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Tips for teaching a women to drive manual?

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Liam.Butler
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I'm having a hard time teaching my girlfriend to drive stick, she has already mastered sandwiches and house cleaning. In serious though any tips? I am extremely patient but that does not seem to help.
Aug 30 2011 6:56PM
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.AR6rider.
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Be patient, even though you said you're already doing that. Instead of trying to teach her how to put on the gas and let out the clutch simultaneously, have her rev up to like 1500-2000 RPM and keep it steady, then slowly let off the clutch. Not great for the car, but it will allow her to find out where the clutch releases and she starts to move forward. After she does that a few times, try to get her to do it without revving it up first. Tell her it's important not to just drop the clutch all at once, but to be smooth, unless you want your car doing some interesting dance moves.
Aug 30 2011 6:59PM
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Inline.
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get it "hard"? "stick"? Oh i know i'm hilarious. I'll be here all night
Aug 30 2011 6:59PM
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RubberSoul
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just be patient and calm and tell her what she needs to know then allow her to practice it. the last thing anyone wants is someone breathing down their neck to make them nervous while theyre worrying about stalling or something

sorry i can't think of any specific pointers.. i assume she knows how to ride a bike, and therefore understands the idea of the gears in basic sense?
Aug 30 2011 7:00PM
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PJS.
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What is she not getting?
Aug 30 2011 7:01PM
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Liam.Butler
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Nope totally ignorant to the mechanics behind it all, I have tried explaining but she doesn't pay attention.
Aug 30 2011 7:01PM
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.AR6rider.
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Oh, and be super encouraging. If she stalls, tell her it's fine and she'll get it the next time, she was close, etc. If she gets upset, she'll get worse, and eventually want to quit.
Aug 30 2011 7:02PM
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PJS.
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Well theres your problem...
Aug 30 2011 7:02PM
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andstuff
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Every time she stalls rub her nose in the clutch.
Aug 30 2011 7:03PM
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FBGM
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Aug 30 2011 7:03PM
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RubberSoul
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have her ride a bike a bit then? even just a 7 speed or whatever will make her realize the pros and cons of being in a low or high gear in different situations.. i feel like that understanding really would help her understand the car's gears

Aug 30 2011 7:03PM
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wzrd
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tell her to practice on your dick
Aug 30 2011 7:03PM
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Jibbin_Ur_Face
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Tell her its just like givin someone a handy while shes driving her automatic
Aug 30 2011 7:04PM
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skituner
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the best way i have found is to tell her to think of clutch as the gas pedal. go to a flat parking lot and teach her to get the car going without using any gas, just from an idle, it will be very hard for her at first cause you have to be very gentle and slow with the clutch but it will really help her to get the feel for it and help her to listen and feel how the engine is reacting to the clutch movement. once shes got that she can start adding some gas at the same time and then just go from there
Aug 30 2011 7:04PM
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I_Am_Mod
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haha, i see where you're coming from :D

anyways, maybe try with an easier clutch ?
Aug 30 2011 7:05PM
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comeatmebro
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first teach her where the clutch will engage and let her get a feel for it by stopping the car on a flat area and slowly releasing the clutch until the car begins to move forward on its own. then get her to rev it up to like 2500 rpm's and hold it somewhere around there. then to just slowly let out the clutch and continue to give it gas throughout so it doesn't stall. after that it's just practicing until she gets the hang of it pretty much. really not that hard. but then again i've had my girlfriend just drop the clutch at like 3.5k and burn out/bounce off the rev limiter and all kinds of stupid shit. not trying to learn in a fast car/unforgiving clutch is easier too.

at least you're being patient, i get pissed real fast lol
Aug 30 2011 7:05PM
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comeatmebro
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if she doesn't want to even pay attention or want to understand how it works then fuck her and don't teach her...nothing pisses me off more than trying to teach someone something when they won't even listen to you. put that bitch in her place...if you wanna learn to drive a manual then pay attention bitch. my gf was the same way at first, as you can tell i got pissed lol
Aug 30 2011 7:09PM
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Mike-O
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try to pass a law that denies anyone the right to own or drive a car unless they can drive manual shift.
Aug 30 2011 7:11PM
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Jakx~
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Don't. This is a whole nother dimension compared to sandwiches!

But in seriousness maybe tell her its like fighting and if you let the clutch go to much she'll kill everything. But I do know once she gets it down a bit without killing it to go on a road in the middle of no where and gun it. I know my first time I did this i put too much gas into it between gears, and it taught me how much gas was needed to make a smooth shift. And probably the most helpful thing i did when learning.

Aug 30 2011 7:12PM
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ryano
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the key is letting the clutch out slow.

what i've done..

1st. have her push in the clutch and move the stick into each gear position. get the feel of it.

2nd. have her put it in first gear. and let the clutch out very slow, so she can feel where it starts to catch.

3rd. while the clutch is pushed in, have her tap the gas, and get it at a steady rev.

4th. tell her, now when you let the clutch out, when it starts catching, then you give the car more gas.

5th. she proceeds to try step 4. SLOWLY.

key tips. letting clutch out slow. not freaking out. giving more gas when she feels the clutch catch.


tips for you. dont get frustrated. always speak calmly and dont imply she's stupid. keep it light humored. be patient. that way she doesnt get pissed at you and she'll want to keep trying to learn.
Aug 30 2011 7:13PM
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Mike-O
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Is it even possible to get a driver's license in the US without a manual shift?
Aug 30 2011 7:15PM
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J.M
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do this and what he said earlier.
Aug 30 2011 7:19PM
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esotericjive
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Yeah, it's really easy. :(
Aug 30 2011 7:19PM
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michelle
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Don't do it. That's the best tip you can get.
Aug 30 2011 7:19PM
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andstuff
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Over here people drive Ferraris with automatic transmissions. What do you think.
Aug 30 2011 7:19PM
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Mike-O
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*sigh*
Aug 30 2011 7:20PM
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Jakx~
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Idk bout him, but it makes me sad.

Aug 30 2011 7:21PM
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207
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i loled
Aug 30 2011 7:21PM
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lukemeahan.
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Hahaha.
Aug 30 2011 7:28PM
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1337
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yup
Aug 30 2011 7:28PM
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AWALLRUS.
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HAH WHAT A COINCIDENCE I AM LEARNING TO DRIVE MANUAL ALSO.

SO FAR I KNOW:
-1 IS ONLY FOR GOING OUT OF A STOP
-GET THE CLUTCH DOWN WHEN YOU BRAKE

OTHER THAN THAT IT'S PRETTY EASY.
BUT MY DAD HAS A VOLKSWAGON, AND THE BOTTOM OF THE STICK HAS A LEATHER SKIRT ON IT, SO SOMETIMES I FUCK UP AND PUT IT IN 3RD WHEN I WANT IT IN 1ST, AS THEY ARE RIGHT NEXT TO EACHOTHER AND I CAN'T SEE JUST BY LOOKING AT IT
Aug 30 2011 7:36PM
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FLBP
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I taught 2 girls how to drive my jeep, give them the image of a teeter totter when they're pullin out the clutch and hitting the gas, and you gotta manhandle the stick don't expect it to go right into place you gotta put the gear where it needs to go.
Aug 30 2011 7:38PM
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.AR6rider.
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I'm pretty sure the majority of modern cars have a shift boot. You just have to learn where the gears are. Also, don't push in the clutch when you're stopping until you really have to. There's no need to coast for 200 yards in neutral to a light.
Aug 30 2011 7:39PM
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RubberSoul
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you don't need to put the clutch down any time you brake, what did you mean by that?

and just remember that 3 is straight up, while 1 you go left THEN up

also really dude the caps shit is so annoying
Aug 30 2011 7:47PM
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dreadyboy
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My mom told me that and it didn't help at all.


For me it was getting told what the clutch is, two plates that get pushed together, and you want to get to the place where they're touching but not completely connected, get the wheels moving the same speed as the engine and then let it out.

And then just give it gas
Aug 30 2011 7:47PM
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derpina
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Kill yourself? Generally women learn really quick when they don't have an ignorant bag of flesh babbling in their ear all day.
Aug 30 2011 7:51PM
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thebeesknees
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Well, if its a women the first tip is obviously to give up. Just kidding, but seriously, be patient wit her.
Aug 30 2011 7:54PM
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caucasian_chad
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Good luck then, you pretty much need to understand the mechanics at least a little to know what to do when you're driving. I like the explanation of a clutch as an inverted brake pedal that makes you go rather than stop, slam on the brakes, shitty ride, drop the clutch shitty ride, smooth on the brakes and clutch, good ride. Smooth clutching is really the most important to teach, especially when starting from a stop.
Aug 30 2011 7:55PM
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caucasian_chad
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Yeah you're right, she'd learn much better if she didn't even know how to start the car.
Aug 30 2011 7:57PM
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feihlination
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you guys cannot be serious. ok, everybody stalls it at first, but "learning how to drive manual" seems a little over the top.

might be because auto isnt that popular in middle europe or whatever, but everybody who has a license here can drive manual.

auto is nice if you are used to it, but i wouldnt pay 5 bucks for that shit
Aug 30 2011 7:58PM
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alexat955
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Don't let her touch the gas at all, make her practice starting from a dead stop in 1st using only the clutch. Helps get the feel of starting, then teach her to shift and then make her actually drive
Aug 30 2011 7:58PM
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derpina
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I learned how to ride a dirtbike (clutch/gears) on my own and then taught my boyfriend.

Girls aren't as fucking retarded as you males think, you just go into the situation assuming we are and make us submissive about it because you destroy our self esteem.
Aug 30 2011 8:15PM
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andstuff
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Way to be the fingernail in the cobb salad.
Aug 30 2011 8:18PM
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derpina
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Aug 30 2011 8:21PM
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AOTEAROA
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"teaching a women" is wrong on so many levels haha. Grammatically, socially and the fact that most women are better drivers then men. ha
Aug 30 2011 8:23PM
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andstuff
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Why can't you be one of those cool girls who acknowledges the fact that most women suck at driving instead of being a sour cunt and spewing your self-righteous rhetoric in this otherwise fun-filled thread?
Aug 30 2011 8:28PM
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Rachy
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How my dad taught me.

We drove around for a bit and he had me watch the rpms and showed me where I should be shifting, then he had me tell him when to shift. Then he would have me tell him to push the clutch and I would shift the car.

Then we went to a parking lot that was also a hill. He parked toward the top of it so that the car would roll backwards. Had me roll back into the middle of the hill and then clutch/break (there was a field behind the hill so if I kept rolling, it wasn't the end of the world--and it was a super mellow hill). He then had me take my foot off the break so that i rolled backwards ever so slightly and had me release the clutch super slowly until it started making that feeling it does right before it's about to stall out. He had me keep doing this until I had rolled down to the bottom of the hill and wasn't stalling out.

Got to the bottom of the hill and then he had me start applying gas at that point. Did this a lot. Kept practicing till I was comfortable starting in first gear. Then he took me around the parking lot so that I could get into second. Then started driving around in a flat neighborhood. Then he took me to a steepish hill and had me start and stop in the middle of it. I rolled back a tad but not enough that it was an issue.

Took something around 2 hours before my dad had me on the freeway. Drove with me once or twice after that and then it was my car.
Aug 30 2011 8:29PM
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TheDude
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dont try.
Aug 30 2011 8:29PM
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WikiWiki
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fuck doing it lightly- learn the hard way

rev till 6.k on the upswing dump the clutch and hold on



if you can't find em grind em


Aug 30 2011 8:30PM
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andstuff
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False. Women get in accidents more frequently. Men get in accidents less frequently, but when they do they are statistically more expensive, hence the insurance rates.
Aug 30 2011 8:30PM
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Liam.Butler
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so today we mastered leaving first from a flat stop smoothly, she also nailed starting on a hill like a boss and generally shifting smoothly. It was great success, I can honestly say she can drive a manual now, not great but enough to go to school and back home slightly safely.
Aug 30 2011 8:32PM
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