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Personality question for NS

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*monsterskier*
Posts: 2671 - Karma: 61
so, I just finished training for a job as a hostess at a restaurant. and naturally I want to get a long with co-workers (whom are all very nice) and be more people friendly. so this is the problem:

I'm really introverted and shy. I don't talk much, not because I don't like to but more....I like to (I guess) keep it inside? and whenever I'm in a place with people I don't know, I tend to sort of "close up" and withdraw. I try to be more outgoing and social but it's hard. and my facial expression is the hardest to change. I tend to always have an indifferent/blank/mean?/bored/tired look. I'm sure you know what that looks like.


so basically I'm wondering if you guys have any tips for me to become more outgoing?

I already read some articles about talking more, smiling more, mentally preparing and all that but I'd like some more input please!

thanks!
Jul 30 2011 11:54PM
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The_Lord_of_Love
Posts: 251 - Karma: 11
I am extremely introverted, smile, listen to waht they say, and if you're like me you hate eye contact so look right between their eyes at the bridge of their nose and it'll help you feel more comfortable
Jul 30 2011 11:56PM
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2L208
Posts: 1075 - Karma: 308
i worked in restaurants my whole life, you'll be family in no time. every cook will hit on you!
Jul 31 2011 12:01AM
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DERS.
Posts: 6299 - Karma: 1,293
get drunk before work every night


just kidding. itl be awkward at first but the more you interact with your coworkers/make smalltalk/talk about work related shit... you are bound to find someone who is similar to you and work from their in building a friendship with him or her.
Jul 31 2011 12:02AM
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[evan]
Posts: 5628 - Karma: 117
Then they'll bang you doggy style over the stove.......

Why is it that the majority of NS'ers seem to be quite the group on loners?
Jul 31 2011 12:03AM
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The_Lord_of_Love
Posts: 251 - Karma: 11
You're one to talk evan....

Jul 31 2011 12:08AM
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2L208
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awe snap!
Jul 31 2011 12:09AM
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2L208
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awe snap!
Jul 31 2011 12:09AM
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The_Lord_of_Love
Posts: 251 - Karma: 11
bazinga
Jul 31 2011 12:10AM
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[evan]
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Hi there .God.
Jul 31 2011 12:11AM
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The_Lord_of_Love
Posts: 251 - Karma: 11
bout time some people start worshipping me
Jul 31 2011 12:53AM
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JIBpsy^^
Posts: 2851 - Karma: 36
take like 1 shot before work. enough to limit inhibition but not enough to make it hard to work
Jul 31 2011 1:02AM
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soulskier
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i dont know where you come from but family hitting on family
Jul 31 2011 1:19AM
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lineskier10
Posts: 11339 - Karma: 796
just accept the sexual harassment that you are bound to get and youll fit in just fine
Jul 31 2011 1:28AM
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Proletariat.
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Picture playing yourself in a movie
Jul 31 2011 1:28AM
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PattyC
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Evan are you aware it's past your bedtime?
Jul 31 2011 1:36AM
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inactive
Posts: 4772 - Karma: 97
get a little drunk before work. not a lot, just a little.
Jul 31 2011 1:36AM
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.AR6rider.
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Alchohol
Jul 31 2011 1:47AM
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JewRad
Posts: 432 - Karma: 23
are you attractive? you'll be fine if yes.


if no, just smile more and laugh and it will make you relax.
Jul 31 2011 2:57AM
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Shark.
Posts: 3158 - Karma: 270
first of all, you HAVE to watch Waiting. It's a requirement for working in any restaurant setting.
here: http://www.putlocker.com/file/4A7260C950F343DF

second, just be friendly, joke about how fucking stupid your customers are with other employees. Restaurants are usually pretty fun once you get to know everyone!
Jul 31 2011 3:13AM
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Parrish
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Shut up evan. Both the statement in your posts are bloody stupid.


And OP, just talk to everyone, be open, go out of your comfort zone. what the worst that could happen from being friendly, or rhetorical question but still be talkative.
Jul 31 2011 3:15AM
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Candy
Posts: 1051 - Karma: 176
I wouldn't say I'm not naturally outgoing, so I'm not sure how much I can help.. but sometimes I get comfortable just either being by myself or with the people I already know and I kind of close off everyone else, not because I don't like them but just because I'm comfortable how I am and don't feel an urgent need to be super duper nice and talk to everyone.

But sometimes I find that if I want to be outgoing, I just think to myself, okay I'm going to be outgoing. (I just read that sentence and it sounds retarded, but really it's just like the mental switch) Or if you seriously just aren't outgoing at all, lie to your self in your head and convince yourself you are outgoing. Fake it till you make it kind of thing.

One last thing, confidence. Blah blah everyone talks about confidence, but seriously if you are just confident in who you are when you are interacting with anyone else, I guarantee they will like you better.
Jul 31 2011 3:15AM
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henrytargett
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I am like this too. I'm pretty quiet and not-outgoing around people I don't know.

I don't know how to deal with it really... I just deal with it and get to know people slower.
Jul 31 2011 3:41AM
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[evan]
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No you didn't, no fucking way. You seriously just said bloody stupid, you've stepped to a new level of hipster.
Jul 31 2011 3:45AM
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snowbombz
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just mix some opium and jack daniels, works every time.
Jul 31 2011 3:47AM
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AOTEAROA
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You need LM.
Jul 31 2011 4:12AM
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theabortionator
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Yes my penis is 9 inches long. Anything else you need to know?
Jul 31 2011 4:13AM
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Woodenshjips
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mines 10
Jul 31 2011 4:24AM
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theabortionator
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::hides in shame::




ACTUALLY PICS OR IT DIDN'T HAPPEN!


BOOM! TOUGH ACTIN TANACTIN
Jul 31 2011 4:33AM
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Woodenshjips
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noU
Jul 31 2011 4:40AM
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shrEddie
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is that you?
Jul 31 2011 8:15AM
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*monsterskier*
Posts: 2671 - Karma: 61
it's crazy how dead on it is haha thanks!

and thanks to everyone. this makes me feel more motivated for work on Tuesday :)
Jul 31 2011 6:34PM
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Parrish
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You'll do just fine.
Jul 31 2011 6:35PM
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I_Am_Mod
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hehe, you might be joking, but this is the story of my life, i have a pretty bad case of stage fright/stuttering if i have to talk in front of groups of people i don't know.

I still carry a flask around whenever i need to give a presentation/speak before a group of people or even when i'm on my first day giving a ski-camp, it helps break the ice for me alot and once that's happened i feel comfortable to be myself :)
Jul 31 2011 6:46PM
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.tenderman
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you're 11, you probably dont even know how to jack off
Jul 31 2011 6:54PM
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