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Letter from girls friends dad.

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october
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my girl friends dad sent this to me and I have decided to never step foot in the fuckers house again. I posted it here just to see what you guys thought.



I know you probably don't care what I think but here's the deal - if you're an integral part of Sarah's life you're part of mine. So, for what its worth, here's my asshole redneck view on you.

Its time to get your shit right and MAN UP. Using others and blaming others for your own screw-ups is pathetic. Its not that I care so much about your DUI, its that you can't face the reality that YOU and only you got it, and only you can turn it around. Blaming Sarah is the pinnacle of being a loser. Look in the mirror and accept that you screwed up. Get off your ass and get right with life. Getting fired from a job is one thing - but - you've been fired from every job you've ever had!!! At what point do you get it that - YOU have to pull your weight. Being a cool slacker might make you interesting to your bro's but it makes you an asshole to the rest of the world. Sometimes when you screw up you have to take what you can get, make ends meet, and pick yourself up to get things right for yourself. When you do what it takes - it will work out - but, whining to Mommy and blaming others will never get you anything beyond USELESS.

If you're still reading - I'm surprised. But maybe there's hope. Just so you know - I don't carry grudges and I can get over my current hostility towards you. I think you could be a damn decent person. I can move on and forget quite easily - I just hope somehow it matters to you, marginally. I just think its time you took a long hard look in the mirror and wake up to what is looking back at you. Potential - yes....but not unless YOU make that potential happen. You may have to sacrifice a few fun times, you may have to accept the pitifullness of your past and be honest with yourself about the remedies required. You may have to quit using others to get your needs met - especially your own Mom. The only person that can fix anything regarding YOU - is YOU. Respect is earned. Right now you have none from anyone that knows you well. Don't confuse sympathy with respect.

At this point I hope you turn things around and earn my - & others who care about you - respect. It really wouldn't take a lot of time - but it will take a lot of effort and acceptance on your part. Words will mean nothing. Actions will be the only cure. You WILL be judged by what YOU do.


Jan 5 2012 2:00AM
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JakeAssBeatClap
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I'm confused? WHat dudes did she do what with?

I thought she cheated on you... with one dude?
Jan 5 2012 2:59AM
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october
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tech she cheated on me with three dudes...

the one dude in the bed, and two other dudes she kissed at the party.
Jan 5 2012 3:03AM
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Shireshredder
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Seriously, end it with her.
Jan 5 2012 3:04AM
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october
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your fucking right. I just need to man the fuck up. I dont care if we were in some weird grey zone, I did not make out with any chicks, and you dont just invite someone to a party you have been dating for like three years and then get super pissed they went to a movie, and then just shit on them. lame.
Jan 5 2012 3:06AM
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october
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im just going to blow up here, so sorry for my venting, and then she is like I need to come to terms with reality and see everything for what it is, and uggg!

I would hope no one here ever has to endure getting cheated on,
Jan 5 2012 3:10AM
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DGiurk
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this

Jan 5 2012 3:12AM
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DGiurk
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I retract my previous statement in accordance to this. although I still frown upon the dui
Jan 5 2012 3:15AM
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JakeAssBeatClap
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Brotha my sympathy goes out to you but come on. You got a DUI you lost a job. It sounds like the last thing you need is a cheating girl with a skeezed out dad on your back. Do yourself a solid dump her get a new job spend time with your guy friends meet a nice new girl with a nice pert rack and cute face and get treated like a king.

I truly feel bad for you though man. Like getting cheated on hurts like no one can imagine unless they've gone through it. And walking in on that happening would be unimaginable. Then a DUI to top it all off would be a breaking point. This girls dad sending you this shit is just unnecessary in your life with all the other shit. I hope you're keeping your chin up, more importantly keeping those tips up, it'll all work out you're young with a lot of life to live. It'll come around and when you're kicked back on your lazy boy at 40 years old with your banging milf of a wife bringing you a beer while telling your steezy ass kids the story of the hardest day of your life when you caught your girl cheating and you got a dui. And this girl, her white trash husband, their 5 kids, and her redneck dad are sharing an apartment in the "meth-y" part of town. Then you'll laugh and think shit that was the worst day of my life? I guess I have had a pretty good go of it.

Jan 5 2012 3:16AM
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c1rca491
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Why did her dad send you this letter? Just getting a DUI doesn't warrant him sending you this. You must have had a confrontation of some type. Either way her cheating on you doesn't mean the end of the world and give you a pass to be dumb. You will get over it.
Jan 5 2012 3:16AM
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Owl
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Alright so just my 2 cents not trying to point fingers but first: dump her, if shes cheated on you shes not worth your effort to keep her. youll find someone that actually cares. second: dont be so mad about the letter from the dad, I know I don't know the whole story but it seems more hes looking out for his daughter and you. DUI's arent funny and no one wants you to go like that man even people that dont know you. and in terms of jobs youll find something youre good at hes probably just trying to push you to find that thing. just an opinion
Jan 5 2012 3:19AM
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october
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I really appreciate that man!, her fucking dad has no idea how much hell I have gone through because of his little "princess" .Im not an idiot, and I realize I made some mistakes, and I sure as hell dont use people ( not sure where he gets that crap) and then to have him send this shit to me just pisses me off.
Jan 5 2012 3:24AM
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october
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and I will say drinking and driving is fucking stupid and can never be justified, ( i was barely over though( but Im just going to look at this at getting fucked over by a women, being stupid from it, and learning a lot, and also hating her stupid red neck dad.
Jan 5 2012 3:30AM
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collinder
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1. She cheated on you. You will never be able to fully trust her again. For this reason alone you should probably not be with her.

2. Her Dad sounds crazy. To make sure you don't die, it's probably in your best interest to break up with her.

3. Obviously the things you're doing now aren't working for you. Try and start fresh. Dumping your girlfriend will create new motivation and help you to get on the right path again.


For these reasons I think you should probably break up with your girlfriend.
Jan 5 2012 3:39AM
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october
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yeah her rational is that we had a threesome that went bad (even though it was her idea) and she should not feel about it, because we were not official. Tricks man.
Jan 5 2012 3:43AM
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october
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yeah her rational is that we had a threesome that went bad (even though it was her idea) and she should not feel about it, because we were not official. Tricks man.
Jan 5 2012 3:43AM
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collinder
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4. She sounds stupid, you should probably break up with her

There are plenty of other solid 7's out there buddy. I doubt she's worth the drama.
Jan 5 2012 3:45AM
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JakeAssBeatClap
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you keep adding really interesting dynamics to this hahaha what happened with this threesome? you anothr guy and her? or you and her and another girl?
Jan 5 2012 3:48AM
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collinder
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obviously another girl.........

unless OP is gay
Jan 5 2012 3:52AM
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JakeAssBeatClap
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You don't have to be gay to bang a chick out with another dude. Would I do it? No, no i wouldn't. Would the OP? I don't know what his sexual peccadillos are and I'm not one to judge. Whatever way the threesome went it's still interesting and I want to know more and why he even brought it up hahah
Jan 5 2012 3:57AM
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october
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Alright

Ill just tell the whole fucking story

So...
We were at a party and she tells me her friend wants to a have a threesome. So we all go back to my house ( king size) and have a great time.
In the morning she gets all pissed off at me. A few months prior she told me if we ever did have a threesome I could not fuck the other girl. I did not recall that on the night it happened, nor did she mention it as we were discussing how a threesome was supposed to go down on the way to my house.
She then just breaks up with me one night, saying Im not paying attention to her, and the threesome and want to hang out with friends too much and now that i was working full time I would not have time for her, and I never took the train up to see her.
At first I was kind of glad the relationship was over. Being with her was pretty stressful and about 7 months prior she left me to get with some fire fighter dude. ( although I got a whole summer to have sex with other girls, it still sucked thinking of her fucking this dude right after she broke my heart)
So anyways we hang out a few times, and her clothes just magically come off, and we have sex a few times, I never kiss anyone else, we text, nothing like too crazy, but it still did not feel like a break up. I was a little worried to get back into it fully though cause I thought I would start getting flash backs of a fire fighter fucking her, which needless to say, puts out my fire, but I still loved her even though she pooped on my heart.
So then she invites me to this party. But before I go I check out Warren Mlller, cause I got some free tickets. She gets mad, so I leave early and tell her I am taking the next train via text. I guess she thought I blew her off, because she did not pick me up from the train station so I had to hitch hike to her house.
When I get there she is half naked with some D bag in her bed with her boobs out.
He runs off, we start talking, I telll her about being left at the station, and then she just goes crazy, saying I just avoid her, how could I be such a shitty boy friend, and that she was going to go fuck a dude in front of my face to show me what it was like. Then she tells me she made out with two dudes, one of which was friend from school she used to text a lot but swore nothing was happening with.
So I end up leaving that night and get the DUI the next night, trying to cool off some emotional jets that were going on in my skull. I blew a point o 85, and got pulled over for a broken tail light.
I came to get my shit from her house, and then I really fucked up and made out with her again, and then got trapped in this crazy toxic unhealthy relationship mess, which proved to be pretty taxing on me, and cost me one of my jobs, the other job however I got fired for because of the DUI.
Now I dont know if her dad knows the emotional complexity of the issue, and in my defense I have probably filled out 30 resumes, and Im doing my best to get my life back together, but its hard to focus with her in it. Im not blaming her for the DUI, because I could have just been Emo at my house, but I know for a fucking fact I would not have gotten one if she did not fuck my heart up so bad. So for her dad to be such a dooche bag, and say I use people, and cant keep a job is fucking stupid which is why I was pissed and felt the need to share my story on NS.
Its been the hardest month of my life, and the last thing I need is some ignorant red neck dad who does not even know the full story to drop such trollin on me. Im doing the best I can to get my life back on track, and im not some slacker ass hole.

fuck.

thanks for reading this if anyone has.






Jan 5 2012 4:49AM
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maximiliaan
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those are a lot of words.... i finished the letter but now im tired, good luck
Jan 5 2012 5:32AM
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Whatsonboss
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I'll say this now. NO girl is worth ANY drama especially when it gets like this! This shit sounds crazy and she is taking you for a ride. She is getting exactly what she wants out of you! Your there for her when she is craving the attention but she still turns it around and goes off with these other dudes! Her dad was right about 'man the fuck up' how old are you? Girls come and go and you may think you love her but I have a hard time believing that if she treats you the way she is. You have got into a routine over the years and things have become easy and you start to tolerate it. Kick it into touch with her and cut her out your life. Get out with your friends and meet new girls and completely shut her out. No more calls or texts and don't listen to any rumours you here. Girls make you do crazy shit but you should NEVER get influenced by other people! As for the dad, he is just a dick, I'd walk in there and just tell the whole story and hold absolutely nothing back! I'm sure he will change his attitude! Honestly, the minute you cut her out of your life completely you will feel 100% better and won't have to deal with this cheating bitch scum!
Jan 5 2012 5:38AM
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I_Am_Mod
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haha, you got served buddy! :)

thats one awesome dad !
Jan 5 2012 5:42AM
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MikeWalsh
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i think you know this anyway but im going to say it so you actually hear it. YOUR "RELATIONSHIP" IS A FUCKING MESS!!!

When it gets to this stage of fucked up ness you cannot just blaim one side of it. Your girlfriend does sound batshit crazy and you have done very little wrong but i dont know, i feel like when it gets this fucked up it cant just be her.

I understand about the DUI ive done some very very stupid things when ive been pissed off about love. I would probably of done worse than you.

Way i see it is this you have two options
1. You cancel everything either one has done and you start again. By this i mean properly start again. You both do not trust each other, wether for real reasons or not, so you need to build that trust again. STOP FUCKING HER! Hang out, talk, do stuff, start actually dating again. This way you might be able to sort the mess out. I know if my girlfriend cheated on me and i didnt have the strength to do option 2 this is what id do.

2. Dump her, cut her out of your life, everytime you think of her think of the moment you walked in the door and never talk to her again.

goodluck, sounds like a shitty month. You sound like a good guy in a fucked up place!
Jan 5 2012 6:12AM
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skifoo
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If she cheated on you with 3 guys, why did you ever make this thread?

Her father wants to beat you, shes slut, do you need more excuses to dump her?
Jan 5 2012 6:46AM
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Oldmann1584
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i think he may be right by the sounds of it. his letter wasn't ridiculous, it was actually pretty clear and i agreed with him pretty much 100% of it. i dont know you or what happened, but it sounds like you do need to get your shit together, and you arent gonna go anywhere without a kick in the ass from someone and by the sounds of it, your mom isn't doing it so at leaast he is trying to help you. although it might not sound like hes helping you, but if you just get your shit together and "man up" you actually might get somewhere and probably become at least neutral with her father.... what im saying is you should listen to him and probably others who feel the same way around you.
Jan 5 2012 6:50AM
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Oldmann1584
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btw i posted this without reading any of the comments
Jan 5 2012 6:56AM
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Mike-O
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If you actually had read the comments, you'd hear OP's side of the story, effectively nullifying your post.
Jan 5 2012 7:00AM
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ORDEAL
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boom
Jan 5 2012 7:59AM
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saskskierftw
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Jan 5 2012 8:07AM
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northeast
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if you're old enough to go to bars and still think that getting drunk is a good escape from your problems, you really do need to shape your ass up. just leave her, bro. a cheater doesn't deserve a second chance. however, getting a DUI is totally lame and he has every right to be worried about his daughter.
Jan 5 2012 8:12AM
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joshua
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I don't understand how people get into messes like this.

Also OP that letter, if all the accusations are correct, seems pretty fair and legitimate to me. Get off NS and get your shit together.
Jan 5 2012 8:33AM
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B-runge
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you cant pick apart situations like that after they happen, you might as well say its your parents fault for giving birth to you and if they would have never done that you would have not gotten a DUI

you were drinking and your taillight was out, your going to get a dui.

also crazy people who dont like you will write you letters. I got one and it was completely fucking delusional. This mom blames me and my friends and our families for getting her son into drugs and fucking up his life when only him/ his parents were at fault
Jan 5 2012 8:47AM
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PON3
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Im on the dads side on this one. If I had a daughter that I was trying to shape into a great person to live a better life than I will ever have. I sure as hell woudln't want her hanging around some dead beat.


Jan 5 2012 8:51AM
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joshua
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Isn't this a contradiction? You don't blame her for the DUI but it wouldn't have happened if they had acted differently? I feel for ya man but I can imagine its statements like these that make her dad worried....
Jan 5 2012 8:53AM
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joshua
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oops "she" instead of "they' second sentance
Jan 5 2012 8:54AM
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Mike-O
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I think the lesson here is

Never share anything intimate with people on the Internet, especially NS.
If there's even the slightest possibility of it blowing up in your face, you will get crucified.
Jan 5 2012 8:56AM
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maynaiseman
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"You are such a dumbass"
Jan 5 2012 9:03AM
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Anathema
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you sound like a character from a movie.

now write the ending where you pull everything together, get the girl, earn the trust of her family, and live happily ever after. it's in your power. just fucking do it.
Jan 5 2012 9:07AM
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Huck_Norris
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Holy fuck, well in that case I'd write him  letter to the following effect... 

Dear Sir,

I could give two fucks what you think you redneck asshole, maybe you should try teaching some of that bullshit rhetoric to your slut daughter, who knows absolutely nothing of honor, respect and truth.  For thinking of yourself as such a standup individual, you sure are a hipocritical dickhead-  my only connection to you is through that worthless cumdumpster and I thank God as I can now leave all you classless, soulless and selfish backwoods bearfuckers in the past and move on with my life.  You're right, I do need to move on and the first step is leveling with you- your daughter is a dirty little whore with no respect for herself or anyone else who gets fucked by strangers every time I go to work for all I know.  I can't trust her and I can't believe I tried to work with her on "us" as she isn't worth the dog shit on my shoe.  Thanks for reminding me that while the girl I have wasted this time with might be a huge whore, her father is an even bigger asshole who will always find an excuse for her.  Thanks again this has been a huuuuuuuge help! 

OP 

Thank me later. 

Jan 5 2012 9:23AM
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.Ian.
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I mean, I'm in no position to comment on your life struggles/situation or give any advice at all for that matter. If you don't mind I'll state my opinion on the situation from what I read.

Alright well first off you said you caught her cheating and had a few drinks and drove home. Personally I think you should have ended it with her right there, really it was your choice though.

Then you drank and drove. Regardless of why, it was an irresponsible thing to do and I think her dad just wants you to realize that you were just the one in the wrong in that situation. It was your decision to drink then drive so I just think he wants you to just say that you realize that it was irresponsible and that you should have never done it, and just won't ever again. Also: I'm below drinking age so again I can't really express anything from experience, I'm just going on what I feel is right. Driving while impaired in any way seems irresponsible to me just because you are endangering other peoples lives.

I just think her dad feels like he wants to try and teach you right from wrong, and maybe he's not in the right place to do that, but really the letter does show that he cares about you as a person, so think about it that way. Don't be so ignorant and just say "I'm never setting foot in that fuckers house again". That won't solve anything.

If he says you've gotten fired from multiple jobs then really you're the only one at fault for that. Not really anyone else to blame for that problem.

We all make mistakes. (trust me, I've easily made a shit ton of dumb decisions). It's just whether you can realize you did something wrong and just move on and try not to do whatever you did wrong already, again.

Good luck man, I hope you can get another job too. I hope that you can try to at least realize that you made a mistake, and really it happens to everyone.
Jan 5 2012 9:25AM
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Huck_Norris
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You're joking right?  I've had it happen to me on two occasions in which I LIVED WITH THE GIRL. 

Trust me.  There is no excuse.  Kick this slut to the curb, it doesn't mater how long you've been with someone when this type of shit starts coming up...  It will never go away I promise you.  Cut ties, move on.  Find someone who actually cares about you and has your back-  not just looking out for themselves and what seems like fun right then and there regardless of their responsibilities and their word.

She will tell you she loves you.  She will make promises.  She will try to get you back.  DO NOT ALLOW THS TO HAPPEN!  She will be even worse, as now she's established a pattern in which she gets all the things she wants.  Allow yourself to be trapped in this cycle and it will take years off your life.  Trust me, now is the time to gtfo.     

Jan 5 2012 9:27AM
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TOAST.
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Maybe more if more people give him shit for it others would realize that it is not okay to do. Just because other people do it does not make it okay. He deserves all of the shit that he is getting for it.
Jan 5 2012 9:33AM
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bdowning
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LOL. I'm curious myself. State your case here boy!
Jan 5 2012 9:42AM
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Mike-O
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Jesus Christ... scroll up.
Jan 5 2012 9:45AM
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harveydowns
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"Potential - yes....but not unless YOU make that potential happen."

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he should have said not unless you fulfill that potential, what a wiener.
Jan 5 2012 9:48AM
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harveydowns
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^ o shit, crazy formatting, sorry
Jan 5 2012 9:48AM
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bdowning
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Just did, sorry!

You gotta remove this girl from your life man. I've been in that dark place because of a girl. Took me a long as time to move on, but I did and I'm better for it. There's more fish in the sea, and I'm positive there are one's who would appreciate you and your tender soul more then this broad.

Jan 5 2012 9:53AM
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GORILLA.
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you should fuck his wife
Jan 5 2012 10:10AM
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WestWoods
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Its simple, don't confuse something that isn't there for love, its time to bite the bullet and realize she isn't worth it (or her over opinionated father for that matter) There are sooo many girls in the world, you don't need one that just causes you so much pain you start to ruin your life. You don't need a slut, you need to get on top of your life and bang every good aspect out of it!
Jan 5 2012 10:11AM
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