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So my best friend got a girlfriend..

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Bi-ShredinalGuy
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And now he is super whipped. He ditched me on my birthday to hang out with her. He missed the first two weeks of football practice to go on vacation with he and her family. He is no longer any fun to hang out with because all he does is text her. I went to his house on time when she was there and all that happened was they did things on the couch next to me while I watched TV. Seriously.. how can being in a heterosexual relationship make a guy so gay? Anyone else have this happen to them?
Aug 17 2011 4:52PM
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TheHamburglar
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he's just learning how to use his dick, give it some time. pretty fucked up that he forgot your birthday though. find other people to kick it with?
Aug 17 2011 4:55PM
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ObiWanKablowme
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doesn't sound like this one will last long. all he's seeing right now is vagina. you should have your friend back soon.
Aug 17 2011 4:55PM
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.Blake.
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Aug 17 2011 4:55PM
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Steezyiott
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ya people do that, it sucks so hopefully things get back to normal
Aug 17 2011 4:59PM
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connory998
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i have had friends do this, its shitty for you while it lasts but usually doesn't last long. have you tried talking to him about it?
Aug 17 2011 5:10PM
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icyburr
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Happens a lot with first relationships. He will eventually see that friends are just as important. I'd say just be harsh about it, call him a little bitch, stop hanging with him, and he'll probably realize this earlier.
Aug 17 2011 5:11PM
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yeahno
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lol.
Aug 17 2011 5:14PM
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bdarb207
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Time to find a girlfriend
Aug 17 2011 5:15PM
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PopsicleStand
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time for you to post pictures of the girl so we can see if YOU are the one being the bitch, meaning is your boy out there rightfully getting whats his?
Aug 17 2011 5:21PM
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Jaimee.
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I'm pretty sure this happens with all first relationships; I know I did it and so did my friends.

Trust me, after a while he'll see what he has been doing and start hanging out with you guys more, for some people it happens when they're still in the relationship, others after it ends.

Aug 17 2011 5:21PM
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I_Am_Mod
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not really much you can do in such situation, altough i'm sure he'll get somewhat back to normal once the "new" is off the relationship and the she-devil hasn't turned him into her little pet....

+be sure to remind your friend of the bro-code !


Aug 17 2011 5:35PM
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802Valley
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lay down the rules of your bromance, its either you or the girl
Aug 17 2011 5:38PM
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Jahrassicpark
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Same thing happened to me man, we'd chill all the time and as soon as he got a girlfriend it's like that was his life, he doesn't really ski anymore and if he does she's always there too, if he asks me to hang out and we do his girlfriend is there, and he doesn't really have friends anymore just her and maybe a few others. It's real gay shit but once they start getting boring and whipped it's not fun to chill with them anymore anyways. Oh and me and my buddy were friends for like 12 year and now we never chill but sometimes talk
Aug 17 2011 5:43PM
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pmw
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win
Aug 17 2011 5:46PM
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seward
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ah yes. this is the time in your life when you learn who your real friends are.

it blows, i have old friends i havnt spoke to since they got a gf, but all my true buddies are still around despite also having gfs.

and bottom line, if his gf was really that cool, he would bring her out to chill with you and the rest of his buddies. there is always time for lone time/ sexy time.

atleast thats how my group works, the men drink, and all their gfs quack about cupcakes, knitting, periods, etc.

Aug 17 2011 5:46PM
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SkiThe603
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Dude sit him down and tell him how it is
Aug 17 2011 5:55PM
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a_pla5tic_bag
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hahaha i lold. works the same with my friends.
Aug 17 2011 5:56PM
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CAPITA-DEVOURS
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you will have him back soon enough, happened to a couple of my buddies, they get so whipped and then they miss the freedom and their bros.
Aug 17 2011 5:59PM
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Bi-ShredinalGuy
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Well this shit has been going on for about a year now, I hardly skied with him at all this winter because he was too busy sitting in the chalet holding her hand. I've told him on various occasions to stop being such a little bitch but he is too absorbed in her and he blows me off. Fag. So now I'll usually hang out with other friends and all we ever do is talk shit about how much of a pussy he has become lol.
Aug 17 2011 6:00PM
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-ROY-
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shit happens dude. he'll get over her.
Aug 17 2011 6:05PM
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ryantheconnolly
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exact same thing happened to my friend. it especially sucks cuz im leaving for college in like 2 weeks and i just want to be able to hang out with him before i have to go. if you just talk to him about it then he'll probably realize what he's doing and spend more time with you... hopefully
Aug 17 2011 6:09PM
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CAPITA-DEVOURS
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well he will just be shit out of luck when she breaks up with him for having no balls, and hes gunna have no bros or homies left. he will smarten the fuck up.
Aug 17 2011 6:10PM
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DERS.
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DUDE NO WAI..... thats nuts
Aug 17 2011 6:12PM
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Aug 17 2011 6:15PM
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yuck
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yeah i was in this same boat one time!

then they stayed that way for a solid 4 years and I havent talked to that guy in atleast 1 year

pretty much ruined our bestfriendship...
Aug 17 2011 6:24PM
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remove
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sounds like he has poor time management
Aug 17 2011 6:29PM
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twsnow22
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happens..and its not just with first relationships.. it seems as if it can happen anytime..just keep this in mind when you have a girlfriend and try not to do the same.
Aug 17 2011 6:31PM
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MADDECENT
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fuck relationships.
Aug 17 2011 6:38PM
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Deezy
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remind your friend that he is thinking with his wrong head. its cool that hes getting affection from this girl. but like, he really should grow up and realize that she isnt the only person who cares.
Bros before hoes. that chick wont last more then 2 months.
Aug 17 2011 6:50PM
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alexat955
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and you forgot the part about your friend probably getting all sorts of std's
Aug 17 2011 7:13PM
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bgould
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WOW WHAT A PUSSY. SORRY TO HEAR THAT MAN, HOPEFULLY HE GETS HIS HEAD OUT OF HIS ASS AND FIGURES SHIT OUT
Aug 17 2011 7:22PM
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AWALLRUS.
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WHAT A VAGINA.
MY FRIEND KINDA DOES THE SAME THING. BUT HIS GIRL LEFT IN JULY TO GO SOMEWHERE AND WONT BE BACK TILL THE END OF SUMMER. ALL HE DOES IS TEXT HER ALL DAY ITS KINDA ANNOYING, AND WHEN HE TALKS ON FACEBOOK N SHIT HE TALKS LIKE A GIRL. "seeewww cute!, omfg bbg we have to hang out!, u such a QT"!

BASICALLY IM IN A SIMILAR SITUATION. SUCKS HE DITCHED YOU ON YOUR BIRTHDAY, YOU SHOULD TELL HIM TO FUCK OFF.
Aug 17 2011 7:29PM
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SeanTom
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ahahahahhaha, oh based god i lol'd
Aug 17 2011 7:30PM
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cab509
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Have you talked to him about this???


I'm just asking because I was in your situation a bit ago with my best friend but it was partially because his GF at the time was a controlling psycho bitch. Now he has a new GF so well see if he starts to disappear again. If he does, i'll talk to him about it. he knows that I hated his last GF and he's already told me that it will be different this time so we shall see.


recap: talk to him, if he's really your best friend he'll listen.
Aug 17 2011 7:30PM
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Campeador
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Erroneous

Those type of cupcakes do everything they can to make it work.
Aug 17 2011 7:31PM
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squibble
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ya, shit happens. it might last a while, and it will prob take 3 times for them to break up
Aug 17 2011 7:35PM
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120494435941
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sparknotes: your best friend is getting his dick wet, and your jealous

/thread
Aug 17 2011 7:40PM
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TheRightCoast
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My friend did this too until she dumped him then he wanted to start to hang out with me again and i was like "naw im good" then he was sad
Aug 17 2011 8:06PM
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Bi-ShredinalGuy
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Well I have told him what he is dong and that he pretty much ditched me, over text message that is. Then he will say we should hang out or something, so I go to his house to go wakeboarding and his lovely girlfriend is there, which means I get put out of the picture.
Aug 17 2011 11:50PM
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gus555
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Fuck his girlfriends mom. Only solution at this point.
Aug 17 2011 11:55PM
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.Hugo.
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Two of my friends are currently like this. One of them even didn't come home from school just so he could be closer to her and he has been dating her for only 3 months. Shits fucked.
Aug 18 2011 12:00AM
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Mike-O
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Birthday = just a fucking day. Don't be a little bitch.
Aug 18 2011 12:06AM
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muFFn
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My friends and I do something called the three month rule.

Starting the day your friend starts dating her, you give him three months of leniency. That means that he can bail on a last minute notice and have permission to put her first.

This works well. Typically, his "addiction" to her will chill out way before then. After those three months, you will typically have him back.
Aug 18 2011 12:06AM
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caliskigirl
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If it's still new, and it's his first relationship...then he's riding the high of infatuation and easy access. It won't last long, and even if it lasts much longer you can just tell him how you feel. However, I feel like just wait for the excitement to fade and he'll be back
Aug 18 2011 12:30AM
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inactive
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fuck em dude
Aug 18 2011 12:43AM
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O.G.Surachai
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Hey man try to see it from his perspective. He's trying to establish a new relationship which obviously requires time. Then all of a sudden the people who he thought were his friends are totally incapable of being happy for him and instead turn on him and start talking shit about him. So where does he turn? To the one person not being a douche, his girlfriend. Sure it is tough to learn to balance your time when you first start dating someone but the last thing he needs is you being a dick. If you want your friend back try being nice or invite his girlfriend along. He'll eventually start hanging out with you again, just give him time. The real person ruining the friendship is you for not being able to support your boy. Blowing off your bday is a dick move though...I just get tired of hearing this same shit over and over but the person bitching has no fucking clue what it's like to be on the other end.
Aug 18 2011 1:32AM
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r0dubs
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he went on vactation with her family to have sex with her the entire time and he's gay?
Aug 18 2011 1:34AM
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wait.what
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Same thing happened to my friend that I used to hang out with 4 or 5 days a week, now I'm lucky to see him once a month, and there's usually a girlfriend related catch. Sucks man, but you gotta move on:(
Aug 18 2011 3:18AM
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k-rob
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i think this distance is good for the both of you because it will allow you to realize that he is being a man and it will allow him to realize that having sex is way more fun than whatever you guys do together.
Aug 18 2011 4:51AM
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Jane6
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this

I have friends who keep repeating this behaviour every single time they get involved with something that you can stick your penis in.

Me and my best girlfriend both talked about how much this sucks before we got involved with our exes or current bf's, so we are very aware of not prioritizing wrong.
Aug 18 2011 6:49AM
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