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How to get rid of feelings for your ex :(

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ERICsteezWard
Posts: 142 - Karma: 22
well me and this girl broke up a long time ago but we were going out since the stone age. she moved on and is dating one of my sorta friends but we aint friends anymore because he is a dick. i recently moved to NH and she is in NC but i still have mixed emotions about her and shiz. she is mostly a bitch sometimes. her BF is a senior and she is a sophmore so its gunna be funny when he goes to college in another state. but we made a promise to try and be friends but obviously i wouldnt be posting this thread if we were. any stories or advice would be of some use. repost k+
Feb 10 2012 12:37PM
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FLBP
Posts: 1794 - Karma: 310
She is a bitch.
Don't be her friend.
Move on.
It sucks, it's hard, but you need to live for you, not her.
Feb 10 2012 12:40PM
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rudager
Posts: 11335 - Karma: 4,624
It's not the end of the world man, and I'll give you the number 1 reason why.

You're in high school.


You've moved, time to move on and meet new people. Have fun while you're young. Wait until you're in your late 20's to worry about the girl that got away. If she left, it's nothing special
Feb 10 2012 12:42PM
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.AR6rider.
Posts: 15976 - Karma: 8,799
Bang it out with some randoms.
Feb 10 2012 12:43PM
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CliffyByro
Posts: 5678 - Karma: 3,903
guaranteed as soon as you meet a new girl things will be better. she's hooking up with your friend, she's probably a bitch, i can guarantee you can probably do better buddy. keep your head and let her go and you'll be fine eventually.

also check out the ladie's men cult
Feb 10 2012 12:44PM
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e_strapp
Posts: 1116 - Karma: 212
ski more!
Feb 10 2012 12:44PM
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Kekambas.
Posts: 904 - Karma: 485
was in the same situation, not being near her makes it easier.  Don't talk to her, and just ignore anything doing with her.  Just find a different girl, not even necessarily to bang (although that's the ultimate goal) just to chill with and forget about the other bitch. 

It was probably easier for me to get over the girl in my situation though because she did a dude with the clap, so that made it easy to get over her. 
Feb 10 2012 12:44PM
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maximiliaan
Posts: 7711 - Karma: 2,857
fuck yeah!
Feb 10 2012 12:45PM
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Wompuscat
Posts: 818 - Karma: 380
Slay some randos bro.
Feb 10 2012 12:47PM
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CliffyByro
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yeah this too
Feb 10 2012 12:47PM
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ERICsteezWard
Posts: 142 - Karma: 22
thanks guys. i really like all this advice
Feb 10 2012 12:48PM
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wasatch_rat
Posts: 1772 - Karma: 2,951
get over it, start getting with other girls. its the most obvious advice because its the most effective.

i couldn't be around my high school girlfriend without getting ridiculously angry for like a year after we broke up. i hated seeing her with another dude so god damned much until i got with other people else and realized it was for the better. we've both been with several other people by now, and it just doesn't bother us. now i hang out with her almost every time i go home and genuinely consider her a friend, and am much happier with my current girlfriend than i ever was with her, and i'm pretty sure she's happy with her guy, so its all good.

so, try not to be a dick to her and make the situation worse, instead politely distance yourself from her for a while and get with some other ladies. believe me its a crazy relieving and awesome feeling when you realize your over your ex, but it tends to come faster when your getting affection from other ladies.
Feb 10 2012 12:49PM
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mode2n
Posts: 2856 - Karma: 255
Give it some time, I guarantee you'll get over her if you just think positive and dont give her the attention 
Feb 10 2012 12:50PM
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thatsdill
Posts: 107 - Karma: 73
Almost impossible to be friends with an ex unless the words with benefits are in there somewhere. Move on and forget about her, been there done that enough to know that you'll forget about her eventually. Good luck sir.
Feb 10 2012 12:51PM
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Chaunceyskis
Posts: 2197 - Karma: 346
distract yourself man....but not with aimless adventures
pick up a new craft or do something that in the end when you are finished with it you can have something to replace said bitch with.
you need something that will make you focus wholeheartedly and not think about anything else
then you'll be like oh shit well thats what its like not thinking about her.....and done

ps....you are probably young
you have plenty of time to slay the females
Feb 10 2012 12:52PM
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scratchproteen
Posts: 5173 - Karma: 286
best way to get over it right here.
Feb 10 2012 12:53PM
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Simmo
Posts: 512 - Karma: 28
Sleep with as many other girls as it takes for those feelings to go away.
Feb 10 2012 12:53PM
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Tortid
Posts: 361 - Karma: 151
this
Feb 10 2012 12:58PM
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Zimmerman
Posts: 6992 - Karma: 1,021
ladiesmen, surprised i got this in there before pee in her butt
Feb 10 2012 1:00PM
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[hamnuts]
Posts: 2356 - Karma: 439
remember how shitty she made you feel and then maybe you won't have anymore feelings for her
Feb 10 2012 1:02PM
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act.resist
Posts: 8875 - Karma: 513
get a new girlfriend
Feb 10 2012 1:04PM
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Pink.Floyd
Posts: 54 - Karma: 16
As cliche as it is, there really are more fish in the sea. By your description of her, she really doesn't sound like she's worth all the fuss. I know it's difficult getting over someone, everyone goes through this at some point or another. You have to just smile about the good memories you had, and just move on. You'll find someone that will truly appreciate you, and by then you'll be so happy you won't even remember this girl. Also, you're still young. Don't worry about this sort of stuff now.
Feb 10 2012 1:06PM
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TheGnarwhal
Posts: 871 - Karma: 49
Man the fuck up
Feb 10 2012 1:06PM
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caliskigirl
Posts: 393 - Karma: 67
Embrace the good memories, but remember what made you broke up in the first place and what it is about her that makes you consider her a bitch. Obviously you weren't right for each other, or grew apart, but either way you just have to accept that it's over. It's ok to be sad about it for a while, but then comes the time to move on, you can't hang on to what's in the past. Meet some other girls, go on some dates, or go hook up with some girls if you prefer. You're young, I'm sure that you'll bounce back :)
Feb 10 2012 1:26PM
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Bumblesteeze
Posts: 3092 - Karma: 748
She's not worth your time man, you can definitely do better than that. She sounds like a bitch..
Never settle this out by "being friends", she just wants a shoulder to cry on when things aren't going well with her current boyfriend. She can't have her cake and eat it too. Do yourself a favour and completely cut any form of contact you have with her, delete her from facebook, remove her number from your phone and don't talk to her.
From first hand experience, it's been successful. As a matter a fact, I haven't talked or seen her for over a year and I feel great.

I know it's difficult, but don't ever contact her. If she really misses you and wants you back, she will contact you.
Don't waste your time youngin'.
Feb 10 2012 1:26PM
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thaloot
Posts: 237 - Karma: 17

propose sex with her. no feelings, no ties, no anger,.. but tell her this, being confident and end all conversation there. timbit: girls tend to have this funny fear of raising their 'fuck count' too high, and in many cases would much rather bang an ex to keep that number low :) chances are, down the road, (note: may be a week, may be a month, may be longer) she maaaay just want to hook up with you, booty call-style and fuck like a bunny. forget the whole relationship aspect, thats pussy talk

de yu gow

Feb 10 2012 1:38PM
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.Apex.
Posts: 2097 - Karma: 1,556
Tell her you recently found out your have (sexually transmitted infection) and you had it when you were with her. Then stop talking to her, she'll freak out and you get a good laugh knowing she'll never be able to enjoy a penis the same way again.
Feb 10 2012 1:39PM
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GayWolf420
Posts: 37393 - Karma: 120,175
Fuck another girl.
Feb 10 2012 1:40PM
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doitbig
Posts: 4818 - Karma: 315
mostly this
Feb 10 2012 1:43PM
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HeyImPeter
Posts: 190 - Karma: 12
Smoke more. Worked for my friend who was suicidal because of a bitch
Feb 10 2012 2:14PM
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rudager
Posts: 11335 - Karma: 4,624
Terrible advice. As much as it might have worked for your friend, one should never turn to drugs or alcohol to mask a past relation.
Feb 10 2012 2:17PM
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5oup5teeze
Posts: 1259 - Karma: 74
dude, me and this girl broke up like 7 months ago and we dated for over 4 years. for a while i was shaken up by it but i just realized one day i need to worry about ME and not her. you just need to realize there's more to life than one girl. what i did and would suggest, get out there and be outgoing. meet whoever and as often as you can. before you know it, you'll have a huge network of friends, PLENTY of girls who are into you and you'll be happier because of it. i decided to do this so i've seen some girls since the break up and gotten laid a ton too. that's not everything, but it's a part of it. you'll be alright. hands down, just get out there and do everything you can to meet new people!
Feb 10 2012 2:18PM
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Anathema
Posts: 21048 - Karma: 5,061
time, brother. it just takes time. occupy yourself with other shit, go out with buddies, stay busy. anything to get your mind off of it and the feelings will fade. i can't tell you how it's going to take, but they will.
Feb 10 2012 2:23PM
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ERICsteezWard
Posts: 142 - Karma: 22
Yea but she wont even talk to ke anymore. Its like im dead to her
Feb 10 2012 2:50PM
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FLBP
Posts: 1794 - Karma: 310
There's tons of beezys in the world, just cause that one won't talk to you doesn't mean the others won't.
Feb 10 2012 2:51PM
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H8CH
Posts: 2709 - Karma: 218
Like a monkey...

You don't let go of one branch, until you grab hold of another...

Don't sweat it... everything works out in the end.
Feb 10 2012 3:01PM
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snwbrdmilf
Posts: 22441 - Karma: 2,805
Haha nice analogy. Me likes.
Feb 10 2012 3:04PM
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NickelPennyDime
Posts: 248 - Karma: 38
delete any forms of contact you have with her and move on
Feb 10 2012 3:26PM
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array.
Posts: 2439 - Karma: 202
pics or gtfo
Feb 10 2012 3:28PM
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ERICsteezWard
Posts: 142 - Karma: 22
yea she does have a sister but she is butt ugly and prego
Feb 10 2012 3:29PM
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sweatshirt
Posts: 1357 - Karma: 483
you can't get over an ex until you have another girls tits in your hands
Feb 10 2012 3:32PM
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hot.pocket
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Click for larger image

Think about this.
Feb 10 2012 3:35PM
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PacificRimJob
Posts: 24725 - Karma: 29,944
Read the women logic thread - it helps.
Feb 10 2012 3:36PM
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elemeno89
Posts: 1582 - Karma: 79
there we go.
Feb 10 2012 3:38PM
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elemeno89
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but in all honesty, the best way to forget is to do something. like run (for me it worked), work out, play a sport, hang out with buddies. with time it'll feel better man. just don't resort to drugs or alcohol, saw a buddy go that route and caused him a lot more damage. especially on the drug side of things.
Feb 10 2012 3:40PM
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blackmamba.
Posts: 969 - Karma: 56
posting pictures usually helps...so i've heard.
Feb 10 2012 4:04PM
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Abc567def
Posts: 8756 - Karma: 801
hang out with friends, start running even if its late at night. If you do it to music its even better. Start cooking some really boss meals and invite friends over to help you cook them. Get some numbers of girls in your class/or randoms and start texting them. Idle hands lead to a busy mind and that will only dig you deeper into this sadness that you are currently in. If you have a drivers licence go on some late night drives with a friend while bumping beats. But the best thing that you could possibly do is "put a smile on your face and start talking to people"
Feb 10 2012 4:04PM
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Lé.Skiing
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me and my cousins had a conversation about ex's a few months back.  I agree they seem like you miss all the good times you had with them its like the feeling of nostalgia creeping towards you about you and her.  let me tell you something if you did get back with said person its not going to be the same, never will be.  I know its tough as a mother fucker to move on but what always helps is hanging out with your closest friends get drunk smoke pot whatever tickles your fancy.  Just one thing don't think about her.  You will find another one and there's always that large possibility that the next one wont be a complete nut job.  keep in mind not all women aren't like your exes some are actually sane.

I still from time to time think about this one chick I wouldn't mind getting back together with.  Then I think about the time she threw a glass at me and cut up my arm and how I got it shit for what she did to me because of her psyco friends.  That's love I thought.  Now I think That's nothing what love is about.  That's two people who don't really get along because ones psyco and the other tries to be rational about things.  Yah I've had some fucked up experiences but it has made me realize that I can always find someone better.. lol (up side I laugh about that shit now)
Feb 10 2012 4:20PM
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Mistah.FluFF
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Exactly.
Feb 10 2012 4:23PM
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iSmokeweed
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smoke weed....
Feb 10 2012 4:45PM
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Lolocaust.
Posts: 1716 - Karma: 512
Get Blunted, go skiing, do blunts with your right hand, fuck another woman.
Feb 10 2012 4:47PM
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