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Need advice- about a girl

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ScubaSteveFather
Posts: 555 - Karma: 574
So I usually wouldn't post this in Non-skigabber because people would probably be dicks about it somehow but I would greatly appreciate some advice.

I have been dating this girl on and off for about 2.5 years now. I love her so much.
We went out for about 3 months in winter of 2009-10 and then broke up for a few weeks and went out again for about 4 months in spring of 2010. After breaking up with her that time (I broke up with her btw and it was stupid and for bad reasons on my part) we didn't talk to each other for about 1 year and then in the spring of 2011 we started going out again and have been going out since then. We broke up today but i fear this may be for good. We moved out to Colorado School of Mines as Freshmen this year and she is in a dorm and i am in an apartment with a few guys. Life is very different here in CO and today she broke up with me because i was smoking weed.
Normally it wouldn't upset her but for my specifique case she was unhappy. I have a history with weed I got caught and had to do some juvenile diversion program. I've also slept at another girls house one night after a party that she was not invited to. I created many problems between us when I didn't think about my actions. Lying about smoking and a few other smaller things are examples.
I am asking you NSG for advice and whether or not I should fight for her or let her go? I want to stay with her and I feel as though we have a legitimate future together and I love her but I just don't know what to do. I feel as though many of our problems where caused by me and it feels shitty. Now i don't really know what i'm writing i'm just rambling. Please just comment and give me advice or something. Just looking for someone to talk to.
Aug 31 2011 4:49AM
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exile_ch
Posts: 715 - Karma: 609
Find a way for her to stumble upon this thread, it might help.

For the rest, you pretty much fucked it up by yourself.. There's only that many second chances around you know, don't waste them.

If nothing work, go for her mom.
Aug 31 2011 4:55AM
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Jamestown
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write to her. something like this.

she doesn't even need to reply...just do it.
Aug 31 2011 5:04AM
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AOTEAROA
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Aug 31 2011 5:24AM
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gregorio
Posts: 2372 - Karma: 151
my advice is post this in LM
Aug 31 2011 5:28AM
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feihlination
Posts: 8356 - Karma: 1,084
well, i am also sometimes amazed how many of the problems i encounter with my gf are my fault (but def not as serious as yours).

idk, you need to get your shit together, man up and talk to her if you want and also get your shit together in the long run.


but i always have been skeptic regarding these "on-and-off-relationships". i have no idea how that can work.
Aug 31 2011 5:37AM
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POWDER.RANGER
Posts: 1698 - Karma: -24
get a friend to foreward this to her and dont screw up again. at least try not to.
Aug 31 2011 5:40AM
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Mr.Gaga
Posts: 2021 - Karma: 542
First you have to be ho'est with yourself then you have to be honest with her. If you belive you fucked up and you see yourself with her then thats something you can explain her. We are humans, we make mistakes and we learn from it, it's just important to accept and admit those mistakes and take what we've learned from it to become a better person.
Aug 31 2011 6:44AM
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Ski_Alot
Posts: 5908 - Karma: 3,732
tis a question for ladies man cult?
Aug 31 2011 9:49AM
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LittleFoot
Posts: 1667 - Karma: 57
pee in her butt. what the fuck is your problem nsg?
Aug 31 2011 9:52AM
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soulskier
Posts: 17806 - Karma: 3,841
well, you're the one who said you really want to be with her, so i'd encourage it. albeit, my advice had you not mentioned that, would be to let her go.
Aug 31 2011 9:57AM
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-GL-
Posts: 1696 - Karma: 37
Just apologize man, I real sincere apology means a ton to a girl in my opinion just really nice about it and just say she means alot to you and your sincerely sorry. Hope it helped
Aug 31 2011 10:01AM
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derpina
Posts: 2186 - Karma: 55
She broke up with you for smoking weed? Kind of sounds like she might have just been looking for a reason to break up...

In all honesty maybe let her go. You're so young and sometimes it's good to date other people to know what you really want... Or even just be single for a while and really figure out where you future is going until you figure out who it's with.

Yeah you love her, but everyone in their life has at least one person they love that they have to let go. It's apart of life, it will make you stronger.

Now is your time to smoke weed and have a good time if you want to. Don't let someone else hold you back from your youth. You get to spend the rest of your life with someone telling you what to do.
Aug 31 2011 10:06AM
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CrotchKiller
Posts: 9037 - Karma: 6,943
Cant believe it took ten posts
Aug 31 2011 10:32AM
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MADmex
Posts: 803 - Karma: 101
lol... just just tell her u fucked up and if she loves you she will forgive you
Aug 31 2011 10:48AM
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babujib
Posts: 5039 - Karma: 104
no. you do NOT EVER want a gf in college.
/thread.
Aug 31 2011 10:48AM
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jfoley019
Posts: 929 - Karma: 95
Dude, you are young in college.  Go have fun you don't want to be tied down right now. 
Aug 31 2011 11:16AM
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TheRightCoast
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haha but seriously do wat you want
Aug 31 2011 11:24AM
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theBearJew
Posts: 10951 - Karma: 15,633
This. I did this when i fucked up, and she called me after, its more genuine.
Aug 31 2011 11:27AM
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Bar_Down
Posts: 5896 - Karma: 395
chances are if you guys get back together you still won't end up getting married and happy ever after or some shit, so why be with her at all? you're in college, go get some ass.

i know it might sound harsh, but its the truth. thats the way she goes brother.
Aug 31 2011 1:32PM
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SkiThe603
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dude life is short, you may love her but go out and try other shit, if you are actually meant to be eventually you will end up back together
Aug 31 2011 1:53PM
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ScubaSteveFather
Posts: 555 - Karma: 574
Thank you NSG even for the pee in her butt comments shit made me laugh.

That quote struck home for me Thank you all of you again +K.
It's awesome when NSG is supportive and helps out its members it's what makes this site so sweet.
Aug 31 2011 3:13PM
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