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Depressed slump. In life.

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WestWoods
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Im usually fairly happy, yet recently I can't find the good in anything, I am not as good of skier as I want my progression is limited by me getting hurt, Im absolutely terrified of the future (graduating high school), my lack of solid friends who are actually friends lol, even as gay as it sounds my ultimate failure with women is tearing my insides, Im a hopeless romantic who as gay as it sounds really just wants to find a girl I can fully love. How do you get out of this way of thinking.... please help before the lyrics of B.I.G's suicidal thoughts become reality! Thanks for lending an ear.
Mar 25 2012 10:45PM
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Crossfade
Posts: 743 - Karma: 24
bleh, please man up for your own good.  stop with the nice guy routine, worked for me.
Mar 25 2012 10:48PM
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The_Big_Tuna
Posts: 799 - Karma: 75
dank
Mar 25 2012 10:48PM
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1337
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Been in a slump before too man, it sucks. I'll probably hit another one when ski season finally ends (happens every year, like clockwork). To me, skiing is my outlet for negative energy and always makes me feel better. Find something that makes you happy and just do it as much as you can. Keep your mind focused on the positives and don't think about the negatives.
Mar 25 2012 10:49PM
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mmmpoundcake
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ive been where u are and its sucks i know, the only way to keep up and keep ur head up is to keep going. life sucks and it sucks alot at some points, but life is full of amazing things. u jsut have to find them. forget women, even forget skiing. focus on u, and everything else will fall into place
Mar 25 2012 10:49PM
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SlimDunkin.
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don't let it get to you, ever. you're brain doesn't things like play tricks on you and makes things seem worse then they actually are.
establish a core group of good friends, ones who you can just be yourself around and share in the same interests as you, and surround yourself with those people, and through that you will meet girls, and you're life will be eventually more enjoyable. remember it's exactly as you said it was, a slump. it'll be over soon i promise, no need to even entertain the thought of "ending it".
Mar 25 2012 10:49PM
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alex=
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I feel the exact same way
Mar 25 2012 10:49PM
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WestWoods
Posts: 960 - Karma: 414
Okay :(
Mar 25 2012 10:49PM
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deleted5
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GOOD ARE YOU HAPPY. No archer I'm not happy. WELL ME EITHER, I mean generally speaking I wouldn't say I'm a happy person.
Mar 25 2012 10:51PM
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Flying~Squirrel
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i basically did this, and it worked. when i was at school i was wicked depressed, so i took time off and now im doing whatever makes me feel good about myself.
Mar 25 2012 10:53PM
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c_roll
Posts: 584 - Karma: 246
And thats where drugs come in......... one time I got reject by a girl who was hitting on me for months so I went over to my friends house and drank and smoked till i couldn't feel feelings anymore, das all ya got ta do my hommie
Mar 25 2012 10:55PM
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EricaMN.
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pretty much describes my life. i can't even remember the last time that i was happy about something besides skiing.
Mar 25 2012 10:56PM
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chickenonabun
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play some disc golf yo
Mar 25 2012 10:58PM
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soupysoups
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Mar 25 2012 11:00PM
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Crossfade
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yes, cheers.
Mar 25 2012 11:00PM
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KEVTRON
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I kinda feel similar.  Its not because of girls but I had a friend pass away recently and ever since then my thoughts/life have been all over the place. I never really feel happy, hell even when I ski I dont even feel like being on the mountain, I just wanna lay in my bed all day. Wierd part is is we were never really "that" close. I guess im "back on the pursuit  of happiness And I know everything that shine ain't always gonna be gold, I'll be fine once I get It, i'll be good." Listen to some music, always cheers me up, especially ones that raise nostalgic feelings.
Mar 25 2012 11:01PM
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TallerThanThou
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I don't think anyone could truly give you solid advice about these sorts of things. But you'll feel better after some time. This also sounds pretty God damn stupid, but watch the beginning of the Notebook and do exactly what the main character does to ask out that girl. Who the fuck could say no to that? And wear dope 1940's clothing because that's considered "fashiony" and attractive nowadays. Females will be drawn to you like little kids to Disney Channel.
Mar 25 2012 11:01PM
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jewFro
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Find an outlet to let out all the negative energy. Sports, music, friends, whatever it may be. Don't sweat the small stuff. Someone giving you some shit or doing poorly on a school assignment by themselves don't matter. Focus on the big picture.

As far as females, really don't worry about it. Unless you're sitting in your basement every night not talking to anybody, you'll get out of the slump. I never had the "Mr. Nice Guy" problem, I've always been pretty straightforward, and last year I did terribly with girls, yet this year things are going great. Wether it be a girl that you really like or just a girl to have a little fun with, you'll find her.
Mar 25 2012 11:01PM
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blackmamba.
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find/do another hobby, chill with friends, and get laid. in that order
Mar 25 2012 11:02PM
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Dunnah
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or just regular golf
Mar 25 2012 11:02PM
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The_Lord_of_Love
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NO! DISC GOLF
Mar 25 2012 11:03PM
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Alex.W
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Pretty much in the same slump. Skiing's over too which makes it even worse.
Mar 25 2012 11:05PM
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Alex.W
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Just chin up, take it easy, 1 day at a time. Go out, meet new people. Try to find something you enjoy in te summer.
Mar 25 2012 11:09PM
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kaydawg
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if your life is completely perfect- stay where you are. if not - change something. simple as that
Mar 25 2012 11:38PM
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no_steeze
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i was in this spot about a year ago this time, maybe more like a year and a half. i was hopeless and nothing ever worked out in my favor despite how hard i worked for it. i was shy, only had a few solid friends, had a girl stalking me who ruined my chances with every other girl, didn't get into a single college, and only had minor success in my sports. then the girl of my dreams walked into my life, i got the best grades of my high school career, and my boat had a historic season for my school. it all happened really fast and now i have everything in the world to be happy about. i took a gap year and got into an ivy, got an awesome job, got to ski a bunch, and life is pretty damn perfect

but it was all a chain reaction, so just find something positive and everything else will fall into place. life changes quick when you're in high school. you're in the dumps now so expect to be flying high in a few months, just gotta stick it out and realize that you have a lot to be happy about
Mar 26 2012 1:24AM
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k.perkins
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damn thats cute
Mar 26 2012 2:17AM
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wait.what
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a smile is just a curve that sets everything straight.




no homo
Mar 26 2012 2:43AM
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LittleFoot
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I know everyone says it and it's sort of lost its meaning but just have fun with skiing. concentrate on adding steeze to shit you already know. Just do fun lines through the park stuff like that.

everyone is terrified of the future

it's quality over quantity when it comes to friends. I have a small group of true friends who would be considered complete losers to everyone else but I love them in a non homo way

You'll find a girl to fully love later. You don't have to think about that when you're still in high school

And listen to a lot of music that inspires you. learn to appreciate all kinds of different music. I've been listening to fucking bluegrass this week and it's crazy.


Mar 26 2012 2:55AM
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Dr.Gnar
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YOU LIVE IN A FIRST WORLD COUNTRY, YOUR LIFE IS AWESOME!!  TURN ON BBC NEWS SOME TIME AND TELL ME YOU DON'T LIVE LIKE A KING.

Seriously, depression rates shouldn't be some of the highest, and getting worse, in the USA.  As North Americans, we are spoiled, ignorant fucks that live in relative luxury.  That's why I keep up with the news, to remind myself how goddamn good I have it.

Have faith in the future.  Start looking at college or university after high school, or taking a year off to ski.  Whatever you do, don't smoke too much weed, because it makes the majority (not all, but most) of people unmotivated and they go nowhere fast.  Don't stress, everything will work out, and you will hurdle and crazy shit along the way just fine.

As for girls, men aren't supposed to be hopeless romantics.  As men we are supposed to suppress our mushy emotions.  The best tip I can give you in general is confidence, confidence, confidence, confidence.  Don't worry about true love until you are older and ready to get married, and then, it will work better to be romantic.

In general, as my friend once said, "stop thinking so much!!"  Learn to enjoy the moment.  Everyone should know that you can trick and convince yourself to being happy.  It's called positive thinking.  The next time you are about to complain or critisize, say something positive instead.  Oh, and girls like that, too.  Enthusiasm will get you to the moon and back.

Cheers

Mar 26 2012 3:13AM
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arneson
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this.
in regarding to girls. just be yourself and dont try too hard.
Mar 26 2012 8:02AM
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geteducated
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my younger brother was in a similar slump, then he got a call from his friend in china and now he is over there working with his friend on a project for a to build some night club/lounges with millions of dollars backing him up. sometimes life has a way of presenting opportunities to you that you don't even see coming.
Mar 26 2012 8:29AM
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Lansfield
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This thread... I don't know It makes me happy or sad.
Mar 26 2012 9:02AM
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*geezer*
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this
Mar 26 2012 9:41AM
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HeyImPeter
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Adams song by blink182
Mar 26 2012 9:43AM
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Blurst
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and the worst advice in the thread.
Mar 26 2012 9:54AM
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XtRemE11
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i was kinda in your situation when i was in highschool, I didnt like the idea of graduating, "growing up" having "responsibilities" etc.. but really, after i graduated, started really doing shit and living somewhat on my own, everything became so much better. highschool blows ass, your 20's really are the best years of your life, and if you dont have a good time in your 20's then you are doing something incredibly wrong. my last couple of summers have been the best summers ive had ever by far. the truth is, you have no fucking responsibilities in your 20s other than making money to live off of. and if you are smart and play it right, its not much effort. you dont have to grow up, if anything you do the exact oppisite.
just be positive, dont turn into a douche bag, keep being a nice guy despite what some people are saying and it will pay off.
Mar 26 2012 9:56AM
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WestWoods
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Thanks guys, This thread worked better then I ever hoped, I know that I really don't know you and you don't know me, but your guys positivity has helped allot with my confidence, you guys don't know how much I appreciate it! much love to you all!
Mar 26 2012 11:13AM
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WI_Personallty
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just sounds like your lacking self confidence. Go do something really amazing and it will boost
Mar 26 2012 11:19AM
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james6345789
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"suicide? No I'm not a foolish guy. Don't feel like drinking, or even getting high, because all that's really do is accelerate this anxiety I wish I could alleviate" OP please don't listen to this guy
Mar 26 2012 11:25AM
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TechnoPotamus
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today is your day man. get up, get out there, and get after it! the power is all in your hands, always has been and always will be. pick yourself up and go do something fun, right now
Mar 26 2012 12:09PM
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Puzzled
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I know this is all for laughs but really, don't post shit like that. I've already been in the same situation as him and I gotta say you get the idea quite often...
Mar 26 2012 12:13PM
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Drail
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teenage angst is a bitch. don't fear graduating, embrace it. Trust me, your best days are yet to come.
Mar 26 2012 12:39PM
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skier_boy26
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What is it with high school students acting like little bitches? You're in fucking high school.
Mar 26 2012 12:42PM
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The_Big_Tuna
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not the place for this lol
Mar 26 2012 12:55PM
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jewFro
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RIP Guru.
Mar 26 2012 1:52PM
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EastCoast315
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Fuck off. Let "men" decide for themselves.
How's your Santorum vote?
Mar 26 2012 1:56PM
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Caspaaa
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pick up a new hobby, and view everything with a more positive outlook. dont necessarily play sports or do other activities to have a future in them, do them for straight up fun.

other things don't make you happy, you make yourself happy. you also make yourself upset/sad/depressed. i'm not saying "blame yourself", i'm saying take it upon yourself to be happy. wake up everyday and think about one thing to look forward to and look forward to it. you don't have to do the same thing as everybody else.
Mar 26 2012 2:06PM
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Caspaaa
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sorry, i hit enter on mobile on accident.

don't worry about girls dude, you're in highschool and you have plenty of time to find the girl of your dreams. talk to girls and slowly build up your relationship with them, if you end up liking the girl, show her. worst comes to worst she doesn't feel the same way and you both move on.

don't ski to progress, ski to HAVE FUN. get it out of your head that you are trying to become a pro skier and NEED to land that 270 on, or bs 4 out. ski because you love to ski, you'll progress just by having fun. you'll land those tricks eventually, and less painfully if you land them for fun, not for the sake of progressing.

highschool is highschool, you have plenty of time in the future to make friends. you might not have the slightest clue what you want to go to college for, thats fine, neither do i. a lot of people have no idea. talk to new people, try new things, and who knows that will happen. the girl of your dreams could walk into your life tomorrow, or you could find your true passion in life out of pure coincidence. its life, to not enjoy it would be a shame.
Mar 26 2012 2:11PM
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accualyisdolan
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"without the bitter, baby, the sweet ain't sweet.."   -vanilla sky
Mar 26 2012 2:21PM
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KL.
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just officially fell into a slump this weekend when i got a an underage possession of alcohol violation for walking to my dorm with a fucking 6 pack. this will cost me a couple hundred dollars that i dont have. got a drug test in a couple of weeks so i cant blaze. rarely talking to attractive girls because there is such a lack of them at my college. my friendships are seeming much less genuine with some people. shit sucks but i know i always have good things to look forward to and my realness will be rewarded.

Mar 26 2012 2:22PM
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chicken
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Dude you are in highschool. Just act like an asshole and you will get girls. Drive way to fast in the parking lot, get loud ass speakers, get drunk and obnoxious at parties and don't try to be yourself at all. It looks to girls like confidence.

I'm pretty sure you will eventually be able to find a girl by just being yourself but if you are anything like me (pretty laid back and fairly quiet, especially around new people) you probably look insecure to girls. I mean just the fact that you made this thread makes you look insecure.

As you get older the girls will start to like you more for who you really are. Just wait for university.
Mar 26 2012 2:23PM
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