I feel like you might be talking to me? I hate that shit too, and I genuinely don't think asking non-readers what the experience was like for them last night is doing any sort of wink, wink, I'm in the know bullshit.
It's a very different thing to have no expectation of that scene, and because it was so striking and unflinching I was curious as to how it unfolded for people who didn't look for and jump on any and all little 'tells'.
If it came across like smarmy book reader shit, or pseudo spoiler, it wasn't my intention. If I wasn't the target at ^, my bad, I'm stony baloney, under a blanket, watching my 6th episode of American Horror Story in about 16 hours, and I'm maybe just paranoid.