forward
Mar 27 2012 10:44PM
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timC
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Girls are Hoes. You give them an inch of emotion and they take a mile. Than they leave you high and dry when a "better" or "more impressive guy" comes around the corner. Not worth the heart ache. Fuck girls at parties and treat them like they're the same as every other one out there, and they will strive to impress you.
Mar 29 2012 9:11PM
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timC
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Girls act like they're in love because they're in love with the idea of being in love. As soon as a guy who they believe they may be happier with comes around the corner, they leave you high and dry. They're all hoes man. Hit it and quit it. No heart ache and leaves you with the power, not the girl who's eventually going to break your heart and leave you in a 2 week slump. /endrant
Mar 29 2012 9:25PM
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sniche
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Here ya go....

Just dont be a little bitch, theres starving kids in africa...
Mar 29 2012 10:22PM
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Raz.
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Mar 29 2012 10:24PM
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